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Top 100 things that attract women to men

by Chris Calo on January 3, 2013, Revised on: February 3rd, 2013

  • Clear, beautiful and healthy looking eyes. Eyes provide an insight on the level of health of the individual, and healthy eyes indicate a healthy mate. It was also surveyed as the most attractive feature according to various women’s magazines.
  • A confident attitude towards life. Confidence indicates that you are successful and are to be trusted. When you trust yourself, others will as well. Women will trust you with themselves
  • Physical height. Height provides a sense of security and comfort which is very attractive to women. Being taller is also a dominant trait which is attractive. Ultimately, if you are short but can provide a feeling of security and comfort, this will be equivalent to height.Height and attraction chart
    The best guide to creating attraction regardless of height is Double Your Dating.
  • Physical strength, muscles. Being muscular provides a sense of excitement and security in women. It also alludes to dominance which will seduce most women.
  • Being funny. Laughter makes people feel more comfortable and happy. Also, when people are laughing at your jokes, you immediately gain social status which is attractive. If you can make her laugh, you’re half way there. Read how to make a girl smile.
  • Being witty. This is very attractive as it alludes to being smart, and intelligence is attractive to women. If you are dating then wit will be a big part of your evening.

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{ 118 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Mark March 3, 2008

Great post.. I’ve never seen anything like it before.

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2 Harod-02 March 3, 2008

wow, impressive

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3 Annie March 3, 2008

Good ending to the article, you’re right!

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4 Jamesss March 3, 2008

Being direct is my specialty, it works very well. I can’t tell you the amount of times I’ve been direct with a girl, only to have her completely turn on in a blink of a second.

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5 O2 March 3, 2008

wow, dugg

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6 Jimm70 March 3, 2008

DUGG! This is amazing

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7 Happyval March 3, 2008

You make some really good points, and others I don’t agree with.. but overall a really good compilation.

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8 Usher March 3, 2008

Good article but so long, bookmarked for later.

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9 Arnold March 12, 2008

Dude it was unexpected it was good, you the man!

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10 Abid June 23, 2008

Thanks a tonn… the reading means a lot..
its a great help to the guys who are true lovers..
once again man many thanks who made this beautiful words and sentences…
it true….

Thanks & Regards
Abid…….

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11 Suhas July 3, 2008

Dude yo sentences r just awesome …it really steals a girls heart da
….100 stuffs u hv mentioned is just mindblowing…great job keep it up n keep going……

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12 Suhas July 3, 2008

Great stuff da….

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13 shuja naveed July 9, 2008

why women i date jump to conclusion that i will marry them and stay with me only till they think they would marry me I never show off that im financially well off but still this goes onb through out my life. Even after my marriage they have hopes that i shall marry them whereas im anly interested to have sex with them

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14 faza(maldivian) July 16, 2008

it is really good,thanks a lot

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15 John J July 17, 2008

AWESOME!

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16 george July 20, 2008

Great job guys. Keep it up.

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17 Omid August 17, 2008

I would like to know how you can pick up girls at the movies…give me a link if you can please…Thank you very much :D

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18 Md.Monir Hossain August 27, 2008

This is an excelant article that I have never seen before.There are many good point to make a girl.Thaks for the article

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19 dt5000 September 26, 2008

Some excellent points in there, but what a crappy ending! Cop-out.

Guys, be MEN, that is what is attractive. Take charge of your life. Do NOT believe in destiny – that’s just lazy, and encourages guys to think that their 10/10 woman will fall into their lap. “You’ll be attracted to the one you were meant to be with”? That’s called settling for less than you deserve. Go out and grab life by the balls. Embrace risk. Make mistakes. And never, ever, settle for less than YOU deserve.

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20 gloria November 22, 2008

Yeah…Be a confident, secure, intelligent, well dressed accomplished individual with good sense and good manners and a sense of humor, good conversationalist able to rise to any occassion willing and able to sincerely give a woman respect and consideration. Nothing gets my attention than a man treating me like I need to be cared for and protected, like I’m valuable.

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21 Gaudence M December 7, 2008

Yeah, that is what have dream to read. Real good staff, please keep it more coming up.

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22 Alessandro December 9, 2008

At number 58 a nice face, shouldn’t this be in the top three? If height is third why isn’t good looks close, was this written by taller “plain joes” or something… or has it been covered by the nice eyes bit?

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23 Claychea December 12, 2008

wow…i don know wat else to say..think yo said it all

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24 Jeremy January 3, 2009

Thanks for the list Chris Calo. A lot of the stuff is fairly common sense. For the most part though it is nice to have such an extensive list of things to think about.

Alessandro, I don’t think they’re in any particular order but 58 would serve fine for a nice face. It’s not all about any one particular feature or portion of your personality.. It’s kind of the point of the whole list. For instance, if you have a pretty face but have a crappy personality or don’t mean what you say then you won’t get anywhere.

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25 Crash January 15, 2009

Don’t worry about much of this stuff. dress nice. only concentrate on what you CAN change and what you WILL change. workout talk to girls flirt ~ no 100 things needed, but great effort. Oh and the don’t care thing dismisses the rest of the list btw!!

i would say thought clip nails etc.. hair clothes etc… but when it comes to girls, this is a 100 ways to improve yourself ~which may or may not~ help you with women. check it out~ 2maro, everyone reading this, approach 5 women. just 5 – it don’t matter what you say etc.. just say it be honest and come back and tell me about it and don’t read another post till you do ~ peace ____crash

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26 the creator February 23, 2009

This list is hilarious. Theres like a million things on it. Reminds me of a joke.

a woman was invited to a new store which allowed women to buy the ideal men,

On the first floor was average looking men with no money, no looks or charisma. She skipped this floor.

On the second floor was ok looking men with some money and a little charisma. Again she skipped this floor.

On the third floor was good looking men, with a good deal of money and good charisma. The woman again skipped the floor.

On the fourth floor was great looking men, lots of money, great charsima and the ability to look after children. The woman skipped this floor.

On the fifth floor was beautiful god like men, who owned huge amounts of land, were incredibly wealthy, were great with children and had great leadership and social skills. The woman skipped this floor.

On the sixth floor the woman found there was no men. The woman asked the store owner ‘where are the men on this floor’. The store owner replied ‘lady there is just no men out there to satisfy all your demands’

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27 alan clarke February 24, 2009

chris…this really is basic…kinds in high school know the vast majority of this.
height in a man is in no way,shape or form a measure of his physical capabilities either.
yes,women feel it is,but as we all know,a mans all round fitness is what keeps him strong anyway…most man in excess of 6,0, tend to be big awkward goofs who lack balance and can be easily knocked off balance,despite body mass.
look, at the end of the day,we screw them,then they screw us,one way or another
all you wannabe romeo,s get a life.
be you,you and nobody else but you…if shes a real woman she,ll see that your a real man that way.
give her a quick sausage and go watch the match with your mates

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28 Gloria July 10, 2011

Your answer is typical of a person that does not get women and has nothing at all going for them.
and you last coment. proves you have nothing to offer a woman in bed either. you will most liekly spend your life beating your little sausage wishing you had a mate.

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29 alan clarke February 24, 2009

p.s. dont spend your best years chasing them,
there a species who wants what they perceive they cant have.
ignore them…give them an old fashioned wink…talk mans talk..football,boxing,your favourite ruby murray etc
they see your havin fun with your mates…and over they come, to get away from some soopy git romeo wannabee.
you,ll have them eating out of your hand.
as a man be prepared to stand your ground…always
thats all they want in a man

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30 alyssa March 4, 2009

This is very true. :)

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31 Comrade April 4, 2009

Great tips…very helpful. I shall do my best to improve this gentleness and work around to embrace certain features.

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32 khaled April 23, 2009

very nice tips and also a great ending
JUST BE YOURSELF but not too much

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33 P-COOL April 28, 2009

Thats really a great one, its really useful to me. Everything that is written is true and it can help one in his relationship.Thats perfect…

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34 austin June 16, 2009

wow this was a nice bit of information…perhaps ill try some things and change the things that i usually do.hmm maybe i might get that one girl to perhaps love me…..which we’ve known each other for about two years with on/off attraction.i shall figure out what is messing me up…..

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35 seducir June 16, 2009

I admire the time and effort you put into your blog. I wish I had the same drive :)

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36 alex July 4, 2009

well dang…they must just want a perfect man….

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37 meme July 15, 2009

dude the 100 things are awesome

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38 Shane July 23, 2009

Whoa, this stuff is off the hook. There’s so much that i need to start doing, thanks a mil guys:-)

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39 Jim August 2, 2009

Awesome.

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40 Tom August 2, 2009

there are things in there that I definitely need to do.

My question would be , what if you have trouble with every one of those things discussed ? What if you are a man who meets women but after the first couple of months women seem to avoid you ?

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41 Richie August 4, 2009

Awesome article!

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42 Christina August 16, 2009

Coming from a woman, your list is spot on. You just described the perfect man. Good luck guys measuring up!

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43 KK August 1, 2012

Well I measure up in 70 – 80% of it, so far.
What does that make me?

Well..its flattering list. Hope there is indeed a girl who can compliment all that the guy with all of these can offer.

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44 Aaron February 12, 2013

This list is on point. But as far as dress, I don’t agree. I am a blue collar worker who makes six figures with benefits, with a beautiful home, etc…. But judging by my afterwork attire, one may conclude that I’m NOT a good catch. Never judge a book by it’s cover ladies.

Peace and blessings!

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45 Jorge Ruiz August 18, 2009

This is what i have been looking for. the way that everything is express. the confidence that it builts in you as you read. this is really good

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46 Johnny j August 23, 2009

I’m an average looking guy with a great personality and what do i do when i’m only attracted to the hottest girls who are out of my league? Why should i feel i have to get with a girl for the sake of getting with a girl! I want real tips to score the hotties that those arrogant guys are with.

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47 Steve August 29, 2009

#18 Not caring. A care free attitude is liberating and very attractive.

VS

#75 Caring. Compassion and caring show that you will be a good father and is therefore very attractive.

WTF?

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48 Chris Calo August 30, 2009

Yes Steve,

Life is contradicting, and not caring can be great DHV… yet caring can also be attractive on a certain level.

When dealing with women and relationships, contradictions arise everywhere. You might “not care” one second when she’s being bratty, but you can be caring when it counts.

If you think of car racing as an example, in the same way that when you’re racing around a track, braking won’t make you go faster… but you still need to apply the brakes if you want to go around the track! With women, sometimes you have to be compassionate, and sometimes you just have to ignore her crazy tempers!

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49 J September 10, 2009

This is all rather good,
But does the same still apply if I don’t want to get them into bed’?

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50 abc September 16, 2009

Great Post. Thanks!!!

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51 Roscoe October 6, 2009

Great stuff!

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52 Lalit October 13, 2009

Excellent !

these tips help to improve your personality & attract people especially girls.

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53 Brittany October 15, 2009

This is possibly one of the most appalling, stereotypical, and degrading things I have ever seen. I am sick and tired of these gender roles being reinforced so blatantly. “Women are naturally submissive?” Come on, this is the 21st century! I couldn’t care less about someone’s wealth and I think it is a huge turn off if a guy acts dominating.

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54 leah October 22, 2009

As long as they brush their teeth, trim there nails wear cologne and are respectful and romantic. Without that its just gross!

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55 RoDerick November 15, 2009

I like this article but it’s missing something. Women are also attracted to the interesting men. If you are going after a girl maybe you should draw up some interesting points about yourself to get an even better shot at dating.

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56 Toro November 21, 2009

those with something negative to say have something negative to hide.

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57 Becca December 3, 2009

Kimya, I agree totally.. NICE WAY BEING SEXIST!
Also, making a Girl feel thats shes not a girl… 10000% true!
Talk to her, make her feel apart of your group! I hang with my BFs buddies all the time, and they accept me as a girl, yet they still treat me as a guy, which I am completely fine with. We go paintballing at least every other month, and the guys don’t worry about me being hurt… or crying. Make a girl feel tough as well as yourself. Be protective of her, but give her some leg room to let her try some new things, that you think are ‘dangerous’ but is actually a thriller for her. Girls hate it when you make them feel ‘weak.’

My BF is my bestfriend! Thats key by the way! BE BEST FRIENDS!

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58 manzy December 10, 2009

Quite good stuff. Guys be smart & take care of yourself & believe in yourself. Good points!

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59 brandon December 25, 2009

Ok what the hell. What is with all of the contradictions here, should I listen to my fellow brother, or listen to what im trying to get… hard decision..

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60 Paulina December 30, 2009

Being a female- I agree with some of the points you listed. But also because I have experience, I want to say that the best way to attract a woman (the RIGHT woman) is basically by being how you would be around men. Except, of course, minus the obnoxious commentary whenever an attractive woman walks by, scratching various parts of your body, etc. Be chivalrous, though. MOST women will really enjoy that. Watch some old Hollywood movies and learn how to inject some of that old-fashioned sexiness into your personality and I’m sure that females will appreciate it.
Good article, nonetheless.

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61 thedude December 31, 2009

I would like to add cooking as well

though not much of an accomplishment but i never thought that knowing how to cook various delicacies can beef up the “being attractive” quotient.(helped me :)

PS. im not a great cook but i knw how to make several dishes

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62 Gisele Manhatton January 27, 2010

this is like the perfect man on earth, i definatlely lovvvve the not carringness its soo hot i hate it when guys care about the way they look so much its not attractive, because thats a girl thing anyways yah thats just my opinion :)

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63 MarcE February 4, 2010

Women are naturally submissive?

Citation needed. :-)

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64 billusproximus February 14, 2010

YOU HIT THE NAIL ON THE HEAD!!! Although I don’t fit some of the requirements of attracting all women, maybe some other guys didn’t fit the requirements that i maintain. but the good things now is that i now have a reference guide to focus on the things that i need to improve on. there’s alot of intelligent yet gorgeous women at my college and i really want them to get to recognize me. with this guide and a moment of reflection upon myself, i can build a new me physically, mentally, and more original than ever before. Thanks, Bro.

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65 imyours.co.uk February 24, 2010

Being direct it’s where I am good at, it works very well. But, some times being direct it can be a pain, not everyone it appreciate you being so direct.

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66 Daniel February 26, 2010

Also one more thing, Why do you think nice guys are always the friend? And the women tell the nice guy how horrible they’re asshole boyfriend is, yes she’s still with them. HAHA, stop being nice, be an asshole. This will get you laid.

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67 M September 29, 2012

That’s when the nice guy needs to turn into the a**hole and tell such girl to her face she needs to break up with douche, such guy is a douche, he will never change and he is completely wrong for her. Women need to listen and take men’s advice more!!

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68 Elizabeth March 3, 2010

Stop telling guys this crap! I do not care about muscles or socioeconomic status or being wealthy or playful or touchy. The guy depicted by this thing sounds like a jerk whom I would never go out with. For me, wearing expensive clothes is a huge turnoff. How shallow and perfectionist do you think we are?!

Intelligence is preferable, yes, but you sure as hell don’t need it if you’re attracting the kind of girl that Chris is. For the love of god, don’t follow this.

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69 Zed March 20, 2010

Funny advice. I have been through this stuff too many times. Unfortunately, what works in a great majority of cases is in order:
- good looks ( face most important )
- wealth ( houses, cars, boats, ability to deliver what a woman needs )
The other personality traits mentioned in the article are next to irrelevant. So if you do not have any of the above, no amount of attractive character traits will help you. Unless you get lucky, it happens from time to time to almost everyone.

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70 charles lwanga May 8, 2010

you have made real research, i have know more and confirmed some things i knew before but i was taking for granted. how ever, how do you compare being strong in bed i mean in being an expert in love making and being powerful both in fame and wealth? which of the two is more important to women if all the two have been experienced by a woman in the two men she would love be with for the rest of her life pliz help and write back i need to know this

thanks for this information dear am charles peace

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71 pyfk May 22, 2010

Good lord,
If you plan to spend such a great deal time to attract a woman, you cease to be a man instantly.
it is tragic and comic for a man to go through all these designs and plans.

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72 Jeff May 24, 2010

I wouldnt literally try to work on everything on this list cause it will take forever and by the time you’re done you will prolly be a totally different person.After reading the list I figured I would go back through it and pickout about 10-15 things I would like to change about myself(change things about yourself for yourself and not everybody else) and really go about improving but dont obsess over it,that will only hurt.Like no.3 says height is important,ok well.im 25 yrs. old 5’5” and 135 lbs. yea pretty short..I go for girls around my size so its not an issue,I mean some girls will tease me about being short but its all fun and they usually end up in my bed anyways..remember,dont try to be “perfect” cause anybody who wants someone whos perfect prolly has mental problems.

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73 Al June 23, 2010

ive been wondering something for a while should i use my athleticism so sort of show off on a way?

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74 TheJan June 24, 2010

The cool thing on this list is that you can pick out the ones that you’d like to change / improve and then work on that.

I don’t think it is needed to have all those qualities. I see this list more as a list where you can choose the menu that you’d like to deliver to a woman. And let’s face it, if every guy was the same and did the same things, the world would become pretty boring. No, we don’t want to be seen as boring, we want to be seen as original, and being able to stand up for our originality / for how we are. So, pick out your choices and improve them. The mix is important and determines how you come off to a woman – how you are, who you are, in essence. Be creative with who you are!

You don’t need to be perfect. You need to be comfortable with being yourself.

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75 Jane June 27, 2010

erm aren’t many of these contradictory? and in general absolute nonsense!?

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76 TheJan June 27, 2010

If you don’t specify which ones are contradictory and nonsense, then how should we come to believe that? Bring some arguments, and i might think about it. Generalization is always an easy way out. And if you didn’t know already, the easy way out is not always the best.

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77 Weymouth July 12, 2010

Thanks again! Nice tips. Make notes and will apply!

God bless!

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78 Artemis July 26, 2010

Hey, I’m a girl reading this and what a great list! Yes yes yes. So many sites telling men how to approach women and what women want are just appalling. I mean really, those sites that have ‘best pickup lines’, some of which I have heard and left me confused and offended, are just amazingly bad. I have been reading them to figure out how to help guys chat me up…did you realize we are usually rooting for you, but so often the guy just says something so unbelievably whacked that you can’t help but see him as a liability. I can’t count the times guys have ruined their own chances. Newsflash, we want sex too! Just not with insulting sexist creeps.This list here though, this is generally good advice. How to be a good guy, how to benefit her life, and subsequently get laid. A lot. Bravo.

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79 Sean July 28, 2010

Not all women are submissive and not all men are attracted to submissive women.

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80 Chantelle August 25, 2010

Sorry a little bit of a long rant here, but Im sure some of you can agree with me.

Im a girl, and Ive been seeing a lot of complaints about this. All I have to say is you guys all need to cool it. Ok yes, I can agree with some comments but honestly this list harmlessly just is advising guys to get more on girls good books. This isnt some instructional thing about how you need to completely match up to these standards. Note the title of this article is Top 100 things that attract women to men, not something like: “Top 100 things that you MUST do in order to win a girls heart” These things listed are all attractive, so enough with the complaints and fusses! I’m just a regular girl, and I know for sure that ALL of my friends would agree with me on this; but this list is definately on the right track.

Personally if I met a guy up to all these standards and I felt a connection, I’d go out with him. Everybody whos complaining about how “Girls need to be treated equally as boys.” ok yeah, enough with acting like we’re sissys but get real everybody. K, my short-term memory isnt as sharp as possible but from what I do remember of this list as far as they went with the whole sexist thing was saying girls like brave, muscular boys so they feel safe and protected. How can you all disagree to that?

Maybe you feel it runs this way but the author of the list clearly wasnt implying we are weaklings, the procted feeling, genuinely is just a good feeling. This list is simply suggestive, and if you guys cannot handle some suggestions then i suggest redirecting yourself onto a different website since you seem to not be able to handle what this page has to offer. Why would you even read this if you hate these ‘bullsh*t lists’? Those Girls, I can see where your’e coming from but I gotta say you are overall nuts if you dont think this list is true, yeah ok were not all tooth fairys critiquing everything but im sure that all the author meant was that we dont want grungy gross yellow teeth on a guy, cuz yeah that is a turn off when a guys got teeth of a hobo. Were not asking for a boy straight out of the dentist but decent, white teeth shows you care about how you look, which IS for a matter of fact, impressive. ^_^

Boys, if you’re reading my little rant here, please disregard the complaints, seriously girls are just being fussy. Dont go over the top on these things, yeah, but I think you’re all smart enough to understand the limits. I say follow the list, most girls find these things amazingly attractive and the author of this knows their facts well. :)

I am sorry this is soo long but I just went through over half the comments and I had to share my opinion. Good luck to all you boys out there, every girl has a different prefence, but overall this list is totally right so don’t have second thoughts on whether to actually follow this list or not. Its totally spot on, so have fun now that your knowledgable on how to win that girls heart. ;)

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81 M September 29, 2012

Hopefully you also mean they are “just” fussy when it comes to men’s height and it’s more BS talk then they claim that they wait and wait and wait cause they have some delusional little girl fantasy that never comes true. Reality vs Fantasy!!

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82 Josh August 27, 2010

I thought it was all too revealing that “Be yourself” is the absolute LAST thing that girls REALLY care about…

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83 Alizarin September 18, 2010

There’s nothing wrong with doing yoga guys. Lebron James, Shaq and Jerry Rice all do yoga and these guys are super studs. If you consider Yoga to just be just some “girls activity” than you’re cutting yourself short on a lot of benefits. And if the majority of you want to avoid these yoga classes thats fine by me too. I don’t mind being the only guy in a class surrounded by beautiful girls putting their legs behind their heads.

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84 Beth October 16, 2010

to all the guys who think that most of these work-

THEY DON’T! i’m a girl and some of these i find attractive, but some of them i don’t!

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85 meat October 18, 2010

unfortunately, if you have social anxiety like myself, you are destined to be lonely and unhappy

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86 Ry October 20, 2010

contradiction after contradiction
im sorry but i do agree with these traits being attractive but it depends on the girl and what she likes/notices
you say guys are attractive if their confident(in one situation)
then you say their attractive because their subtle(in another)
seems like ALOT of hard work
in my opinion just be yourself if a girl likes you.. great, if she dosnt oh well
their only people.

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87 corey1 November 18, 2010

wow
Great!
I love you guys!
Thanks Dr.calo
I love you

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88 somo December 1, 2010

you should not follow someone’s thinking. act as what you are basically. you will get your prefect friend or….

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89 Paul December 11, 2010

The problem with this list is, is that it paints all women as vapid, mindless, impulsive, superficial drones that will drop their panties at the sight of a dominant d!#khead. If you think all women are like this, then you won’t find a great female partner.

Cheers, Paul

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90 Chris Calo December 11, 2010

Hello Paul,

I respectfully disagree. This list does no such thing. Instead, this list serves as a reference tool to guys that want to improve themselves to be better with women. For example: if you have long, dirty nails and you suddenly see that at #42, most women will notice this. A light bulb might go off and prompt you to clean/trim your nails. Awareness is the purpose of this list.

There is no degrading of women here, in fact, quite the opposite, we love them and think they are great.

Finally, these are generalizations (although very accurate in most cases).

Is it fair to say that you would like it if people cooked for you? I think it is… most people would enjoy that.
The same concept applies to women.. is it fair to say that most women appreciate a confident guy? I’d say yes.

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91 Invader ZIM December 29, 2010

I really hope this is true, because if i try these things and fail, I’m going to be very unhappy…

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92 Invader ZIM December 29, 2010

And by the way, i completely dissagree with Paul’s above comment.

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93 dreamboat January 5, 2011

I like the post,its great but I kinda agree with paul. In todays society all girls want is to hoe around with a lot of guys.Im not saying all girls are like this but most are. They go out with one guy,last with him for 2+ years, has countless sex with that guy and moves on to the next one. By the time she finds the right guy and gets married with him, she has slept with more than 2 different guys already of which were serious relationships or one night stands. To me that is gross and the girl that has slept with more than one guy shouldn’t be wearing a white dress at the wedding since white means pureness. Idk but its hard to find a girl these days that is pretty or beautiful and that is still a virgin. There really ain’t no more of those girls that are pure and not hoes. Girls these days just dont stay loyal to most of their guys. All in all, girls should be treated the way they treat themselves. If a girl is a hoe, why give her respect and treat her good when she doesn’t respect herself? Vice versa…

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94 Ryan January 13, 2013

Get over yourself. I would rather a woman be experienced and know what she wants out of a relationship rather than be grasping at straws trying to find “the one”. Time to get out of fantasy land.

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95 Saku January 17, 2011

This list is like a bunch of ingredients that typical girls like in a soup called man. I’m sure each girl will want more of a specific ingredient more than others. Like I rather have a loyal guy with no ripped abs instead of an athletic guy with no loyalty to me. And the dominance thing… I rather have a guy trying to please me that a guy pushing me to his will. Guys trying to dominate me turn me off. Just my 2 cents.

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96 yourdreamgirl January 28, 2011

You are who you attract and visa versa. If you are attractive and considerate, you will attract the same kind of person. As Christians, my husband and I waited for marriage to have sex. It was one of the best things we ever did. It created a relationship of trust, uniqueness, patience, and openness.
My husband is about an inch shorter than me but he makes up with his sense of humor. Oh my goodness!! I would rather a funny guy than a thousand compliments. To me compliments always feel forced but humor is almost always spontaneous. I can’t stay upset at him when he’s funny.

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97 flkdsjf February 10, 2011

while to a certain extent I would agree with you, as I start reading down the list more closely im finding that your list would only appeal to the stereotypical female. While this is ok because media reinforces ideas such as these to maintain a dominant male and dependant eye candy female, human behaviour is more complex than following a set of rules. What if she rejects the stereotypical views of men as outlined above?

Be fit, smart, creative, funny, charming…but most importantly ADAPTABLE becuase not every chick is the same.

i feel obligated to write this b/cuz im write a sociology paper right now lol

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98 CK May 6, 2011

All of this makes sense. A lot has worked for me in the past and I have now calmed down. I was SUPER excited to see this, just about everything on here is common sense and works! I have a lot of these excluding the heigh. Only 5’10″
lol

Looks good man!

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99 Michael May 12, 2011

Great post, but not every girl likes the bad boy. Bad boys usually abuses their girl. I mean lots of girls don’t like to get hit! Anyway, great post man, keep it up!

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100 jason May 17, 2011

whats wrong with a guy doing yoga?

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101 seedy July 15, 2011

I was wondering that too,

a good number of things on this list are a big part of yoga:
health, confidence, energy, playfulness, positive attitude, discipline, being genuine….and yea i could keep going, but..point made. imo.

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102 erik May 29, 2011

How about, just be a good person and wait until you meet another good person? You’ll treat each other well and if there’s physical attraction and you’re both single, you’ll probably end up dating.

And yeah, dittos for the person who said she waited to have sex until marriage, there’s no better foundation for a relationship than being friends for a while first and stopping focusing on getting in each other’s pants.

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103 Isidoros June 24, 2011

look i don’t have almost any of these qualities. the only things i can offer to a woman is my good personality and behaviour. love, careness thoughtfullness and my quite good physical appearence, that’s it. not coolliness, not much humour, not athleticism, not money, not big plans or social status or good job, not “certainity” for the future (because of course i am fuc..ng uncertain for my future) not…not…not… (at least i’m thin and tall, that’s sth :) . i won’t go to gym, i won’t deepen further my voice or act in a way, won’t watch any bond movies :) , won’t buy shoes etc. if there is a woman who likes me for who i am, and i would feel the same for her, it’s ok, or else….i prefer not having a woman at all. actually i am not the kind of guy that would fell for just any women and if i like one i like serious things not selfish cock-thinking toyplaying approaches but ones with long term perspectives (people’s hearts are not sth to play with, mine included – i just want love from a mate that i would love too)….

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104 Sandra October 29, 2011

definitely being dominant! :)

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105 M November 19, 2011

Ha ha a list like this “Yeah…Be a confident, secure, intelligent, well dressed accomplished individual with good sense and good manners and a sense of humor, good conversationalist able to rise to any occassion willing and able to sincerely give a woman respect and consideration. Nothing gets my attention than a man treating me like I need to be cared for and protected, like I’m valuable.”

This is a women’s wish “list” and just that a wish/fantasy!! He’s not going to have ALL this… He might have SOME… Yeah yeah yeah we know the word SOME to a lot of women is irritating but that’s what you women that actually get reality vs fantasy will get is SOME of the “list”. The great conversationalist is also a wish… Yeah we might be good but there is no “perfect” conversationalist and it comes over time to be able to talk to each other. So many women want this “instant perfection” and that will never ever ever happen. Women that constantly are on the hunt for the Mr. “perfection” are going to bitter, bitter, bitter until they realize there is no “perfection”!!

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106 crystal simpson February 20, 2012

so many people get attracted by alot of people mainly women. This is a women’s wish “list” and just that a wish/fantasy!! He’s not going to have ALL this… He might have SOME… Yeah yeah yeah we know the word SOME to a lot of women is irritating but that’s what you women that actually get reality vs fantasy will get is SOME of the “list”. The great conversationalist is also a wish… Yeah we might be good but there is no “perfect” conversationalist and it comes over time to be able to talk to each other. So many women want this “instant perfection” and that will never ever ever happen. Women that constantly are on the hunt for the Mr. “perfection” are going to bitter, bitter, bitter until they realize there is no “perfection”!!

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107 Anna August 28, 2012

I’m a girl and reading these made me feel numb…..
I myself couldn’t say what I want better than that!
BRAVO!

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108 Biggie August 29, 2012

Lol really?max attraction at 6″4?Personnaly im 5″9 and im doing pretty good,i know ppl at 5’7 who make tall niggas jealous cause they get all the girls…the secret?Confidence and being able to handle a conversation till the end.nothing more

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109 james October 4, 2012

If you meet your soulmate will it be immediate that you becone a relation ship or is it possible for her to not be sure and take a while to come around

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110 marion November 9, 2012

Hell yeah! I’m damn near all of that exept for the 6 ft & over thang. I’m 5’7, but hella muscular. So I guess I’m good. I’ve picked my exs up many times & I’m not talking bout under 160 either! Completely swept her off her feet literally. I can be the bad boy too, I smoke weed every now & then take them on weed & bootleg liquor runs. I tell them if we get pulled over you know where to stash this! It turns them on on the low. On a date I would often get5 them to take a quick shot of liquor just for the road. I’m a great speaker also, I did this in church to introduce myself at her church. She loved it. One time the waitress was all in my face when we went out & I jokingly reaponded when she asked what can I get y’all to drink, I said gin n juice & her & the waitress bursted out in laughter. Great article dude

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111 MSAR December 15, 2012

Man what the fuck are you talking about? The only thing that attracts women to men is “MONEY”. And that’s it! No money, no honey. No of the stuff you mentioned matters if you don’t have enough wealth. I have seen ugly, bald, short and fat jerks dating super models just because they are rich. And this thing is all around us.
Not every Angelina marries a Brad Pitt. Most of the time its Danny Devito who gets all the action, if you know what I mean.

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112 brian December 24, 2012

really good list. i wish i could do all of this at once!

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113 Emma December 27, 2012

Well although I do agree with most of the things on this last, I couldn’t help but see the negative tone against men who don’t fit the above criteria. It’s probably simply because the author is just a self centered egoist, but maybe it was accidental. There is absolutely nothing wrong with a man who likes yoga for one, but then again we all have our preferences. It was the way you talked about it, as if anyone who doesn’t fit each of these categories was sub par or beneath the rest of us. Everyone is different and deserves to be treated like an equal and not belittled by a writer as smart as a door.

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114 Umran January 19, 2013

So…in a nutshell girls want everything! lol you have basically mentioned every quality out there.

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115 laura January 19, 2013

i think it is the man who should make the first move, soulmate? not sure there is a such thing.

i am not sure of any man right now

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116 Tom February 8, 2013

Weird thing is that women rarely posses any of these traits. They just watch TV and gossip.

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117 Cormac March 13, 2013

To hopefully finish the Yoga talk.. Le Bron James etc does Yoga, yes of course, but he’s primarily an athlete, a bball player. Of course there’s nothing wrong with Yoga, I think the author means that if you do no other activity but Yoga or similar, ‘then get out there and play some sport’ ! What would you say to your lil’ bro or sister if they sat in a room doing Yoga? .. unless you could see they had a passion for it, you’d prob say – ‘hey go outside and ride a bike’ !
I certainly think women are attracted to money, but looks also.. Di Caprio wasn’t the wealthiest in Titanic, but the girl fell for his charm and looks. On the other hand, in my life I’ve heard girls’ comments regarding men and wealth ‘I want to find a rich miner’ or another case where a girl said she’d love to marry a doctor.. I asked why, she replied ‘not around much, shopping ‘ ! ..I think money makes one happier, more free, and more secure in general, so everyone wants a piece of this. Oh and I just realised Titanic was just a movie.. haha, but still, you don’t have to be rich to get the woman. Maybe a bit of chemistry, romantic gestures, persistence, and a genuine love for the woman. And putting your best foot forward, just like this article helps us guys do. And no harm in the mystical ending either. Trust your instincts and keep your eyes peeled for opportunities, thats how you move forward. Having a job and some savings is a clever way to position yourself to land the woman of your dreams, following your passions also. And to finish, I remember watching a gypsie girl on TV being asked what kind of man she wanted: She replied ‘ rich , handsome, and… proud of who he is’ .. thats coming from a 6-7/8 year old girl, but there’s often wisdom in the little ones! In my life I’ll strive to have what I want, take care of my body and appearance, and follow my dreams with confidence!

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118 mystery March 18, 2013

hahahaha
i am a guy and i have read this article to do the exact opposite
so maybe then i will be invisible to all of the women in the world

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