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Top 100 things that attract women to men

by on March 3, 2008, Revised on: July 25th, 2011

  1. Clear, beautiful and healthy looking eyes. Eyes provide an insight on the level of health of the individual, and healthy eyes indicate a healthy mate. It was also surveyed as the most attractive feature according to various women’s magazines.
  2. A confident attitude towards life. Confidence indicates that you are successful and are to be trusted. When you trust yourself, others will as well. Women will trust you with themselves
  3. Physical height. Height provides a sense of security and comfort which is very attractive to women. Being taller is also a dominant trait which is attractive. Ultimately, if you are short but can provide a feeling of security and comfort, this will be equivalent to height.Height and attraction chart
    The best guide to creating attraction regardless of height is Double Your Dating.
  4. Physical strength, muscles. Being muscular provides a sense of excitement and security in women. It also alludes to dominance which will seduce most women.
  5. Being funny. Laughter makes people feel more comfortable and happy. Also, when people are laughing at your jokes, you immediately gain social status which is attractive. If you can make her laugh, you’re half way there. Read how to make a girl smile.
  6. Being witty. This is very attractive as it alludes to being smart, and intelligence is attractive to women. If you are dating then wit will be a big part of your evening.
  7. Being wealthy.Wealth indicates power, security, comfort and even excitement. This is very attractive to women whom crave all these feelings.
  8. Being playful. Playfulness means that you are fun to be with, consequently triggering feelings of attraction in women.
  9. Being touchy. Human touch is a powerful way to trigger feelings of attraction. Naturally touchy people have a lot more sex than people whom refrain from human contact. This is important when you flirt with a girl.
  10. Bravery. Being brave, alert in emergency situations is very attractive and indicates that you will be able to protect her from danger.
  11. Being excited about life. The energy that people emit when they are excited about living is contagious and very attractive.
  12. Being unavailable. People want what they can’t get. Being hard ( but not impossible! ) to get is attractive.
  13. A cocky smile is attractive. Cocky smiles, demonstrated in movies such as James Bond and Top Gun triggers feelings of confidence and dominance which is extremely arousing. Read up on how to pick up girls for more information.
  14. Genuine smiles in general are attractive. As long as they are a reaction to something that occurred and not because you are being polite or awkward.
  15. Being concentrated on a task is attractive to women. If a woman can watch you while you are completely involved in a task, then she is likely to be attracted to you. Examples of this can be her watching you paint, play an instrument, anything you do well that requires full absolute concentration on your part.
  16. Playing an instrument is attractive to women. Wonder why the rock stars get the girls… there are many reasons but those whom play music are automatically ranked more attractive than those who don’t.
  17. Being famous.If you’re famous, then by definition a lot of people know you. If a lot of people know you, you are therefore important. Being important is very attractive to women.
  18. Not caring. A care free attitude is liberating and very attractive.
  19. Being well dressed. Wearing nice clothes demonstrate social status; accentuate your physical features and shows that you take care of yourself.
  20. Unique accessories that match our personality. In our society, accessories that stand out provoke curiosity, confidence and will attract women. “What’s that necklace you are wearing”, says the girl at the bar. That is one of the dating tips for how to attract women.
  21. Shoes that are in style. The first thing that most girls notice in guys is what kind of shoes they are wearing. Shoes speak more about you than all clothes. You can be wearing a diaper on your head, jeans from the 80’s… but if you’re wearing brand new shoes that are in style, girls will automatically see you as attractive. If you don’t have the shoes… get them. Clothing that attracts women
  22. Well fitting shirts. Baggy shirts are out! Shirts should complement your body and show off your features. Now I’m not talking about spandex, but regular well fitting shirts. You know why suits look good? Because they are tailored to fit you perfectly. This is attractive to women.
  23. A deep, commanding voice. Your voice says a lot about you, literally. The next time you strike up a chat with a woman, don’t sound squeaky.
  24. Body posture. Within 1 second, just from how you stand, women will judge you as attractive or not. Good body posture indicates that you are a healthy mate and is very attractive to women. Lean back.
  25. Human smell. Sweat, at a very basic level, is very attractive to women. It triggers feeling of arousal in women. However, don’t go too far and stink. That’s repelling.
  26. Some light, musky cologne. These smells will mimic the natural smell that males produce and used lightly, will arouse some females.
  27. Leadership. Being a leader is very attractive to women, it demonstrates social status and importance. Make decisions, lead the pack.
  28. Being dominant. Women are naturally submissive, and men should be naturally dominant. Unfortunately with all our yoga classes and hormonal milk, this has changed in the past century.
  29. Being dangerous. Danger is hot, exciting, energising and can be very addictive. Women love the bad boy.
  30. Being intelligent. Intelligence, demonstrated by high grades, an impressive line of studies or career is very attractive.
  31. Being good with animals. Being good with living things indicates that you will be a good mate, capable of protecting and caring for any offspring you could potentially have. This is very attractive.
  32. Being good with kids. Same as above.
  33. Being genuinely interested in her. People love people whom are interested in them. If you genuinely want to know what makes her tick, this will be attractive.
  34. Being the best, in a group of men. If you are the best out of the competing men, then out of that group, you will be the most attractive to women.
  35. Being disciplined. People want to be surrounded by competent individuals. If you are able to control yourself when she can’t, she will see you as having a lot of willpower. This demonstrates that you are in control of your life.
  36. Not taking life too seriously. Having the gift to be able to laugh at life and embrace it as an enjoyable experience. You don’t have to think about marriage every time you talk to a girl.
  37. Being positive. Positive people are attractive. If you can show her the sunny side of things, she will thank you for it.
  38. Being a little selfish. Being slightly selfish indicates that you care a lot about yourself and your well being. This relates to confidence and importance which are attractive. Don’t be a martyr.
  39. Being generous. The complete opposite of being selfish, being generous can be attractive as well because it demonstrates that you are not needy and that you are wealthy. Note! Being generous does NOT mean you should buy things for people so they like you… this is not attractive. A good example of being generous would be, if you’re with friends, you could purchase the pitcher of drinks. This subconsciously communicates that you are in charge, dominant and wealthy.
  40. Spontaneity. Very attractive, alludes to excitement.
  41. Good hair. Having nice, healthy and well groomed hair shows that you take care of yourself.
  42. Trimmed nails. Women notice, if you take care of yourself, she’ll appreciate it.
  43. A slight tan. These days, a tan indicates that you wealthy and physically healthy.
  44. Relaxed attitude. Being relaxed shows a lot of confidence.
  45. Being driven. If you know what you want in life, and you’re pursuing it, this is attractive.
  46. Nice teeth. It is very important to have nice teeth, women think about it every time they consider kissing you.
  47. Having nice possessions, such as a car, house or a boat. These indicate wealth, excitement and power, all of which are attractive.
  48. A sense of adventure. If you’re curious about life, and are willing to take risks. You can lure her into your world and she’ll be happy to follow you past her limits.
  49. Honesty. Being able to speak the truth is difficult and shows that you have accepted who you are as a person. It also shows that you don’t care what others think, which is very attractive.
  50. Whispering in her ear. The sense of secrecy, mysteriousness and excitement that comes from a whisper is very attractive.
  51. Being busy. If you are busy, then you are important, independent and have a life.
  52. Being a man. Women love men who do manly things, stop doing yoga and go play a sport, hit the gym and get dirty.
  53. Having a nice butt. A sexy fitness indicator, attainable through the gym.
  54. Pre-selection. If other women want you, then there must be a reason. Having many people want you makes you attractive. You aren’t a guy who has time to look at personals.
  55. Being genuine. Say what you mean and do what you say. This is hard, but attractive.
  56. Physically picking her up. Ever heard of sweeping her off her feet? This is it.
  57. Touching her hair. There is something about having your hair touched that is relaxing and arousing at the same time.
  58. A nice face. Women love men with an attractive face. That’s what she’ll be kissing and you better believe it makes a difference.
  59. Originality. Women crave excitement, originality provides that. Seduction is never the same and being original is an essential part of it.
  60. Experience. Maturity can be very arousing; if you know what you’re doing she’ll appreciate it and you’ll get laid more often.
  61. Speaking to her true self. If you can see past the walls that most people put and truly speak to the real person inside of them, you’ll be one of the few that understands them. This makes you very important.
  62. Independence. People don’t like neediness, being independent shows that you are self sufficient and can take care of yourself.
  63. Teasing her. Playfulness, excitement, she loves it.
  64. Composure. If you can keep your cool under stressful situations, she’ll notice.
  65. Being selective. If you are selective, then it implies that you aren’t needy and are valuable enough to want many people want you.
  66. Being challenging. Playing hard to get is as true for women as it is for men. People want what they can’t have, and if they have to work for something, they’ll appreciate it much more.
  67. Focus. If you know what you want, and are determined to get it, then that’s attractive.
  68. Modesty. No one likes a show-off. Being modest is great, and attractive. There is nothing better than a girl finding out something good about you through a friend.
  69. Muscular abs. An indicator of health.
  70. Being natural. If you’re genuine about how you feel, without caring what others think, then that’s attractive. You want to know if people can handle the real you.
  71. Charismatic. If your spoken words and gestures can warm up a room, she’ll notice and be warmed up as well. If she doesn’t, her matchmaking friend will tell her about you.
  72. Sensual. Some people are frigid and cold. Some people are warm and very alert to their senses. If you are in tune with your body, you’ll likely be in tune with hers as well.
  73. A man that loves to have fun. Everyone wants to be around a guy who enjoys himself, be that guy.
  74. Goes against the rest of society. No one likes a follower. If you have a conviction about something, stick with it. Make up your own mind about things and people will respect you.
  75. Caring. Compassion and caring show that you will be a good father and is therefore very attractive.
  76. Persistent. If you go after your goals, other will notice. This is very attractive as it shows will power that not many people have.
  77. Being respected. If your entourage respects you, then she will as well.
  78. Loyal. People do not want to get hurt, and will avoid you if aren’t loyal. It is better to remain single than to get into a relationship you don’t plan on staying in.
  79. Romance. Spicing it up in a relationship is critical and attractive. Don’t always do the same thing because it will get boring really fast.
  80. Drama. Ever wonder why women love soap opera’s? It is because they crave drama, gossip, secrets. It is exciting and attractive. If you have an eventful life, people will be attracted to it.
  81. The way you move. If you have calm, controlled and relaxed gestures, then you will be seen as someone that is confident.
  82. A mysterious grin. There’s something about a grin that arouses curiosity and intrigue.
  83. Being extravagant. Sometimes going over the top is good, if you can let yourself go from time to time, people will notice.
  84. Loving yourself. If you truly love yourself for who you are, then others will as well.
  85. Being a teacher. Have you ever wondered why so many girls have crushes on their teachers? It is because being a teacher is a sign of power and knowledge, be a teacher.
  86. Clean, clear skin. Physically, nice skin is a health indicator and women will naturally be attracted to healthy looking skin.
  87. Being energetic. Have you ever heard the expression, “he was the life of the party” This is energy, its contagious and most people don’t have enough of it. It is very attractive.
  88. Being passionate. Be in the moment and enjoy life every day. It’s not about the destination, but about the journey. You’ll find your true love along the way.
  89. Quick mind. If you can think on your feet, and are quick to reply to her playful teases, you’ll be seen as smart and alert. A woman would rather be with a man that stimulates her intellectually rather than someone who is brain dead. It is much better to find something original to say on the spot rather than to use pick up lines.
  90. Attentive to details. It’s the little things that matter, if you notice that she’s done something different with her hair when no one else does, she will appreciate and be attracted to that.
  91. Convicted and has strong beliefs. Be opinionated about things. If you ask someone a question about a topic and they have something interested to say about it, that’s attractive. Be opinionated.
  92. Being in tune with her. Being in tune with someone is one of the biggest factors in relationships. Have you ever felt chemistry? Have you ever felt like you were on the same wavelength? If you and your partner are similar (and you should!) this will come naturally and will be one of the most attractive traits. The same applies for meeting women during the day or night. If you’re picking up a girl in a club, then high energy is appropriate because your energy will be matching hers. If you arrive with high energy during the day and she is reading in the library, this will clash. Read the article on how to approach girls for more information.
  93. Being attentive to details in your life. Are you meticulous? Being attentive to the details in your life will mean that you will pay attention to the details in her life.
  94. Being knowledgeable about various subjects. If you are versatile, then you’ll never be short of conversational topics. Being flexible and able to adapt to all kinds of situations is attractive. Go read some books.
  95. Innocence. It’s no fun when you know everything, have tried everything and have been to the edge and back. A little bit of innocence is attractive because it makes you more human. There’s always something that you haven’t tried, let her know and invite you to try it with you. Asking for her advice is alright as well.
  96. Challenging her. Forcing her to be on her toes, teasing her, is exciting and attractive.
  97. Be a planner. If you are always organising events, you are automatically the leader that has a high social status and a lot of energy. This is very attractive; everyone wants to be invited to outings.
  98. Being open. Tell her about your life, the real one. Cut the B.S. and you’ll stand out as someone who’s not trying to prove anything to anyone.
  99. Being direct. Being direct is very powerful and attractive. People use indirect methods because they want to ‘feel things out’ and not get hurt. Being direct shows that you are confident, bold and not scared of rejection.
  100. Be yourself, the good yourself. You shouldn’t try to pretend to be something that you aren’t. You should grow and continually improve, but remain genuine. Don’t hide your faults, everyone has them. The old saying,” be yourself” is very true and is ultimately what will attract the woman of your dreams.

Does it mean that you have to be all these things in order to attract beautiful women into your life? No way! The universe has a weird way of working and you’ll be attracted to the one you were meant to be with. She’ll love your faults, your weaknesses and your strengths. Have faith, believe in destiny and you shall meet your soul mate. You’ll know it when it happens.


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Mark March 3, 2008 at 8:53 pm

Great post.. I’ve never seen anything like it before.

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Harod-02 March 3, 2008 at 8:53 pm

wow, impressive

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Annie March 3, 2008 at 8:54 pm

Good ending to the article, you’re right!

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Jamesss March 3, 2008 at 8:55 pm

Being direct is my specialty, it works very well. I can’t tell you the amount of times I’ve been direct with a girl, only to have her completely turn on in a blink of a second.

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O2 March 3, 2008 at 8:56 pm

wow, dugg

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Jimm70 March 3, 2008 at 8:56 pm

DUGG! This is amazing

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Happyval March 3, 2008 at 8:57 pm

You make some really good points, and others I don’t agree with.. but overall a really good compilation.

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Usher March 3, 2008 at 8:58 pm

Good article but so long, bookmarked for later.

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Arnold March 12, 2008 at 8:38 pm

Dude it was unexpected it was good, you the man!

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Abid June 23, 2008 at 6:01 am

Thanks a tonn… the reading means a lot..
its a great help to the guys who are true lovers..
once again man many thanks who made this beautiful words and sentences…
it true….

Thanks & Regards
Abid…….

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Suhas July 3, 2008 at 12:13 pm

Dude yo sentences r just awesome …it really steals a girls heart da
….100 stuffs u hv mentioned is just mindblowing…great job keep it up n keep going……

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Suhas July 3, 2008 at 12:15 pm

Great stuff da….

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shuja naveed July 9, 2008 at 10:15 am

why women i date jump to conclusion that i will marry them and stay with me only till they think they would marry me I never show off that im financially well off but still this goes onb through out my life. Even after my marriage they have hopes that i shall marry them whereas im anly interested to have sex with them

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faza(maldivian) July 16, 2008 at 11:22 pm

it is really good,thanks a lot

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John J July 17, 2008 at 11:24 am

AWESOME!

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george July 20, 2008 at 2:41 am

Great job guys. Keep it up.

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Omid August 17, 2008 at 5:33 pm

I would like to know how you can pick up girls at the movies…give me a link if you can please…Thank you very much :D

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Md.Monir Hossain August 27, 2008 at 9:59 am

This is an excelant article that I have never seen before.There are many good point to make a girl.Thaks for the article

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dt5000 September 26, 2008 at 8:33 am

Some excellent points in there, but what a crappy ending! Cop-out.

Guys, be MEN, that is what is attractive. Take charge of your life. Do NOT believe in destiny – that’s just lazy, and encourages guys to think that their 10/10 woman will fall into their lap. “You’ll be attracted to the one you were meant to be with”? That’s called settling for less than you deserve. Go out and grab life by the balls. Embrace risk. Make mistakes. And never, ever, settle for less than YOU deserve.

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gloria November 22, 2008 at 3:38 pm

Yeah…Be a confident, secure, intelligent, well dressed accomplished individual with good sense and good manners and a sense of humor, good conversationalist able to rise to any occassion willing and able to sincerely give a woman respect and consideration. Nothing gets my attention than a man treating me like I need to be cared for and protected, like I’m valuable.

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Gaudence M December 7, 2008 at 5:47 am

Yeah, that is what have dream to read. Real good staff, please keep it more coming up.

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Alessandro December 9, 2008 at 12:02 pm

At number 58 a nice face, shouldn’t this be in the top three? If height is third why isn’t good looks close, was this written by taller “plain joes” or something… or has it been covered by the nice eyes bit?

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Claychea December 12, 2008 at 4:41 am

wow…i don know wat else to say..think yo said it all

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Jeremy January 3, 2009 at 9:19 pm

Thanks for the list Chris Calo. A lot of the stuff is fairly common sense. For the most part though it is nice to have such an extensive list of things to think about.

Alessandro, I don’t think they’re in any particular order but 58 would serve fine for a nice face. It’s not all about any one particular feature or portion of your personality.. It’s kind of the point of the whole list. For instance, if you have a pretty face but have a crappy personality or don’t mean what you say then you won’t get anywhere.

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Crash January 15, 2009 at 3:02 am

Don’t worry about much of this stuff. dress nice. only concentrate on what you CAN change and what you WILL change. workout talk to girls flirt ~ no 100 things needed, but great effort. Oh and the don’t care thing dismisses the rest of the list btw!!

i would say thought clip nails etc.. hair clothes etc… but when it comes to girls, this is a 100 ways to improve yourself ~which may or may not~ help you with women. check it out~ 2maro, everyone reading this, approach 5 women. just 5 – it don’t matter what you say etc.. just say it be honest and come back and tell me about it and don’t read another post till you do ~ peace ____crash

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the creator February 23, 2009 at 7:00 pm

This list is hilarious. Theres like a million things on it. Reminds me of a joke.

a woman was invited to a new store which allowed women to buy the ideal men,

On the first floor was average looking men with no money, no looks or charisma. She skipped this floor.

On the second floor was ok looking men with some money and a little charisma. Again she skipped this floor.

On the third floor was good looking men, with a good deal of money and good charisma. The woman again skipped the floor.

On the fourth floor was great looking men, lots of money, great charsima and the ability to look after children. The woman skipped this floor.

On the fifth floor was beautiful god like men, who owned huge amounts of land, were incredibly wealthy, were great with children and had great leadership and social skills. The woman skipped this floor.

On the sixth floor the woman found there was no men. The woman asked the store owner ‘where are the men on this floor’. The store owner replied ‘lady there is just no men out there to satisfy all your demands’

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alan clarke February 24, 2009 at 10:57 pm

chris…this really is basic…kinds in high school know the vast majority of this.
height in a man is in no way,shape or form a measure of his physical capabilities either.
yes,women feel it is,but as we all know,a mans all round fitness is what keeps him strong anyway…most man in excess of 6,0, tend to be big awkward goofs who lack balance and can be easily knocked off balance,despite body mass.
look, at the end of the day,we screw them,then they screw us,one way or another
all you wannabe romeo,s get a life.
be you,you and nobody else but you…if shes a real woman she,ll see that your a real man that way.
give her a quick sausage and go watch the match with your mates

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Gloria July 10, 2011 at 6:17 am

Your answer is typical of a person that does not get women and has nothing at all going for them.
and you last coment. proves you have nothing to offer a woman in bed either. you will most liekly spend your life beating your little sausage wishing you had a mate.

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alan clarke February 24, 2009 at 11:14 pm

p.s. dont spend your best years chasing them,
there a species who wants what they perceive they cant have.
ignore them…give them an old fashioned wink…talk mans talk..football,boxing,your favourite ruby murray etc
they see your havin fun with your mates…and over they come, to get away from some soopy git romeo wannabee.
you,ll have them eating out of your hand.
as a man be prepared to stand your ground…always
thats all they want in a man

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alyssa March 4, 2009 at 10:48 pm

This is very true. :)

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Comrade April 4, 2009 at 11:32 am

Great tips…very helpful. I shall do my best to improve this gentleness and work around to embrace certain features.

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khaled April 23, 2009 at 12:54 pm

very nice tips and also a great ending
JUST BE YOURSELF but not too much

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P-COOL April 28, 2009 at 12:49 am

Thats really a great one, its really useful to me. Everything that is written is true and it can help one in his relationship.Thats perfect…

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austin June 16, 2009 at 5:30 am

wow this was a nice bit of information…perhaps ill try some things and change the things that i usually do.hmm maybe i might get that one girl to perhaps love me…..which we’ve known each other for about two years with on/off attraction.i shall figure out what is messing me up…..

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seducir June 16, 2009 at 7:38 am

I admire the time and effort you put into your blog. I wish I had the same drive :)

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alex July 4, 2009 at 10:22 pm

well dang…they must just want a perfect man….

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meme July 15, 2009 at 11:35 pm

dude the 100 things are awesome

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Shane July 23, 2009 at 2:39 pm

Whoa, this stuff is off the hook. There’s so much that i need to start doing, thanks a mil guys:-)

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Jim August 2, 2009 at 6:51 am

Awesome.

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Tom August 2, 2009 at 7:47 am

there are things in there that I definitely need to do.

My question would be , what if you have trouble with every one of those things discussed ? What if you are a man who meets women but after the first couple of months women seem to avoid you ?

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Richie August 4, 2009 at 6:52 pm

Awesome article!

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Christina August 16, 2009 at 7:16 pm

Coming from a woman, your list is spot on. You just described the perfect man. Good luck guys measuring up!

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Jorge Ruiz August 18, 2009 at 2:34 pm

This is what i have been looking for. the way that everything is express. the confidence that it builts in you as you read. this is really good

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Johnny j August 23, 2009 at 7:59 am

I’m an average looking guy with a great personality and what do i do when i’m only attracted to the hottest girls who are out of my league? Why should i feel i have to get with a girl for the sake of getting with a girl! I want real tips to score the hotties that those arrogant guys are with.

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Steve August 29, 2009 at 1:47 pm

#18 Not caring. A care free attitude is liberating and very attractive.

VS

#75 Caring. Compassion and caring show that you will be a good father and is therefore very attractive.

WTF?

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Chris Calo August 30, 2009 at 10:16 am

Yes Steve,

Life is contradicting, and not caring can be great DHV… yet caring can also be attractive on a certain level.

When dealing with women and relationships, contradictions arise everywhere. You might “not care” one second when she’s being bratty, but you can be caring when it counts.

If you think of car racing as an example, in the same way that when you’re racing around a track, braking won’t make you go faster… but you still need to apply the brakes if you want to go around the track! With women, sometimes you have to be compassionate, and sometimes you just have to ignore her crazy tempers!

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J September 10, 2009 at 6:26 pm

This is all rather good,
But does the same still apply if I don’t want to get them into bed’?

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abc September 16, 2009 at 1:42 pm

Great Post. Thanks!!!

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Roscoe October 6, 2009 at 6:33 am

Great stuff!

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Lalit October 13, 2009 at 7:07 pm

Excellent !

these tips help to improve your personality & attract people especially girls.

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Brittany October 15, 2009 at 8:09 pm

This is possibly one of the most appalling, stereotypical, and degrading things I have ever seen. I am sick and tired of these gender roles being reinforced so blatantly. “Women are naturally submissive?” Come on, this is the 21st century! I couldn’t care less about someone’s wealth and I think it is a huge turn off if a guy acts dominating.

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leah October 22, 2009 at 12:50 am

As long as they brush their teeth, trim there nails wear cologne and are respectful and romantic. Without that its just gross!

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RoDerick November 15, 2009 at 8:47 pm

I like this article but it’s missing something. Women are also attracted to the interesting men. If you are going after a girl maybe you should draw up some interesting points about yourself to get an even better shot at dating.

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Toro November 21, 2009 at 8:58 pm

those with something negative to say have something negative to hide.

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Becca December 3, 2009 at 3:00 pm

Kimya, I agree totally.. NICE WAY BEING SEXIST!
Also, making a Girl feel thats shes not a girl… 10000% true!
Talk to her, make her feel apart of your group! I hang with my BFs buddies all the time, and they accept me as a girl, yet they still treat me as a guy, which I am completely fine with. We go paintballing at least every other month, and the guys don’t worry about me being hurt… or crying. Make a girl feel tough as well as yourself. Be protective of her, but give her some leg room to let her try some new things, that you think are ‘dangerous’ but is actually a thriller for her. Girls hate it when you make them feel ‘weak.’

My BF is my bestfriend! Thats key by the way! BE BEST FRIENDS!

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manzy December 10, 2009 at 1:11 pm

Quite good stuff. Guys be smart & take care of yourself & believe in yourself. Good points!

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brandon December 25, 2009 at 5:21 pm

Ok what the hell. What is with all of the contradictions here, should I listen to my fellow brother, or listen to what im trying to get… hard decision..

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Paulina December 30, 2009 at 7:54 pm

Being a female- I agree with some of the points you listed. But also because I have experience, I want to say that the best way to attract a woman (the RIGHT woman) is basically by being how you would be around men. Except, of course, minus the obnoxious commentary whenever an attractive woman walks by, scratching various parts of your body, etc. Be chivalrous, though. MOST women will really enjoy that. Watch some old Hollywood movies and learn how to inject some of that old-fashioned sexiness into your personality and I’m sure that females will appreciate it.
Good article, nonetheless.

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thedude December 31, 2009 at 3:20 am

I would like to add cooking as well

though not much of an accomplishment but i never thought that knowing how to cook various delicacies can beef up the “being attractive” quotient.(helped me :)

PS. im not a great cook but i knw how to make several dishes

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Gisele Manhatton January 27, 2010 at 12:20 pm

this is like the perfect man on earth, i definatlely lovvvve the not carringness its soo hot i hate it when guys care about the way they look so much its not attractive, because thats a girl thing anyways yah thats just my opinion :)

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MarcE February 4, 2010 at 1:33 pm

Women are naturally submissive?

Citation needed. :-)

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billusproximus February 14, 2010 at 12:03 am

YOU HIT THE NAIL ON THE HEAD!!! Although I don’t fit some of the requirements of attracting all women, maybe some other guys didn’t fit the requirements that i maintain. but the good things now is that i now have a reference guide to focus on the things that i need to improve on. there’s alot of intelligent yet gorgeous women at my college and i really want them to get to recognize me. with this guide and a moment of reflection upon myself, i can build a new me physically, mentally, and more original than ever before. Thanks, Bro.

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imyours.co.uk February 24, 2010 at 10:42 am

Being direct it’s where I am good at, it works very well. But, some times being direct it can be a pain, not everyone it appreciate you being so direct.

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Daniel February 26, 2010 at 10:42 pm

Also one more thing, Why do you think nice guys are always the friend? And the women tell the nice guy how horrible they’re asshole boyfriend is, yes she’s still with them. HAHA, stop being nice, be an asshole. This will get you laid.

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Elizabeth March 3, 2010 at 9:16 pm

Stop telling guys this crap! I do not care about muscles or socioeconomic status or being wealthy or playful or touchy. The guy depicted by this thing sounds like a jerk whom I would never go out with. For me, wearing expensive clothes is a huge turnoff. How shallow and perfectionist do you think we are?!

Intelligence is preferable, yes, but you sure as hell don’t need it if you’re attracting the kind of girl that Chris is. For the love of god, don’t follow this.

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Zed March 20, 2010 at 4:12 am

Funny advice. I have been through this stuff too many times. Unfortunately, what works in a great majority of cases is in order:
- good looks ( face most important )
- wealth ( houses, cars, boats, ability to deliver what a woman needs )
The other personality traits mentioned in the article are next to irrelevant. So if you do not have any of the above, no amount of attractive character traits will help you. Unless you get lucky, it happens from time to time to almost everyone.

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charles lwanga May 8, 2010 at 12:53 am

you have made real research, i have know more and confirmed some things i knew before but i was taking for granted. how ever, how do you compare being strong in bed i mean in being an expert in love making and being powerful both in fame and wealth? which of the two is more important to women if all the two have been experienced by a woman in the two men she would love be with for the rest of her life pliz help and write back i need to know this

thanks for this information dear am charles peace

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pyfk May 22, 2010 at 9:52 am

Good lord,
If you plan to spend such a great deal time to attract a woman, you cease to be a man instantly.
it is tragic and comic for a man to go through all these designs and plans.

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Jeff May 24, 2010 at 2:04 am

I wouldnt literally try to work on everything on this list cause it will take forever and by the time you’re done you will prolly be a totally different person.After reading the list I figured I would go back through it and pickout about 10-15 things I would like to change about myself(change things about yourself for yourself and not everybody else) and really go about improving but dont obsess over it,that will only hurt.Like no.3 says height is important,ok well.im 25 yrs. old 5’5” and 135 lbs. yea pretty short..I go for girls around my size so its not an issue,I mean some girls will tease me about being short but its all fun and they usually end up in my bed anyways..remember,dont try to be “perfect” cause anybody who wants someone whos perfect prolly has mental problems.

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Al June 23, 2010 at 8:18 pm

ive been wondering something for a while should i use my athleticism so sort of show off on a way?

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TheJan June 24, 2010 at 6:44 am

The cool thing on this list is that you can pick out the ones that you’d like to change / improve and then work on that.

I don’t think it is needed to have all those qualities. I see this list more as a list where you can choose the menu that you’d like to deliver to a woman. And let’s face it, if every guy was the same and did the same things, the world would become pretty boring. No, we don’t want to be seen as boring, we want to be seen as original, and being able to stand up for our originality / for how we are. So, pick out your choices and improve them. The mix is important and determines how you come off to a woman – how you are, who you are, in essence. Be creative with who you are!

You don’t need to be perfect. You need to be comfortable with being yourself.

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Jane June 27, 2010 at 5:10 am

erm aren’t many of these contradictory? and in general absolute nonsense!?

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TheJan June 27, 2010 at 1:15 pm

If you don’t specify which ones are contradictory and nonsense, then how should we come to believe that? Bring some arguments, and i might think about it. Generalization is always an easy way out. And if you didn’t know already, the easy way out is not always the best.

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Weymouth July 12, 2010 at 2:02 am

Thanks again! Nice tips. Make notes and will apply!

God bless!

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Artemis July 26, 2010 at 1:39 pm

Hey, I’m a girl reading this and what a great list! Yes yes yes. So many sites telling men how to approach women and what women want are just appalling. I mean really, those sites that have ‘best pickup lines’, some of which I have heard and left me confused and offended, are just amazingly bad. I have been reading them to figure out how to help guys chat me up…did you realize we are usually rooting for you, but so often the guy just says something so unbelievably whacked that you can’t help but see him as a liability. I can’t count the times guys have ruined their own chances. Newsflash, we want sex too! Just not with insulting sexist creeps.This list here though, this is generally good advice. How to be a good guy, how to benefit her life, and subsequently get laid. A lot. Bravo.

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Sean July 28, 2010 at 10:25 am

Not all women are submissive and not all men are attracted to submissive women.

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Chantelle August 25, 2010 at 3:30 am

Sorry a little bit of a long rant here, but Im sure some of you can agree with me.

Im a girl, and Ive been seeing a lot of complaints about this. All I have to say is you guys all need to cool it. Ok yes, I can agree with some comments but honestly this list harmlessly just is advising guys to get more on girls good books. This isnt some instructional thing about how you need to completely match up to these standards. Note the title of this article is Top 100 things that attract women to men, not something like: “Top 100 things that you MUST do in order to win a girls heart” These things listed are all attractive, so enough with the complaints and fusses! I’m just a regular girl, and I know for sure that ALL of my friends would agree with me on this; but this list is definately on the right track.

Personally if I met a guy up to all these standards and I felt a connection, I’d go out with him. Everybody whos complaining about how “Girls need to be treated equally as boys.” ok yeah, enough with acting like we’re sissys but get real everybody. K, my short-term memory isnt as sharp as possible but from what I do remember of this list as far as they went with the whole sexist thing was saying girls like brave, muscular boys so they feel safe and protected. How can you all disagree to that?

Maybe you feel it runs this way but the author of the list clearly wasnt implying we are weaklings, the procted feeling, genuinely is just a good feeling. This list is simply suggestive, and if you guys cannot handle some suggestions then i suggest redirecting yourself onto a different website since you seem to not be able to handle what this page has to offer. Why would you even read this if you hate these ‘bullsh*t lists’? Those Girls, I can see where your’e coming from but I gotta say you are overall nuts if you dont think this list is true, yeah ok were not all tooth fairys critiquing everything but im sure that all the author meant was that we dont want grungy gross yellow teeth on a guy, cuz yeah that is a turn off when a guys got teeth of a hobo. Were not asking for a boy straight out of the dentist but decent, white teeth shows you care about how you look, which IS for a matter of fact, impressive. ^_^

Boys, if you’re reading my little rant here, please disregard the complaints, seriously girls are just being fussy. Dont go over the top on these things, yeah, but I think you’re all smart enough to understand the limits. I say follow the list, most girls find these things amazingly attractive and the author of this knows their facts well. :)

I am sorry this is soo long but I just went through over half the comments and I had to share my opinion. Good luck to all you boys out there, every girl has a different prefence, but overall this list is totally right so don’t have second thoughts on whether to actually follow this list or not. Its totally spot on, so have fun now that your knowledgable on how to win that girls heart. ;)

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Josh August 27, 2010 at 8:59 pm

I thought it was all too revealing that “Be yourself” is the absolute LAST thing that girls REALLY care about…

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Alizarin September 18, 2010 at 10:31 pm

There’s nothing wrong with doing yoga guys. Lebron James, Shaq and Jerry Rice all do yoga and these guys are super studs. If you consider Yoga to just be just some “girls activity” than you’re cutting yourself short on a lot of benefits. And if the majority of you want to avoid these yoga classes thats fine by me too. I don’t mind being the only guy in a class surrounded by beautiful girls putting their legs behind their heads.

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Beth October 16, 2010 at 3:45 pm

to all the guys who think that most of these work-

THEY DON’T! i’m a girl and some of these i find attractive, but some of them i don’t!

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meat October 18, 2010 at 7:39 am

unfortunately, if you have social anxiety like myself, you are destined to be lonely and unhappy

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Ry October 20, 2010 at 2:14 pm

contradiction after contradiction
im sorry but i do agree with these traits being attractive but it depends on the girl and what she likes/notices
you say guys are attractive if their confident(in one situation)
then you say their attractive because their subtle(in another)
seems like ALOT of hard work
in my opinion just be yourself if a girl likes you.. great, if she dosnt oh well
their only people.

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corey1 November 18, 2010 at 1:36 pm

wow
Great!
I love you guys!
Thanks Dr.calo
I love you

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somo December 1, 2010 at 2:54 am

you should not follow someone’s thinking. act as what you are basically. you will get your prefect friend or….

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Paul December 11, 2010 at 4:19 am

The problem with this list is, is that it paints all women as vapid, mindless, impulsive, superficial drones that will drop their panties at the sight of a dominant d!#khead. If you think all women are like this, then you won’t find a great female partner.

Cheers, Paul

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Chris Calo December 11, 2010 at 9:55 am

Hello Paul,

I respectfully disagree. This list does no such thing. Instead, this list serves as a reference tool to guys that want to improve themselves to be better with women. For example: if you have long, dirty nails and you suddenly see that at #42, most women will notice this. A light bulb might go off and prompt you to clean/trim your nails. Awareness is the purpose of this list.

There is no degrading of women here, in fact, quite the opposite, we love them and think they are great.

Finally, these are generalizations (although very accurate in most cases).

Is it fair to say that you would like it if people cooked for you? I think it is… most people would enjoy that.
The same concept applies to women.. is it fair to say that most women appreciate a confident guy? I’d say yes.

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Invader ZIM December 29, 2010 at 11:21 pm

I really hope this is true, because if i try these things and fail, I’m going to be very unhappy…

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Invader ZIM December 29, 2010 at 11:22 pm

And by the way, i completely dissagree with Paul’s above comment.

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dreamboat January 5, 2011 at 10:40 am

I like the post,its great but I kinda agree with paul. In todays society all girls want is to hoe around with a lot of guys.Im not saying all girls are like this but most are. They go out with one guy,last with him for 2+ years, has countless sex with that guy and moves on to the next one. By the time she finds the right guy and gets married with him, she has slept with more than 2 different guys already of which were serious relationships or one night stands. To me that is gross and the girl that has slept with more than one guy shouldn’t be wearing a white dress at the wedding since white means pureness. Idk but its hard to find a girl these days that is pretty or beautiful and that is still a virgin. There really ain’t no more of those girls that are pure and not hoes. Girls these days just dont stay loyal to most of their guys. All in all, girls should be treated the way they treat themselves. If a girl is a hoe, why give her respect and treat her good when she doesn’t respect herself? Vice versa…

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Saku January 17, 2011 at 6:32 pm

This list is like a bunch of ingredients that typical girls like in a soup called man. I’m sure each girl will want more of a specific ingredient more than others. Like I rather have a loyal guy with no ripped abs instead of an athletic guy with no loyalty to me. And the dominance thing… I rather have a guy trying to please me that a guy pushing me to his will. Guys trying to dominate me turn me off. Just my 2 cents.

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yourdreamgirl January 28, 2011 at 10:21 pm

You are who you attract and visa versa. If you are attractive and considerate, you will attract the same kind of person. As Christians, my husband and I waited for marriage to have sex. It was one of the best things we ever did. It created a relationship of trust, uniqueness, patience, and openness.
My husband is about an inch shorter than me but he makes up with his sense of humor. Oh my goodness!! I would rather a funny guy than a thousand compliments. To me compliments always feel forced but humor is almost always spontaneous. I can’t stay upset at him when he’s funny.

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flkdsjf February 10, 2011 at 5:05 pm

while to a certain extent I would agree with you, as I start reading down the list more closely im finding that your list would only appeal to the stereotypical female. While this is ok because media reinforces ideas such as these to maintain a dominant male and dependant eye candy female, human behaviour is more complex than following a set of rules. What if she rejects the stereotypical views of men as outlined above?

Be fit, smart, creative, funny, charming…but most importantly ADAPTABLE becuase not every chick is the same.

i feel obligated to write this b/cuz im write a sociology paper right now lol

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CK May 6, 2011 at 5:14 pm

All of this makes sense. A lot has worked for me in the past and I have now calmed down. I was SUPER excited to see this, just about everything on here is common sense and works! I have a lot of these excluding the heigh. Only 5’10″
lol

Looks good man!

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Michael May 12, 2011 at 3:26 pm

Great post, but not every girl likes the bad boy. Bad boys usually abuses their girl. I mean lots of girls don’t like to get hit! Anyway, great post man, keep it up!

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jason May 17, 2011 at 3:30 pm

whats wrong with a guy doing yoga?

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seedy July 15, 2011 at 11:09 pm

I was wondering that too,

a good number of things on this list are a big part of yoga:
health, confidence, energy, playfulness, positive attitude, discipline, being genuine….and yea i could keep going, but..point made. imo.

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erik May 29, 2011 at 4:16 pm

How about, just be a good person and wait until you meet another good person? You’ll treat each other well and if there’s physical attraction and you’re both single, you’ll probably end up dating.

And yeah, dittos for the person who said she waited to have sex until marriage, there’s no better foundation for a relationship than being friends for a while first and stopping focusing on getting in each other’s pants.

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Isidoros June 24, 2011 at 5:06 pm

look i don’t have almost any of these qualities. the only things i can offer to a woman is my good personality and behaviour. love, careness thoughtfullness and my quite good physical appearence, that’s it. not coolliness, not much humour, not athleticism, not money, not big plans or social status or good job, not “certainity” for the future (because of course i am fuc..ng uncertain for my future) not…not…not… (at least i’m thin and tall, that’s sth :) . i won’t go to gym, i won’t deepen further my voice or act in a way, won’t watch any bond movies :) , won’t buy shoes etc. if there is a woman who likes me for who i am, and i would feel the same for her, it’s ok, or else….i prefer not having a woman at all. actually i am not the kind of guy that would fell for just any women and if i like one i like serious things not selfish cock-thinking toyplaying approaches but ones with long term perspectives (people’s hearts are not sth to play with, mine included – i just want love from a mate that i would love too)….

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Sandra October 29, 2011 at 4:17 pm

definitely being dominant! :)

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M November 19, 2011 at 5:02 pm

Ha ha a list like this “Yeah…Be a confident, secure, intelligent, well dressed accomplished individual with good sense and good manners and a sense of humor, good conversationalist able to rise to any occassion willing and able to sincerely give a woman respect and consideration. Nothing gets my attention than a man treating me like I need to be cared for and protected, like I’m valuable.”

This is a women’s wish “list” and just that a wish/fantasy!! He’s not going to have ALL this… He might have SOME… Yeah yeah yeah we know the word SOME to a lot of women is irritating but that’s what you women that actually get reality vs fantasy will get is SOME of the “list”. The great conversationalist is also a wish… Yeah we might be good but there is no “perfect” conversationalist and it comes over time to be able to talk to each other. So many women want this “instant perfection” and that will never ever ever happen. Women that constantly are on the hunt for the Mr. “perfection” are going to bitter, bitter, bitter until they realize there is no “perfection”!!

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