If you’ve ever wondered how to attract a woman, then look no further. The answer is simple:

Be attractive.

So what do women find attractive?

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All of us have felt approach anxiety at one time or another. You see that girl from across the room and you think to yourself, “I want to meet her.” You get ready to approach when suddenly your chest constricts. Your palms feel sweaty and thoughts start running rapidly through your mind. What if she doesn’t like me? What if everyone sees me bomb with this one girl? Maybe I should get a drink first and wait for the opening… Congratulations. You’ve just been hit by approach anxiety.

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Walking up to my third girl of the evening, my mates look at me and wonder how I can remain so calm. In an old style Irish pub, where every group seems to be keeping to themselves, I stand out as being only person who seems to be talking to everyone.

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It’s a shame that most men don’t know how to talk to a woman. With these few basic guidelines, you’ll be chatting it up with all the most attractive women in no time. The trick with talking to girls is with the subtleties.

The first rule of talking with women is to replace the word “talk” with the word “communication”. When you adopt the idea that you want to communicate with another human being, it takes the emphasis off the words themselves, which are only a small part of communication anyways.

Real communication is actually 20% words and 80% body language & tonality.

“It’s not what you say, but how you say it”

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The basic rules of how to start a conversation with a girl you’ve never met are simple: keep it simple, keep it fun. When you talk to a woman for the first time, remember that she doesn’t know you and anything too intense will push her away. Instead, use these conversation starters to get her more interested.

1. Situational Conversation Starter
Make a comment about something around both of you at the time.

If you’re at the library, mention something about the librarian at the door or even about the funny security guard at the entrance. An environmental opener can be used anywhere, but it does take a bit of quick thinking depending on where you are.

2. Direct Conversation Starter
Just say “hi”

Sometimes just saying hi is enough to get a decent conversation started. This works especially well in boring situations such as waiting in line. If there’s nothing special happening and you are both bored, then saying hi will just come off as being social.

3. Starting a conversation with an opinion
Some men feel more comfortable jumping right into a topic with an opinion on a certain situation.

The advantages of this is that it automatically leads to a full fledged dialog about whichever topic you introduced. The disadvantage however, is that if you randomly ask for someone’s opinion, they might think you’re polling a survey or something. They might be on the defensive right away since people automatically avoid salesmen on a daily basis. The one context where an opinion opener will be acceptable is in a social environment in which everyone is already talking, ie: party or a bar.

4. Beginning a chat with a comment about her
Now this is risky but can lead to a quick and successful conversation if done right.

By noticing something unique about her, she will be likely to want to engage in a conversation to talk about her favorite subject, herself. For example, if a girl is wearing a huge hat, she’s doing it for a reason: she wants to be noticed and for people to talk to her. So just pick up on these subtle (and sometimes obvious) cues.

These are the most efficient methods on how to start a conversation. Once it’s started, you will need to have something to say to continue chatting with her! One of the best resources to read so you never run out of things to say is the book Double Your Dating by David Deangelo. The words printed on the pages of his book have a way of sticking in your brain and will make you a better conversationalist than you ever thought possible.

In today’s relationships men seem to have problems with how to love a girl. I say this because most of what is said about dating revolves around playing hard to get and never revealing all your emotions. This can be really contradicting if you want to show a woman that you really love her.

A lot of men will be reluctant to demonstrate their love for a girl because they claim it shows a sign of weakness. This fear is not really about weakness, but rather the fact that they fear that they will be hurt if the girl doesn’t reciprocate the feeling.

If you’re going to love a girl, love her for who she really is, including her qualities and her faults. This usually means that you will have to get to know her before declaring your love which is a step that many guys skip. In fact, if you truly know the girl in question, you’ll already know how she feels.

Once you know, and you feel the moment is right, just tell her directly. There’s no sense in playing it safe, you’re either all in or you’re not.
Best of luck !

If everyone was picking up girls on a consistent basis, there wouldn’t be many left now would there? It’s a good thing that most men don’t know how easy it is to pick up a girl and are frightened to even attempt!

The definition of a successful pickup would be to engage in a new interaction with a woman and create enough attraction for her to want to see you again. Unfortunately, what I usually see is a far cry from that. I see men concentrating on ‘getting the number’ and they seem to completely lose sight of the actual goal.

Although it’s true that sometimes getting a number CAN be a sign of success, it is not necessarily an absolute victory. What’s the point of getting a number if she won’t go out with you afterwards? Sometimes women give their number out just to get rid of a guy…

Successfully picking up women can be easy as long as you follow a few guidelines:

1. Have a good opener

An opener is a line that breaks the ice and begins a conversation. It doesn’t matter what it is, as long as it feels natural. Don’t talk randomly start telling a girl about a wind surfing story if you’re in the grocery store… she’ll wonder why. Sometimes an opener can simply be “hi”.

2. Create some attraction

Why should this person continue talking to you? After you open the conversation, you should convey that you are an interesting person worth talking to. This can be by telling a story about what you’re doing, or simply saying something funny that will make her laugh.

3. Pull back and get to know her

Interactions should never be one sided. In a successful pick-up, you should BOTH want to talk to each other afterwards. This is one of the major pitfalls that most guys do… they get a bunch of numbers but they never call because they never got to know the girl in question.

4. Close

The whole idea behind picking up girls is to further the interaction with them, so when you’re done, make sure to create a little commitment and excitement for later. Either get a number, email (not as good) or some way of seeing each other again because it’s always more fun the second time!

Every relationship has a start, here are some first date tips that can ignite a passionate and exciting evening.

1. Place the odds in your favor by positioning yourself in a comfortable environment and activity.

If you’ve never tried roller blading before, it might not the best idea to try it on a first date. It is however, perfectly acceptable to have your date try something new for the first time. This has two effects, first it naturally demonstrates that you are a leader and subsequently, you can be more at ease which is another attractive quality.

2. Make it personalized to her. During time pre-date contact you have had with the girl, you usually can piece a little information about her. Use the little bits that you know about her and apply it to the date. If it feels generic, then it won’t be special.

3. Contrastingly, if you are single and going on frequent ‘first dates’, then it can be a good idea to establish a ‘favorite date’ routine. For example, if there’s a zoo nearby and you’ve been on 2 dates at the zoo in the past month, then you’ll pretty much know exactly what to do, what to say, where to go. Practice makes perfect, even in dates. It might be repetitive for you, but unless you tell her (and don’t!), she won’t know you’ve been on that same date ‘route’ 2-3 times before.

4. Lead the way. In nature, the male tends to be dominant and lead. You can either think of it as a burden or as a privilege, but it’s much more enjoyable to think of it as a privilege. So suggest things, lead the way towards things that you want to do. If she doesn’t want to, she’ll object and from there, you can both agree on something.

5. Be yourself… but be your best self. If you’re going to show a side of yourself on a date, then mind as well show her the good side of you! Trust me, you’ll have plenty of time to show her the lesser sides of you later on. On a date, she wants to see your dominant playful side! So if it’s hiding in there somewhere, bring it out.

With these first date tips in mind, you’ll be better prepared to have a more enjoyable date, for both you and her. As usual, if you’re looking for ways to create massive attraction during the date, I would recommend reading the book Double Your Dating by David DeAngelo. He presents ways to turn any normal date into a hot adventure you’ll never forget.

You know it’s funny that a lot of guys who aren’t even dating on a regular basis are trying to figure out how to get a girlfriend. If you’re clever, you already spotted step 1 to getting a girlfriend: go on dates.

Dates can be thought of as a trial period to see if you want to get to know another person or not. The first date being the most important of them all as it sets the tone for the rest of the relationship, no pressure!

When dating, each subsequent date must progress more and more. If the first date as great and the second is a flop, then you can kiss (or not) that potential girlfriend goodbye. Ideally, you would want to become closer with your date every time you go out together. In other words, the third date should be more physically intense than the first one! If you aren’t growing, then you’re dying.

In order to grow together, you want to set the tone right away that you are a potential mate and not ‘just a friend’. The closer of a friend that you become, the harder it will be to change that into a relationship. This applies to girls and guys alike. You’d be amazed if you knew how many girls had crushes on their ‘best guy friend’ and he just isn’t interested.

If you’re looking to turn that woman into your girlfriend, then you’ll need to be interesting enough to want her to get to know you more. If you lead an interesting life, then show her a piece at a time, keeping her intrigued. If you show her absolutely everything on the first date, then there won’t be much to go on later on. If you already read the book, then watching the movie version won’t be as compelling because you’ll already know exactly what happens. It’s more fun to be surprised.

The part that most men lack is to create massive attraction while you are dating. It’s a shame because they really have all the pieces except for that one last little piece. Fortunately, it can be solved by simply reading a few good books on the topic. The man I recommend the most on the topic is David DeAngelo. He shows you exactly what it takes to create massive attraction and get that girl you’ve been wanting.

The last and most overlooked part in how to get a girlfriend is that you must look for someone who is compatible with you. If you’re a geek that enjoys playing video games, then go for a hot geeky girl that enjoys playing video games as well. If you’re into going outdoors, then find a girl that enjoys the same things as you. Getting a girlfriend can be a very rewarding experience if you choose right and will enhance your quality of life to levels you never thought possible.