If you’ve been practicing your skills with women for a while, you will have come across this piece of advice for talking to ladies: “it doesn’t matter what you say, it’s how you say it.” While there is truth to it – your energy and delivery make or break your successful interaction, nonetheless, I am convinced that if you have nothing substantial to say to begin with, your interactions are going to lead nowhere. Agree? Lame platitudes like “where do you work”, “I like movies” or “I’m an accountant” only get you so far. I say: you should skip that stuff altogether and learn right away how to have an intriguing conversation and never run out of things to say.

Today, I would like to talk to you about exciting conversation topics and interaction-starters. I believe that the bigger our repertoire of these is, the easier it will be to open up exciting conversations. Plus, the process keeps fuelling itself. If you bring up the right topics, people will tell you exciting stories from their lives, and with these, your repertoire will grow. “A friend told me this story (and I’d like to hear what you think)…”

Your repertoire for spellbinding conversation.

Here’s a secret for ya: we all have resources of rivetting and enthralling stories inside of us. All we need to do is tap into them! We already introduced you to some key aspects of enthralling stories in our article “How To Tell a Story That Captivates a Woman’s Attention”, but let’s have another scoop:

- Drama
- Conflict
- Emotion
- Adventure
- Excitement
- Personal transformation (“I used to be insecure…”)

The more your story pulsates with life and emotion, the more gripping it will be – and once you open the portal with these notions, conversation will flow quite easily. You are triggering a human excitement in your listener that will evoke their own stories in them.

Listen and move forward.

From there, it’s all about listening and moving forward: as your conversation partner replicates the spirit of your stories, you take the position of the listener. You take in what they say and let it trigger your next reaction: they bring up their family members, and you have a new topic to dissolve into.

Your vibe: be energetic!

Now here’s the catch: even the most exciting content can be excruciatingly boring if you tell it without any passion or devotion. On the other hand, if you sparkle with enthusiasm, you can even make your job as an accountant sound exciting (even though you’ll still want to pick better subjects if you have them). Here’s a tip: when you bring something up, lead into it with an energetic “oh my God!”.

But HOW do we open up this kind of conversation?

Here are a couple lines you can use to tap into the right kind of mood:

- Who do you love?
- What’s your ideal man like?
- What are you passionate about?
- What’s your favourite spot to get kissed?
- What’s the weirdest place you made love?

Human interest: your constant frame of mind.

All this has to become your permanent frame of mind. If you have to consciously shift into “human interest” mode every time you’re about to interact with somebody, it’ll come off as fake. If the human, emotional side of things is your standard perspective, though, it’ll be natural.

I suggest you take some time to find stories from your life that had an emotional impact, were exciting, adventurous, led you into a personal transformation. Write them down, it’ll make it easier to remember them and you can refresh them at will. As you accumulate interactions, you will never run out of things to say: you open up to people, and as they open up to you, they automatically contribute stories to your repertoire. When it grows, you will have better and better tools for intriguing conversation.