How to Talk to Girls
As a guy, learning how to talk to girls can be one of the most challenging and rewarding skill he can acquire during his lifetime. Would you agree that being able to carry a proper conversation with a girl would solve a LOT of problems ?
I know many guys agree that this is one of the most neglected aspects when it comes to dating advice, and yet, it is so critical to succeed!
One of the biggest issues among men that are struggling with women is that they “Just don’t know what to talk about!”.
I feel you.
I’ve had that awkward silence too.
The moment where something SHOULD of been said, but it was not.
The moment where you both kind of look at each other and think… “ok this is not good”
When this happens, women will often think: “We just don’t connect” and it’s at that point that the date goes downhill.
Actually, that’s probably one of the biggest fear that men have and it’s the reason why a lot of guys won’t even go start a conversation!
The reason is that most people try to figure out the “ideal topic of conversation” beforehand. As if, if you were to introduce this ideal topic, you would both have a wonderful time talking about it for hours and hours and eventually the woman would fall in love with you, just because you had the right topic of conversation.
Sound silly?
That’s because it is.
Yet people STILL try to find that ideal conversation topic!
So do yourself a favor, do ME a favor, stop it and just start off with any conversation topic. Usually bad ones will do, and as the conversation progresses, you can steer the conversation to any topics you wish to discuss.
Alright, because we all like to be spoon fed information, I’ll break it down even more.
I realize that saying “Any Topic Will Do” will not help most guys because you’re probably still wondering.. “OK, but what do I talk about?” Well start by things that are relevant to you first.
It’s really hard to be relevant to other people, and people with high value tend to think of themselves anyways, so STARTING with a topic that is relevant in your life is always a great way to start a conversation. At the same time, it will sub-consciously convey values of self-worth and confidence which are both attractive.
For example, if you’re on your way to go grocery shopping, start with that!
“Hey, I was just watching the cooking channel and I was inspired to make some *insert funny meal*, so now I’m going to get the secret ingredient at the grocery store”.
Now it’s likely that she doesn’t really care about you going grocery shopping, but if the story, your thought process, is interesting enough, then it will be entertaining to talk about. When in doubt, talk about your thought process about an activity and it will ALWAYS provide natural conversation.
People are bored, stories about your life can be as entertaining as watching that last episode of Lost, House or even
Conversations are like fires, once they are ignited with the right kindling, there’s no stopping them. Trust me when I tell you, you’ll KNOW when to change topic, it will come naturally. Until then, just continue talking about what interests you the most, because if it’s interesting to YOU, you’ll talk about it in an enthusiastic and entertaining manner.
Now, if you want to learn how to build attraction while you’re talking to girls, then one of the books I strongly recommend you check out is Double Your Dating by David DeAngelo. He teaches you exactly to say so she’ll not only have a good time talking to you, but she’ll be deeply attracted to you as well.
The next time you wonder how to talk to girls, just keep in mind that conversations are like fire, they need to be slowly started with little light pieces before you can move on to the heavy stuff!
Related articles include: What to Talk About With Girls (Probably the best article on this site!) and for day time specifics, Talking to girls during the day
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Awesome Tips,it really boosted a confidence in myself coz i’ve been suffering from same problem for a gr8 time.thanks Chris,really thanks…
that didn’t work for me srry
help i need help talking to a girl any girl or anyone i go talk to someone then cant figure out what to say or talk about and it drives me crazy.i mean i like hang out with friends n such i go talk about something then i stop try so hard talk to a girl it actually gives me headaches please help me thanks
I have some suggestions for the people that need a tad bit of help. Girls don’t really wanted to be treated very differently,if anything they will find that sexist,treat them as you would a good friend,be yourself, hiding the truth won’t help;it would come out eventually. Now,when I say be yourself,of course there are some rules on this subject…. Don’t go all out saying perverted jokes or make fun of them, unless you know 100% that they won’t mind it. Act a tad bit more…gentleman like,but not too much because it is very noticeable.. Now I don’t have much time so that’s all I can post. If it didn’t help you then I’m sorry, this method of actually treating them like humans the same species actually works quite well. Best of luck to you all!
You probally won’t ever see the woman/girl again if she does not give you her information, so just tell yourself that and go for it. I mean, what do you have to lose or risk if you just go up to someone you’ll never see again if they reject you? And atleast you’ll learn what not to do for the next time. Count to 5 while building confidence in yourself and once you hit 5, GO! Don’t hold back. Take a deep breathe in, then breathe out as you get to her, and start your conversation.
“I was just going out for a job and then I seen you. I have some work to get done but I would like to see you again, is that alright?” and if she says “Uh, sure.” or any variation of “Yes” then just say “Do you have an Email Address by chance?” and if she says yes, take it, look at it for just a moment and then look at her and smile[if you want] and say “Well, I will be on my way then. Talk to you later.” and keep walking. If she doesn’t have an email, ask her if she wants yours. If nothing works and she just rejects you, just say “Well it was nice meeting you. Have a nice day.” and walk away. GOODLUCK!
Thanks i’ll try it as soon as possible
Guys, if it’s hard for you to talk to girls in person then start off in a more easier way. Join a social network that provides live chat that the girl you want to talk to uses(I’d recommend facebook or msn) whenever she’s on try and talk to her. If she’s rejecting you talking to her then ditch talking to her. It isn’t worth it talking to an asshole. If she’s becoming interested on the chat. Then keep going. Eventually you and her will be comfortable to meet at school or after school to hang out. Problem solved
hey i need help, my confidence with girls is pretty bad, i cant even keep a conversation going for more than a few minutes, i really need help on boosting my self confidence, ever time i speak to a good looking girl, i either freeze up or say the wrong things which gives them a bad impression, i would appreciate some advice, thanks
I support the idea of been youself only, treat girls just like a frineds, tell the jokes, discuss issues, remember moments and things will go right. They will laugh and enjoy your company snd henceforth and slowly you can drive them to the track that you want. Don’t start directly with your target(i want to be your friend) because that might turn them off you
thanks, i took your advise and went for it, were talking abit now, i walk to school the same way as her so that helps with the talking, thanks again
Talk just about what you her ask questions and strange ones and remember to listen and build off of that. Don’t plan improvise in chess you never plan how the game will end when you start the game if plan how it will end in the start you will always lose. Talking is not planned it is exspressing your thoughts and opinions and your thoughts of her ideas and opinions. you can never plan for everything.
ok thanks i’ll remember that, anyway this guy was coming onto a girl i like at school and making her feel uncomfortable, and when she tried to leave him and his mates wouldnt let her, so i had a great idea, i went over to them and confronted the douch, haha he dared me to fight him so i punched him strate in the face, which of course made his mates lunge for me, but by that time all my mates and other guys i know had jumped in and we started being the crap out of them, and now she thinks im a great guy, haha sometimes violence is the answer X D
im a girl who happened to stumble upon this website haha and i agree with all the advice given.
just be calm and be yourself because we know when you’re putting on an act and its just a turn off really.. it always helps to break the ice with a joke and even light flirting once you get to know her, but the main thing to remember is BE FRIENDLY and that should do the trick
Well I’m in Highschool and I’d like to talk to this girl in my math class so what do I say?
Or if I see a pretty girl whats the first thing I should say, does complementing her help?
i have no game what so ever. for example i was at a friends party the other night and this girl i had recently met a few weeks ago we have hung out at partys and at a mutal friends house at least once a week. we were at the party the other night and i had bought her a bottle of wine which is what she typically drinks she was as happy as could be she was upstairs and i was down stairs she came down got in my face and told me to follow her we started to go up stairs she grabbed my hand and lead me arond the hole party and took me where it was quiet to talk and i froze i didnt say a word. she left me there then 30 minutes leter were hugging and touching while she poors her heart out about her ex of three yeasrs and ask me for advice i told her to ignore i as well just got out of the same situation. shortly after this me and my friend who is like a brother to her were sitting by the dance floor she comes up and starts grinding on me i didnt know what to do i looked at him and he told me to do this and that but thats not me she was kissing my ear and neck and once again i froze how do i get past the freezing piont i really like this girl we have alot in common but im afraid to talk about it please help.
I dont realy need help talking to girls its just this 1 girl every time she steps in the room my confidence leaves
I know how to talk to girls but only in environments where we are introduced, i was wondering how to correctly approach girls and “get the digits”
something about girls!!! girls don’t care if they are going to lose u or not …but guys do …don’t ever make a girl feel that u whan her so bad just act that u don’t care too…because girls think that could find better then u …and u.. don’t just think she the only one because u not looking around u…u just look at her ..so take a look u well find better then her truth me on that…good luck guys
Thank You for the Information. Certain Girls make me nervous as well, I truly think I can ask with no problems until the time comes. That’s when I back down…
I’m a student who has a lot of friends, but I do not know many girls whatsoever. I know my problem is I can not talk to girls that well because i cant keep the conversation going and i have no self confidence at all to just walk up and start talking. There’s girls i see in class who i would like to start talking to… but its like, I cant walk up and talk to them. I’ve read the above, but anything to add that will help me?
Good post, there are no perfect conversations. In fact, talking about what interests you and asking her what interests her will usually lead the conversation. Simple and effective.
Thanks a lot for that advice, seems very basic but it would work.
I love the bit right at the top of the page where it says: “How to attract stunningly beautiful women even if you arent rich…” Do people really believe that stunningly beautiful women are all so shallow that they will only go out with rich men?
Hey guys, one thing to do is let them do the talking just listen. All girls are self-centered to a certain degree they all love talking about themselves. They will think you’re a good listener if you just ask questions and joke around with them. Trust me, I couldn’t talk to girls for my life. But an older friend told me this now I have girls calling me up and just hanging out all the time, and they are beautiful girls. Try it, if doesn’t work there are plenty of girls don’t get stuck on one. I wasted 4 years my life chasing 1 girl, just relax and let them do the work.
good tips man.hope i can use them and execute smoothly
In my school its a girl a very beautiful girl….and i dont know how to talk to her,i cant talk to her beacuse i think she will leave or maybe kind of refuse me.I just look at her but i caught her looking too at me, so i think we both just ….look each other and none of us speaks!!!!
please what should i do guys?????
Help! Im what you would call “socially awkward” around girls. I have a few friends that are girls and they’re trying to help me, but every time Im around a girl I don’t know, I get really awkward. Im kind of the “smart kid.” You know, where you can find a way around a math book but can’t say something to a girl to save your life. Plz help!
A girl asked me out last week but i was confused what to say so i said “I dont know”. Now i want to really get to know her and be good friends. I am too afraid to approach her because im not good with girls. Please help me Chris.
Heres some advice for all of you who are… desperate or whatever. i have a crush, and i told her like a month ago about my feelings for her. now, we had been friends for 6 months and when i told her how i felt, she didnt feel the same. however, after texting and talking 2 her for 3 or so weeks, she told me she had feelings 4 me too. morals: 1) if you say you have feelings 4 them, its not the end of the world. its quite easy to get over.
oh and 2) keep the conversations lite, i found saying “hows life/your love life?” works extremely well for those awkward silences just dont overdo it. hi works as a great convo starter too. and 3) be persistent… but being annoyingly persistent is a huge turn off, so dont overdo it. hope i help. good luck all. 1 more thing. dont be serious; have fun, relax. whats the point of a crush if you cant have some fun!
its simple:
1) ask questions and listen
2) make her laugh
THATS ALL!! I mean everyone sees the beautiful girl who could be hanging out with the ladies man of the school but is with the biggest douchebag ever n ur like WTF!? Just make ‘em laugh and they’ll like ya.
Help. im usually shy around girls and i always think the girl probably might not be interested in me, which drops my confidence way down. any advice to help me boost my confidence. thanks
The problem is she ignores it even looks like she has no interest for me
When she’s around me she always look sad
When I do some thing for her she doesn’t say thank you or even look at me
Do you think she likes me or hates me
Confidence comes with success. Keep going out there and talking to women. After a while you’ll grow use to what can make girls laugh and become interested.
This answered my question perfectly. thanks Google and thanks Chris Calo.
just be kind around girls. thats what i do and everything turns out fine. it took a while but girls now seem to like me more and like polite guys that are understanding and thats how i try to be
im afraid to call the girl i like and she also has a like in me, but im unusure that if i call her i will become boring because its HER, you know. I already drove around with her one evening, we barely talked, lol, i only looked at her a few times in the eyes but that was it, i feel like i shoulda did more, but then again i was after all driving so most of my attention was on that, but if i dont call her soon she might give up on me so i will call her, there’s no other way.
There’s a girl i really like and I’m pretty sure she likes me too she even tried talking to me once but i didn’t have a clue what to say i just cant talk to girls, help!
I don’t know what it is a lot of girls like me and I can tell I just cant keep a conversation going when I’m talking to them. I really think this is going to help. Thank you!
drink alcohol….best way to talk without a care…remember the topics then progress on them when u are sober next time u see them
Hahaha, I’m with thenutman^^^
Alcohol is called the social lubricant for a reason, just use in moderation…
I am not the most handsome guy in the world, but I met a beautiful girl at a party a while back and we both had a LITTLE bit to drink, and it didn’t matter what guy was trying to hit on her (which was a lot), I was the only one she had any interest in. Unfortunately I’m away for the summer, but we still talk all the time, and things will heat up in the fall. If y’all are in school, ask her about that, what she’s studying, and then you relate… eventually she’ll ask you what you study and boom, there’s at least one solid hour of conversation. People that have spoken previously are right, talk to her as if she was one of the guys (obviously there are still places you don’t go, at least at first) and the conversation will flow, and it is like a fire, it starts in one place and spreads… after a while, you can talk about anything… jay leno, skydiving, myspace, Italy… wherever the two of you lead it. All you’ve got to do is prove that you’re the one guy around that she’ll want to talk to. Or as Mystery would say, “it’s all about the DHVs” or demonstrations of higher value. but yeah, don’t forget the social lubricant… it helps lol. wow I typed a lot.
Don’t be shy talking to a girl i lost a girl which i knew and we both liked each other and i was so shy to ask her out because i was scared of a no she ended up going out with another man. So please don’t be shy or you’ll be like me!
i agree somewhat but what is even more important is great body language and second to that how you use your voice.
I like this girl but she happens to be my best friend’s little sister. He gets a little protective but he thinks she has a crush on me so he lightened up a little. Plus she made a promise to herself that she won’t have a crush on someone she’s known for more than three years, I guess it’s because usually if you’ve known someone that long they’re probably a good friend. But we haven’t really talked in six years because they moved but I really like her and I dont want to ruin our friendship by telling her
Confidence is key learnt that the hard way,
what might i add is wrong with House ????
what???
Some good points, but i find asking girls about their lives first works well, and keep asking about their friends, family, hobbies and interest’s, work or studies. people love talking about themselves so let them and listen. The information that you can gain from them boasting about themselves is critical to playing the dating game and know as much as you can about the girl first is always an advantage. But if you don’t know the girl or her friends (Random Girl) Compliment her on what she is wearing, or her hair etc girls love compliments as we all do. Most importantly, make eye contact, Smile and laugh and when you get her phone number, GET OUT OF THERE A.S.A.P you have achieved your goal so don’t blow it. If you’re scared of rejection try getting girls you don’t know. Yse them as practice if it doesn’t work, they don’t know you so it won’t be awkward if you see them again like girls you do know. Learn from mistakes and don’t be scared to try. Remember Eye,contact, Smile, And ask questions like, Work. What do you do…etc What does that involve and do you enjoy it. What are your plans for the weekend and say sounds like fun. Who know she might ask you out.
I don’t have a problem as far as looks go, but I suck when it comes to talking to girls. A couple days ago i was talking to this girl and she talked alot and i asked questions, but when she finished talking i froze up. I don’t know what to say. And i have really shy personality. What do i do?
You must be ready to change your behavior, your way of thinking and, for the coach not to be successful. I ask difficult questions and give homework and it is only if you really are investing in yourself as love can be one result. If you are open, then it can be miracles:)
i daily look few of my class girls,but i am unable to get connected with them .i generally unable to decide what to start with and they walk away.
so please give me a solution.
thanks
Thanks for the tips. I used to be shy and had no self confidence. I actually told the girl that i’m not good at this kinda thing and she responded well. I did something that I actually didn’t see myself doing.
I tried to talk to girl. I said “Hey, how you doin?” She said “good…i guess”. I said “Im going to get some fruit from the shop to make a fruit pie”. She said “mmmmmmm…sounds yummy” I said “ok”.
i usually have that awkward moment of silence till i usually get asked to take a “stroll” with her and the first time that happened i ended up french kissing with 3 hot bronze girls, i swear it on my life. Remember, “does before bros” unless the situation demands it
Say that you already met a girl for the first time. And you feel that she had made a pass towards you and you were totally clueless on what to do. So you don’t make a move, and don’t say a thing.
My question is: The next time you see her, how do you go about talking to her without the awkwardness of the first time?
Hello Neal, if the girl’s made a pass at you then you have the power! Don’t worry about feeling awkward because if anything, she’s more worried than you about it. Instead, go talk to her, find out if she’s someone you’d like to hang out with and just invite her to hang out with you.
If you are comfortable, then she will be as well !
Good luck
So, I am not very good at talking to girls, but I am getting better at it, I do the following…
Whenever you see a girl you like just go, don’t think don’t wait just start walking towards her and go and start a topic, I know this is one of the most hardest things to do but this is the only way that will work.
You will get better at talking, at first I use to be like,”nice weather” and then just walk away. Now I actually start with anything that I may notice, for example a couple of days ago I saw this girl with some of her friends, she was drinking pepsi, I just went to the group and asked if the pepsi she was drinking OK and I can buy one from the nearby store and not die of poisoning or whatever they laughed and said no and that was that.
She is sleeping behind me right now. I totally love her.
Of course we talked about other things, but my point is you won’t learn what to say to a girl on a website, you can learn the words, but ultimately, just go out and practice and don’t give up, if rejected.
i don’t know impress my best girl friend. Please help me!
Thanks really needed this, you’re a good lad
You are so right, I have the worst conversations ever because I’m usually really quiet. I’m super frightened to scare my date away so i avoid talking. But thanks for the tip! helps A lot!
hey, i kind of like this one girl and I”m not afraid to talk to her but she’s always around other people which makes it kinda awkward so when and how should I approach her
hi, at school i have tried to talk to about every girl i like but the fact remains that i am a total loser. not one girl wants to even talk to me. they say my personality is off so i try to change it but nothing works. even when i try to talk to them i just start to lose confidence what can i do?
I thought i always knew that any topic to get started would do, then proceed on deeper into the conversation. Well,now its confirmed! Guys, just don’t think loads, just do more! At least give it a try and see how it goes on, rather than asking oneself questions, so as not to regret later and say: ‘Damn it she had a crush on me and now she’s with that guy! All because i didn’t gather enough courage to ask her out!’.
I’ve never had trouble talking to girls, I grew up with them. But one girl….resisted my charm. I can make her laugh and she flirts with me but some times i forget what to say or when i do have the balls to someone gets in the way. What do i do???
ok so I’m very good looking (not to brag or anything) but many girls look at me in the eyes and i look back. This happens alot and last usually 2-3 sec. I know that’s a good thing but when i talk i can usually keep it going but then towards the end ill ask/say something stupid or freeez up. I also need to know how to use my voice better. Any tips?
the only time im awkward around girls, is when im with my other guy friends. i usually get shut out becuase i cant really think of anything clever to say or anything funny, so i kind end up getting shut out and feeling like shit. any solutions?
I hate it when I’m talking to a girl and really getting in with the topic but then later on finding out on her facebook page that she’s in a relationship.. happens to me occasionally… It’s funny how girls coming across looking as if they are single when their not
thanks a lot this helped me get more close with my gf! Thanks a lot!
Read everything and my confidence is boosted. Lets see if it helps or not. Thanks everyone!!
Yea I have no problem talking to girls if they start the convo or we’re introduced, but like today I was at the mall, tons of hot chicks, even had 3 of them following me, and I know that’s a perfect sign for me to go talk but I freeze and don’t know what to do. Help!
i got no game at all with this girl… i dunno what to say at all. we met on the web right, I’ve known her for a while but now we live completely apart and i got no cash.
what do i do ? can i get her interested in me without facing me in person yet? i got enough money to visit her later, but i gotta get her interested first.
@nick: Practice, practice, practice. It’s OK if you say something that’s not right. There are no “perfect conversations”, so have fun with them. While we’re on the subject, I have a kick ass newsletter about never running out of things to say.
I strongly recommend you check it out (just put your email under the article for the coaching)
@blehh: That’s because you’re trying to compete with them and also because you put on a different personality when you’re around girls. Basically, you don’t want your guy friends to see you flirting with women. The answer?
Act normal when you’re with your friends, and try to be alone with the girl so you can flirt with her.. in a subtle manner. If your friends are more dominant than you, then this will happen every time until you develop yourself.
@Rolfindo: If a girl doesn’t tell you she’s in a relationship, then it’s possible that she’s just looking for a way out… and that could be you! It’s usually a good sign.
@Nick: It’s practice man, the first time is always the hardest and you just need to get used to starting conversations. There’s no easy way to do it… but I do explain some very clever ways in my email coaching.
@xixi: If you have no game, the girl doesn’t like you and you’re far apart then I hate to say it, but you need to start improving with women by … practicing with women.
That means face-to-face communication. Once you have an interesting life going, you can keep in contact with her and build attraction. I’d recommend you read Double Your Dating to learn how to build attraction and you should also register for my email coaching program.
If you do both, you’ll have a MUCH higher chance of succeeding.
thnx for the advice.
Hey, I’ve got this problem to I just get very lost when talking to girls, well not to girls but to the girl I like a lot. One huge problem is that she is so untouchable, what I mean she is always around friends and I feel uncomfortable when that happens and just pass her by. She was interested in me before but I was so busy then and it seems like she has lost her interest. Why I’m scared of talking to is that once I talked to this girl and she responded to me in a very mean way which got me very upset. Any Suggestions ?
I’m meeting a girl in the weekend but her two friends are coming with her and i have no wing man , I’m going to be the only male there and I’m extremely shy around this girl and i don’t know how to approach the situation.
I love a girl so I don’t know how to attract her attention to myself? I don’t know how to speak with her? It means I have speaking problem with her?
Ah. What if a girl comes up to you sloppy drunk. Flirts with you and physically try to man handle you. (And you have no intention of getting with this person). What is the best way to try avoid these situations without hurting the persons feelings.
Alright so today I have done something that I have never done before (you will find out later on in the message). I have always had a problem going up to girls and talking to them, I don’t know why but after reading this and everyone elses problems, my confidence was boosted extremely high. And I’m going to attempt to get the guts to go up to a girl I saw today, a dream girl and see how things go. But anyway back to what happened today, I was at a store that I would normally never go in (a western store), come to find out, there are amazingly beautiful girls there. One caught my eye, and I must have caught hers, because everytime I looked down from the top floor she was looking up at me. I just couldn’t get the guts to go talk to her. My cousin offered to be me $20 to go talk to her, so I was like you’re on. As I’m focusing on what I’m going to say while I’m heading down the stairs, my foot slips and I fall down the stairs. My glasses kept going on below me, and when i bent to pick them up, my keys fell out of my pocket, and then when i went to pick them up, my phone fell out of my pocket. All of this happened in the middle of the store, talk about embarassing! All the confidence I had built up to go talk to her was completely erased. I kind of laughed it off and did a fast walk out of the store. Hopefully she didn’t see, or I will feel like a real retard heading back there tomorrow. And I hope shes working! I hope this gives me confidence moving forward. I’m ganna take it as the worst thing she can say is no, and every opportunity missed will haunt you later on in life.
like right now. I’m kicking myself for not just doing it in the first place!
Being able to talk to women is sometimes harder for certain individuals than others. Some people grow with confidence and become better over time. I believe you should just be yourself, and try to talk at a steady pace while pronouncing your words clearing. Making eye contact also helps. Being able to communicate well can also mean being able to listen very well. Take an interest in her.Women are not so complicated. Just try and relax around them. They are just as human as you are.
Hey all. I saw a lots tips above. It’s nice to see man helping man on this issue.
However, i met this cute girl at a bar last nite. She looked at me and smiled and i returned it wit a smile too. Then i gather some guts and approached her with my glass of beer. Cheers! with her and introduced my self and she replied friendly too. After common questions like, [where are u from?], [how often are u here?], [never seen you here before ...] and [you look beautiful], i ran out of topics. Both of us were silent and i felt like a complete idiot sitting there And finally i just excused myself and walk back to my place. Even after that we still exchanged looks but don’t know what to talk about.
Can someone help me on this. I’m damn weak in beginning a conversation but have no problem to approach any ladies.
Thanks
ive tried this, it does work, but i always get friend zoned. >:(
There’s this girl i have a huge, and i mean really huge, crush on and now, thanks 2 u Chris, we’re together. Thanx so much Chris!!!
thanks for the advice haha. You’re awesome dude you shoot me on the head… bang! as all men wants they want that the girl will be amazed with him that’s why we find the best topic to open so that they can easily fall to us.. because we are great..!! but that’s not so easy to do… haha thx dude
theres a girl i have wanted to be with but am scared that when i popose to her she might refuse
sometimes when i talk to a girl, a really cute girl, i get stuck and can’t get my words right and all my friends laugh at me, that makes me real pissed, which can cause a fight and the girls will never talk to me again, not only that i’ll also lose my friends.
i have possibly the worst problem, all the stuff i like, the girl i like finds boring (guitar hero, nfs, gran turismo) those kind of things and im a bit reluctant to share my ipod with her coz its all screamo and death metal and i know shes not into that at all, but ive told her that i like her and im pretty sure she’s starting to like me, but whenever im around her, i never say anything, or i say too much and i just blab on about nothing of interest, so please help me i really need this, i have liked her for about 4 years and i dont want to lose her.
I met this guy over a game and I was wondering if this information would work if I were to say…try to pick up a guy instead, i’m really shy about my sexuality but I know what I like…PLEASE HELP ME CHRIS!
girls tend to go for the bad boys at the most eventually they will get to a stage and they would want a normal relationship so just hang in there and wait for the opportunity =]
Hey i want talk to a girl who is my neighbor and 5 years younger than me, She is pretty, good educated and born in a good family and her name is amrutha, My family is not little below their status and i have some fear to talk to her as her father is a police man…
i can not sleep without dreaming her. i think she is arrogant because of her qualities. Give me a solution to make love with her…
i need help talking to girls b/c when i talk to girls i start my conversations its good but over time sometimes they stop making new topics and im stuck trying to find a new one help please. -thanks
i need help i m talking to girl whom i don’t know. Face to face we can talk just fine but sometimes when we’re on the phone we don’t have a topic to talk about. Also, she’s a shy girl so she doesn’t know what to say either during the conversation.
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W00T. Best comment ever, on any website.
ive been talking to a girl for a month or so now, and im meeting up with her tomorrow. i know how to talk to girls but i just go blank when i see them in person. any tips on what i could say to her? or just how to start the convo? she’s told me she likes me already too.
cheers.
Girls always want something they cant have so portray yourself as something that she cant have, this makes you look confident and puts her on the back foot. This will help you to appear more confident while making her seem that she has to be the one to prove herself to you!
I have the same problem as many of you, I go out to the bar often and i often catch cute girls looking at me but i cant tell if they are interrested in me or not and dont know if i should go talk to them? i dont think im a bad looking dude but every time im with my guy friends they will approach girls and i always feel like the girls are more interrested in them than they are with me, even when i say hi and strike up a conversation. this makes me feel like im an ugly dude and that all my guy friends look better than me. why else would the girl seem uninterrested in me?
Hey I need advice, there’s a girl I met months ago and I think she’s been myspace stalking me, but she won’t communicate with me in person. I think I ran into her the other night, but I wasn’t sure if it was her. The girl was working and she asked me a question regarding her job. Before I left I looked around the room, and didn’t see her.
What’s the next move?
Should I call her out on looking @ my page? Or what? Everytime I saw her I was speechless, asked her out a couple times and she never replied. But There were some signs that she was myspace-ing my profile, and I’m not sure what to do…
ive been talking to this girl on the phone for quite some time now but i dont talk to her in person because i just dont know what the hell to say. i need help on starting up a convo or to just talk one on one for a while. any advice?
how do you get a girl to stray from her group that shes with and just hang out with you and talk?
Here is my story. She girl I like works at local GS (where I go during lunch once in a while). It seems she got a job there not long ago. First few of my visits was without a single word (well except telling her what pack of smokes I was going to buy). Last visit which includes frequent eye contact with this girl simply ignited me inside, and then again I was unable to say anything period… I got back to work after a short brake and starting to think about her, it just won`t leave my head. After going through for many varieties of a nice approach my confidence gained its strength (literally telling myself: that’s it – it is time to put an end to this nightmare). So here I am. Left work, got in the car and all the sudden my confidence shatters into the pieces. I am driving by her work and refusing my own will to even go inside! Without having any clue on what to say. I just don`t know what is going on. It like a suicide mission…
I don’t have a prob keeping a conersation w a girl ovr the phone or facebook but I can’t seem to approach them or talk to them in person. What do I do???
my situation is hard as the only black kids @ my school is me and my sister. does race have anything to do to with it?
we both had talked so much of things which involves in life,we were became more close to each other, when I was in thought of proposing to her she just said I had already commited in my college at that time i felt I lost my life since I am unable to overcome it to this reason I left my job and became an patient now I am hospitalized ,But still she is being with me as a friend what to do with this situation please help me…….
She took my Heart But still I am Live
Looking for your replies guys……….
Hey guys…I need thank you so much…these tips really work…
Hey I have trouble talking to a girl because when i talk to a (hot) girl that im trying to get with i dont know what to say and i either freeze up or talk too fast…. and i know im hawt (cause a lot of girls like me) but when i try to talk to one….I…I just cant…
first of all i hope this website is not only for guys, becasue i need help. i like this guy (im a girl) from school and latly he drew me a picture, but he was making me mad earlier, talking crap so i threw it away, and then one of my classmates picked it up out of the garbage and threw it away somewhere else. and then he was talking crap aobut me while i was in hearing range, and then at acsess, he sat really close to me, and tehn when he whent back over to his friend that was there me and my friend whent over, and i was standing behind him, he reached back and was touching my arm alot, and i was wondering what that meant
im shy and inexperienced(ya, at 21)and im not ashamed to admit it but it does hinder me socially in comunicating with women, BUT the girl i like is a room mate at my house, we work different hours so we dont interact much, and i feel if i try to “practice” with other girls she might find out and be turned off…….also i cannot be sure if she likes me….
i like this girl, and one of her best friends trys to hook me up with her. but she keeps wanting to do things with me and when i talk to the girl i like she comes in and talks to her and me. now i have come up with the conclusion that she likes me and i believe i developed feelings for her as well. what should i do? I really need to know what to do because most of my friends are outgoing but i am not.
i like this person, it’s just that she doesn’t fancy me back. I really want her, but we have nothing in common except our good looks. What should I do? I’m in emotional turmoil.
How do you start a conversation with a girl that goes on your bus?
hi, i like this one girl, she kind of knows that i like her
i want to mabye hang out with her， mabye get to know her and date her after a while
im really shy and never really kno wat to say
how would i go about askin to hang out with her without making it awkward
( i also talk to her alot on msn)
Hello!
First of all, I just want to say that this is an awesome post, thanks, Chris Calo. But I am having trouble talking to girls at my school. I have no problems talking to the average ones, but it’s the real pretty ones that I can’t even look in the eye, and much less start a conversation with, because I lack confidence. I always think that they have no interest in me, yet my friends keep telling me to go for it. Any advice?
Well this is the same this that’s happening to me. I can talk to those average one but the pretty ones i can’t and i am really shy to talk to girls, one this is need to do is to let the shy go away but it won’t..and i don’t no why. And my friends are saying that to me all the times.
Jo that’s the same thing i do. I only talk to girls online better then talk together. I ask this girl in my school if i could get her AIM or myspace and she gave me it, then i talked to her few minutes and the next day in school i couldn’t even said hi to her or give her a hug. I don’t understand nothing and i feel like no girls would like shy boys…and girls sometimes like boys that talk or tell jokes to make her laugh.
what can i do so i can talk to girls. i dont know why but everytime i am near girls. i get really embarrased and cant talk to them. like when i am in class and there is a girl sitting next to me i get kind of scared to even move. any tips guys.
So recently for the past week I been texting this girl that is pretty fine and we don’t know each other face to face but she has sent me pix of her and so have I. So she is sorta say mystical or just plain weird in a social way. As far as I know she has a boyfriend and she always mentions him in her texts to me(kinda bother me). Don’t know what to say to her most of the time since I have feelings for her not sure what to say when we have kept texting each other for a few minutes I run out of things to ask her about I don’t want her to think like Im trying to take her away for her boyfriend. Just want to find a magical thing to say her for her to come out to say she wants me. Oh shes sorta the rebellious type she drinks smokes bud lol me too sorta but she gets good grades and from what she told m shes not a virgin and she asked me if I was tryed to stall but she got the truth outta me. HELP CHRIS!
im not scared to talk to girls its just that I say something crazy and mess up so that make me stop approaching girls that i like and wanna talk to
i am good at talking with girls somehow.
But gradually i will find all the topic finish its seems there is nothing to say?
Whats the reasons
I don’t really get it. I try with some chicks but they seem to just ignore me. Shit, I don’t even reach a “friendzone” status with most of them. No hanging out, nothing. Even if we never made it to some relationship status. It’s really annoying. I’m friendly, intelligent, try talking about random mutual interests, things that they like, I like, doesn’t matter either way. Basically I get no invitations, not even a text message. I gave up. Confidence even went up, or at least that’s how I feel, but to no avail. I’m not even bad looking, and I try to appeal in some ways such as I’m all for having fun sometimes too. But no… Oh well. I admit I don’t talk a whole lot, but seriously, what do you have to do, you can checkmark most things, and I can admittedly be a ass sometimes. Shit happens, y’know? But no matter what I do I can’t get the damn women. Or either they have boyfriends already, which just makes me silently yell curse words in my head. I’m young, alot of adults make comments about girls, I look good, or I should be proud, blah blah blah. But chicks my age seem so…. uninterested and sometimes just straight ignore me, especially if it’s third party communication IE: I’ve got contact info for text/email/phone. Now, I haven’t tried that many girls, maybe thats the problem, and its usually someone I got introduced to, but what the hell? One chick screwed me over trying to play games, the other girl just ignores me and has a boyfriend, chick I used to go to school with, tried to contact her and she practically ignored me mid-internet conversation. It almost always goes to “uninterested” or “ignore”, WITH EVERY ONE! Oh well, I’ll find in time they were always right. Every dog has it’s day, I can barely stand and wait.
Hey guys im Nicolice but my ffriends call me Nicole and i just wanted 2 say we dont care if u make 1mistake and fix ix got thatt girls like 2 be treated with respect though (i should know) some basic topics we like r music or compliments (avoid pick-up lines) and we hate ppl tryin 2 act diffrently than who they r its like we have a 6th sense cause we can tell wen ur acting but dont wrry and b urself u should be fine and as for freezing up instead count 2 10 in ur head worked for my bf now wen will he propose!!!!!!! my god i mean im only 24 i need a husband soon if i want kids but back to the topic dont be fake b urself just not sexist if a girl dont like u for u then shes a bitch and just plain conceited so have no fear be confident and be RESPECTFULL thats wat gets guys all the time ur biggest mistake is respect got that boys c ya hope it helped
oh and be a good kisser
Hey – I’ve got an idea for you spoiled girls. Why don’t you stop thinking you are little princesses (Nicole). It is typical of spoiled middle class girls to think they are special and that men should do the work and women should sit back and choose freely (even if feelings of attraction are reciprocated between boy and girl).
Guys who have problems with girls – whatever you do – do not listen to them when they tell you how to act around girls.
We all like to think we are in some way special and unique but we are all the same in reality:
* Use pick up lines – always. It doesn’t really matter how you approach a girl she will always reply. Even if you say ‘hey – i like to lick windows’ she will still laugh and reply.
* Be as arrogant as you want. Although girls like to believe that they don’t like arrogance, in truth, they love it.
Oh Nicolice – you say be respectful and then you talk like you are nature’s special creature. Well then you can fuck off and take your respect with you.
BEST EXAMPLE EVER if u watch family guy there’s this episode on where stewie loves this baby girl and hes like treating her like a queen and shit… and seems to not be working???? and then he finds out the women love it when u treat them like crap??? ever wonder why???? because women like it rough. They wanna be protected and by showing dominance in some cases i guess helps u get the girl JUST GET THE GIRL…. nothing about a relationship. Maybe just like a baby here and there but that’s your mistake. If you’re looking for a relationship the best thing to do is show a little sweetheart side of u a girl believe it or not girls are into the metro guys for some reason i personally think its horrible but i mean i sometimes talk a little girl talk to a girl as well like tell them there hair is nice u should do it like that more often or i like your shoes shit like that…or shit the best thing to say LETS GO TO THE MALL panty dropper for a girl right there… if she has a brother or nephew get close to them as well big BONUS there. Well i said all i have 2 say good luck and hope u guys score on day.
thanks, this really gives me more confidence talking to a girls cos i’m shy and not use to talking to girls
make them laugh and be fun to be around
I was reading through the comments and alot of it is so true. At least in my area, girls are rather mean when I go up to them confidently and politely. But then again, Im short at 5′ 6″ and girls are very judgmental. Its like they have no common courtesy for nice guys- they will just slam the door on your face. Then a trashy asshole guy that treats her like shit will go up to her and hit it off well.
It always make me wonder how back in the day women were always treated like shit- it seems that men realized that there was a better way to live with them and be respected by women. I think women were nicer back in the day too.