How to start a conversation
The basic rules of how to start a conversation with a girl you’ve never met are simple: keep it simple, keep it fun. When you talk to a woman for the first time, remember that she doesn’t know you and anything too intense will push her away. Instead, use these conversation starters to get her more interested.
1. Situational Conversation Starter
Make a comment about something around both of you at the time.
If you’re at the library, mention something about the librarian at the door or even about the funny security guard at the entrance. An environmental opener can be used anywhere, but it does take a bit of quick thinking depending on where you are.
2. Direct Conversation Starter
Just say “hi”
Sometimes just saying hi is enough to get a decent conversation started. This works especially well in boring situations such as waiting in line. If there’s nothing special happening and you are both bored, then saying hi will just come off as being social.
3. Starting a conversation with an opinion
Some men feel more comfortable jumping right into a topic with an opinion on a certain situation.
The advantages of this is that it automatically leads to a full fledged dialog about whichever topic you introduced. The disadvantage however, is that if you randomly ask for someone’s opinion, they might think you’re polling a survey or something. They might be on the defensive right away since people automatically avoid salesmen on a daily basis. The one context where an opinion opener will be acceptable is in a social environment in which everyone is already talking, ie: party or a bar.
4. Beginning a chat with a comment about her
Now this is risky but can lead to a quick and successful conversation if done right.
By noticing something unique about her, she will be likely to want to engage in a conversation to talk about her favorite subject, herself. For example, if a girl is wearing a huge hat, she’s doing it for a reason: she wants to be noticed and for people to talk to her. So just pick up on these subtle (and sometimes obvious) cues.
These are the most efficient methods on how to start a conversation. Once it’s started, you will need to have something to say to continue chatting with her! One of the best resources to read so you never run out of things to say is the book Double Your Dating by David Deangelo. The words printed on the pages of his book have a way of sticking in your brain and will make you a better conversationalist than you ever thought possible.
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5. make her comfortable with your conversation, some times make jokes, to make girl better her mood..
just add my opinion
I have never courted a girl in the past but had girlfriends. Most of the my GF’s started the conversation with me.
hi thanks for you advise i think now i know to approach woman or at my first time gud bless you for wonderful advise wisdom
i really like this girl, but every time a start a conversation and we talk a bit, she stops answering me.. is it because she don’t like me, or because she just don’t have time..
what could I else speak with her about ?
your website helps a lot most especially to my friend whom find such difficulty on girl matters
I’m an artist so i take my sketchpad open up to a half done drawing and work on it. It works for me because i am kinda shy and it makes an instant topic without anyone me having to start the conversation. You can do this with most cool talents. Works best with musicians though.
theres this girl that works at the grocery store, every time i try to talk to her i cant think of anything to say.. any advise on how to break the ice???
Johnny you need to keep a smile in your face when you talk to any girl and see how they all say yes!!
Well, surprisingly, I recognized that I actually already do some of these, which I think helps me reassure myself that I’m in the right mind frame…
So I’ve had a lil practice meeting and talking to women, but to be honest, I have a hard time with keeping their interest with conversation, or not knowing what to say. I frequently find myself asking, “What are you thinking?” or something along those lines… Any advice to help me break this habit would be nice, thanks
Jesse
I just went down to Florida for break and I’m with my buddy who hasn’t done alot of talking with anyone so I’m pretty much alone all the time on the beach and I see girls looking at me and walking by two or thre times and I’ve been with alot of girls but I don’t know what to do here I’m a big muscular guy but I have a little belly and that gets to me what should I do or say?
I’m going to be meeting this girl tomorrow for the first time and I don’t want to lose the communication between use when we are talking, I want it to go smooth and have things to talk about, getting started is going to be hard and keeping it going is an other. HELP
Last week i saw a very nice girl at her work, and today again. The place she works is a like a place that takes care of children that have a handicap. I visit there monthly with my mom’s friend, cause he has a son with Down syndrome there. The girl works as a caretaker there.
I haven’t yet had the chance to start a conversation with her, and even if i did…i think i would be chickenshit with that, i really ain’t good in that. I do however want to do something, i think the interest comes from both sides.
But i am not sure about that. It’s the way she looks at me that makes me think she might be interested, but i really ain’t sure….last year i thought a particular lady was interested in me as well, because of her stare, but at the end of the day….she was already in a relationship, lol.
So yeah…some advice on what to do with a lady i really don’t know much about, other than that she really caught my eye and i can’t seem to get her off my mind. I could try to start a conversation with her about her work, simply show my interest, the thing is..i am not really confident when there’s other people around.
Do you have some advice?
wow im so happy that i read all comment and those are very nice thanks for sharing this website i much got advance from this website and im also fallin with a girl and when she sees me she laugh to sees me and i also laugh to see her and when i dont laugh she does not laugh is she love with me or not but she does not know that so plz help me i need some tips
There is this in my neighborhood,i actually like the girl and i know she likes me too(i mean with the she is always looking at me and the kinda attention she gives me).the problem is anytime i have the opportunity to talk to her,the first few minutes usually goes well but after that,we,i run out of what to say.i mean if i can’t talk to her for long,how am i supposed to ask her out?
yo johnny this means she only wants you as a friend and not a boy friend right now
I like this girl but i don’t know if she likes me and is playing hard to get or she realy doesn’t like me
when i see a girl and after awhile we have made eye contact and checked each other out and what not, so pretty much i can go up to her and not be shot down and how she wants to talk to me or exchange our numbers or something, its just when all that it said and done my one problem is what to say to that girl. so any help here will be much appreciated.
eh guys. I have done lots of street approaches and I play the nice guy now, Ive been rejected so many times with the ol’ high voice. Damn man I need a wingman before I get myself into trouble. I have given up. I approach girls that are sitting at the bus interchange. I’m at a public service town and I am scared shitless by the gals in the public service attire.
I am a hobo by occupation. Mums says do stuff that girls find interesting. Which is awesome advice. Parents are right. But I would like to see one of you guys go up to girls solo score a root or a relationship. Cos all I get is tossed a bone and get to talk to her for a few seconds.
I am talking to myself saying “this is stupid”, “FARK, I don’t want to ‘talk’ to her”. N’ I know I am too good for her, I know that every time she sees me she is like arrr he don’t want me. Theres millions of girls why me.
Thank you for your time
Jante