Proximity is the best “cure” for the whole “no-woman/no-sex” thing, the trick is to get them to stand still for a moment. but women especially want to be taken seriously for their brains. I know this sounds ridiculous, especially when some women are total air-heads, but consider this; guy sees girl, girl has gorgeous eyes, long silky hair, full pouty lips that do this “thing” that makes him crazy every time she smirks, she has an amazing body, literally you catch yourself looking at her TOO much, on an on. So…sometimes women don’t realize how gorgeous they are and that we men need them the way we need to breathe air. But they don’t want to be relegated to just a sex object, which is what men tend to do, objectify women sexually. Half of this is “society’s” fault because we use sex in advertising to sell everything, paint even. You can’t look at a billboard anywhere selling everything from shoes to paper-clips that doesnt have a set of tits next to it. The other half is our fault, because we want to bang hot women. The first is un-natural, the second is of course, totally natural.

Asking a woman questions shows a few things; you are interested in her opinion (make sure you genuinely are, she will spot a fake), or you need her help with something(make sure it isn’t anything too heavy) everyone needs to feel wanted and useful and also it shows her that you value what is going on in her head and want to hear about it and not just what is going on between her legs. Asking her totally stupid questions out of the blue like “Jane?” – “yes?” – “why are you so beautiful?” may sound cheesy and stupid and unmanly, but she will giggle and blush and her brain will sort-of lock up and she will not be able to provide any better answer than “I don’t know” while she giggles and squirms in that girly way, which means you just blind sided her mentally and “off balance” tends to lead to “horizontal” in fairly short order and nothing helps to break down a woman’s inhibitions like pointless flattery, it gets the “juices flowing” and that is exactly what we want, isn’t it? If she answers boldy “because I just am” with a toss of her hair then you smile and quickly retort “YES YOU ARE” like you mean it. If she asks you back why you are so handsome, act all shy and blushey like she just pushed your goofy button and say something like “oh come on now you’re making me blush”. She will eat it up like mushy chocolate ice-cream.

Say/do things like this; lean in from one side quietly and totally seriously, as if you are about to whisper a secret, while looking away from her tell her “you know, you really need to turn your beautiful down, people are starting to stare…” She will laugh and maybe even hit you, this is a sign that moar/better/hotter touching is in the future. When a woman starts to touch you casually, it generally leads to more specific touching, which is what we want isn’t it? Just don’t force it; once it starts to happen, don’t force the issue or try to rush things, you will only mess it all up; you cannot force the flower to open it’s petals, it must occur naturally or the flower is destroyed and we don’t want that do we? Ask questions, crack jokes, take her interesting places and show her interesting things, or suggest this as a way to lead her to the whole dating paradigm. Asking a girl for a date is a sure way to get shot down. Asking her to experience something neat with you builds fond memories. “Hey can I show you somethign really cool?” is much better than “hey will you go to the movies with me?”. In fact if you are anywhere “within her field of view”, in other words there is potential already, then don’t ask her to go out with you TELL her you want to take her out. So, not “do you want to go see a movie with me” – don’t ask – instead – “I want to take you to see a movie with me” or “let’s go see a movie together”. Make sure you already have one picked that you will both like. Be confident, but not pushy, be funny but make sure it’s natural, ask her the right questions at the wrong time, compliment her for absolutely no reason, like she broke something inside of your head(which is usually the case anyway).

Use your big head first to use your little head later. Life is like a great meal and fine wine, it is best shared, try to share with her, it will likely lead to more sharing. Have fun.