How to make a girl want you
It seems that the biggest problem guys encounter is how to make a girl want you. The mentality of most guys is that only men like women initially… and somehow you have to convince them to like you in return. This fallacy has propelled men into trying to ‘win over’ women, as seen in so many Hollywood movies.
Unfortunately, this isn’t the rule, but rather the exception.
The general rule is that women are attracted as much as men to new people they meet throughout their lives. Its just that most women are used to being approached, so they won’t be as pro-active about talking to a guy they like. For men, its a different story.
They are used to being ignored by women, and that further propels the myth that women aren’t attracted to men. So with that frame of mind, they approach and converse with women with the “I need to make her like me” mindset. This is awful !
There is nothing worse than a person that is “Trying to make you like him!”
The first rule to getting someone to like you is to be at LEAST their equal in terms of status. A healthy relationship has both partners doing things for each other. One partner might work while the other raises the kids, one might cook and the other might build the deck and so on.
However, this is often taken out of context. If you’re at a bar, and a girl asks you to buy her a drink. She’s testing you to see if you’ll do as she bids. Why WOULD you buy her a drink ? The only context that this might be socially acceptable would be if the guy proposed: “hey, let’s get some drinks and then he casually bought hers.” By the way, if ever in doubt if you should pay or not when ordering something together… then pay.
The second rule of getting a girl to want you is to tease her! Teasing done right is flirting. If you’ve ever seen a cat jump viciously at a ball of string dangling from a height, then you’ll know how teasing works. It’s playful, fun, challenging and very addictive at the same time. Now some of you might not know how to tease properly, so I’d recommend you learn immediately. The best way being by reading the book Double Your Dating by David Deangelo, he describe exactly how to tease girls properly in a way that will build massive attraction.
If you want to learn how to make a girl want you, look at how women make guys want them. They dress up in attractive clothing, move in sensual ways, ignore guys, allude to your imagination and act aloof. Attraction is subtle, and girls seem to master the art. My best advice would be to befriend an attractive girl and pay attention to what attracts you to her.
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“befriend an attractive girl” – great idea – any tips on doing that??
I did. It was so easy and ‘im not even good looking i’m overweight. she liked smoking and I always had smokes so i’d always kind of manipulate her into spending time with me by asking her to roll me blunts because i couldn’t and she knew i couldn’t. So as time went on we became BEST friends. Like she would call me every day and shes all i hanged out with for like a year. Now, everyone hates her who i want to party with so i don’t really hang out with her any more and she now has a boyfriend.
so yeah its really not that hard.
Okay if u see a pretty girl give her a nice compliment like on her hair or nails or clothing etc …they will think that you aren’t all about sleeping with her and what not try it see how it works out for u
One thing I have learned is that when you want a girlfriend too much, you are bound to fail.
Ever since I told myself “focus on other things”, girls didn’t matter, and I just basically ignored them.
It helps to work or go to school because it’s a very social place and it’s not awkward because you both are on the same level, so she really can’t think she’s better then you. (kind of like it states above)
It also has a lot to do with your personality, and how confident you are. Girls don’t like guys who are shy, scared, nervous, or caring of what people think of them, or more so if people are looking at them.
Basically work on bettering yourself, girls shouldn’t be a priority.
So yeah i met up with a girl i used to give a ride to school every day and she’s like my dream girl… Problem is that she just came out of a bad relationship and has many guys after her…we have pretty much spent the last 5 days together and i’m going crazy… How do i know or get her feeling the same way??????
Hello everyone,
I keep having trouble on trying to keep a wonderful girl to be interested in me. We txt each other more than just talking on the phone. One day I decided to call her, but I got so nervous. I could’t speak well and I started to stutter a lot. Sometimes I don’t know what to say, cause I think I will say something wrong. I’m afraid that she might reject me, cause of the way I am or live. If anyone could give me some advice, I would appreciated.
you guys need to stop being suckers for girls, think of the girl like she should be lucky to have your time, once she sees notices that you have other priorities and you seem like your at the top, she will want to be with you, you don’t even have to win her over… she will just want to be with you because you don’t give her attention and she want to get your attention, and once you end up giving her your full attention she will get bored n leave you…. its the circle, so know what? Don’t be a sucker, and always tease her, flirt, keep her interested, but have one hand pushing her back along the way, and never give her your full attention and put her before other things.
“Basically work on bettering yourself, girls shouldn’t be a priority.”
I like that graham well said
DanJo
my girlfriend out of no where decided she couldn’t be in a relationship with me no longer, from being scared, cold feet, to wanting to be alone maybe date other guys to this is how I am, to no longer having feelings for me, after only 2.5 months of dating…i admit things were intense yet we were apparently on the same page with want we wanted out the relationship, we knew each other back a long time, never talking though, hooked up 20 years later, what could of happened? her excuses don’t make any sense…
Damn … this I’m gonna try this out to a girl I’m in love with like crazy.
I need some advice from you guys. I’m nervous when I’m dating a girl, so, what to think and what to say when I’m dating?
Ok I need some advice there is this girl I like at work. Whenever we go for happy hours in groups with people at work she gives me all the attention like we are in our own world. Also she had came with a few times to get coffee and dinner and we talk for hours. Also after work we will talk for hours sometimes in the parking garage. I know she is very shy but at work she ignores me act like I don’t exist. For example if we hangout on the weekend, then on monday she will try to keep her distance like she barely knows me. What is going on???
sad but i think you might be right john. props to you. no props to life. silly thing. how much time we spend trying to “win” something so meaningless. better yourself. better your mind.
Women should never be the priority, it’s a sign of weakness really. You go out, you go out to have a good time. You go to the gym to feel good and you buy clothes that you like and make you feel good. If you get girls, it’s a bonus. Last year i got too serious about one girl and it turned into a disaster!
@James Tike , i am having the same situation as you as well . The one i liked alot always get intimate with me everytime we are alone , like we talk and cuddles , we are very close when we are together alone . But during school hours , she ignores me quite alot and talk to other guy instead ! I’ve confessed to her that i like her but she didn’t do so , and lately she told me that i hurt her ego , so she wanted me to ignore her for three days before we get to talk to each other again . I felt very intensely depressed because of this and i can’t seem to focus on my examination and studies ! I prayed to God hoping that thing that i’m so afraid of won’t happen to me . And now i realize that what i should do is to be the best of me and change myself to be the better so that i can provide and be a better man that she deserves . One thing is for sure , this road i choose is going to be a very very tough one , wish me luck guys ! Best of luck to all of you that have the one and only you’ve feel in love too ! =)
if i send i girl a email that says good night would she know i like her
come on please write back
Oh come on nicholas…….. if you sent a girl email saying good night, she mite find it cute if she already likes you like that. If not, its like you….. shit forgat what i was going to say..
Ok guys! So I met this chick! Shes frekin amazing! We’ve been talking a few weeks, and I think Im pressuring her/ giving her too much attention too fast. I told her Im going to back off and let her come to me… I did’nt hear back and texted her askin “when u wanna get together again”. Yeah.. no response.. So now that I kinda messed things up by pushing too fast, what do I do!? Im just going to leave her alone.. no texts.. emails.. nothing.. Hopefully she will come back! She is literially amazing! Just hope I didnt screw up 2 bad already
Yep, I’m in a similar situation with a beautiful girl. She’s dating more than one guy, kind of choosing the best apple of the bunch. I almost feel like I’m being played, but hate to pass up on a golden opportunity. I mean, I have options too, but none that equal the beauty and professionalism as she portrays. The other guy she supposeadly dates is a frickin d-bag. I know I’m better looking, have a better career, and prob at least match his personailty in charm. So, I have to think of a way to cock block the d-bag by selling myself as Abraham Lincoln. However, I don’t want to be to agressive and scare the honey away. I need to exercise retraint, while trying not to let this drive me fuc*&ng crazy!
Ive just been playing it low key.. and it seems to be working
Good luck with ur D Bag!
Good point, just better yourself.. The girls will come along
Hey, when he says to ignore them, it works like a charm. Not only will girls want you, they will text/call you, and when you do want to hang with them they will come running. Also when you give them little attention it allows you to meet new people and live life instead of chasing the girls.
Girls get bored when they receive a lot of attention from a guy, although that’s what they desire, the same things get tedious after a while. You gotta switch things up, tease her one night, maybe not reply to some of her texts one day, then another day talk to her a lot. Be sorta stubborn, don’t always give in to what she wants but always treat her with respect.
okay guys, im doing pretty good right now. i Messed up in getting too serous with my Ex EX girlfriend. i was sort of an ass to her at the beginning. I ignored her, didnt talk 2 her munch, she basically wasn’t very important to me. She fell in love with me and was crazy about me. little by little i fell in love with her and gave her my FULL attention… she screwed me. and got bored. she even told me herself i was annoying when i told her she was grogeous, etc. then she broke up with me. so after a bit, i sucked it up and moved on to another girl. now she (my ex ex) was super jealous and wanted me back so bad. i was such dick to her cuz she deserved it. and never ever payed attention to her. i told her to leave me alone soo many times. if i called her right now and told her to come over to my house, she would. so see, pay small attention to girls and act like a bit of an ass and they will want you. pay your FULL attention to them and they will hurt you.
I started hanging out with this girl from work, we made each other laugh like crazy. There was a spark pretty quick, after a week it seemed like we were about to launch. I wasn’t pushing for intimacy too fast because I thought i’d take my time with this one and i didn’t want a bad rep at work. Then all of a sudden at a staff party she takes a co-worker(my friend) home. Next thing I know shes all into him from that night on. Did she do this to piss me off for not making a move sooner?
Okay this is what I’ve learned about girls. And alot of these guys are totally right. Girls definately want what they can’t have. Or better yet what they think they can’t have. Girls actually invented “playing games” and are masters at the art of being attractive. This power that they have feeds their ego when they can manipulate guys. Girls are totally used to getting what they want. Usually if a girl is your best friend 9 times out of 10 she has a thing for you. And it is definately more important to focus on other things than trying to get a girl. It really does happen when you least expect it. And girls definately want guys who are at least on their own status level. And the last thing the more you try and figure girls out the more it will just confuse the crap out of you. They are impossible to figure out. The best bet. Lie and convince her that your her best friend and by the time you know it she will have developed a thing for you. Then make a bold move.
Oh and one more thing. I’m reading on here that alot of you guys are falling completely head over heels for what seems to be like alot of Perfect 10′s. That is a bad thing and you will not get what you want. She is already winning big time. You will think yourself into insanity in this situation. Somehow you have to turn this bad situation around. Get very selfish fast. Get out get a life and concentrate on making yourself all that in every possible way. Then pretend to be barely interested in her or just a good friend. These are the only ways.
Best friend??? Then you’ll be in the friend zone -_- you have no idea what you’re talking about.
The best advice that I could give all of you guys out there is to go into any situation with a woman as a man. If you are a pansy it will never work, no matter who you talk to or what stupid books you try to read. Once you realize that women need you more than you need them you will never have to log onto a forum like this unless it’s to help other misguided people out. I see beautiful women all day long, but once you fall in love or think some woman is “out of your league” you have failed! Dress how you want and talk how you want…. thousands of years of evolution has made man king of this world despite all of the feminist rantings that say otherwise. I love women and my mother is a feminist, but any woman I talk to knows that I am king in this world because I don’t give her a reason to think otherwise. Once you treat a woman different than a man or you put her on a pedestal you have reduced yourself to a whiny sensitive patronizing little boy….
Women under the age of 27 do not like to be monogamists because it is not in their nature unless you challenge their nature. The same way that the finest girl you have ever met can piss you off and you dump her is the same way that women are. Give them too much and they won’t need anything else from you.
Quit thinking with your dicks, guys! Your uber-sensitive attitudes and willingness to bend over backwards for a girl is the reason that you girl dumps you to talk to me.
Man up and realize who you are in this food chain. You are a man and she is a woman, and no woman is going to be swept off her feet by a man who is more caring and chummy than her friends. Let your girl do whatever she wants and go wherever she wants because a real man knows that his woman will always come back to him because he is a man…. just like a cat that you feed will always come back unless they don’t need you anymore. Women are like cats and most of you guys out there need them more than they need you.
No man should ever sell himself short and any man that can help should do his duty and say something before his fellow man falls…. but if you don’t have hope then we will let you do what you do because we need little whiny sensitive b*tches like you around to give women perspective on where they could be if they didn’t talk to real men like us….
Get at me and quit letting these woman walk all over you…. women are way more social than we are and they spend a lot of time talking sh*t about all the guys that are so sweet and understanding but could never do them right…. don’t be that guy.
Brent…. the reason that you failed is because A. you probably mentioned the situation to a coworker who figured she was single and looking and knew he was a bigger man than you…. or B. she figured out that you were a slow-progress waste of her time and most women need sex more than we do…. contrary to popular belief…. they just need to go about it more discreetly than you or I. She found a man that can give her what she wants. I have showed a girl the bathroom and shoved her against the wall and started kissing her when we got there and have had amazing results…. it works if you know what you’re doing and make sure she’s not seriously about to leak and burst at the seams because then you’ll just look like an idiot…. you need to hang out with women before you can read them well so female friends do nothing but help your situation.
Think how much you want her and multiply it times 2 and that’s how much she wants you if she gives you the time of day and wants to hang out with you….. women get hit on constantly and approached all of the time. Any woman who makes time for you either likes you as a friend because you chose that or because you f-d up, or she wants you more than you know because you just can’t read the signs.
Most women are taught that men should make the first move in our American culture…. so the man who addresses the sexual tension and provides an outlet to either feed or resolve it will always be more successful than the man who denies it to be a “gentleman” or please a lady…. Women want a man, not a gentleman…. they just want a gentleman when they take you around the family or friends. I hope that this helps…..
To: Justin P.
i agree with Justin, i accidentally made friends with a really cute girl that i liked by telling a couple jokes (and later on trying to make it clear that i wanted to be more than friends) and one thing led to the next and then were dating, in love and now we are engaged. This is the best time of my 21 years spent on this earth and i owe it all to accidentally entering the “friend zone”.
I’m friends with all of he girls at my school and even though it’s fun and cool it’s also quite bad as they all only see me as friends. I tried with a couple but they all said you’re too good of a friend so I’m going to become selfish and just focus on bettering myself and try to just not try and see what happens.
If a girl is all that then being in the friend zone is better for you than being in the “this guy just wants to get in my pants” zone. Ever heard of the term “friends first”. It’s one of the only ways to win with the girls that are all that.
Getting a girl to want you is pretty simple, get to know them a little but once you’ve hit that certain point back off that little bit just to let her know she has to try as well, don’t fully ignore her just let act like your not interested and it’ll drive her crazy knowing that she can’t have everyone. I’m not amazingly handsome and not incredibly ugly, but just by following those simple directions i haven’t met a girl that hasn’t wanted me. Just be confident and believe you can do it.
I was looking through theese comments, and I saw that some of you say that you will get the girl you want if you kinda ignore her, because then she wants your attention. Well, I got a problem, this girl im into, she is really popular. I am a good friend of her and all that, but if I try to “ignore” her or dont pay too much attention to her, she always have the other guys that she can spin around her fingers… PROBLEM! Then it wont work for me to be a nice guy, she thinks of me as some dude that just wants to screw her or she gets angry for some reason, and ignoring her doesnt make her interested either..
I have the same problem as Rob. This one girl I like I ignore but she just gets other guys. She’s impossible but has such a pretty face all I wanna do is add some icing to it.
i need help there is this girl i have liked since the first time i met her i decided to talk to her and she talked back, i got her to laugh and smile and she opened up with some troubling stuff about her past. we’ve been talk for about a month now and i really want to get her to go out with me but i don’t really know how to go about it because she has tons of guy going after her and i’m that hopeless romantic type that finishes last every time. i could really use some help on how to finish first.
Justin P…you are right. Plus, being friends is one of the best ways to really get to see how she thinks. You may not be with her right now….but that’s ok.It may feel bad, but sometimes a short term loss is necessary for a long term gain. That’s if you really dig the girl, and it’s a quality connection…not just sex.
Be yourself and put yourself first if you and her aren’t dating…you want a girl to like you for who you are and respect you because your not going to bow down to her every command. Feelings are constantly changing so you never know but being yourself and showing her that she can’t make you Another drooling guy MIGHT make that same girl who wanted to be friends start to develop some interest… it might take time but would be worth it…just think if it as this… your planting seeds on her fertile heart…. sooner or later something will grow…but of course they are other factors but you should get the point
i`m useless at attracting girls, i aint got the guts to chat to girls and wen i do i stutter and come out with random things and they end up thinking i`m weird! lol! there`s this one lass i like, we hang out with a group of m8s every week, she knows i like her! but she likes blonde pretty boy types!
anyone got any advice on how to change things?
Dear iron… i was madly in luv with someone who was nervous and stutters…just be yourself, try not to be nervous (no stuttering) and follow your heart. Theres no such thing as weird…it’s called being nervous, and you’ll get passed it
I have a question, please help! I never seem to have guts to clear things up by finding out for sure whether she likes me or not – if she is not giving any obvious cues (like looking straight into your eyes etc) or is giving contradicting cues, what to do? Just ask her? Kiss her? Also, WHEN is an appropriate moment to do that during a date if we go to see a movie or hang out eat somewhere. I seem to be good at conversing with girls, making them laugh keeping the convo going, but I totally suck at moving any further. Please help me i m so confused, how exactly is this really done??
Hey guys !
I have spent a while reading each and every one of your comments , and I’d like to contribute by saying something that could easily help all of you.
I have played with a lot of girls, and have made almost all of them like me however. Since I didn’t really like any of these girls, I naturally acted much more confident.
Then one day, I met this girl that I thought of as being amazing. This was the total end of me you see. She made me go crazy. I liked her and I probably would have done any thing for her. While I watched her go for guys that didn’t give her any attention.
She taught me how to really treat girls :
As Graham already said “Basically work on bettering yourself , Girls shouldn’t be a priority” , I think that this tip is probably the most effective tip.
While you are working on bettering yourself, your attention wont be focused on girls, or on THAT girl. When she sees your busy doing other things you’ll appear out of her league. Making her seem very accessible to you. Eventually, you’ll gain a great deal of confidence not because you’re getting the girl to like you but mainly because you are becoming a better person from within. At this point , you can easily get any girl you ever want. It’s not pretending like you’re unavailable. It’s actually being unavailable. It’s not trying to ignore her. It’s actually being to busy to be in complete contact with her. It’s not trying to not give her your attention. It’s actually having so much other things in life that are taking over your attention.
Hi, I’m embarrased to say that I’m 32 yrs old and never had a girlfriend. I’ve gotten lucky lol…….but never a girlfriend. Never been in love or been loved. Had some crushes that went nowhere and a few rejections. I’ve always been overweight and have always felt inadequate and inferior. When I’m around a girl I’m attracted to my heart races, my mind goes blank and I get sweaty palms. I feel like girls totally ignore me, like I’m a natural girl “repellent”. So before christmas I decided to make some HUGE changes because I’m tired of being lonely and I want kids someday. I quit smoking cigs, started eating healthy and joined a fitness bootcamp and lost like 46 lbs now ( have like 20 more to go) . Needless to say I’m feeling like a million bucks now but still I have to work on this girl problem. To be honest, one of the reasons I began to make these changes was this girl that works at my local coffee shop started being friendly with me out of nowhere, she started calling me “hun” and smiling at me. As silly as this sounds, it felt so good when she did this as it made me feel special. So, this girl is so naturally beautiful and I can just tell she is one in a million but still I haven’t asked her out or anything. It has been like 3 months and I think she has lost interest as I’m sure she figures I have no self confidence ( if she was even interested in the first place) I know I’m my own worst enemy, I’m just so worried that I’m mistaking her being friendly for flirting. I just keep working at bettering myself but I’ve really been beating myself up about this situation as I feel I’m letting a special person slip away. God, I can’t believe how pathetic I sound……I really need some help lol. …. Anyone have any advice? I like Casanovas advice but how the heck can I get the girl If I don’t pay attention to her, she obviously isn’t going to ask me out. I need some SERIOUS help guys…..PLEASE
Casanova I used to be in your position. Overweight, shy, and low confidence. Look man there’s no reason for it. Worst you could get is a no. Walk up to her and say hey and have a simple conversation. Then ask her the catcher question. Are you flirting with me? Shell laugh and then shell actually start making it a point to flirt. Ask her to have dinner with you. Pick an expensive restaurant. Just don’t stutter lol
I know how girls are 1. Don’t smell bad smell{ decent to amazing 2. Do not care what they think 3. Show little or no emotion 4. Do not be in the FRIEND ZONE u lose my man if u do. 5. NEVER NEVER use full attention at most 60-75% focus on other things and you shall easily prevail 5. Respect the girl 60-99% of the time[ You can keep your disrespect for her nagging etc in your mind lool] 7. don’t let anything get you down 8. Showing full attention = instant FAIL 8. Girls r effed up and impish i know how they are so stay strong don’t take it serious
9. NO SUCH THING AS a PERFECT 10[unless you mean physically and that is just opinion]
10. Do fun stuff with the girl sometimes and ignore her sometimes and She won’t be bored and leave you like giving her your ALL will [I KNOW WTF} This is why i respect gays a little more[gay guys]
To: Justin P.
i agree with Justin, i accidentally made friends with a really cute girl that i liked by telling a couple jokes (and later on trying to make it clear that i wanted to be more than friends) and one thing led to the next and then were dating, in love and now we are engaged. This is the best time of my 21 years spent on this earth and i owe it all to accidentally entering the “friend zone”.
This is not the friend zone LOOL the friend zone is the position for a guy when he is that GIRLS friend [not boyfriend] friend You were never in the friend zone you entered the boyfriend zone dum@$$
And girls like laughing but don’t make em laugh too much seriously ignoring = WIN
Dave my man this is all you goto do
1. Don’t feel down about anything
2. EXERCISE more but have rest/break day or week if you do week exercising now and then {it helps with girls and other things}
3. make sure you smell decent to amazing [anything but bad and your good]
4. Say in your mind I am teh $%%^ and go and ask this girl or whatever girl your interested in DUh [wait their is more]
5. Make a good joke or conversation
6. Be blunt about revealing intention but also not to blunt and mysterious
7. IGNORE her somewhat in the conversation because 100 percent devotion will cause a LOSSSS
8. Good luck you will need it because your a pansy right now but it won’t stay this way forever
While you are working on bettering yourself, your attention wont be focused on girls, or on THAT girl. When she sees your busy doing other things you’ll appear out of her league. Making her seem very accessible to you. Eventually, you’ll gain a great deal of confidence not because you’re getting the girl to like you but mainly because you are becoming a better person from within. At this point , you can easily get any girl you ever want. It’s not pretending like you’re unavailable. It’s actually being unavailable. It’s not trying to ignore her. It’s actually being to busy to be in complete contact with her. It’s not trying to not give her your attention. It’s actually having so much other things in life that are taking over your attention.
This is correct guy who said it [above]
But I WILL ELA?BORATE [yeah i see the question mark damnn bastard]
Okay girls naturally look for the alpha male which is usually the busiest/ Strongest and hard working one so you have to be that hard worker/ Bread winner doing everything in your power to be a bread winner but don’t get foolish or stupid along the way expect gold diggers expect good opportunities etc
So to be this you have to not worry about being it and naturally be strong
2. This is something that you are born with but I believe with my alpha guidance/leadership all of you horny males[lol] can be almost as good maybe even equal HELL maybe even BETTER than me[at girls seriously not everything else lol i just naturally am sexcist ever since i SEE girls clearly for what they are =/] IMPISH[etc]
LAST:GOOD LUCK
I have a question, please help! I never seem to have guts to clear things up by finding out for sure whether she likes me or not – if she is not giving any obvious cues (like looking straight into your eyes etc) or is giving contradicting cues, what to do? Just ask her? Kiss her? Also, WHEN is an appropriate moment to do that during a date if we go to see a movie or hang out eat somewhere. I seem to be good at conversing with girls, making them laugh keeping the convo going, but I totally suck at moving any further. Please help me i m so confused, how exactly is this really done??
Make eye contact[but not too much] but don’t wonder lower either if you catch my drift] BE BLUNT And tell her and ignore her somewhat [20[absoloute minimum] to 70%] and your in lol do what else I SAID -GOOD LUCK NOVICE
I have a question, please help! I never seem to have guts to clear things up by finding out for sure whether she likes me or not – if she is not giving any obvious cues (like looking straight into your eyes etc) or is giving contradicting cues, what to do? Just ask her? Kiss her? Also, WHEN is an appropriate moment to do that during a date if we go to see a movie or hang out eat somewhere. I seem to be good at conversing with girls, making them laugh keeping the convo going, but I totally suck at moving any further. Please help me i m so confused, how exactly is this really done??
Sorry bro your in the friend zone GET OUT you can talk to em now and then but make sure its ESTABLISHED = YOU ARE NOT THEIR FRIEND[s} (ooh hybrid [s]}
lol not the point continuing now
Better yourself phys. + mentally and focus on their eye contact but not too much emphasize you don’t want them SRSLY they want what they can’t rlly have so make them out of your reach[even if you secretly want them] then casually be NICE AND WANTING{ BUT NOT EVER over 75% seriously you WILL GET OWNED} AND DUMPED
I think that this girl was just being nice I don’t know. I mean maybe she was just being nice. I mean when she came over to talk to me. she leaned foward and did the open palm thing. Maybe I gave her the impression that I didn’t feel a real attraction to her. Maybe I seemed to self absorbed , I did ask her out for some coffee and she got kinda freaked I mean she started to cry . I really didn’t see her for awhile , but when I saw her the next time she was wearing a bandana like I wear . just thought that was wierd. Of course she likes country music and I cannot stand that stuff. Makes me want to kill myself
Once you get past your first, or what seems to be, ‘first love’ than you are ready to take on anything. you have to let the girl you like, know you care, but at the same time, dont care too much, or youll go crashing in a spiral mostion towards heartbreak city. As a man it is your duty to protect, love, be honest with, the girl you like. A first mistake ive noticed today was that you guys consider these girls ‘the girl of my dreams’ well you have to try and not think that, cuz it can turn out to where she doesnt even like you like that then u got urself all worked up and now ur depressed cuz you thought she was your ‘dream girl’ and what seemd so obvious, was a figment of your imagination cuz you fell to hard and too fast for this girl. Dont ever show a girl you care to much, and until the time is right, NEVER say ‘id do anything for you’ that is a definate sign of weakness and sooner or later she will begin walking all over you and gettin mad at you if you dont do the stuff she’s asked you to do everytime she’s asked you. Be confident, never be too ‘pushy’. charm the girl, a simple smile or even a wink in the middle of class could easily sweep her off her feet and let her know your interested. Walk her to her classes on occasion, carry her books once a week, let her know your there, but also let her know you could be there for someone else aswell. If they like you, this will surely drive them batty. Now the moment of truth, its been 3 weeks since youve met her and everytime she sees you she seems to smile and wave and smile and wink, if she looks down, thats an immidiate sign that she digs you. Never be someone your not, always be yourself, and if she wants to make love on the first date, deny her, with most females this is a test. DO NOT do it, tell her ‘not today babe, next time we hang out if you still want to we can’ by doing this, will ensure the girl your not just in it for sex and avoid the whole ‘making you look like a doosh’ situation. After you say that, give her a 7 second kiss, no french just lip to lip and rest ur hand on the side of her fast and the other hand around her waist, it shows love and care and it shows them you really want to be with them and your not just in it for all the wrong reasons. Now most of you smoke weed, im 16 and i do haha. But if she is interested in smoking, get her high, and tell her your feelings litle by little, it takes away that awkward feeling cuz your both stoned, keep a smile on ur face (not a creepy one) and tell her, ‘ya know, i kinda like you’ see her responce, if its, ‘awh i kinda like you too’ DONT push it, simply ask, ‘haha well how much?’ and if she says ‘hehe alot’ grab her hand and ask her ‘do you like me enough to kiss me?’ if she says ‘yeah i do’ take her by the hand, lock fingers with her, and give her your best kiss. But wait till next time to ask her out, approach the same way with the weed and instead of sayin ‘i kinda like you’ say ‘do you like me enough to be my girl?’ If she says yes then take her by the hand, lock fingers again, and say ‘will u be my baby?’ as soon as she says ‘yes’ give her a huge kiss and a big hug and whisper in her ear ‘babe i couldnt be happier’. Now if she says ‘I dont know’ then she most likely isnt the girl you want, but dont be afraid to ask why, but dont ask in person, ask over text, that eliminates all possibilities of having an ‘awkward moment’ and your being straight forward instead of beating around the bush, girls tend to like open minded guys who arent afraid to ask certain questions. Use this to your advantage, dont show any signs of weakness or depression, that lets her know, she isnt the ONLY option of a girl you have, although she might be, never let her know she is, or your chances with her are pretty much over due to signs of desperation. Enguage with other girls and make it known that the fact that she just ‘shot you down’ isnt stopping you from finding the girl you want to be with. That will trigger the ‘jealous’ reaction and if she keeps textin you, and askin you to hang with her, she will most likely be the one to kiss you first the next time you guys hang out. Read this and take it step by step, dont leave anything out, write it down and read it 200000 times if you must, and youll find out that it is extremely helpful in many ways. If you have any questions, just ask me.
So, okay here my situation
Normally I’m great with grils not a problem hooking up with one. The think is about a month ago I met this girl at a club and had a great night we went back to her place and well we hooked up. The next couple of days we hooked up again. I thought “great, finally someone who can handle a casual thing”. Well this went on for almost 3 weeks until one night I asked if I could come over she responded with ” please don’t be mad…. but I have a date” which no problem we both said we didn’t want anything else than what we had going on already then a day later she sets up what I thought was going to be. A “play date”. So on the night were supposed to see each other I arrive at her place around 11pm and thought I was going to be like every other night we spent together. The reality was that she had to talk, which I knew what this meant she wanted to start dating that other person she went on a date. Which no worries to me. But she meantioned how it sucked cause she still wanted me but couldn’t and that was sorry. Ontop of that I let her borrow a book (she’s a reader) and she said she would return it to me even after the fact that our casual thing is over. I told her she could keep it as a gift but she very insisting on returning it.
The thing now is I’ve realized that maybe I did have a thing for her and I should’ve said yes when she asked me if I wanted a girlfriend instead of ” I can’t have a relationship in my life right now” I think I screwed things up now I can’t stop thinking about her from time to time. She’s a great girl has a lot going on in her life which is great. It would’ve seamed like a perfect match between her and I.
I don’t think the entire not calling/texting thing would work on her cause she’s such an independent woman. I don’t want to seam like a clingy person either by calling too soon, its only been less than a week but I think I want her…. any advice guys?
Some interesting posts. I think you guys who play it cool with girls and let them see you having fun with lots of girls are on the right track. You see girls only want what they cant have, and what they cant have is a superior male, someone that is in total control of his emotions and lives in a stronger reality. Girls can feel this, and when they see this chill in you, you become a challenge. Go out to have fun for youself, not to pick up girls reaks of desperation, girls feel it. Let them chase, yes like a cat. Remember you are “The Man” higher status, unobtainable, a little ruthless. As difficult as it may seem, especially with a girl you’ve really got the hots for, appear unobtainable if you really want to score big time. Always keep her if you can at arms length somewhere between rejection and partial validation. Never give her full validation, when she comes running, chasing, reward her, show her she’s scoring some points. Then go distant again, have some fun with other girls, make sure she sees you with them, or finds out about them. Never answer any of her questions you’re single right. At this stage she’s yours make sure you keep it that way. Forget the friends stuff, believe me shell want you. If you are trying too hard to be her friend what challenge are you, wimpy stuff. Sorry guys you are wrong, girls do not feel passionate about friends. You’re the “Bad boy she’s in love with.
Good luck Guys, have fun, enjoy every minute, I do.
Remember your the cool guy they all want sexually, not in a best friends way, sorry thats for girls, its ridiculous.
Just have fun.
Jon
but what am i gonna do if i have only 2days before she’s leaving out of the country?!
@jake. Ive seen and have personally expierenced a situation like yours jake. Heres my best advice. Call her and tell her you need to have a serious talk about something that you want to get off your chest. Then ease your way into the subjuct and say somthing like ”Ya know, when you asked me that question, it just hit me that i would of loved you to be my girlfriend, but i guess thats too late now…im gunna go, talk to you later… (depending on the responce) goodnight” and hangup. The key is to let her know, that youve had seconds thoughts but there is nothing you can do about it at this point. Doing this willl get this off your chest and theres a possiblility that she will want to be yours. But dont let her know your waiting for her, continue with your life and meeting girls and you might get a phonecall from her!
btw she was american girl
okay i was at a little party with this girl, and another girl i knew was there. and apparently the first girl, ill call her Amy told the other girl to not let her get close to me..well as the night went on and she got a little drunk she decided to start throwing shit at me and then finally threw an ashtray i dont remember it hitting me i was also a little drunk, so i went back inside so i wouldnt provoke anything else.. later that night when we were going to sleep i heard her go to the bathroom and i went by the door and asked if she was ok.. she came out and started hitting me and slapping me repeatedly.. well trying to at least so i told her to go to sleep and started going to my spot..then while i was walking she went to me and leaned on me till she pushed me to a sofa and was on top of me.( PS SHE WAS TALKING ON THE PHONE WITH HER “HUBBY” BUT THEYRE NOT EVEN GOING OUT SHE SAYS BEFORE THIS HAPPEND) so i lifted her off and left her on the sofa. i go to my spot on the floor..and what does she do? she goes down there with me and we end up SLEEPING TOGETHER. MAKING OUT. SPOONING GROPING. HOLDING HANDS. i had said i wouldnt do nothin else with her so i kept my word.. MY QUESTION IS DOES SHE LIKE ME?? btw the next day she bought me an inner tube which was a mission and a half and then had ME be with her for about 3 hours while we floated down the river .(we were a party of like 8)..IF U READ THIS THANK U
I KNOW ITS LONG
OH BTW i work with this girl lol…i know she liked me before cause she would ALWAYS smile when i would come in..and someone told me this also. shes always saying how she has some guy but theyre not bf/gf or whatever recently but shes always smiling when i look at her or talk to her. i dont love her or anything but its a little crush and if something else could happen im down k thnx
Okay, seriously guys????
to: “SheCallsMeDaddy” (does that even make sense? I guess it emphasises your cerebral capability.)
YOU are the sole reason why so many women today hate men. You think that you are evolution’s gift to women, but really all you are is a self-centered ass.You might think that women want you, and yes some would. Some infers to those who only look for men for the purposes of an intellectually disadvantaged idiot she can play around with. (I call them sl*ts) “King of this world”- okay your terminology there sounds like you are a twelve year old. Go and fix your life before posting something as obtuse as this, and maybe one day you will stop being so self-centered and notice the actual truth:
Women and anyone in this world, does not need or even slightly want you to survive tomorrow.
Also SheCallsMeDaddy, my apologies for using big words that you mightn’t understand. I guess I’m only a woman.
you guys are idiots if you look for a girl with looks you just get a stab in the back i’ve learned from experience look for a girl who has a kind heart that doesn’t like you beacause you look good.
I’m in a bit of a problem and I hope you guys can help. In the past I haven’t had much trouble with girls and I’ve finally found the one I REALLY like. Her and I were getting very close and suddenly, out of nowhere, she stood me up, and began to ignore all of my texts and calls. I got her to say one sentence to me and that was “Your an asshole, don’t talk to me” and after that nothing. She tells her friends there is a reason, and she tells people I’m a pervert and I’m full of myself. She won’t tell me her reason nor will she say a single word to me. It’s very depressing and I do not have the slightest clue on what to do. I really liked her and I’m positive that whatever her reason is can not be true because I really focused on not messing this one up.
I have no problems on getting girls, just be “sweet”, but as john said it’s better to havE your priorities right first you then women, as they say “they come and go” until you find the right one
Robert SPurgeon I agree to what u believe as looks aren’t everything otherwise you will be known to be shallow, real beauty comes from within
Mrs X you are right I as a man have realised that selfishness does not lead you anywhere and there is no such thing to “improve dating” just be yourself, that worked for me. In a relationship always do what is best for both not only what you want. Man there is a great bunch of idiots in this webpage except for some who really understand what having a relationship or meeting a girl is all about.
@she calls me daddy….bravo..that is the best philosophy ever…no matter what men are the superior, and don’t think otherwise or they’ll get under your skin and screw you over
i work with this girl and i love her so much but i asked for friendship and she refused but we called each other on phone everyday, we use to go out and have drink yet no way.i need a help how to make her accept me for i love her much.
if you want a girl give her a compliment like “you have pretty eyes” then walk away
listen brochacho’s, don’t focus on finding girls, i just dumped this chick becuase she was making out with this other guy, i didn’t pay no mind, didn’t get upset or anything, just wrote her off like nothing ever happened, bottom line is theres 2 hot ass chicks coming to my house next week, the whole point in me telling you this, is because I haven’t even left my house and the chicks come flowing. girls do want what they cant have, make yourself unavailable, sorry for the crappy typing, I’m smoking my bong atm. if a girl knows you want them, the game is turned, now shes playing hard to get and your the one chasing her. NO don’t ever do that. its bad, let them chase you and random comments like ‘your eyes are pretty’ and walking away HAS scored me some numbers in the past, but if you’re like me and you’re just looking for a good time than don’t be the one to ask a girl out. Just hit that and be on your way, Life’s a walking hell you guys, we try to do so much to make our lives better, WHY? Dude, FUCK THE WORLD its time for some fun so go out pop some mushrooms go to a rock concert and do sum stuff behind the stands. You’d be surprised how far you can get by saying ‘nice ass baby I’d tap that’ Those words have not failed me. Write back if you need anything =]
Ok here is my philosophy, you need to be able to make her laugh but at the same time be able to have intelligent conversations with her. You also need to make her feel special for example giving her compliments and stuff. The thing about jealousy is that it shouldn’t be your goal, it should just come naturally as in, if you don’t want to hang out with her one day then don’t, don’t feel like it is your duty to give into her demand, just do what you want basically, also life does a pretty good job at doing this, key thing is don’t focus on making her want you, just live your life the way you want to without her dictating it, things will all work out that way
Let me rephrase the first part, basically just be yourself, just let everything come out naturally. As far as making her feel special goes, only say something if you truly mean it (although I would stay away from commenting body parts, some girls don’t mind that much though). If you don’t actually mean what you say then she will figure it out eventually and think that you are just trying to get in her pants even if that is not your only or main intention.
so we all probably go to this forum for the same reason a girl, i have read many stories so here is mine i was with a girl for almost a year and then she went to Arizona and a week later boom on my ass good thing she wasn’t my first love the first is always the worst because you have not been hurt before so you don’t know what it feels like all i can say is everyone after the first you manually put up a wall so you wont give all of yourself to that special one in your life and its a smart thing to do protect your heart fellas because your the only one who wont hurt yourself, anyways so of course there’s a girl i like a hell of a lot shes from Florda and is truly great but one problem( she has a boyfriend and hes a friend of mine) i wasn’t ever going to pursue it but after taking a friend home and her riding with me as soon as we hit the road to meet back with everyone else we started in talking and it came naturally there was never a moment of silence. she was up here about three weeks before i meant her i was still with bitch that was going to Arizona…so now when i meet her shes already with dude and its running through my mind what if that girl would have left me sooner what if i was able to hang with friends and sht then i would have been there when she came from Florida. anyways we always txt and shit she tells me she likes me a hell of a lot but don’t want everyone to hate her and i get it if she jumps from tht guy to me then we all wont be able to hangout anymore and ppl will take sides. anyways she stays a lil down the street from me and her bf stays about a ten min drive away she was hungry and i made some food so i walked it down there she always said how we mesh together because we can talk about anything and i don’t judge her i guess she was right because before i knew it we were sitting outside till three thirty( for all those who say don’t worry about girls better yourself your half way right you should better yourself always and never count yourself out of a girls league that’s not giving you a chance at all and i would have done it with this girl had she not told me how she felt) you can never know whats the right thing to do just go by your natural instincts its worked for men in the past you think there were books and articles on how to get women no you live and learn its not gonna be easy or pretty. and also don’t treat women like shit that does nothing but make you look like an ass treat them how you want to be treated if they return the treatment then they might be worth givin a chance you will never know if you dont try i really hope someone reads this i know its hella long but what i write does have meaning be yourself don’t be what you think they want because then they will find your not what they want and they will leave. you cant make a woman stay its ultimately her choice but stay true to yourself and to who that girl is and you may just end up with her time will tell i always give all i can for a woman/girl because i am young im gonna be eighteen in five days lol but o well i know i got alot of living and this girl probably wont be the ONE as everyone likes to say but im fine with that but no matter what don’t change because you have been hurt getting hurt just means you were with a woman who wasn’t ready for what you were no one said it will be easy in finding one who cares as much as you my mother says that if its meant to be it will be and my father says don’t marry a woman you love marry a woman who loves you my parents have been married for twenty two years that’s hard to come by now a days as we all know marriage fails as much as it does succeed but you have to treat the woman right if you don’t then she wont want to be with you at all and it wont last im not a pro i know that but im not ashamed to admit it because that’s why we all are here were all searching for the answers and after reading all these post heres what i do know and it doesn’t matter that im about to only be eighteen
1.) BE YOURSELF- if they cant accept you for you then they are not the one for you
2.) TREAT A WOMAN HOW YOU WANT TO BE TREATED- dont listen to all the guys who say all this shit about not making yourself accessible to them cause if they so want you then they want you there when they need you and if your not then they wont feel like your worth anything
3.)IT TAKES TIME- dont go looking for a girl that’s just gonna fall into your arms and want to stay there forever it will take time and will not be easy but if you work at it it should pay off
4.) DONT CHANGE- if you get screwed over by are girl as we all have dont let it change who you are thats letting them take control of your life and not givin the next girl the chance to see you for you
5.)TAKE A CHANCE- many of these post are about guys who havent even tried to be with the girl they want so bad why you have nothing to loose when you have everthing to gain the worst that can happen is it not work out and when that happens hold your head high knowing that you tried if you dont take that chance you will always wonder what if…
6.)STAY TRUE TO YOU- know what you want dont settle for less if you like a girl and she doesnt want a relationship and you do dont settle for the on the side kind of guy if you dont mind that then your not ready for true love
7.)NEVER LOOSE HOPE- its not going to be like picking out a dog and it staying with you forever girls will come and go throughout life and it will never change but if you get a girl/ or for you older gents woman that does want you then she will stay till the end
( so in closing keep your head up when you hit that brick wall look how you can get past it never downgrade or limit yourself to a certin type of woman then you will never succeed it finding the right one)
also i would like to add that i do hope that girl in my story is the ONE because it would be a hella lot easier then searching for another girl who doesnt care cus shes not even with me and shows she cares and thats a chick who is gonna be down to the end just hopefully i get mah chance
Wow !!!! DUDE…. that was one heck of an essay…. almost 1 – Congradulations. I’m gonna put a bet that ur never gonna get this girl at the r8 ur goin at. She’s gonna want to be friends wit u 4ever coz “ur too precious to lose”. The stuff u got up there in your essay is what u do when u wanna get Married NOT when u want a teenage luv buddy. U gotta understand that this girl is goin 2 leav u if u don’t press the ryt buttons. Ryt now, ur virtually her girlfriend who she abides in. If u plan on hookin up with this girl put simply…. FLIRT, FLATTER & TEASE. This will change your status with her from bieng her girlfriend to the guy she really wants. Its all good up there in your essay but its not gonna get u the girl & trust me, I know, i’ve bin in the same situation b4. Don’t over do the FFT but hint enough so that she can’t stop thinkin bout u. Don’t give ehr all the attention in the world… that way, she’ll only want more & so u slowly reel her in. Its like fishing, FLIRT…. cast ur rod and let her bite (Don’t over do it & don’t be the person who starts it always. When she bites FLATTER (u’ll know when she bites), TEASE…. she’s yours for the taking & don’t screw it up FFT excessively.
the true secret in the tease is to give her a little and then take it away
-this technique is called give and take
in order to properly tease a girl you have to be just out of her reach, yet still barely tangible, therefore you have to tease her by flirting, and seeming interested, but just as soon afterword when she thinks she has control, whip it away and either distance yourself physically or mentally for a short period and appear more interested in something else (preferably a person) —you have to make her miss you
then bring back the interest, and take it away again, just repeat this process
you can increase the relationship level by adding more physical gives, (or more emotional ones) this way you can get more out of her and she will feel like she is making progress while you still retain the same takes that drive her mad for you
***remember this technique applies to all degrees of contact, from texting, to actually being on a date, to being married and in a relationship
this technique has worked wonders for me and i have seen it used in all ages, as giving makes you seem like a nice guy, and taking makes you attractive, wanted, and makes her up her level
Some examples of gives
-compliments
-physical touch
-interest in them
-keeping in contact
Some examples of takes
-keeping physical distance
-talking to someone else
-not texting/calling/emailing back for a little longer than usual
-not as interested
(remember never make takes and gives revolve around physical things like presents/money)
“give her everything except for control over you”
Well im almost 18 too and i just love to party, lifes miserable when ur “searching” for chicks, let em come to you, just do anything you normally would and see what i mean, unless ur butt ass ugly than love isnt for you.
Me and this girl hit it off awhile back but both thought it would be better to not talk … its been a couple months now … whats the best thing to say to get her attention again? via text. or phone call?
perfect suggestion from sawyer crosby. try it
Hi gentlemen,
all i can say is wow the majority of you have it wrong!! look you want to attract women right? be it a fling or the one it’s really simple. Don’t play mind games because we will think you are a jerk! all you have to do is connect emotionally and the easiest way to do that is to show a gal you actually give a damn! now on the whole bar scene the best way to approach a woman is to do it casually! don’t be creepy and give some space! here’s the scene…you see a pretty girl and shes sitting with a girl friend at the bar casually walk up next to her like your waiting to order a drink. she will look next to her! introduce yourself when she looks at you and if she has a drink other than a beer ask what it is out of curiosity and when she tells you ask would you like another? whatever the response say ok. if she takes it order the drink and one for your self and casually say it was nice meeting you(name) and walk away i assure you that you will have a conversation with her later when you cross paths again that night it’s like insurance.as for the whole wondering if you should text her good night! go for it nothing makes our heart flutter more then when you think about us WE LOVE IT! Don’t play hard to get that only works on the crazy people I.E obsessive stalkers. in other words be available but not over attentive you guys hate when we start acting clingy so don’t do it!
I have a lot of trouble with this girl. We have been ‘on and off’ for two years. Im really into her, maybe too much so. We both have incredible times together, its amazing never ever bad. But whenever we get really close and have a good stretch of time together she breaks it off somehow. Just gives me the cold shoulder and acts all off, breaking phone calls off and so on. I always suggest that we meet up for example take her for a walk in her village, go for a meal, go on the boat, come over and play video games because she loves them. But most of the time NO im busy. I have girl friends who i can see more easily than i can see her. We both have said to each other that even if we broke up there is no one in our school we would rather be with. So whats going on? how can she love be and be so unsure?
Well I would have to said that i am one of the biggest wimps all time with girls. And there is this girl that I really like, but she is dating one of my best friends. So I know that I cant get with her right now, but I dont know how long I can hold my feeling in for her. And I dont know if she feels the same way about me, as I feel about her. She always says stuff to me like, I want to grab your cheeks and how she wishes her kids looked like me and stuff like that. I just dont know what to do some please give me some advice on if she just likes me or not. Or if I should ask her to more than in the furture. Please help me.
@Ben well ben it sounds like a similar situation i was in, sit her down and tell her your feelings but also let her know your not trying to mess up any friendships, if she really likes you you’ll know it!
hey guys im gonna talk from my multi personal experiences
i think the harder u try to win a girls heart the harder youll fail the more u ignore her the more shell try to get ur attention hey guys outthere dont try to be someone ur not dont try to act to impress the girl just be who u r no matter who u r and dont give her ur full attention try to make her feel that shes not ur prirority
and shell fell for u like 123
Your all thinking way to much. And that’s why it’s so hard. Chicks are easy, you just gotta know how to read them. And say things you know will have her respond in a good way
Hey, guys. I was looking through some of these comments, and I have to say, ignoring a girl never works. You don’t want to seem to desperate and clingy, of course, but you also want to let them know that you care. I find that being a gentleman works just fine, and they’ll start depending and wanting you. I’ll do simple things like holding open a door for them, pulling out their chair, helping them into a coat, carrying their books and bags, stuff like that. Women love gentlemen, and in return for that little manly care, they’ll start feeling more toward you. I acted like that to my last girlfriend, and she would start wanting to hang out with me more, and would start caring about me.
Yeah @daniel you have a point ive been trying to tell them to just be thereselves and do what you normally would. An guys always smile when you feel its need too cuz if you have a cute smile theyll love it.
honestly if u want to a girl to like you i say hit the damn gym, people complain that it takes a long time to get the results you want but honestly arent the rewards of it worth your time?? i bet all of you like a girl who is cute,hott,skinny,tan,etc. what do u think a girl wants in a guy?? the same exact thing, and if you have the personality to go along with it, you will have any damn girl you want. Seriously its not rocket science- get the body and you will get the girl!!!