How to make a girl want you
It seems that the biggest problem guys encounter is how to make a girl want you. The mentality of most guys is that only men like women initially… and somehow you have to convince them to like you in return. This fallacy has propelled men into trying to ‘win over’ women, as seen in so many Hollywood movies.
Unfortunately, this isn’t the rule, but rather the exception.
The general rule is that women are attracted as much as men to new people they meet throughout their lives. Its just that most women are used to being approached, so they won’t be as pro-active about talking to a guy they like. For men, its a different story.
They are used to being ignored by women, and that further propels the myth that women aren’t attracted to men. So with that frame of mind, they approach and converse with women with the “I need to make her like me” mindset. This is awful !
There is nothing worse than a person that is “Trying to make you like him!”
The first rule to getting someone to like you is to be at LEAST their equal in terms of status. A healthy relationship has both partners doing things for each other. One partner might work while the other raises the kids, one might cook and the other might build the deck and so on.
However, this is often taken out of context. If you’re at a bar, and a girl asks you to buy her a drink. She’s testing you to see if you’ll do as she bids. Why WOULD you buy her a drink ? The only context that this might be socially acceptable would be if the guy proposed: “hey, let’s get some drinks and then he casually bought hers.” By the way, if ever in doubt if you should pay or not when ordering something together… then pay.
The second rule of getting a girl to want you is to tease her! Teasing done right is flirting. If you’ve ever seen a cat jump viciously at a ball of string dangling from a height, then you’ll know how teasing works. It’s playful, fun, challenging and very addictive at the same time. Now some of you might not know how to tease properly, so I’d recommend you learn immediately. The best way being by reading the book Double Your Dating by David Deangelo, he describe exactly how to tease girls properly in a way that will build massive attraction.
If you want to learn how to make a girl want you, look at how women make guys want them. They dress up in attractive clothing, move in sensual ways, ignore guys, allude to your imagination and act aloof. Attraction is subtle, and girls seem to master the art. My best advice would be to befriend an attractive girl and pay attention to what attracts you to her.
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“befriend an attractive girl” – great idea – any tips on doing that??
Comment by Tom — April 17, 2009 @ 1:09 am
I did. It was so easy and ‘im not even good looking i’m overweight. she liked smoking and I always had smokes so i’d always kind of manipulate her into spending time with me by asking her to roll me blunts because i couldn’t and she knew i couldn’t. So as time went on we became BEST friends. Like she would call me every day and shes all i hanged out with for like a year. Now, everyone hates her who i want to party with so i don’t really hang out with her any more and she now has a boyfriend.
so yeah its really not that hard.
Comment by Dave — May 12, 2009 @ 12:14 am
Okay if u see a pretty girl give her a nice compliment like on her hair or nails or clothing etc …they will think that you aren’t all about sleeping with her and what not try it see how it works out for u
Comment by zach — June 2, 2009 @ 3:04 pm
One thing I have learned is that when you want a girlfriend too much, you are bound to fail.
Ever since I told myself “focus on other things”, girls didn’t matter, and I just basically ignored them.
It helps to work or go to school because it’s a very social place and it’s not awkward because you both are on the same level, so she really can’t think she’s better then you. (kind of like it states above)
It also has a lot to do with your personality, and how confident you are. Girls don’t like guys who are shy, scared, nervous, or caring of what people think of them, or more so if people are looking at them.
Basically work on bettering yourself, girls shouldn’t be a priority.
Comment by graham — June 11, 2009 @ 9:53 pm
So yeah i met up with a girl i used to give a ride to school every day and she’s like my dream girl… Problem is that she just came out of a bad relationship and has many guys after her…we have pretty much spent the last 5 days together and i’m going crazy… How do i know or get her feeling the same way??????
Comment by jade — July 24, 2009 @ 9:05 pm
Hello everyone,
I keep having trouble on trying to keep a wonderful girl to be interested in me. We txt each other more than just talking on the phone. One day I decided to call her, but I got so nervous. I could’t speak well and I started to stutter a lot. Sometimes I don’t know what to say, cause I think I will say something wrong. I’m afraid that she might reject me, cause of the way I am or live. If anyone could give me some advice, I would appreciated.
Comment by Noe Arroyo — August 11, 2009 @ 6:40 pm
you guys need to stop being suckers for girls, think of the girl like she should be lucky to have your time, once she sees notices that you have other priorities and you seem like your at the top, she will want to be with you, you don’t even have to win her over… she will just want to be with you because you don’t give her attention and she want to get your attention, and once you end up giving her your full attention she will get bored n leave you…. its the circle, so know what? Don’t be a sucker, and always tease her, flirt, keep her interested, but have one hand pushing her back along the way, and never give her your full attention and put her before other things.
Comment by john — August 23, 2009 @ 5:59 pm
“Basically work on bettering yourself, girls shouldn’t be a priority.”
I like that graham well said
DanJo
Comment by DanJo — September 1, 2009 @ 3:56 pm
my girlfriend out of no where decided she couldn’t be in a relationship with me no longer, from being scared, cold feet, to wanting to be alone maybe date other guys to this is how I am, to no longer having feelings for me, after only 2.5 months of dating…i admit things were intense yet we were apparently on the same page with want we wanted out the relationship, we knew each other back a long time, never talking though, hooked up 20 years later, what could of happened? her excuses don’t make any sense…
Comment by santiago — September 2, 2009 @ 12:09 pm
Damn … this I’m gonna try this out to a girl I’m in love with like crazy.
Comment by Chucky — September 11, 2009 @ 7:40 pm
I need some advice from you guys. I’m nervous when I’m dating a girl, so, what to think and what to say when I’m dating?
Comment by Smoke — September 15, 2009 @ 4:09 pm
Ok I need some advice there is this girl I like at work. Whenever we go for happy hours in groups with people at work she gives me all the attention like we are in our own world. Also she had came with a few times to get coffee and dinner and we talk for hours. Also after work we will talk for hours sometimes in the parking garage. I know she is very shy but at work she ignores me act like I don’t exist. For example if we hangout on the weekend, then on monday she will try to keep her distance like she barely knows me. What is going on???
Comment by James Tike — September 15, 2009 @ 9:40 pm
sad but i think you might be right john. props to you. no props to life. silly thing. how much time we spend trying to “win” something so meaningless. better yourself. better your mind.
Comment by gumby — October 7, 2009 @ 3:50 am
Women should never be the priority, it’s a sign of weakness really. You go out, you go out to have a good time. You go to the gym to feel good and you buy clothes that you like and make you feel good. If you get girls, it’s a bonus. Last year i got too serious about one girl and it turned into a disaster!
Comment by Sal — October 26, 2009 @ 4:31 am
@James Tike , i am having the same situation as you as well . The one i liked alot always get intimate with me everytime we are alone , like we talk and cuddles , we are very close when we are together alone . But during school hours , she ignores me quite alot and talk to other guy instead ! I’ve confessed to her that i like her but she didn’t do so , and lately she told me that i hurt her ego , so she wanted me to ignore her for three days before we get to talk to each other again . I felt very intensely depressed because of this and i can’t seem to focus on my examination and studies ! I prayed to God hoping that thing that i’m so afraid of won’t happen to me . And now i realize that what i should do is to be the best of me and change myself to be the better so that i can provide and be a better man that she deserves . One thing is for sure , this road i choose is going to be a very very tough one , wish me luck guys ! Best of luck to all of you that have the one and only you’ve feel in love too ! =)
Comment by Just A Kid — October 28, 2009 @ 6:01 am