How to make a girl fall in love with you
The thought of learning how to make a girl fall in love with you is a disturbing one. Love is a huge emotion that can radically and completely dictate someone’s life. If it was possible to perform a few magical steps in order to make someone fall in love with you, we would live in a harsh world of broken hearts. Uh oh… don’t we already?
You cannot make anyone do anything and you certainly cannot make anyone love you. The more you try to make someone love you, the less they will. Its kind of a catch-22 in that way but fortunately there are two aspects you can concentrate on to help you along the way.
What do you love in life? Usually its the things that make you happy and the things that we attribute the most value to. Keeping in mind these two aspects of human nature, we can therefore conclude that in order for someone to love us, we must make them happy and we must be valuable to them.
Let’s work on making them happy first, its really simple and is overlooked by most people. The simple rule to making someone happy is to be happy yourself. Being happy is contagious and people in your presence will automatically feel similar to you. If you’re happy about life, then the people around you will want to have you around them as well. If you’re always down, depressed or angry, then you are making yourself very hard to love.
Example #1: Think of someone that you love or loved. Imagine them in your mind until you can see a picture of their face. In this picture, are they happy or sad ? Its very likely that in the mental picture that you have, they are smiling or happy. If it worked for you, then it should also work for others.
The concept when pondering about how to make a girl fall in love with you is value. The things you love the most consequently have a lot of value. Can you really fall in love with something that has no value? Things that are replaceable, or are easily attainable have little value in our lives. So make yourself valuable and people will love you. Being valuable isn’t as hard as people think.
The concept of value is relative, in an organization, the most valuable person is the boss even if in another situation, he could be completely insignificant. This is why so many secretaries are attracted to their boss. He has the most value. Let’s take this concept and apply it in practical situations.
Example #2, If you’re in school, then the most valuable person will be the person that is most respected by his peers. This can be the football star among cheerleaders, or the smart guy who gets the best grades. He can also be the guy who makes the girls laugh the most, or the guy that has the best house parties that everyone wants to attend.
In a work environment, the most valuable person can once again, be the social funny guy that everyone wants to hang out with, or the boss, or the sharp guy that the boss respects the most.
But… what if the girl I like doesn’t know about these social situations ? Well then… Tell her about your day! Although not as efficient, just telling her about your daily interactions (in a non-gloating way) can be an effective way of communicating your value.
The Double Your Dating book explains in detail exactly how to be perceived as the most valuable person while building massive attraction.
In the end, the concept of learning how to make a girl fall in love with you is a flawed one because as soon as you try to make someone love you, they won’t. So instead, concentrate on being happy and valuable, the rest will come naturally.
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good points
Comment by tendai — November 19, 2007 @ 12:50 am
i am falling in love of a girl. But don’t understand how give offer her and what she like.please help me to do my job.
Comment by sushanto — February 23, 2008 @ 6:36 am
i love this girl but she likes this other guy and she hates me. she be cursing at me and stuff. but we hardly talk.
Comment by saduglyboy — February 26, 2008 @ 8:38 pm
i need help i am ugly with lots of pimple and a scar. i am so poor i dress ugly. i suck. i get bullied. please help me get this girl
Comment by saduglyboy — February 26, 2008 @ 8:41 pm
It´s a good comentary, I´m gonna use these advices, hope they work. thanks.
Comment by Erik — April 14, 2008 @ 6:19 am
I dont agree with you at all. My girl says that she is happy with me, she wants me to be with me, she wants to marry me but she is not attracted to me and doesnt love me. Further to your discussion, she always feels like a queen when i am around too.
so why does she says that she doesnt love me or is not attracted to me????
Comment by Umair — April 26, 2008 @ 8:04 am
For every one here who think that he’s ugly and that’s why he don’t get the girls… stop right there !!! From what I know, girls dont see the same things as we see… Let me explain with my bad English. The only thing that girl see in a man it is self-esteem, if it’s too low, well guess what , girls wont get attracted to you. Sure they will feel good with you cause their self-esteem is higher than yours… but they will only be friend, most of the time pretty good friend, even become your best friend.It could be nice but it’s not what you want, doesnt?First: Stop judging yourself or complain about the way you talk,walk,look, build your self-esteem…Love you as you are. If you cant love yourself how do you think you gonna make feel the love to someone else.Second: please don’t be scared to make a move.Hug her often,not too much cause they will think your gay… lol just kidding. Hold her in your arms to make her feel that you can provide to her security… I was suffering from very low self-esteem before and guess what… never had a girl friend. But now, girls are the one who makes me compliment, instead of me. they want me, they fight for me!!! But common guys don’t turn out and be a completely ass hole like every other guys who gets the girls. Stay nice to girls, compliment them but not too much, make her happy,listen to her for better communication, make all of this naturally.This will be your secret arsenal that other guys don’t have :)Don’t forced yourself to say or do things that you don’t want or feel(this is very important)…Don’t cry in front of a girl you want. She will think your not strong enough emotionally to give her what she needs the most security, stability etc.
Comment by John — May 7, 2008 @ 11:34 pm
saduglyboy: Read the post. It’s not all about looks.
Umair: Because you’re a doormat :>
I strongly suggest you read the double your dating book as suggested in this article.
Best of luck.
Comment by Matt — May 8, 2008 @ 8:54 am
i am rlly inlove with a girl but the other dat sge broke up with me and hopefully this is a good way to win her back
:D 
Comment by nathan garner — June 1, 2008 @ 8:36 am
Some people told this girl i like her. Then the next week she hates me, but we still have eye contact with each other. What should I say if we dont even talk any more
Comment by ........ — June 3, 2008 @ 10:37 pm
Have you the courage to ask her out? Women want their men without fear. Only then can you know the answer you seek; ask her.
Comment by Socrates — June 4, 2008 @ 7:51 pm
Let me try your valuble tips on my lover who hates me a lot when i love her more.
Comment by AJITH — June 5, 2008 @ 1:28 am
what if you ask her to go out and she always has an excuse…she donsn’t feel like it…or whatever..but the point is after several attempts she does not go out with you.
Comment by marcos — June 6, 2008 @ 8:40 pm
Marcos:
If you ask her out and she always has an excuse, it’s likely she doesn’t want to go out with you.
That usually means that you didn’t build enough attraction initially. I’d read up on more specifically on creating chemistry, flirting and building attraction.
Comment by Chris Calo — June 6, 2008 @ 10:09 pm
4 years ago a beautiful girl asked me out..we were goin great about 9 months on we broke up and from then on we were off and on constantly. i tried everythin but we always fought so one day i found the perfect opportunity to say i love and she said it back. few months on we crashed and burned again. and nothin happened between us for ages. until now..i want her back again we’ve been talkin for last few days..and secretly meetin up to talk bout old times..but she has a boyfriend and they’ve been together for 7 months now and she says she likes him but we text like everyday..what can i say to her for her to be mine once more?
Comment by kyle — June 10, 2008 @ 5:54 pm
i think,the best way of making a girl to love someone,is for the guy to love the way he is and have the boldness to confront sure girl.
Comment by albert — June 14, 2008 @ 3:58 pm
right i am falling for a girl and until last weekend everything was going great we live bowt 50 miles apart i work alot and only c each other a few times a week! but we txt all the time and wen we are together its amazing but she occasionally meets a guy she has had relations with for the past year or so and sometimes the hook up but she sais she is falling for me but cant make a commitment due to this guy ! can u help me out this one ?
Comment by westy — June 17, 2008 @ 3:22 am
i have a problem of the interesting nature. As it happens, i’ve been with a girl of my dreams for one year and 11 months. for the first couple of months, she has been the one that kept our relationship alive, and after that, she was, and still is the women of my life. but, in the past several weeks, it seems her love for me is fading. I love her with all my heart, and i tell her that, but she can’t seem to tell me that she loves me. I need help to keep her with me
Comment by Filip — June 19, 2008 @ 3:32 am
My girl says that she is happy with me, she wants me to be with me, she wants to marry me but she is not attracted to me and doesnt love me. Further to your discussion, she always feels like a queen when i am around too but she is not in love with me WTF (i know its frustrating).
if she is not in love with me or not attracted to me so then why does she wants to marry me????
Comment by Umair — June 24, 2008 @ 10:31 pm
Filip,
i have the same problem although my girl never said that she loves me from the start
Comment by Umair — June 24, 2008 @ 10:36 pm
I’ve liked this girl for awhile now and she started to like me too we flirted and talk from when i woke up till like 2am and even sometimes 5am but then she started coming up with excusses and said “everything reminded her of her ex” now a days we just talk like friends i do love her as a freind but sometimes i just don’t know what to do becuase i still do like her a little and she is back with her ex so i dont want to get in the way of them and get her to like me. help plz?
Comment by john — June 25, 2008 @ 8:28 am
i need help i am not ugly but i have lots of pimple. what should i do?
Comment by john — June 28, 2008 @ 11:32 pm
i love a girl and i asked her that she will marry me. she stop to talk with me and don’t told me any appropreat answer only say that her marrege almost confirm so itis imposible.
tell me what she think about me.
Comment by Harry — June 29, 2008 @ 2:12 am
i love a girl but she says she likes me as a friend.we have been friends for a year now.but she sometimes says she needs me in her life.she also says i should make her fall in love with me.please help me out.
Comment by Snitch — June 30, 2008 @ 1:27 am
I met this girl back in late 2006 and we became friends, went out, and then fell for each other. We dated on and off for about a year, and we were best friends. Now she’s moved on, but I can’t stop thinking about her. I want to be with her again, though it will never happen, we’ve talked about it. I dont know what to do anymore… any suggestions?
Comment by Jonny Fry — July 2, 2008 @ 12:35 am
I proposed a girl 5 months ago..but she refuses that time…but still we are talking to each other but I felt now shez in love with me but Shes not proposing it..May I know the way how to make her proposed??
Comment by George — July 2, 2008 @ 1:05 pm
if you ask about my life ,…..I will say…. I am bored..
Ya totally bored.
No one is their to have a talk with me. No one that is a girl to have some relationship,..at least to get part time(flirt) or for full time. Secondly i feel nervous to have talk with a girl.
please help me so that a girl come to me and propose me ( i.e,for flirt or full time)has i won’t be able to go first attempt to them.
wherever i go i never seen a girl having at least a look on me.
I have a good posture, pale color,fine looking, have an average height, nice communication in English a bit. still all these i have, but not a single glance from girls.
what should i do? Can u help me out from this. if u then please help me.
Comment by robin — July 4, 2008 @ 8:39 am
there’s this girl i really like but she doesnt like me back. she said so herself. now i feel as if i havent got a chance with her at all and its getting me down.
Comment by kieran — July 4, 2008 @ 2:13 pm
1.5 years before there was a relation between me and Swarna.may be it was friendship. on proposing her i did little bit foolish task. But i love her more than i can say. Still now i love her. my every breath feel her. But now she loves another guy. i cant forget her. i cant concentrate another girl. what can i do now?
Comment by Himel — July 10, 2008 @ 2:52 am
i love this girl, she’s in my maths class i sit opposite her. im in year 8 in london. i love her after five years of friendship but i dont know how to tell her that i love her. Why cant she say i like you mahfuz. If she is reading, Fahmida, please keep it to yourself, but remember.
Comment by mahfuz — July 12, 2008 @ 1:12 pm
I love one girl but many times i tell her that i love her too much i can’t live without her love. so how can she love me please help me with what i can i do then she love me .
Comment by Ramakant — July 13, 2008 @ 1:14 am
i have been in love with this girl for 2 years… i ask her before whether would we have a chance together anot.. she says no.. then after tht i still contact her and chat on the msn…. she has a boy friend now but her attitudes towards me is way different from last time ( in a good way). She even ask me whether i wanted to go out with her anot, but in the end she didnt want to go with me as i thought maybe she has a boyfriend and does not want to be seen wit me and her outside since she has a boyfriend. I really love her and i really want her. I have tried to have others girls but even though the other girls were better looking, i still love my old lover. What should i do?
DO U HAVE TO ANSWER?
REGARDS.
Comment by sahar — July 14, 2008 @ 11:42 am
so i like this girl, she’s my best friend, and idk i think she likes me but im not positive. everyone we see thinks we go out wen we don’t, idk what to do, plz help me out.
Comment by scarz — July 15, 2008 @ 5:07 pm
i dont know if any girls have posted here, but i will try to answer questions.
first of all, girls really dont care about looks! they just look at the inside, which will show on the outside. if a guy has high self-esteem, he will be more outgoing and smile more. if he cares about taking care of himself (and others), he will be clean and wear nice things because he cares about his image. if you dont like something about yourself, change it! what else can i say?
secondly, it’s easy to get a girl to fall for you. honestly. words alone will do it. i know i probably shouldnt say it, but if you want the right girl and be sure she will be with you a looooong time, just be real! girls love words, but they love it even more if they are backed up b y action. the more you SHOW her that you love her, the more she will love you.
it’s up to you guys to keep the limits. if you dont, things will move too fast and she will probably end up breaking up with you.
i will give you an anecdote. my exes went out with me and they thought i was amazing, but i knew they weren’t good engough for me. i shouldnt have gone far with them because i knew that we were going to break up, but i let myself go. a tip… girls will make compromises, but in the end, they will do what is right probably or will be very unhappy or will cheat on you with another guy who sweet talks her. just be honest. ask her what she really really thinks. if she doesnt think that you guys will end up together, dont force it. by not forcing antyhing and by giving each other space, that could either increase the bond between you two or increase the friendship and the amount of respect you will have in your life.
anyways, i cant think anymore… too much to say!
i hope this helped. just BE YOURSELF and ASK QUESTIONS!!! this is very important.
Comment by normalgirl — July 16, 2008 @ 12:08 pm
i love this girl since 2003, and each year i ask her to be mine but than she just make me feel good,she never treat me bad.she never say yes to me but than we kissed two times this year. she promise me that next year we will start dating. do u think she loves me,but me i love her with all my heart.
Comment by johnny — July 22, 2008 @ 5:35 am
I dated a hotttttttttt girl, but I made mistake by asking her to do me a bj on the 3rd date! ahh, she never talked to me anymore!
Comment by Peter Pan — July 22, 2008 @ 10:08 am
like me i have been so scared of girls during ma high schhol dayz but now i am in a univesity i decided to wake up and be on the look out.so what i have come to know is that girls are so simple they only go for any face be it black or white,they dont judge the book by its cover.so please i tell yu know to be not afraid of girls remember they are the gift from God.
Comment by vaino — July 23, 2008 @ 7:34 am
Hi guys ..
I like a girl and i know that i love her too . Lastnight i told her that i like her , she told me ” We r friends and i want to keep it like that and please dont let that change and u r like my brother , so please just forget this thing and lets keep it like that please ”
So i just say ” Ok ,and we will be friend and nothing gona change ”
Note : she’s 2 years older than me and i know her for 2 month and we knew each other from a gruop in my cuzn college and we r in the same group , We hanging out with the gruop evrey Sunday …
i asked some of my friends and they told me some stuff , But i want to hear it from the other ppl in other countrys ..
So please just tell me what do u see right to do ..
Comment by Haven — July 24, 2008 @ 9:09 pm
I got this girl that i grew up with and we have been friends forever. once we slept together she changed totally. now she calls me all the time always at my door and its like i don’t know who she is now. is that love or pre-stalking action?
Comment by dollarbill — July 25, 2008 @ 1:18 am
johnny (and others), to be honest, i think that a relationship will never last a whole lifetime unless there is an admiration of the person from BOTH people. both of you have to think the other person is the most amazing person in the world. if it isnt like that, the one who doesnt think the other is the best for them, they are more likely to leave (maybe not even hurt) and you be hurt. from my experience, if you are the best for someone, there is someone out there that would feel the same about you. everyone is unique and its just waiting for the person to come your way. make a move! get to know someone! but quit holding on to a hope that may never be satisfied. just move on and you will find someone better (if you are trying to become better yourself… you have to do some work too!).
Comment by normalgirl — July 25, 2008 @ 6:42 am
PeterPan… i have advice for you. i have had to tell this to ALL guys i know. they’ve ALL done it. NEVER NEVER NEVER ask for a bj or any other ‘favors’ of the sort. if a girl really likes you, she will willingly do it. probably well, too. its a really big turn-off, and i mean really really big, to ask a girl to satisfy you physically. we feel like we are a slave or something like that. just let things flow. maybe you can ask someone that you pay to do those things, but never ask a girl you actually like.
Comment by normalgirl — July 25, 2008 @ 6:45 am
Hey, I need an answer guys, please answer me!! here I go,
I met this girl 3-4 years ago when i was just a kid, like 14, she was 16-17 and obviously she couldnt go out with me becuase i was too young, and she only thinks of me as her little brother.
we have been best friends and I told her last year when I was 16 how i felt about her, that i think i really fancy her and want something to happen between us, she said she would rather we be friends, so I took it like that and still am her best friend, now I am 17 and she tells me that on the night of my prom, she wants to have my ‘virginity’ and have sex with me, but still only be best friends and that her boyfriend must never know, this is the first time that she has did anything like this, and i am thinking it is becuase i am now older and more mature, she is 21, she has a boyfriend and they are together a long time, she often tells me that her mother thinks one day we will end up together and laughs with me about it, she kisses me on the lips but only when no one is around.
Tell me people please, is she only doing this is a one-ff, or do you think once I have sex with her, she will like me even more, and want more from me than friendship?
but there is always a doubt if she loves me like i love her, as if she loved me like i love her, she would already be with me,
Please please comment for me
Comment by Youngerguy — July 27, 2008 @ 3:48 pm
ILOVE TO A GIRL.BUT I CAN NOT SAY TO HIM.IT IS A ONE SIDE LOVE.ALSO SHE IS MY RELEATIVE.PLS HELP ME AND GIVE ME A SUGGATION.
Comment by DEBENDRA KUNAR BEHERA — July 28, 2008 @ 4:30 am
honestly, i always see it the other way around. i know guys that only want physical things but then just want to be friends and no more. i have heard, though, that there are some girls that are like that. in my opinion, she’s just using you and taking advantage of the fact that you are (probablY) always there to listen to her and fulfill her ‘attention’ needs. it’s hard to hear, but some people just REALLy dont see the value in others. you may be an amazing person, but if she doesnt realize it, find people who do! its not worth getting into. BELIEVE ME, if it is not good the way it is now, there IS something better somewhere else, believe it or not.
anyways, that is my advice. it’s hard to break a friendship, but it’s rewarding to get rid of the wasteful stuff in your life to leave room for more quality things. things that will help you.
Comment by normalgirl — July 28, 2008 @ 7:42 am
really its a very good thing that u r doing helping to other
i aslo have fallen in love woth someone who is very specail to me
but what shoul i do i can’t understan…
Comment by haaraan — July 29, 2008 @ 8:59 am
in the case of when you have fallen in love with a girl that you barely talk to: if you’re not, sorry the expression, ‘man’ enough to go ask her out or to go talk to her, what makes you think you will be able to take care of her when you can’t even go talk to her and tell her how you feel?
in the case of when it’s a friend: things do not change when you go from friendship to relationship unless it’s good change. dont expect miracles. relationshpis are work. if she causes you pain already, imagine the pain caused later (example… she will go out with you because of pity, so you’ll be happy at first, but as soon as she finds something she finds amazing, she will leave you hurt even more). if she isnt excited about you now, she probably never will be. the change has to be YOU for YOURSELF and not for others. others will always let you down.
anwyays, hope this helps.
Comment by normalgirl — July 30, 2008 @ 12:32 pm
Okay, I was involved with a play over the summer, and, obviously, I met this girl. It was only for about 5-6 weeks, but we’ve become reasonably good friends. However, now the play is over and I don’t really have any way of seeing her again. She definitely enjoys my company, but I don’t know how to ask her out. It just feels awkward to ask via email or through some other online means. What should I do?
Comment by Nyath — July 31, 2008 @ 10:57 pm
there is no way to see her? if there is absolutely no way to see her again, then online is fine. just say something like ‘i enjoyed talking to you during the play. would you like to have coffee some time?’. if there are no other means of communicating, use what is best. she will understand.
Comment by normalgirl — August 4, 2008 @ 6:23 am
thanks for the advise normalgirl. I know this is a random question, but do you think a sexual relationship (one time) can change things between best friends and make them want more (boy friend and girl friend) even if the Girl is already taken?
And also, sometimes i feel that she will only want sex from me at my prom as ‘pitysex’ to make me ‘prepared’ for life, and not actually her wanting and being attracted to me. what do you think?
Comment by Youngerguy — August 5, 2008 @ 11:31 am
i am in love with this girl for the past 3 years and we have not kiss for once.she calle her self my girl friend but there is no prof for that.what can i do i really love this girl.help me please
Comment by willy — August 6, 2008 @ 3:08 am
youngerguy, yes yes and yes! one-time things change things. but it doesnt necessarily mean that someone loves that person. i had a guy friend and i NEVER saw him as more than a friend, but then we suddenly ended up alone for a couple hours so our bodies were reacting normally. i fought it, but it is human to be attracted to someone and to want to satisfy our physical desires. i am not saying it is right to fulfil those desires, but it is normal.
also, when things happen all of a sudden, many other thoughts go out the window (such as you already being in a relationship or married or etc). the body’s sensors are very strong. but it is more fulfilling to let those desires be satisfied with someone who feels the same way about you than you do about them. sex is good with probably anyeone, but just think of the consequences and why you are doing it. i know this is my beliefs, but it makes sense: if you want the best experience with the best state of mind and security and happiness, it is honestly better to wait til marriage. i have learned that the hard way. its like having things on a scale of 100. some things may be 50 but its not 100. its still getting some, but its not 100. its not the best. it takes work for it to be high. work on your part and work on the other’s part.
anyways, sorry this is long, but i hope this helps.
Comment by normalgirl — August 7, 2008 @ 1:52 pm
willy, if both of you feel the same way about each other, it probably will work if you’re both in it 100%. if there are any doubts, it’s better to straighten them out, and if they can’t be fixed, move on. find something better. no one deserves someone who is not equal to them, whether better or worse. see comment 46
Comment by normalgirl — August 7, 2008 @ 1:54 pm
good
Comment by teris — August 10, 2008 @ 3:58 pm
so i think i am falling for a girl at work and i dont know how to tell her what should i do.
Comment by awesomedude — August 13, 2008 @ 7:24 pm
also she is a good christian girl and would not go for anything that isn’t morely right
Comment by awesomedude — August 13, 2008 @ 8:28 pm
normalgirl,
I have known this girl as an aquaintance off and on since grade 12 (its been like a year a bit now since highschool). Now i see her more because i live with her friend. I have become kinda friends with her, like shes come over to hang with my friend and my friend hasnt been here we would small talk it up for a while. And one time when we were both on E with a bunch of friends people needed stuff from my house, so me and her walked up and were like talking for 2 hours…..but this was all when she was in a really wierd open relationship with her boyfriend who i know as well as her and is a good guy….btw sorry this is long, i hope u resond. Anyways, after that night i talked to her for 2 hours i realized i like her a little, and since then im gotten to know her a little more, just cause shes over and hangs with me and my roommates…but yeah, she just moved out of her boyfriends house and is single. I dont wanna like, let her know i like her and have it be akward if she doesnt feel the same way..and then shed prob. tell my roommate and its be one more akward situation. If this hekps with your desion on advice, me and her bf look allike, i dunno, same kinda long hair. and she has said a few time she liked my hair, and a few times she like my tshirt, and then later that night my jacket…..but when she says these things it seems like casual, cause shes nice like that with allot of people…. PLEASE RESPOND, im starting to really like her and dont want to become to much of a friend. thanks normalgirl
Comment by lovablemister — August 16, 2008 @ 4:04 am
Hello
my name is mosed and i have 21 years old i been with one girl on relationship but she die after 3 month when we start dating when that happen i was 14(but iam still virgan)
i loved her so much more than any body and i still in love with her
alot of girl i dont know they told me that you look sexy or cute , there some girl ask me to sleep with them but i always remember my old girl friend and then i dont feel that i wanna make sexual relationship with any girl unless my old love (some girls though me gay)((i just wanna know is i am normal ??))
Thanks for any advice
Comment by Mo — August 19, 2008 @ 10:20 am
i am madly in love with a girl. and she loved me for a while but i guess it fadded away. we are friends and im still in love with her and cant get her out of my head. but anyway she is starting to like this other dude and i cant stand it. what can i do to win her back?
Comment by Troy — August 20, 2008 @ 6:34 pm
i got a girl
Comment by dj — August 26, 2008 @ 4:09 pm
lovablemister
You have to communicate! Everything you are feeling or else things will get bad, whether for her, you, or both. Talk to each other about communicating. When she says or does things, talk about it. There are no “complicated” relationships, just lack of communication. Probably almost all problems in relationships come from a lack of communication. If you’re honest and she doesnt feel the same way about you, forget about it. It’s not worth your energy or time to think romantically about someone unless they feel the same way (found out by communication).
HOpe this helps, lovablemister!
Comment by normalgirl — August 27, 2008 @ 6:17 am
Mo
Everyone is different. No one person will make you feel like another. There are things to learn from everything and it’s your choice how to take it. Focus on what is helpful for you and forget what other people say. They may give advice, and you could, maybe should, listen, but ultimately, you are the one who makes the choices.
Ask yourself questions… is holding on to this girl helping me or hindering me? What do I do about it? What can I do to change myself to feel and do what I want?
Anyways, don’t let people influence you directly. You can think of what you want and make your own decisions based on you and noone else.
Hope this helps!
Comment by normalgirl — August 27, 2008 @ 6:21 am
Troy,
Communicate! See my comment #60. Tell her, and if she rejects, let it go. It’s not worth it. You can be friends, but if you feel like you’re too attached, take time off. It helps, believe me.
Comment by normalgirl — August 27, 2008 @ 6:22 am
i met this girl about 3 months ago and we spend tons of time together. when i told her that i was falling for her. she started out by saying that she really likes me as well, but she then told me she was afraid of getting into a relationship bc she still had a thing for her ex. and she just wants to be friends for the time being. can i get some tips on how to win her heart from the other guy?
Comment by robert — September 2, 2008 @ 1:23 am
robert,
be yourself! if she thinks you are worth it, good for you two. if she doesnt think you’re worth it, then she’s not worth it for you.
Comment by normalgirl — September 2, 2008 @ 1:12 pm