How to make a girl fall in love with you
The thought of learning how to make a girl fall in love with you is a disturbing one. Love is a huge emotion that can radically and completely dictate someone’s life. If it was possible to perform a few magical steps in order to make someone fall in love with you, we would live in a harsh world of broken hearts. Uh oh… don’t we already?
You cannot make anyone do anything and you certainly cannot make anyone love you. The more you try to make someone love you, the less they will. Its kind of a catch-22 in that way but fortunately there are two aspects you can concentrate on to help you along the way.
What do you love in life? Usually its the things that make you happy and the things that we attribute the most value to. Keeping in mind these two aspects of human nature, we can therefore conclude that in order for someone to love us, we must make them happy and we must be valuable to them.
Let’s work on making them happy first, its really simple and is overlooked by most people. The simple rule to making someone happy is to be happy yourself. Being happy is contagious and people in your presence will automatically feel similar to you. If you’re happy about life, then the people around you will want to have you around them as well. If you’re always down, depressed or angry, then you are making yourself very hard to love.
Example #1: Think of someone that you love or loved. Imagine them in your mind until you can see a picture of their face. In this picture, are they happy or sad ? Its very likely that in the mental picture that you have, they are smiling or happy. If it worked for you, then it should also work for others.
The concept when pondering about how to make a girl fall in love with you is value. The things you love the most consequently have a lot of value. Can you really fall in love with something that has no value? Things that are replaceable, or are easily attainable have little value in our lives. So make yourself valuable and people will love you. Being valuable isn’t as hard as people think.
The concept of value is relative, in an organization, the most valuable person is the boss even if in another situation, he could be completely insignificant. This is why so many secretaries are attracted to their boss. He has the most value. Let’s take this concept and apply it in practical situations.
Example #2, If you’re in school, then the most valuable person will be the person that is most respected by his peers. This can be the football star among cheerleaders, or the smart guy who gets the best grades. He can also be the guy who makes the girls laugh the most, or the guy that has the best house parties that everyone wants to attend.
In a work environment, the most valuable person can once again, be the social funny guy that everyone wants to hang out with, or the boss, or the sharp guy that the boss respects the most.
But… what if the girl I like doesn’t know about these social situations ? Well then… Tell her about your day! Although not as efficient, just telling her about your daily interactions (in a non-gloating way) can be an effective way of communicating your value.
The Double Your Dating book explains in detail exactly how to be perceived as the most valuable person while building massive attraction.
In the end, the concept of learning how to make a girl fall in love with you is a flawed one because as soon as you try to make someone love you, they won’t. So instead, concentrate on being happy and valuable, the rest will come naturally.
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good points
Comment by tendai — November 19, 2007 @ 12:50 am
i am falling in love of a girl. But don’t understand how give offer her and what she like.please help me to do my job.
Comment by sushanto — February 23, 2008 @ 6:36 am
i love this girl but she likes this other guy and she hates me. she be cursing at me and stuff. but we hardly talk.
Comment by saduglyboy — February 26, 2008 @ 8:38 pm
i need help i am ugly with lots of pimple and a scar. i am so poor i dress ugly. i suck. i get bullied. please help me get this girl
Comment by saduglyboy — February 26, 2008 @ 8:41 pm
It´s a good comentary, I´m gonna use these advices, hope they work. thanks.
Comment by Erik — April 14, 2008 @ 6:19 am
I dont agree with you at all. My girl says that she is happy with me, she wants me to be with me, she wants to marry me but she is not attracted to me and doesnt love me. Further to your discussion, she always feels like a queen when i am around too.
so why does she says that she doesnt love me or is not attracted to me????
Comment by Umair — April 26, 2008 @ 8:04 am
For every one here who think that he’s ugly and that’s why he don’t get the girls… stop right there !!! From what I know, girls dont see the same things as we see… Let me explain with my bad English. The only thing that girl see in a man it is self-esteem, if it’s too low, well guess what , girls wont get attracted to you. Sure they will feel good with you cause their self-esteem is higher than yours… but they will only be friend, most of the time pretty good friend, even become your best friend.It could be nice but it’s not what you want, doesnt?First: Stop judging yourself or complain about the way you talk,walk,look, build your self-esteem…Love you as you are. If you cant love yourself how do you think you gonna make feel the love to someone else.Second: please don’t be scared to make a move.Hug her often,not too much cause they will think your gay… lol just kidding. Hold her in your arms to make her feel that you can provide to her security… I was suffering from very low self-esteem before and guess what… never had a girl friend. But now, girls are the one who makes me compliment, instead of me. they want me, they fight for me!!! But common guys don’t turn out and be a completely ass hole like every other guys who gets the girls. Stay nice to girls, compliment them but not too much, make her happy,listen to her for better communication, make all of this naturally.This will be your secret arsenal that other guys don’t have
Don’t forced yourself to say or do things that you don’t want or feel(this is very important)…Don’t cry in front of a girl you want. She will think your not strong enough emotionally to give her what she needs the most security, stability etc.
Comment by John — May 7, 2008 @ 11:34 pm
saduglyboy: Read the post. It’s not all about looks.
Umair: Because you’re a doormat :>
I strongly suggest you read the double your dating book as suggested in this article.
Best of luck.
Comment by Matt — May 8, 2008 @ 8:54 am
Some people told this girl i like her. Then the next week she hates me, but we still have eye contact with each other. What should I say if we dont even talk any more
Comment by ........ — June 3, 2008 @ 10:37 pm
Have you the courage to ask her out? Women want their men without fear. Only then can you know the answer you seek; ask her.
Comment by Socrates — June 4, 2008 @ 7:51 pm
Let me try your valuble tips on my lover who hates me a lot when i love her more.
Comment by AJITH — June 5, 2008 @ 1:28 am
what if you ask her to go out and she always has an excuse…she donsn’t feel like it…or whatever..but the point is after several attempts she does not go out with you.
Comment by marcos — June 6, 2008 @ 8:40 pm
Marcos:
If you ask her out and she always has an excuse, it’s likely she doesn’t want to go out with you.
That usually means that you didn’t build enough attraction initially. I’d read up on more specifically on creating chemistry, flirting and building attraction.
Comment by Chris Calo — June 6, 2008 @ 10:09 pm
4 years ago a beautiful girl asked me out..we were goin great about 9 months on we broke up and from then on we were off and on constantly. i tried everythin but we always fought so one day i found the perfect opportunity to say i love and she said it back. few months on we crashed and burned again. and nothin happened between us for ages. until now..i want her back again we’ve been talkin for last few days..and secretly meetin up to talk bout old times..but she has a boyfriend and they’ve been together for 7 months now and she says she likes him but we text like everyday..what can i say to her for her to be mine once more?
Comment by kyle — June 10, 2008 @ 5:54 pm
i think,the best way of making a girl to love someone,is for the guy to love the way he is and have the boldness to confront sure girl.
Comment by albert — June 14, 2008 @ 3:58 pm
right i am falling for a girl and until last weekend everything was going great we live bowt 50 miles apart i work alot and only c each other a few times a week! but we txt all the time and wen we are together its amazing but she occasionally meets a guy she has had relations with for the past year or so and sometimes the hook up but she sais she is falling for me but cant make a commitment due to this guy ! can u help me out this one ?
Comment by westy — June 17, 2008 @ 3:22 am
i have a problem of the interesting nature. As it happens, i’ve been with a girl of my dreams for one year and 11 months. for the first couple of months, she has been the one that kept our relationship alive, and after that, she was, and still is the women of my life. but, in the past several weeks, it seems her love for me is fading. I love her with all my heart, and i tell her that, but she can’t seem to tell me that she loves me. I need help to keep her with me
Comment by Filip — June 19, 2008 @ 3:32 am
My girl says that she is happy with me, she wants me to be with me, she wants to marry me but she is not attracted to me and doesnt love me. Further to your discussion, she always feels like a queen when i am around too but she is not in love with me WTF (i know its frustrating).
if she is not in love with me or not attracted to me so then why does she wants to marry me????
Comment by Umair — June 24, 2008 @ 10:31 pm
Filip,
i have the same problem although my girl never said that she loves me from the start
Comment by Umair — June 24, 2008 @ 10:36 pm
I’ve liked this girl for awhile now and she started to like me too we flirted and talk from when i woke up till like 2am and even sometimes 5am but then she started coming up with excusses and said “everything reminded her of her ex” now a days we just talk like friends i do love her as a freind but sometimes i just don’t know what to do becuase i still do like her a little and she is back with her ex so i dont want to get in the way of them and get her to like me. help plz?
Comment by john — June 25, 2008 @ 8:28 am
i need help i am not ugly but i have lots of pimple. what should i do?
Comment by john — June 28, 2008 @ 11:32 pm
i love a girl and i asked her that she will marry me. she stop to talk with me and don’t told me any appropreat answer only say that her marrege almost confirm so itis imposible.
tell me what she think about me.
Comment by Harry — June 29, 2008 @ 2:12 am
i love a girl but she says she likes me as a friend.we have been friends for a year now.but she sometimes says she needs me in her life.she also says i should make her fall in love with me.please help me out.
Comment by Snitch — June 30, 2008 @ 1:27 am
I met this girl back in late 2006 and we became friends, went out, and then fell for each other. We dated on and off for about a year, and we were best friends. Now she’s moved on, but I can’t stop thinking about her. I want to be with her again, though it will never happen, we’ve talked about it. I dont know what to do anymore… any suggestions?
Comment by Jonny Fry — July 2, 2008 @ 12:35 am
I proposed a girl 5 months ago..but she refuses that time…but still we are talking to each other but I felt now shez in love with me but Shes not proposing it..May I know the way how to make her proposed??
Comment by George — July 2, 2008 @ 1:05 pm
if you ask about my life ,…..I will say…. I am bored..
Ya totally bored.
No one is their to have a talk with me. No one that is a girl to have some relationship,..at least to get part time(flirt) or for full time. Secondly i feel nervous to have talk with a girl.
please help me so that a girl come to me and propose me ( i.e,for flirt or full time)has i won’t be able to go first attempt to them.
wherever i go i never seen a girl having at least a look on me.
I have a good posture, pale color,fine looking, have an average height, nice communication in English a bit. still all these i have, but not a single glance from girls.
what should i do? Can u help me out from this. if u then please help me.
Comment by robin — July 4, 2008 @ 8:39 am
there’s this girl i really like but she doesnt like me back. she said so herself. now i feel as if i havent got a chance with her at all and its getting me down.
Comment by kieran — July 4, 2008 @ 2:13 pm
1.5 years before there was a relation between me and Swarna.may be it was friendship. on proposing her i did little bit foolish task. But i love her more than i can say. Still now i love her. my every breath feel her. But now she loves another guy. i cant forget her. i cant concentrate another girl. what can i do now?
Comment by Himel — July 10, 2008 @ 2:52 am
i love this girl, she’s in my maths class i sit opposite her. im in year 8 in london. i love her after five years of friendship but i dont know how to tell her that i love her. Why cant she say i like you mahfuz. If she is reading, Fahmida, please keep it to yourself, but remember.
Comment by mahfuz — July 12, 2008 @ 1:12 pm
I love one girl but many times i tell her that i love her too much i can’t live without her love. so how can she love me please help me with what i can i do then she love me .
Comment by Ramakant — July 13, 2008 @ 1:14 am
i have been in love with this girl for 2 years… i ask her before whether would we have a chance together anot.. she says no.. then after tht i still contact her and chat on the msn…. she has a boy friend now but her attitudes towards me is way different from last time ( in a good way). She even ask me whether i wanted to go out with her anot, but in the end she didnt want to go with me as i thought maybe she has a boyfriend and does not want to be seen wit me and her outside since she has a boyfriend. I really love her and i really want her. I have tried to have others girls but even though the other girls were better looking, i still love my old lover. What should i do?
DO U HAVE TO ANSWER?
REGARDS.
Comment by sahar — July 14, 2008 @ 11:42 am
so i like this girl, she’s my best friend, and idk i think she likes me but im not positive. everyone we see thinks we go out wen we don’t, idk what to do, plz help me out.
Comment by scarz — July 15, 2008 @ 5:07 pm
i dont know if any girls have posted here, but i will try to answer questions.
first of all, girls really dont care about looks! they just look at the inside, which will show on the outside. if a guy has high self-esteem, he will be more outgoing and smile more. if he cares about taking care of himself (and others), he will be clean and wear nice things because he cares about his image. if you dont like something about yourself, change it! what else can i say?
secondly, it’s easy to get a girl to fall for you. honestly. words alone will do it. i know i probably shouldnt say it, but if you want the right girl and be sure she will be with you a looooong time, just be real! girls love words, but they love it even more if they are backed up b y action. the more you SHOW her that you love her, the more she will love you.
it’s up to you guys to keep the limits. if you dont, things will move too fast and she will probably end up breaking up with you.
i will give you an anecdote. my exes went out with me and they thought i was amazing, but i knew they weren’t good engough for me. i shouldnt have gone far with them because i knew that we were going to break up, but i let myself go. a tip… girls will make compromises, but in the end, they will do what is right probably or will be very unhappy or will cheat on you with another guy who sweet talks her. just be honest. ask her what she really really thinks. if she doesnt think that you guys will end up together, dont force it. by not forcing antyhing and by giving each other space, that could either increase the bond between you two or increase the friendship and the amount of respect you will have in your life.
anyways, i cant think anymore… too much to say!
i hope this helped. just BE YOURSELF and ASK QUESTIONS!!! this is very important.
Comment by normalgirl — July 16, 2008 @ 12:08 pm
i love this girl since 2003, and each year i ask her to be mine but than she just make me feel good,she never treat me bad.she never say yes to me but than we kissed two times this year. she promise me that next year we will start dating. do u think she loves me,but me i love her with all my heart.
Comment by johnny — July 22, 2008 @ 5:35 am
I dated a hotttttttttt girl, but I made mistake by asking her to do me a bj on the 3rd date! ahh, she never talked to me anymore!
Comment by Peter Pan — July 22, 2008 @ 10:08 am
like me i have been so scared of girls during ma high schhol dayz but now i am in a univesity i decided to wake up and be on the look out.so what i have come to know is that girls are so simple they only go for any face be it black or white,they dont judge the book by its cover.so please i tell yu know to be not afraid of girls remember they are the gift from God.
Comment by vaino — July 23, 2008 @ 7:34 am
Hi guys ..
I like a girl and i know that i love her too . Lastnight i told her that i like her , she told me ” We r friends and i want to keep it like that and please dont let that change and u r like my brother , so please just forget this thing and lets keep it like that please ”
So i just say ” Ok ,and we will be friend and nothing gona change ”
Note : she’s 2 years older than me and i know her for 2 month and we knew each other from a gruop in my cuzn college and we r in the same group , We hanging out with the gruop evrey Sunday …
i asked some of my friends and they told me some stuff , But i want to hear it from the other ppl in other countrys ..
So please just tell me what do u see right to do ..
Comment by Haven — July 24, 2008 @ 9:09 pm
I got this girl that i grew up with and we have been friends forever. once we slept together she changed totally. now she calls me all the time always at my door and its like i don’t know who she is now. is that love or pre-stalking action?
Comment by dollarbill — July 25, 2008 @ 1:18 am
johnny (and others), to be honest, i think that a relationship will never last a whole lifetime unless there is an admiration of the person from BOTH people. both of you have to think the other person is the most amazing person in the world. if it isnt like that, the one who doesnt think the other is the best for them, they are more likely to leave (maybe not even hurt) and you be hurt. from my experience, if you are the best for someone, there is someone out there that would feel the same about you. everyone is unique and its just waiting for the person to come your way. make a move! get to know someone! but quit holding on to a hope that may never be satisfied. just move on and you will find someone better (if you are trying to become better yourself… you have to do some work too!).
Comment by normalgirl — July 25, 2008 @ 6:42 am
PeterPan… i have advice for you. i have had to tell this to ALL guys i know. they’ve ALL done it. NEVER NEVER NEVER ask for a bj or any other ‘favors’ of the sort. if a girl really likes you, she will willingly do it. probably well, too. its a really big turn-off, and i mean really really big, to ask a girl to satisfy you physically. we feel like we are a slave or something like that. just let things flow. maybe you can ask someone that you pay to do those things, but never ask a girl you actually like.
Comment by normalgirl — July 25, 2008 @ 6:45 am
Hey, I need an answer guys, please answer me!! here I go,
I met this girl 3-4 years ago when i was just a kid, like 14, she was 16-17 and obviously she couldnt go out with me becuase i was too young, and she only thinks of me as her little brother.
we have been best friends and I told her last year when I was 16 how i felt about her, that i think i really fancy her and want something to happen between us, she said she would rather we be friends, so I took it like that and still am her best friend, now I am 17 and she tells me that on the night of my prom, she wants to have my ‘virginity’ and have sex with me, but still only be best friends and that her boyfriend must never know, this is the first time that she has did anything like this, and i am thinking it is becuase i am now older and more mature, she is 21, she has a boyfriend and they are together a long time, she often tells me that her mother thinks one day we will end up together and laughs with me about it, she kisses me on the lips but only when no one is around.
Tell me people please, is she only doing this is a one-ff, or do you think once I have sex with her, she will like me even more, and want more from me than friendship?
but there is always a doubt if she loves me like i love her, as if she loved me like i love her, she would already be with me,
Please please comment for me
Comment by Youngerguy — July 27, 2008 @ 3:48 pm
ILOVE TO A GIRL.BUT I CAN NOT SAY TO HIM.IT IS A ONE SIDE LOVE.ALSO SHE IS MY RELEATIVE.PLS HELP ME AND GIVE ME A SUGGATION.
Comment by DEBENDRA KUNAR BEHERA — July 28, 2008 @ 4:30 am
honestly, i always see it the other way around. i know guys that only want physical things but then just want to be friends and no more. i have heard, though, that there are some girls that are like that. in my opinion, she’s just using you and taking advantage of the fact that you are (probablY) always there to listen to her and fulfill her ‘attention’ needs. it’s hard to hear, but some people just REALLy dont see the value in others. you may be an amazing person, but if she doesnt realize it, find people who do! its not worth getting into. BELIEVE ME, if it is not good the way it is now, there IS something better somewhere else, believe it or not.
anyways, that is my advice. it’s hard to break a friendship, but it’s rewarding to get rid of the wasteful stuff in your life to leave room for more quality things. things that will help you.
Comment by normalgirl — July 28, 2008 @ 7:42 am
really its a very good thing that u r doing helping to other
i aslo have fallen in love woth someone who is very specail to me
but what shoul i do i can’t understan…
Comment by haaraan — July 29, 2008 @ 8:59 am
in the case of when you have fallen in love with a girl that you barely talk to: if you’re not, sorry the expression, ‘man’ enough to go ask her out or to go talk to her, what makes you think you will be able to take care of her when you can’t even go talk to her and tell her how you feel?
in the case of when it’s a friend: things do not change when you go from friendship to relationship unless it’s good change. dont expect miracles. relationshpis are work. if she causes you pain already, imagine the pain caused later (example… she will go out with you because of pity, so you’ll be happy at first, but as soon as she finds something she finds amazing, she will leave you hurt even more). if she isnt excited about you now, she probably never will be. the change has to be YOU for YOURSELF and not for others. others will always let you down.
anwyays, hope this helps.
Comment by normalgirl — July 30, 2008 @ 12:32 pm
Okay, I was involved with a play over the summer, and, obviously, I met this girl. It was only for about 5-6 weeks, but we’ve become reasonably good friends. However, now the play is over and I don’t really have any way of seeing her again. She definitely enjoys my company, but I don’t know how to ask her out. It just feels awkward to ask via email or through some other online means. What should I do?
Comment by Nyath — July 31, 2008 @ 10:57 pm
there is no way to see her? if there is absolutely no way to see her again, then online is fine. just say something like ‘i enjoyed talking to you during the play. would you like to have coffee some time?’. if there are no other means of communicating, use what is best. she will understand.
Comment by normalgirl — August 4, 2008 @ 6:23 am
thanks for the advise normalgirl. I know this is a random question, but do you think a sexual relationship (one time) can change things between best friends and make them want more (boy friend and girl friend) even if the Girl is already taken?
And also, sometimes i feel that she will only want sex from me at my prom as ‘pitysex’ to make me ‘prepared’ for life, and not actually her wanting and being attracted to me. what do you think?
Comment by Youngerguy — August 5, 2008 @ 11:31 am
i am in love with this girl for the past 3 years and we have not kiss for once.she calle her self my girl friend but there is no prof for that.what can i do i really love this girl.help me please
Comment by willy — August 6, 2008 @ 3:08 am
youngerguy, yes yes and yes! one-time things change things. but it doesnt necessarily mean that someone loves that person. i had a guy friend and i NEVER saw him as more than a friend, but then we suddenly ended up alone for a couple hours so our bodies were reacting normally. i fought it, but it is human to be attracted to someone and to want to satisfy our physical desires. i am not saying it is right to fulfil those desires, but it is normal.
also, when things happen all of a sudden, many other thoughts go out the window (such as you already being in a relationship or married or etc). the body’s sensors are very strong. but it is more fulfilling to let those desires be satisfied with someone who feels the same way about you than you do about them. sex is good with probably anyeone, but just think of the consequences and why you are doing it. i know this is my beliefs, but it makes sense: if you want the best experience with the best state of mind and security and happiness, it is honestly better to wait til marriage. i have learned that the hard way. its like having things on a scale of 100. some things may be 50 but its not 100. its still getting some, but its not 100. its not the best. it takes work for it to be high. work on your part and work on the other’s part.
anyways, sorry this is long, but i hope this helps.
Comment by normalgirl — August 7, 2008 @ 1:52 pm
willy, if both of you feel the same way about each other, it probably will work if you’re both in it 100%. if there are any doubts, it’s better to straighten them out, and if they can’t be fixed, move on. find something better. no one deserves someone who is not equal to them, whether better or worse. see comment 46
Comment by normalgirl — August 7, 2008 @ 1:54 pm
good
Comment by teris — August 10, 2008 @ 3:58 pm
so i think i am falling for a girl at work and i dont know how to tell her what should i do.
Comment by awesomedude — August 13, 2008 @ 7:24 pm
also she is a good christian girl and would not go for anything that isn’t morely right
Comment by awesomedude — August 13, 2008 @ 8:28 pm
normalgirl,
I have known this girl as an aquaintance off and on since grade 12 (its been like a year a bit now since highschool). Now i see her more because i live with her friend. I have become kinda friends with her, like shes come over to hang with my friend and my friend hasnt been here we would small talk it up for a while. And one time when we were both on E with a bunch of friends people needed stuff from my house, so me and her walked up and were like talking for 2 hours…..but this was all when she was in a really wierd open relationship with her boyfriend who i know as well as her and is a good guy….btw sorry this is long, i hope u resond. Anyways, after that night i talked to her for 2 hours i realized i like her a little, and since then im gotten to know her a little more, just cause shes over and hangs with me and my roommates…but yeah, she just moved out of her boyfriends house and is single. I dont wanna like, let her know i like her and have it be akward if she doesnt feel the same way..and then shed prob. tell my roommate and its be one more akward situation. If this hekps with your desion on advice, me and her bf look allike, i dunno, same kinda long hair. and she has said a few time she liked my hair, and a few times she like my tshirt, and then later that night my jacket…..but when she says these things it seems like casual, cause shes nice like that with allot of people…. PLEASE RESPOND, im starting to really like her and dont want to become to much of a friend. thanks normalgirl
Comment by lovablemister — August 16, 2008 @ 4:04 am
Hello
my name is mosed and i have 21 years old i been with one girl on relationship but she die after 3 month when we start dating when that happen i was 14(but iam still virgan)
i loved her so much more than any body and i still in love with her
alot of girl i dont know they told me that you look sexy or cute , there some girl ask me to sleep with them but i always remember my old girl friend and then i dont feel that i wanna make sexual relationship with any girl unless my old love (some girls though me gay)((i just wanna know is i am normal ??))
Thanks for any advice
Comment by Mo — August 19, 2008 @ 10:20 am
i am madly in love with a girl. and she loved me for a while but i guess it fadded away. we are friends and im still in love with her and cant get her out of my head. but anyway she is starting to like this other dude and i cant stand it. what can i do to win her back?
Comment by Troy — August 20, 2008 @ 6:34 pm
i got a girl
Comment by dj — August 26, 2008 @ 4:09 pm
lovablemister
You have to communicate! Everything you are feeling or else things will get bad, whether for her, you, or both. Talk to each other about communicating. When she says or does things, talk about it. There are no “complicated” relationships, just lack of communication. Probably almost all problems in relationships come from a lack of communication. If you’re honest and she doesnt feel the same way about you, forget about it. It’s not worth your energy or time to think romantically about someone unless they feel the same way (found out by communication).
HOpe this helps, lovablemister!
Comment by normalgirl — August 27, 2008 @ 6:17 am
Mo
Everyone is different. No one person will make you feel like another. There are things to learn from everything and it’s your choice how to take it. Focus on what is helpful for you and forget what other people say. They may give advice, and you could, maybe should, listen, but ultimately, you are the one who makes the choices.
Ask yourself questions… is holding on to this girl helping me or hindering me? What do I do about it? What can I do to change myself to feel and do what I want?
Anyways, don’t let people influence you directly. You can think of what you want and make your own decisions based on you and noone else.
Hope this helps!
Comment by normalgirl — August 27, 2008 @ 6:21 am
Troy,
Communicate! See my comment #60. Tell her, and if she rejects, let it go. It’s not worth it. You can be friends, but if you feel like you’re too attached, take time off. It helps, believe me.
Comment by normalgirl — August 27, 2008 @ 6:22 am
i met this girl about 3 months ago and we spend tons of time together. when i told her that i was falling for her. she started out by saying that she really likes me as well, but she then told me she was afraid of getting into a relationship bc she still had a thing for her ex. and she just wants to be friends for the time being. can i get some tips on how to win her heart from the other guy?
Comment by robert — September 2, 2008 @ 1:23 am
robert,
be yourself! if she thinks you are worth it, good for you two. if she doesnt think you’re worth it, then she’s not worth it for you.
Comment by normalgirl — September 2, 2008 @ 1:12 pm
I am in love with a girl who was my friend but she dont love me. After knowing I m in love with her. She breaks my friendship and now not talking with me and hates me. So many time I tried to call and talk with her but she is denying to talk and said me to go police if next time I call her. She is totally hates me. I couldn’t live without her. I need her. So please tell me What to do. How I can start relationship with her. Bcoz she is married. She is talking with all but not talking with me. Please help me. I want her.
Comment by victor — September 14, 2008 @ 11:42 am
i don’t know i’m good looking and all,but there’s this 1 girl
i went out with her twice but i accidentally got withe her
friends when i was drunk,n she hated me for a while,but now she talks to me a lilttle bit more,but i dunno what to do
like if i should ask her out or what???
Comment by jordon — September 18, 2008 @ 4:15 pm
go talk to her and if she have a son be friendly to him :p
Comment by abby — September 19, 2008 @ 12:16 pm
I love one girl more than my life but i don’t know if
she loves me or not so how can i know that please help me
Comment by Pradip khadka — September 25, 2008 @ 1:58 am
I had a crush on this girl I met when I was in the 4th grade she was my sister’s best friend well she’s two years older than me. Since I was a boy she told me that she always saw me as a little brother. but once we kissed when I was in the 6th grade it was amazing. But years passed and she had her boyfriends then I went to high school and after I graduated from high school one night I just had to see her just to see if she was still living there because my sister and her won’t friends anymore. so anyways I went to her house walked to the door and called her not expecting to see her but I did she walked out and when I turned around she had a smile I’ve never seen from a person that was so excited to see me before. so she hugged me she didn’t want to let me go. But then when she went back in she came back out but with this little baby boy he was oriental so I knew she had to be with someone. So I asked her if she was married and said no. the baby’s name was Kevin that kid was the sweetest kid. But by seen him I was wondering who was the father she told me that his father had cheated on her and left with another woman. Now that she saw that I wasn’t a little boy anymore we had this attraction instantly. So now we are 9 months in a wonderful relationship. And happy with her if it happened to me then it could happen to anybody sometimes you have to leave the dreams of being with someone so that they one day you will find that someone again and start all over. Thanks you for reading my story.
Comment by Carlos — September 25, 2008 @ 10:56 pm
I started working at a warehouse the same day this woman did.
One day the woman took her daughter and announced she was going to work there too. When I saw her I knew she was the most beautiful girl I had ever seen. I wanted to ask her out because of fear of being rejected. I talk to her everyday and sometimes I feel as if she is interested in me, but I know she has a boyfriend because she talks to him on the phone everyday and I heard her say she did. I am going to wait for the right moment to offer her my love. Sometimes it is better to wait for an opportunity to knock at your door. Thanks for reading this story.
Comment by Adrian — September 26, 2008 @ 12:08 am
I Had a Girlfreind…..
Her best freind(at the time) forced her to dump me….
Now she dates this Retarded Nerd and…SHE STILL LIKES ME…
What now?
Comment by TunloThechao — September 26, 2008 @ 8:43 am
I Make everyone in my school Laugh…
And i dont have frekkles or spots or Acny or pimples(whatever)
Blonde blue eyes male
spiky hair
Is This attractive(Only a girl sud answer)
Comment by TunloThechao — September 26, 2008 @ 8:46 am
I am in love with a girl who is much younger than me. Both of us work in same office. We talk each other very freely. Many of the time we share our secrets of love also like whom I loved – whom she loves….. and so on and we behave each other like friends. But i am afraid whether she loves me really or not. Till now I have neither even touched her body nor we have gone to any place like restaurants, parks, or any oter place together. How can I know that she really loves from the core of her heart ? Please help and what should I do to know that she really loves me ?
Comment by Kumar — September 27, 2008 @ 12:24 am
i been with the same girl for over 9yrs…(she dumped me)
how can i get her back…..any one has advice?
Comment by rico — September 28, 2008 @ 10:15 am
In 2 years ago… That girl and I been still fell in love for year and later few months she and I went to hockey game chilling and feel I sitting nothing for her WTF! But later 2 months and she said it is over I said what I did wrong and she said me stop around her friends I didn’t I knew it was her ex boyfriend who make up the story to her so she and I never get along as far… I started feel I was nothing left also I never wanted to find another girl. In 2008 now she just join National Guard and probably serve the country… I feel I cannot stop her from this I have to let her going she been in a lot problems lately, but I try care her and I call her almost everyday, but I feel I was as coal mean that can’t do anything and talking… But after 3 months now I in kentucky for year now… I went to Bluegrass Community Technical College also I met one girl is cuter but I talk with her only know her a bit. but I will know her more soon… So it was not easier in my life with loss ex girlfriend of this situation so anyone want know how surivial this situation I know of many things…
Comment by Stokley Riffle — September 28, 2008 @ 9:04 pm
i have known this boy since 4th grade..we started dating in 8th we talked for a year everyday we dated on and off never kissed too prude. anyway im in love with him and our last break up was really bad..i just want to know why am i in love with him and does he have the same feelings plz help
Comment by angelbaby — October 3, 2008 @ 8:54 am
wat rubbish!! Agreed somehow u make a girl fall in love by pretending something you are not, but then she will know what you are and will dump you so deep, you will never stand up again. So guys rather then finding ways to make a girl fall in love, you try to solve the problems in your life which keeps the girls away, like your physique, your succes story..,your brain etc. I mean dont do things only to get a girl, work in general to be a happy and successful man and girls will come as by product all along the way..
I may be wrong..
Comment by DSR — October 6, 2008 @ 12:53 pm
well its kinda hard to explain but i really like this girl named lauren..and this is really weird cause it all started with a girl named lauren(a different one) well i knew her for 2 years and the first time i saw her i knew i was in love..then i find out that shes in my class..for a long time and i always backed out of it when i was gonna say something about it…but at the end of the year i found out i was moving..when i told her it was a very emotional day…we both cried and then it came the very last day of school when i would never see her again..and i waited and waited that morning but she never came to school…and i knew that day was possibly the most painful day of my life… i cried almost all day and not just wussy crying but real down from my heart crying…and everytime i think of her i start to cry
Comment by kalebinlovewithagirl — October 8, 2008 @ 6:36 pm
there is this girl in my school am madly in love with her an she knows that, the problem is that there are lots of guys over this girl and my chances of getting her is very slim, but she asked me a little question when i told her my intentions an the question is what am going to do that other guys have not done, the truth is am confused an i need help. just tell me the maddest thing to do to her to make me different from other guys an if am able to do that she would fall for me help me please. thanks
Comment by anderson — October 14, 2008 @ 2:33 pm
hi I’ve just read this october15,08 all what u said is true because some girl i loved she didn’t like me back. but then when i did not love her she started to fall in love with me and giving me her phone numbers but i ripped it because i don’t like her i like another hot chick know!!
Comment by manny — October 15, 2008 @ 7:15 pm
a love a girl i don’t know whether she loves me or not. she was a good friend of mine but when she knew that she starts avoiding me. what cam i do to get her back.
Comment by james — November 2, 2008 @ 9:26 am
Im in love with a girl that hates me and another girl loves me but in not attracted to her so who should I pick? Please help me!
Comment by Gienel Diaz — November 4, 2008 @ 4:51 am
i joined in degree college i am very talkative with every one in our class one girl is seeing me in hiding way and when she talks with other she likes to see me by side looking one day she talks with me very friendly and next day not but looking unto me will be daily
Comment by dolly — November 15, 2008 @ 6:34 am
well I’ve been with this girl for like year and a month now until Sunday, i finished her because i didn’t trust her, now i cant stop thinking about her, I’m trying to sort it out but she says she just wants to have fun, it upsets me a lot, she says she needs to think about it, i think she has already thought about it, any tips on how i can get this girl of my life back out with me i will appreciate it!
Comment by mtaftm — November 25, 2008 @ 3:12 am
Hi everyone,
i would like to talk to you all and tell you that, love is a huge word and we cant force anyone to love us back.
girls could be needy sometimes, she will talk to you because she is bored, need something, or maybe she just need to talk. no rush to love a girl and even if you does don’t show her that you love her, act normal and be yourself. It does not worth it to be hurt because of her.
I have experienced a lot of issues regarding a girl that not interested and nothing from the above words helped to gain the love or any girl. “sorry”
if a girl will love you, she will without you making an effort, make her feel that you like to talk to he and be with her AND afterword don’t call her much or see her, let her the one comes to you and call, that time be sure that she loves you..
i would like to help you all, words sometimes heel and help us to come over what we feel.
i don’t think anyone worth to make anyone else hurt.
I hope this helped
Comment by Don — November 26, 2008 @ 12:58 am
there is a girl in my class that i really like but im scared that she wont like me back. please if someone can help me please tell me what to do!!
Comment by Dany — December 2, 2008 @ 7:55 am
a lot of this stuff makes sense and umair i definatly agree with u but i cant bring up my self esteem. im a real depressing person. im trying to better myself by smiling more and being happy but ppl dont notice and we dont see eachother much cuz we go to different skools. about value, i dont have value. well at least i think so. all my friends hate me so theres no chance there and i dont work so even less chance there. i dont play sports and well everyway that can bring up value, i dont have. the only thing of value in me is my personality when im happy. but idk w/e :/
Comment by Joel — December 5, 2008 @ 5:09 pm
I really like this girl, but i get really nervouse when i’m around her. What should i do?
Comment by Trooper-04 — December 6, 2008 @ 6:29 pm
Ok this is my problem I’m in love with this girl you can say but there is this big conflict she also likes me to and shes says I’m 100 times better than her boyfriend she says she rather be with me but shes still in love with this guy we talk all day from the time we wake up from the time we go to sleep if any one can help me with this problem I’m having it will be greatly appreciated.
Comment by Eddie — December 6, 2008 @ 6:59 pm
This is my problem, there’s two girls in love with me, but the girl I actually like is the best friend of one of them and I think she only likes me as a friend (and my best friend is getting angry at me because the girl he likes, likes me). Any help with this would be amazing.
Comment by Ollie — December 8, 2008 @ 12:56 am
This is a very good idea.
Comment by Aman — December 11, 2008 @ 5:22 am
i think i love this girl because whatever she told me to do i’m never say no to her..
i am a smart guy and always make she laugh.
unfortunately i quite fat and huge but i’m not ugly.
many had told me so??
while she is beatiful someteiem i think i dont deserve to befriend with her
please help me??
Comment by banzai — December 12, 2008 @ 2:56 am
there is a girl who is gorgeous who i am kinda friends with and have known her since 1st grade, im a junior in highschool now so thats a while. I asked her out to a formal dance and she went with me, but not much has happened after. she is rlly quiet but she does smile at me and say hello with out me having to say hi first. the thing is she just seems hard to reach and difficult to emotionally read. can anybody let me know what they think of my situation
Comment by Taylor — December 15, 2008 @ 9:22 pm
im daniel tipper i love my girlfriend loads ive been seeing her for nine months and she loves me she sometimes gets moody with me and we row is that natural or are we drifting away please help i dont wanna lose her shes my girl and i love her with all my heart thanks ?
Comment by daniel — December 17, 2008 @ 8:59 pm
there is a girl she’s in my english class and i really like her so much (i think she likes me too) but everytime i try to talk to her i get so nervous ended up sometimes awkward. she’s not the flirty type and i always caught her looking at me make the tension on me much worse… how should i approach her without being nervous at all.? please help.?
Comment by Stranger — December 19, 2008 @ 12:19 am
hey everybody if all of you are in love and don’t want for the person to know then how are you guys ever going to go out with them. just go for it and be happy with the person you want and like…just remember what doesn’t kill us only makes us stronger!!!
Comment by sexygurl — December 19, 2008 @ 8:45 am
m i fell in love with my best friend, i don’t know if i did a mistake by telling her which i ready did, but time will only say and i am waiting for that because love is the best thing we have in this world.=D
Comment by Pako — December 27, 2008 @ 3:56 pm
I love this girl,her name is theo,the true is she dirty,but i love her,i ask her out by tell her i am in love with her but she did not say anything,i ask her what do i get her for x-mas but she said anything,how do i stop loving her,coz i thout she loves me.pls help me.thanks
Comment by Dave — January 3, 2009 @ 12:08 pm
Hi every one
I checked this web site like every one.also some comment.
I believe firsy thing is self confident.If your girl friend break up with you and she got a boy friend it means you could’nt attract her.best thing is find problem review your attitude and your concervation.if she gone it means she don’t come back.spend your time to find new girl friend and change your attitude and fix the problem.
I read john commment@may In my idea i am agree with him.
realise and self confident.
Thanks
Comment by ABAN — January 6, 2009 @ 7:44 am
hi .. I’m falling for a girl who recently had relationship with we.. been together for almost a month but were having problems i’m having a financial problem and cant support all of her needs all the time so.. i guess she got fed up and her ex boyfriend is text’ing her and they got back out all the sudden and broke up with me she aid she doesn’t love me anymore but when i told her goodbye she was like uh u give up easily so i still tried to talk her through out with and tried to get her back but her friends and her x is trying to take her away from me .. just last week they did something stupid my girlfriend text’ed me if i wanna win her back i gotta buy things for her so i brought her groceries and gave her money and right after i brought her to the bus and pretended i left i saw her with her x together sitting in the bus with my groceries i pulled her out the guys wants to fight me and i just told him, that I’m just gonna talk to the girl i didn’t want fight but if he’ll ask I’ll do it.. what should i do i trust my girl she wont do anything like that for me only except the guy ask her too so what should I do i fell my girlfriend got kidnapped! Help!
Comment by kyle — January 7, 2009 @ 7:14 am
So I’ve fallen in love with one of the most beautiful girls in the school. We have been friends for a while, but since she is so attractive, i figured she’s out of my league. But after reading this and some of the comments, and seeing it isn’t based on looks alone i found some hope. Does anyone have any extra advice for me?
Comment by Dave — January 8, 2009 @ 8:00 am
hi, i have a problem and i don’t know what to do i really need help. There is one girl i’m in love for about 4 months, let me tell u the story from beginning. about 4 moths ago i went to my friends school because we were going somewhere after and i saw one girl looking at me, she was realy sweet but i didn’t do anything. some other day when i also went to wait for my friends infront of they school i was standing in front of the door from school and than i saw that girl again (before i didnt know she goes in that school) when she was walking closer to doors and out of school she was looking me strait in my eyes and she was beautiful i again didn’t do anything. i started to fall in love with her it is strange cause i didn’t even met her but somehow when i see her and when she is around im all shaking and my heart is hitting like crazy, like it will explode, let me continue my story. then i came few more times to school to wait my friends and than one day i showed her to my friend and told him to try ask a little in school and get me her number and i also told to him if he don’t get the number i will come to her and talk to her. he didn’t get her number and i needed to go to her, im not good at that cause i never before did that cause only girl i want is the one i really like and with that one is hard because u are scared what will she say and … so i started to walk with 2 of my friends behind her, she was with at least 5 of her friends(girls) i was thinking how to do it ad than she stopped at some “bar” to buy ice cream with her friends and my friend told me go inside and buy her ice cream or something. i didn’t know what to do than my friend told me say “hi do u give me your number” i thought yea right but i told him ill go to her and than i started to move to her and her friends thinking ill just pass by them and i wont say nothing, but just the moment i was passing them by i stopped turn to her and sad “hi do u give me your number” that is really stupid i know. than she said (somehow shy) why what do u need it for, and i started with well… and than one of her friends involved and said she is still teenager like we all are, and than i said bye and leave them. Than i found her at Facebook and wrote her a message that i am sorry for that i was stupid like that and that i would like to meet her. she added me to friends and answered my message with “where do i know u from…” i answered u don’t but i would like to meet u. than there was nothing. and after some time i decided that i need to talk with her when there are no her friends around. she lives somewhere close to me and we go on same bus when i go on training on Monday evening so i decided to come to her and talk. first when i came to her i started shaking and my heart was beating crazily but i came to her and sad somthing like do u have a moment i want to talk to u. she said ok. and first i apologized for i was idiot when i first time came to her and she said ok. than i asked her will she like to go with me to have coffee or something with me sometimes and she said to me that i am too old for her i said ok and I left. that night i cried all night, but there is more. about week after that my good friend helped me to make a new message i send her on Facebook. It was something like i would like to meet u … but she answer on it with “wrong person i don’t know who are u …” since than i didn’t do anything i have seen her when i came to her school to wait for my friends she just looked at me and nothing… i know that we haven’t told our names to each other jet but it is just like when i look in to her eyes i see all beauty of this world i see good girl good person and i love her i cant stop thinking about her, i need help pls tell me what to do…
Comment by Joel — January 8, 2009 @ 5:22 pm
u never know if they like u or not unless u try i thought a girl hated me that i loved but they didn’t they loved me to which feels the best trust me it is worth it to go for it
:D:D
Comment by *shouldn't know* — January 8, 2009 @ 5:57 pm
u never know if they like u or not unless u try i thought a girl hated me that i loved but they didn’t they loved me to which feels the best trust me it is worth it to go for it
:D:D
Comment by *shouldn't know* — January 8, 2009 @ 5:57 pm
i love a girl who is studying in my class.iam an engineering 1st year student aged 18.we are good friends.i told my love towards her through a letter. she read the letter along with her another friend.they were smiling while reading the letter.after reading she just teared the letter. she told that she never expected this from me. she told that she always considered me as her best friend. but i wants her as my lover.so please anyone help me………..
Comment by arun — January 9, 2009 @ 6:05 am
i love a girl at school who i know for 3 years. She likes to read and likes to experince new thing. i sometimes talk to her but we never hang out and i don’t know how to ask her out. so please anyone help me
Comment by ltsos4 — January 9, 2009 @ 10:46 pm
well, my gf broke up with me bout a month ago, 3 months and all lies, but its happened before so i shook it off easy. but anyway. just guys you need to just talk to her, if you try too hard it wont work. go with the flow. and the girl i have a crush on now, i went to after that other ***** broke my heart, and my esteem was low, but then it just got back up to high. just talk to them IM,Texting, Phone, in person, it all works. you wont get anywhere with just sitting around and looking at her from afar. Just approach, conversation, AIM SN or #. Or you could just be friends for a while and you know have that feeling grow, thats where im at. and if at first it doesnt seem like anythings happening, just give it time stuff doesnt happen over night and you have to show her your interested. smilling, and flriting are the easiest ways.
hope it helps
Comment by danglezzz — January 20, 2009 @ 8:57 pm
ummm well i was like a guy who said that there is no pure love in teenage.. but i felt in a love with a girl in my college.. and i m a teenager my age is 18.. she is always with her best friend (girl).. she haven’t talk to any one in our college.. and i was in love when i saw her first time.. i haven’t chat her.. plzz help me to how to be her freind first please.. i want to chat her.. but i couldn’t make it.. cause she dont speak to any other guy in our clg.. that makes me fear..!!! plzzz plzzzz help guys!!! i need a guru rite now!!!!
Comment by Ally Ally Ally — January 21, 2009 @ 5:46 am
like every1 else on this thing, i love a girl, we dated for like 2 months but then she broke up wit me, she said she still likes me but she doesnt like relationships and wont be ready for one for a long time. she said i should forget she ever existed but i cant i really love, her i think about her all the time she is really beautiful n i’m scared if i wait some1 else will sweep her off her feet
Comment by jonny — January 23, 2009 @ 11:59 am
Every girl is a different case, dont hear anyone’s suggestions, you know better guys, no one knows whats going on in a girls tiny head.
Comment by Haytham — January 28, 2009 @ 9:21 am
some of this are true and some not, because love come from the heart, there noway to make a girl loves u in these ways except if she was looking for the same thing.
This my comment and i hope to be right because these days whom found the real love, He will be really lucky.
-Unknown-
Comment by unknown — January 29, 2009 @ 7:09 am
I’m in lovw with this girl, but she likes another guy and I never talk to the girl that I like, help me how to talk to that girl its shy.
Comment by Danny — February 2, 2009 @ 4:38 am
Normally… I never date someone, but I met a nice girl and was attracted to her… which is another thing that happens to me rarely. I don’t easily get attracted to someone, and I don’t know why it happened, but it did.
So, for two months now I’ve been talking with her. She isn’t quite so interested with me as I am in her, and that for one irritates me. Me being someone who doesn’t take interest in people often. I recently asked her out on a date and for her phone number. She blatantly refused me and left instantly. :/
I realize that I should not push her for it, but… me being so fascinated with her, I pressed her for the knowledge anyways. I know, I’m an idiot. I realize my mistake there. But that is not up for discussion, what I want to know is… since she has pretty much ignored me for the past four days, she must be pretty pissed with me. I promised her that I would never intentionally hurt or piss her off. Maybe that was a bad thing to say, but I got the effect that I desired, she smiled and told me I wasn’t like many other guys… I sat there with an awkwardly bemused look on my face, and she said that it was a good thing though.
Anyways, she hates me now… I have no phone to contact her with. She has deleted me from her friends online and blocked me from instant messaging as well as email… However, she does frequent a chat room on occasion, sometimes I show up there, but I never say anything. She has told me herself that she hates me, but I know I can fix what I did wrong, I just need to know how and what I should do to fix the trust I had with her… she’s a hard person to trust, she has trust issues from bad family problems… I feel desperately in need of her companionship again. What should I do?! Please help me…
Comment by Jeff — February 3, 2009 @ 9:05 pm
I’m in love with this girl that i think used to like me. but now she acts like i dont exist. there was definitely heat, i could feel it. this article kinda helped, cuz i do feel like when im around her i suffer from a lapse in confidence. My knees turn to jello, and everytime i see her face time turns back to what used to be. We often make eye contact, especially over long distances. What do you think the best way for me to approach her would be considering my rare, but serious self esteem issue? Thanks
Comment by o. — February 7, 2009 @ 11:37 pm
I love this girl. On valentine day i bought her A LOTS of chocolate and put it in a box which make it special! After that when she receive the gift she don’t feel happy,when our class is over she rejected my present and wanted to give it back. Can you tell me what to do after what happen today! She took the present in the end because i told her that is a gift from me, it doesn’t mean anything.
Comment by Wilson — February 16, 2009 @ 2:56 am
There is this girl i’ve liked since high school and she’s only looked at me as a friend. When i went to visit her at college we really hit it off. There was definitely something between us that night. Then the next few days, she really hasnt been paying attention to me. When i text her she doesnt seem enthusiastic like she used to. I dont know what is going on here
Comment by Mike — February 16, 2009 @ 2:17 pm
So I meet this girl a few months ago,We kinda hit it off at first. Then she pulls the I think we should just be friends.
Then she starts sendin me pic’s. So things kinda pick back up, then she tells ne thst she thinks of as a brother (just slit my throught Y don’t cha) But she calls me every day, she’s the first person I talk to every day & the last every night. & she just wants to be friends? ( man am i confussed)
& not only that how do u tell a girl that u don’t want her as a friend cuz u would rather her be u’r girlfriend ?
Comment by me — February 17, 2009 @ 2:21 pm
this girl said she likes me, fancey’s me , and we get on like its love but she has a boyfriend and a baby.(exampal) like its happen a cople time were shes said i feel like doing it but cant coz of her boyfriend and its killing me in side that i cant express, iv told her how i feel but wot should i do plesae give me something i feel like my hart is breaking bit by bit my heads all messed up ? help me
Comment by Steven — February 17, 2009 @ 6:06 pm
me and this girl were going out. and she thought i was being to serious.so she broke u with me. she said she wanted a brake and maybe we will go out in the future. but she wont say how long it will be until we do go back out. she says she still loves me but she is just scared. its been two weeks and i am still deeply in love with her. what do i do????
Comment by Lucas Brocchetti — February 19, 2009 @ 5:20 pm
i don’t know how to approach a girl please can you help out.
Comment by akeey — February 20, 2009 @ 8:59 am
i am in love with another girl but i am a girl myself and i dont know what to do .. she said that she used to be bisexual but now she is not and its completely breaking me apart .. i love her soo much and i have told her bout this but she said that she was glab i told her and it just ended there .. !! ever since i have told her i feel the tinest bit closer to her but i want to know what she might be thinking .. can you help mee .. ?
Comment by gemma armstrong — February 20, 2009 @ 12:25 pm
i am in love with a girl…but i dont know tht she loves me or not..she also likes me as a friend..we are together in same office..but located at different places..so cant get interacted due to work load…whenever i ask her to go for a break she never comes and later on she goes alone or sometime with her collegue(she). she is a very ambitious girl..she has never discussed with me about her aims in her life…and dont want to ask her directly bcoz i dont want her to misunderstand me…please guide me how should i approach her..
Comment by Ritz — February 21, 2009 @ 3:39 am
I’m in love with a girl but I’m not sure if she loves me back. We talk about how we like each other and we ask questions about each other all the time and it seems like we are close to perfect for each other and two nights ago we went to her friends house and we watched movies and we were holding hands and cuddling and then i pulled a move and made out with her and right after that i had to leave and she gave me a kiss when i left but then yesterday when i got to school it almost seemed like she was avoiding me i didnt even get a chance to give her a hug and i know that shes a girl that likes the guy to take control but how am i supposed to do anything if she doesn’t give me a chance. i really like her and today i asked her friend if she likes me and she said that she does a lot but i dont know she hasnt texted me like at all today and i need help SOMEONE PLEASE ANSWER ME !!!!
Comment by Jake — February 21, 2009 @ 8:22 pm
Jake, that girl u love probably just dunno how to face you after what had happened…. some girls will be nervous after making out…give her some time or perhaps go to her and start talking to her…make sure u dun start with the “make out” topic….
Comment by Verone — February 22, 2009 @ 6:52 pm
I love a girl but i want to tell my love to her pls help me…………!
Comment by arjun — February 25, 2009 @ 5:24 am
i met this guy in school and i liked him so much.but on getting to know him better.he introduced me to his girlfriend only for me to fall in love with her.
i cant just help my self its killing softing each time i realise i am not going to have her.
Comment by stanley — February 26, 2009 @ 7:06 am
I love this girl but she just hooked up with her crush. Every time I want to ask her to the dance or something I get to nervous. She lives 97 miles away from her crush and they text alot, I think she like likes me but I’m not sure.
HELP!
Comment by B RYE — March 3, 2009 @ 11:10 pm
ok im in mad love with this girl and she keeps rejecting me no matter what i do im so nice and kind to her i make her laugh all the time and i give her the world but she always says no please tell me what is a good thing to say to them
Comment by persondude — March 4, 2009 @ 7:46 pm
I have this girl that I’m really attracted not just physically but also from her personality, but unfortunately I always been struggling to make her laugh and finding interesting discussion or topics, and lately it seems like she start to avoiding me, even while chatting she often times doesn’t give any respond and just leaving me behind. This have drive me quite crazy to be truthful..
If anyone have solution: please help me, thx.
Comment by englishandbook — March 5, 2009 @ 8:00 am
i have liked this girl and she likes me but shes going with another guy but she really likes both of us
Comment by kris — March 5, 2009 @ 8:46 pm
Seriously, i need help, my issues are mostly getting her to respond me, i just feel that shes avoiding me, or just not really chatful around me.. . pls. i lost my skill around girls, used to mess with girl, and was good at it, untill now, i guess shes the one for me.
i really like her, and idk what the hell to do, i try to pretend that im fun or all that, doesn’t work, it feels that she knows my history…. !
Comment by Unkown — March 6, 2009 @ 9:02 pm
i like this girl named Iris in my class, yea she started avoiding me when she found out. but she often stares at me for like ten sec when i am not watching ( i figured out when i was doing some class work when i noticed her staring at me) it has happened a lot of times. But many people likes her to! So i would like to know if she likes me too?
Comment by Iris Lover — March 9, 2009 @ 6:16 am
I fell for a girl. The first time I met her I thought she was beautiful. She was very different from me. She is very outgoing and loves to have fun and dance. After she broke up with my friend my other friend (who i am going to name Fred) I got us to talk I was not interested in dating her very badly at first but that day we talked I got her number. The next day she told me she liked me and I said I thought she was beautiful.
After Fred found out we liked each other, he told her he liked her which i thought was really messed up. After that she didn’t want to go out with me b/c i was friends with him.The thing is we had been talking to each other for a week and i was hooked to her. Weeks went by and i was telling her the most romantic things I could think of and some i couldn’t think of (which means they came out of nowhere). I found out her favorite flowers are carnations and i told her my favorite flowers are her. I made her a video with a song that matches how i feel about her and apologizing after i completely ignored her one day. She loved it. She told me i made her cry with this video.
After i tried to ask her if she liked me again she said as a friend and that she wasn’t going to date anyone this year. The fact is i didn’t give up which was very different in my case. Then not to long ago she started dating someone. I was beyond heartbroken. I told her that what she did wasn’t right. Apparently i made her cry all the way to Fred’s house. After some hours i told her i loved her and that was going to change. I couldn’t stop myself from calling her again so we talked for hours and now shes going with me to my senior prom. The thing is I still feel the same for her. Please tell me what i should do to make her open her eyes to me again b/c i don’t want to lose her.
Comment by desesperado99 — March 10, 2009 @ 2:45 pm
very fine point for me. thanks all
Comment by Shaon rajshahi — March 15, 2009 @ 11:42 am
Stanley just ask the chick out i remember when i asked my chick i was so nervous but i asked and it turned out good and she also had a boyfriend
Comment by Donovan — March 22, 2009 @ 3:29 pm
I am totally in love with a friend of mines girl. He is a total asshole to her and it makes me so angry the way he talks to her. When he makes her cry I just want to hold ger and tell her everything will be ok but I cant. I think she likes me a little because we all slept in the same bed when I took her to see her parents in Arkansas and she would cuddle with me all night. I just want to know how to win her over.
Comment by Ryan — March 25, 2009 @ 6:28 pm
I was in love with this girl for 3 yrs, she was from my hometown but I moved and lived 7 hours away. We hardly talked, got to see her when i came to town and she was hanging around the same friends. i then moved back home to work at the family business. She had a bf, but he worked out of town. One of my first nights at the local club, she asked me to go to the drive in. We have been boning ever since and she has broke up with her boyfriend. What a great story, we also tell each other we love each other. Her ex wants to beat me up, but i have 3 brother and lots of friends, so he doesnt do anything, just gets better, we are now engaged.
Comment by Joshua — March 28, 2009 @ 3:08 pm
ryan – try and get in the same bed with her again, bu instead of being the good friend, kiss her ever so softly, when she isnt looking cup a quick feel, it will drive her crazy
Comment by Joshua — March 28, 2009 @ 3:11 pm
i am falling for a girl, but i am not sure if she likes me.
i think she does but i’m not sure.
i only see her once or twice every week, but when i do it’s amazing. unfortunately i’m not gaim enough to ask her out because i dont know if she likes me, how do i be sure that she likes me.
Comment by steve — March 30, 2009 @ 4:34 am
i like a girl ok? it seems that she doesn’t want me.she says that she have someone but I’m not sure.i said her that i want her but she changed her behavior and she talked to me like a stranger after that she doesn’t talk to me any more. What should I do???
Comment by Arman — April 1, 2009 @ 1:25 am
There is this girl i like. she is the girl of my dreams but i don’t think she likes me. we sometimes talk but i don’t know what to do. she likes me as a friend but i have a mole on my face by my left eye and she will not go out with me because of it. i need help now
Comment by charlie — April 3, 2009 @ 10:10 am
i just saw one girl from the date of college starts,and i don’t feel any love in me before the girl starts to see me but she went to see me for sometimes then after i feel some of the pressure in me and i am not sure about the girl who loves me or not.i just confused because of it
Comment by khany — April 6, 2009 @ 10:25 am
Hello, u think u could help me? Well here’s my story. i feel in love with a girl that we i spent almost all the time together, yes were happy, i like her and i was sure that she like me, i give her gifts, i told her i love her and i ask her out and she said no, i keep on trying to make her love me and i felt depressed and now i know that’s wrong, but i know she likes me but she wont go out with me. can u help me
Comment by chris — April 8, 2009 @ 9:53 pm
Help me guys…I love a gal too much….she is my best friend..but when i proposed to her she just completely rejected it..she is afraid whether i will cheat her [as she is ma best friend i have told her about my previous gal friends and how i cheated them ].but these gal i love truly and i can’t live without her..plz help me out guys
Comment by Ged — April 11, 2009 @ 1:27 am
I’m in love with this girl, and she’s had a boyfriend for a while. Before him, we went out but I broke up with her because of some problems with my sister. Although she has a bf, we’ve hung out, kissed, and always have a good time around each other. She also says she really does love me. I’ve tried everything I can think of to show her I’m the guy she should be with. Please give any ideas you have.
Comment by zacal — April 12, 2009 @ 3:23 pm
Ok so i LOVE this girl but she has a boy friend and she really likes him and she likes me a little and i always do everything that it says to do in that paragraph I’m funny and I’m happy what do i do now?? Should i keep talking 2 her and keep being my self and pray that everything works out????
Comment by Chase — April 13, 2009 @ 8:33 pm
Yo zacal im in the same situation just keep flirting wit the girl and be ur self..i hope it all works out for the both of us
Comment by Chase — April 13, 2009 @ 8:37 pm
Ok theres a girl that i admire, and would do anything to get a date with! We are good friends, and talk all of the time, but i dont know how to try to make her like me the way i do her. She is great and accels at everything she does, and is a little out of my league. Is there anything i can do to start impressing ladies and getting mroe dates?????
Comment by confused guy — April 15, 2009 @ 5:19 pm
I love a girl on facebook and do not know what to do.To be honest i am shy and fears that she won/t like me
Comment by KEITH — April 16, 2009 @ 11:02 am
hi guys.
i have a problem
i sometimes get nervous when i speak o a girl and that makes me sweat. i hate it when that happens
What can i do?
Comment by damain — April 16, 2009 @ 10:18 pm
i love a girl, i loved her more than three years, i send her to msg that I am telling my love, it was before a year she didn’t answered my msg up to now. i don’t know whether she love me or not. and I am not around i mean i live another country so what can i do ? and even i cant forget her once . she is my life.
Comment by Adam — April 17, 2009 @ 2:01 am
help me guys…i love this girl..she is my best friend but when i proposed to her she rejected it, she told that she was afraid to our friendship . . . .i love this girl . . Please help!
Comment by Nathan — April 20, 2009 @ 11:48 pm
right for all of you
ask the girl out if she says no
thats it, its a no
its better than waiting years for her to make a move
just ask her
the worst that’ll happen is she will say no and stop talking to you
but really you wouldnt live just being her friend
so its an all or nothing kind of thing.
Comment by blake — April 24, 2009 @ 3:13 pm
First off, you all need to know one things about people or girls for this instance… they are all not the same and they all think different the one’s that always want that hot guy with long hair.. and are tall .. is what pisses you off cause ur not that guy.. but as for me when i date a girl and i ask her if she likes a guy like that.. they say yes.. that’s what all girls want but then she comes around and says but they’re not as good as you.. well that’s just bull .. she told me what she wants.. so i leave her… and tell her to go find it.. if she doesn’t want me then fine.. bye
Comment by stephen — April 26, 2009 @ 5:48 pm
Hello! I love a girl too. and I really like her for 2 years now. I already send him a millions of messages. But she”s not answering my letters. Pls help me
Comment by Mendel — May 3, 2009 @ 8:20 pm
hi.. i have been loving this girl for so long…. she tells me she loves me but then she cheats on me and tells me she dosnt no if she loves me… pleazzz help…
Comment by kith — May 7, 2009 @ 10:05 am
hi, well i was talking to this girl for little over 2 weeks and i thought she liked me and i have been hinting it to her all the time then come to find out she tells me that she has a boyfriend that i dont know about and that she wants to be friends and not my girlfriend but the way she looks in my eyes i know it could be more than that, i dont get why she wants to be friends when i treat her better than her boyfriend and i really have feelings for her.. any advice??
Comment by Jason T. — May 10, 2009 @ 7:02 pm
i am in love with a friend of mine and proposed her she was happy with it but now she says she doesn’t want to get into any relationship as she want’s to get married at the place where her parents want she says she doesn’t want to break my heart so she is refusing now, she says its better to stop now or after five years your heart would be broken
Comment by mohit sang — May 24, 2009 @ 4:34 am
OK well here it is….
I’m deeply and i mean DEEPLY in love with this girl and i can tell she kinda likes me but I’m moving soon but not very far and the farthest ill be away from her is 45 minutes and apparently that’s too far for her, plus I’m not moving for 2 months at the least, oh and i might add that i already live half an hour away from her at this moment in time, so yeah it would be GREATLY appreciated if you could help me on this
Thanks,
Marshall B.
Comment by Marshall B. — May 25, 2009 @ 2:47 am
Well there’s a girl that I’ve been in love with for like a year and a half now but she only considers me as family..I don’t know what to do I’ve told her my feelings and everything and I’m always there for her wen shes down and so far shes been with like 6 or 7 other people and its frustrating seeing these people hurt her and they all try to use her and I’m not like that i want her for right reasons and i would never hurt her..one friend says she says its because i act too depressed or “emo” sometimes and another has said that she thinks I’m not attracting but in her words she said she loves me as family..and i don’t want another girl and like 3 people told me just to find someone else but i don’t want any one else so am i just screwed out of the girl of my dreams or is there something i can do to change her mind about me?
Comment by Justin — May 26, 2009 @ 10:28 pm
okay, all you guys out there. Im a pretty attractive girl and i know exactly what girls see in guys.
1) Easy to talk to
It makes getting along so easy and makes me WANT to talk
2) Confidence.
Be confident, and you’ll get what you want
And BTW, looks arent as important for girls, just try your best.
Comment by Jenna — May 27, 2009 @ 1:45 pm
i been with a girl for six months and she used to date a friend of mine… but she is starting to show her true colours she is a very negative induvidual and has alot of anger inside of her but i cant leave her alone
Comment by gary wright — May 27, 2009 @ 2:48 pm
I can say this for a fact; you do not have to be attractive in order to have someone fall in love with you, it all comes down to who you are and how others feel when they are around you (as stated above).
Comment by Sandra — May 31, 2009 @ 5:35 pm
1 month ago my girlfriend gave me the boot. I dated her for 1.4 years and always treated her like a queen. I must give myself credit on my manners, and for that I am proud of myself. After our break-up I never called her again, nor did she call me. Never knew the reason why she kicked me to the curb. It hurt!! But I never let her know. I am 34 and she is 32. Today is June 1st, 2009 and I received a free annual pass to the San Diego Wild Animal Park by mail from her. That is the last place I took her to the day she broke up with me. We never fought through our relationship.
A week after my ex broke up with me I met another woman all by a mere coincidence. We began dating right away. I am currently dating this new girl, but my ex constantly pops up in my mind. The new girl I am seeing is much more beautiful (long straight black hair, beautiful asian eyes, light complected, big ol’ round but, 130 lbs, 5′ 6″ you get the picture), but that’s not important when you’re in love with a girl as I was with my ex. The new girl gets mad very easy and I don’t like that. I’ve been treating this new girl no different than my ex…WONDERFUL! I just got back from an Ensenada/San Diego/Catalina Island Carnival Cruise. It seems like she really likes me, but she gets mad too easy over the little things in life. If my ex came back, I would be extremely upset at her for having given me the boot for no reason. I wonder what the reason was. That’s the only thing I want to know. I would not lie to my ex about the new girl that I am seeing for there is nothing wrong that I am doing. I would let my ex know how bad she hurt me. That’s all I want to know…WHY DID SHE LEAVE????? It’s killing me to call her, or just go over her house to find out WHY??? But then that would not be fair to the new girl I am dating. The new girl tells me that she is very lucky to have me, but if she really meant this, then she would not have a fit over the little things in life so easy.
Comment by Nick — June 1, 2009 @ 2:52 am
Hi I’ve been in love with a girl for 5 years. We never talked to each other but i expressed my love to her and told her that how much i love her but she doesn’t respond to me still when ever we have eye contact she say nothing to me i think she have a soft corner for me (i think) please help me out i really love her and doesn’t want to lose her.
Comment by Ismail — June 2, 2009 @ 11:15 am
I crazily love a girl for the past 2 years and i think she loves me too but due to her conservative minded parents she stepped back. But i cant think of living without her. She is something that i cant afford to lose. Plz help me in this situation.
Comment by Sanky — June 2, 2009 @ 9:23 pm
anybody please help me. i love a girl. but she never talk to me nor asked me anything. everytime i start the conversation she always ends it very quickly.
it seems that she hates me. but i realy-realy love her.
i am not ugly nor poor. what should i do?
Comment by Ryu — June 3, 2009 @ 9:04 am
I like this guy a lot. I started to get over him but then he started talking to me which made me fall back in love. we talk briefly sometimes and have walked home together. i feel really awkward because I’m not super ugly but a little overweight. I feel like he sees only that. hes not a super close friend but even though i don’t know him well ive liked him for 2 yrs. can a guy give me any tips on how to tell a guy that u like him w/o actually telling him? guys ideas of flirting are so different then girls.
Comment by Emily — June 10, 2009 @ 4:22 pm
i always doubt girls at first as sometimes they reply strangely my sms! This made me think she is with someone else in the beginning! Its always like that until break up! Always problems!
Comment by ishraat — June 13, 2009 @ 1:18 pm
I like this girl a lot. But it seams that she don’t have that same feeling. when we are making love, she frowns her face until we are through. One night she and i met on the street and we discuss to meet at her house later on. later that night, i went to her house stay there there until late by 11:00 pm, so i decided to leave for home than desired to give her a little cash for food for the next day. Turns out, I accidentally gave her too much and then asked for it a little of it back. From that time i did not call her. But i am still in love with this girl. What can i do. Please tell me.
Comment by Pozo — June 18, 2009 @ 9:14 am
Alright. I hope someone can help me with this. I have a friend who is a girl. We met a long time ago and since then we’ve been friends. We talk regularly. Just the other day, went over to her house and we went from talking to making out, to having sleeping together. Now ever since i met her I’ve been in love with her. I’ve told her about how i feel and she feels the same way about me. But i have a gf right now and my friend is in this screwed up open relationship. She tells me that she loves him but at the same time loves me to. It seems like she wants to be with me but i don’t know what to do. I love this girl very much and would do anything to who her over. What should i do?
Comment by Alex — June 22, 2009 @ 1:56 pm
Dude, if u want a girl don’t go all mushy on her and tell her your feelings, girls hate that. And don’t be afraid to put her in her place sometimes, remember YOU are the man of the relationship, not her. Grow a sack and act like a man. Don’t be an mean though, just be a little assertive.
Comment by Drake — June 22, 2009 @ 1:58 pm
Alex: Listen, if you already cheated on your current girlfriend, then just end it because it’s obviously not going to work out. That’s the first step.
After that, go after this girl you like and if it’s meant to be, it will happen. Otherwise, keep on searching for love.
Drake: Well said.
Pozo: Don’t give her cash for food… if you’re buying her love, then you’re doing it wrong. It sounds to me as if she’s sleeping with you because it’s convenient rather than enjoying it. I’d start by reading up on some seduction material (Start with Double Your Dating), and then getting yourself a girlfriend that will appreciate you for who you are.
Emily: Telling him that you like him works… sometimes he just doesn’t know or is shy as well. You’re going to have to turn up the romance and playfulness if you’re going to get anywhere with him. Just increase physical contact until you’re both kissing and if he likes you, it will happen. I suppose you could indicate interest in another guy and make him jealous, but it would be better if you simply were more direct. Just don’t put yourself down!
Ryu: If she ends conversations early, then it’s likely that you have a LOT of learning to do because I’m sure the conversation is awkward. Don’t put yourself down though, everyone has to start somewhere and it’s good that you have the will to walk up to a girl you love. I’d recommend you start by developing your conversation skills by talking to a LOT of people. I don’t know, but it sounds as if your social skills need to be improved. Like anything else, it’s just practice. If you want a couple ideas on how to start conversations, I have some good articles here or you could check out David Deangelo’s stuff, it’s good.
Comment by Chris Calo — June 22, 2009 @ 9:50 pm
If u think u have strong feelings for your girlfriend but cant tell her because its very early into the relationship. How can i hint it or show it with out saying it or revealing it totally so i can see if she feels the same or so i don’t scare her
Comment by kyle pce — June 23, 2009 @ 10:43 am
Girl just love attention. They always try to see what you can give them first, then they decides if u should be given a chance.
Comment by MARIO — June 24, 2009 @ 4:16 pm
hello,
about 10 weeks ago, i met a fantastic girl, shes very pretty, cute, funny and we get on like a house on fire. we met at a barbeque at my hall of residence and then i saw her again 2 nights afterwards. i live in chile, but hang around a massive contingent of foreigners. after the third time i met her we spent the whole night chatting in the club, because i was trying to get with her, but it did not happen. the next day we chatted on facebook for a good 6 hours, and i started liking her. soon, we started spending a lot of time together and chatting a lot and i fell in love with her. the problem is that she’s on exchange over here, and she’s traveling now, but is back in chile for only a week (having written that my heart just sank) before she returns to england to finish her course. i fell in love with her about a month ago, and was terrified that i was never going to get with her ever, but last week a got with her, and went to bed immediately. the reason why i didnt dare to get with her earlier, is of course because of our group, the fact that i’m 18 and she’s 21 (she always said that she had never been with anyone younger than her in her life) and i’d rather have as a friend than no-one at all in my life. since last week we’ve being going out and sleeping together. i don’t stop thinking about her and its tearing me apart. i’m very inexperienced in the whole field of love although i have slept around a lot and have lead a very hedonistic lifestyle involving sex, drugs and alcohol; i just haven’t met anyone so amazing. i have been in relationships, but always either open or short-lived. when i finally hooked up with her i had to end it with a girl i was seeing, who hates me now since i broke her heart. i feel like a complete asshole for doing so, because she lives in my house and now just completely avoids me. lastly, she’s back in a few days and i have never said the words “i love you” to anyone who were not my parents or best friends when drunk or on ecstasy. this girl has really changed my life even only knowing her for a mere decimal of my young life. i’ve changed the way i dress, i haven’t taken any illicit drugs, i’ve gone to the gym religiously and i’ve realised what lies ahead in life: that it’s not all about getting f***ed nor sleeping with anyone. i have had such a wonderful time the last two years of my life, but it can’t go on forever, especially when my parents fund it. the worst part of it all is that i set myself up for disaster, in other words an imminent heartache. i know that she feels the same way. i just needed to tell some random strangers that and let it out, but i need advice on how i’ll tell her i love her and how to tolerate the heartbreak when she goes. i also don’t want to go back to my old ways and habits (last night i went out with my friends, and i didn’t enjoy it much because she wasn’t there, although i danced with a lot of attractive girls, i didn’t want to have anything to do with them, so i decided to leave early.)
much love x
Comment by donsergio — June 25, 2009 @ 11:13 pm
This is smart i was just in a break up and i would do any thing to have her back
Comment by ryan — June 26, 2009 @ 5:03 pm
i have a girl friend, i like the girl so much that each time say fought me, i will not sleep for that night. And i also sensed that she is so interested in me but each time i ask that did she loves me she says “YES” but we can’t be together. now have to stop telling that again because is some how embarrassing to me. So what can i do to make her fall in love with me because i really want her?
Comment by peterfemi — June 29, 2009 @ 5:29 am
I love this girl, and i know she probably likes me back. But what you said was true, talking to much to a girl will give her less chances of liking you. That’s what happened to me. And all i want is to repair that. I will strongly appreciate any help
Comment by Muneeb — July 1, 2009 @ 7:46 pm
Well I really like this girl, and I think about her all the time. And since I’m really good at art I give a lot of my drawings. We don’t really talk much but I have never felt like this ever before with anyone else. But lately we haven’t really been taking, before we grew silent with eachother she had told me she only wants to be friends but I want more. I’ve been really getting to know her bestfriend, who is also gorgeous. And right now I can’t choose which one to go to. Can you please help me in this situation.
Comment by Edwin — July 3, 2009 @ 12:17 am
I really like this girl.
She and I went out one morning and she sent me all these mixed signals…I text her n now she won’t text me back!
Like EVER! why??
Comment by K — July 5, 2009 @ 12:10 am
i love a girl that doesn’t love me and i need a help to get her back after we broke up
Comment by mustafa — July 5, 2009 @ 5:08 pm
well ive been talking to this girl for two weeks i really started to like her she broke up with her ex and it was a bad break up she still has feelings for him,but at the same time has feelings for me too.She just recently told me she cant talk to me because its not fair for me but i like her but i dont want to wait around like a rebound guy but i still want to talk to her what do i tell her
Comment by Nelson — July 6, 2009 @ 9:36 am
I love this girl alot and she says she loves me too were not going out but we do everything a couple would do and whenever im with her alone shes confident and when were with friends shes shy and seems like she dosent want anything to do with me. What does this mean? And whenever i ask her out she says she dosent want a serious relationship, is that a sign she dosent want to date what does that mean?
Comment by John — July 6, 2009 @ 5:04 pm
What does a girl show for u to know that she loves u!!
Comment by Eric — July 7, 2009 @ 7:35 am
We make out and hold hands and everything but like she always teases me and leads me on tho and she hates when i flirt with other girls and gets jealous when i talk about them. I’m not the greatest good looking guy I’m kinda of fat. I don’t know what to do though, help me out?
Comment by John — July 7, 2009 @ 5:52 pm
i have fallen in love for a girl but shes American and i Brazilian what should i do?
Comment by gustavo — July 11, 2009 @ 1:14 am
hi, actually i have now come across a girl whom i fell is the most reliable person in the world for me. the first time i looked at her, i became totally crazy for. now i feel , i cannot live without seeing her. I don’t know how to propose her. i feel free to talk to other girl , when it comes to my dream girl I have a difficult time talking to her. I don’t know what to do other than thinking of her. I am scared , whether i will miss her in my life. If so , i have no hope to live in this world without her. I am literally crying inside me what to do to tell her my love. Please help me in getting my loved one!
Comment by S.SUNIL KUMAR — July 11, 2009 @ 4:16 am
hey guys! ive read all your comments, to make a girl fall in love, all you need to do is make her feel happy when your there, by caring for her, if your not that attractive, you could use your humor by making her laugh, girls find funny guys attractive and confidence, they find it attractive, and all you need to have to make a girl fall in love is patience, courage, confidence, good hygiene, make your clothing style a lil bit stylish lol, good luck guys!
Comment by zack not my real name — July 15, 2009 @ 9:47 pm
thanks to john…it’ll help me a lot for the one i love..
Comment by benneth — July 16, 2009 @ 4:45 am
I’ve had this girl, I love her very much, but she is saying, we should break up and be just friend.
Comment by Benard — July 21, 2009 @ 6:51 am
so i love this girl and she knows that i do and i’ve liked her since 2004 and i told her that but all she said to me was your like a brother to me. and i was like OK so..if you didnt think of me a brother would you go out with me?? because i really thought she liked me because she would ask me before anybody else and get rides with me before anybody else… but i guess not then she got a boyfriend and nothing changed but one day we all went to the movies and he was like Hey Cody do you like her and i was like yea more than you know man.. but then he was like you should ask her out. but i was like but you to are going out wouldnt that be kinda stupid. and he was texted her and was like i think so should go out with cody..i mean her BF told her to go out with me but all she said was he is like a brother…….so my question is how do i get her to like me back and sorry for the long story
Comment by cody — July 23, 2009 @ 8:16 am
I really like this girl who occasionally we hook up but i feel like im way more into her then she is into me. I feel like i always have to talk to her or shes going to move on what should i do to make her like me more? am i trying to hard?
Comment by jon — July 26, 2009 @ 1:09 am
I have this girl but i don’t know how to make her fall in love with me! Sometimes i approach her i don’t know what to say. I don’t know, it feels like your going explode as if your heart is beating faster and faster. If only I could just make her feel the love I have for her!
Comment by Jomai — July 29, 2009 @ 5:15 am
hahahaha i can see many problems here but for me the best solution is JUST BE YOURSELF, if you dont know what to do if shes there then just try act normaly….
oh yeah whatevername!
Comment by whatevername — July 30, 2009 @ 5:45 am
I seriously in love with this pretty girl i met in high school, I didn’t have much to do with her the first because i was afraid of telling her how i do feel for her. Well i had that chance to know she was also interested in me in the final year in high school and just a month to complete. I did tell her i feel for her. She also expressed hers and actually said it was too late and she is in a relationship with a guy for three months. I didn’t give up just like that. I was always buying her gifts and trying to let her watch love movies on my phone.
After high school, i did ask her to come visit me and she did. on that very day i did express how i do feel for her and actually we neatly did have sex. but it didn’t happen and since then i have been calling every morning afternoon and evening and even planning for our next meeting. But the problem is she told me we should be friends and that she can’t stand being in a two relationship and also she just can’t leave the other guy because he hasn’t done everything bad to her.
Guys i really love this girl and i can’t take my mind off her always dream at night and having day dreams too.
Help me my friends, what do you think i should do to win her heart?
Comment by Desmond — August 1, 2009 @ 12:51 pm
i dont know how to make a girl fall in love with me and how i can be a good seducer
HELP
Comment by g-dee — August 2, 2009 @ 3:28 am
this is a great work that make feel am to go and confront my lady that i have been fair of since 3 years ago and her love still with me. kudos to you
Comment by yinka — August 7, 2009 @ 10:56 am
i really like this girl but dont think she likes me i asked her out but she didn’t say a thing.
Comment by jack — August 10, 2009 @ 3:32 am
nice suggestions thanks
Comment by vicki — August 13, 2009 @ 1:27 am
i need help. I have known this girl for a very long time and she knows that i like her. but she is never single and im usually always single. she is the most amazing person i have ever met. i dont know what to do. can anyone help me plz….i just want to be with her. she makes me happy.
Comment by Ethan — August 15, 2009 @ 5:36 pm
i love a girl and she loves me but the problem is that we’re from different countries. I miss her too much and how can i make her sure that i am loving her till the end and i want to get marriage with her and another problem is that her family is very rich and i am from a middle class family. Wow to make them to accept me and give her hands to me because i really love her and i can live without her and even i know that she can’t live without me. Please help!
Comment by hayat rasid — August 16, 2009 @ 5:48 am
i love this girl and i don’t know if she likes me what should i do
Comment by nickolas — August 17, 2009 @ 6:05 am
there’s a girl i love but she is very studious and thinks i would be a hindrance and my friends told her i like her so she told i already have a bf but i don’t think so and i want to express the feelings i have for her please please help
thank u
Comment by shuby — August 21, 2009 @ 3:33 am
Hi,
I am in love with a girl from last one month and i am not able to uderstand that is is a love or only an attraction, but the thing is that she really cares me a lot and i can see her on all of my sides anytime, so finally i feel i am in LOVE
Comment by Gaurav — August 21, 2009 @ 10:02 am
Love is tough guys. Don’t let anyone kid you. Sometimes though… it has to do more with other things rather than love. Think about it… While your with the person, you don’t feel anything but if they dump you, you cry like a baby.
Again, a guy “loves” a girl and the feeling is somewhat strong, but they never do anything about it. Then one day they can never see each other again and you cry like a baby again.
Is it really love or is it regret? Is it the fact that you took the other person for granted until they were gone. I think that’s the greatest love lesson…. never take anything for granted because when it’s gone, you will kick yourself. If you do all you can for the people you love, if they break your heart you can take solace in the fact that you truly did your best.
Comment by Jim — August 22, 2009 @ 1:46 pm
I completely agree Jim.
Love is tough, sometimes you only realize how much you loved someone when they are no longer with you.
I think there’s a difference between love and regret, but you won’t regret much if you didn’t have love in the first place.
Sometimes the only thing you can do is just trust in the universe to reunite you with your love.
Comment by Chris Calo — August 22, 2009 @ 5:50 pm
I’m in love with a very pretty social girl, she knows everybody in town, always smiling and mostly of the time with guys. The first time I saw her I went to ask for a job at the bakery were she works, she saw me there, and then after 2 weeks I met her through my friend in a bar, it was a concidence, but I don’t think she remembered me from the bakery, 3 weeks after, she lended the car to my friend, and he asked me to go and pick the keys from her in the bakery, so I did, she gave me her phone number in case something bad happend, the next day I called her to ask her were can we meet to return her the car, she said just to leave it on her garage with the keys inside, it’s been 3 days and I’m dying to meet her again, is the girl of my dreams,…what can I do? I don’t whant to call her by the phone becouse she know I have her number, so she must be expecting me to call her, like all guys do…she’s always with guys, and she flirts all the time..ohh yes,, she has my phone number, should I wait for her to call me if she really likes me??
Comment by alexvela — August 23, 2009 @ 8:23 pm
I’m in love with..my best friend. An obvious choice in my account seeing as though she’s been there for me since day 1. We knew each other for 4 to 5 years, and it feels as though were closer…but I know that were really not that close at all. She says that she loves me, but she doesn’t love me in that sense. I’m in love with her, but she doesn’t understand what it truly means to love someone. She’s dated more than her fair sure of guys, and I just watch in the sidelines wishing that I could be attended to. It feels selfish of me to say something like that, but I feel as though if I care about something so much, then I shouldn’t keep it quiet. She knows that I’m in love with her, but…she can’t do anything about it. She knows she can’t, and in a way its tearing me apart. I should move on yes, but its kind of hard to when you had such strong feelings for this person for years. I just can’t move on like that. For every guy that she dates, I kind of feel as though there better than me….like the quote “What does he got that I don’t got”
Its stupid really, I don’t like to whine or anything, and I refuse to torture anyone over this matter
I decided to endure this very strangling emotion and just be happy for her, that’s the only thing I can do. I’m grown up now…nearing the age of 21, I can’t just act like a baby and whine about this. So I just endure, I won’t stop loving her, well…its not like I have a choice in the matter, and I’ll just watch from the sidelines like always
Comment by Chris Camara — August 26, 2009 @ 9:11 pm
l love this girl, shes a family friend,we are more like cousins.
Like a year back i went to her brothers engagement, there she saw me like after 3 or 4 years, before that we met at my brothers wedding. There at her brothers engagement there was a little eye contact between me and her and she and her friends were talking about me. After her brothers engagement after a month or so some how she took my number out of her brothers cell and then she messaged me and then we started talking. She was like i like you and all this and that but she didn’t said that she loves me. We talked for about 3 weeks or so continuously but then slowly we started to talk less and less and there came a point where we didn’t talk for a month or so.
Then my family had few medical problems and we went to her city and we lived at her house. There we again started talk and after a day or 2 she said that she loves me!
But when we left, we just stopped talking. She didn’t say she didn’t like me, we just stopped talking.
So can you please tell me whats going on? i really love her.
Comment by 30 30 sh — September 2, 2009 @ 2:07 pm
i need your help because i don’t know how to make a girl fall in love with me.
Comment by lucky kelvin — September 2, 2009 @ 10:24 pm
I’m in love with this girl and have been for many years now, i had the chance to date her last December but failed to see it and dated someone else after giving up hurting her, but broke up with the other girl a week later because i thought it unfair to date her when i still loved the first girl. Me and her have since become best friends but both of us suffer from low self esteem, i constantly tell her how she is wrong to think bad about her self, and tell her about all the beauty i see in her, and although she is always very grateful to hear these things i don’t believe she has the slightest intentions of dating me. I’m at my wits end, i don’t know what to do, living with out her her very painful, please if there’s anything you can teach me it would be greatly appreciated
Comment by Tyler — September 5, 2009 @ 12:56 pm
I got a girl and a love her very much she says it but i don’t no if she does or doesn’t. We always be arguing i don’t no how to make her up and stop arguing with her can u give me some ideas?
Comment by harry — September 5, 2009 @ 9:16 pm
i have a big problem, I don’t look good but I still want to have a loving relationship with a beautiful girl. Yet, I don’t know what to do to attract beautiful girls!
Comment by roames — September 7, 2009 @ 7:43 am
i am in love wit a girl from past 6 months, and she is bit an introvert who is very much to her family, i know that she loves me from inside but she is not showing it outside, both of us are living very far away, so we normally talk in phone throughout, and i am very much crazy about her, i want her to say “i love you” to me, which she is carrying inside, i want her to love me and show the love to me the way i do……please help ….what should i do to make her say that she loves me.
Comment by Srinivas — September 25, 2009 @ 3:48 am
i live with a girl in the same apartment and then i would make her fall in love with me how and what to do about that please i need help.
Comment by ridal — September 28, 2009 @ 5:16 am
I really love a girl and she loves me but at the same time she wants a bad boy and now she’s looking for someone else but I still love her and I didn’t do anything wrong I complimented her all the time, hugged her, kissed her and shower her that I can be the right person for her but then something happened between us… please I need some advice.
Comment by Wynter — September 28, 2009 @ 11:00 pm
I really love this girl and she’s older than me. We used to go out together and I feel like when i’m with her all my problems where gone. I realize that she’s the girl i’m looking for then i decided to tell her what i really feel and i think she loves me too and say to her that i love her but she didn’t say anything she doesn’t say any single word. I keep a distance between her and one day we were talking again that we used to but something’s change she alwys keeps a distance between me. I said to her that it seems that i have no chance of having her. i said that it seems that can only be friends. but i’m still waiting for the right time. ANY ADVICE?
Comment by Kei — October 6, 2009 @ 7:18 am
hi..i m in love with a girl. At the beginning i told her a few lies to make her mine. We have been talking over phone from last 4 months and then we meet each other. She now also loves me but one day i told her that i lied in the starting stages. In between few days ago, i was busy in my career and was unable to give her time..she get annoyed. She is quite sentimental and now she catches my small talk and gets angry even now she doesn’t say that she loves me. What to do to make her fall in love again ?
Comment by Shrey — October 11, 2009 @ 1:57 am
I like this girl at school she’s a year older than me how do i make an appearance in her life and make her fall for me?
Comment by dude — October 12, 2009 @ 9:11 am
I have lots of comments for your advices, i am still in love with a girl to whom which i was strongly in love 7 years ago. I was very valuable for her, very emotional, strong, she was trusting me with any case of her life that i could make her happy, loving, smiling, secure and i did lots of help to her. But i tried her the most beautiful sentence “I LOVE YOU” for two years but she told me you are valuable for me, you are a nice & handsome guy, you would make me happy always and love me so much but i don’t love you and please leave me. So for two years i did like this as it was my timetable for two and three time a day for 2 years just telling her, i cant be with you, I’ll die with out you, the life is nothing for me with out you.
Please give me your treasured idea.
Thank you
Comment by Ahad — October 14, 2009 @ 3:58 am
well i have a problem so i like this girl and shes like my bestfriend i havernt known her for a long time but she is really nice she flirts with me all the time but then she says she only sees me as a friend so i dont know what to do anymore im so out of it im so confused about what she really feels for me can someone help plz
Comment by beto — October 14, 2009 @ 3:18 pm
I have to say the world is coming to an end or would come to an end on me should I not be able to win this girl, I have been with this girl for the past 6 years but she is still denying the fact. I love her so much, so much to the extend that even the time we where together she when she told me to wait upon the lord, I waited without any say. but now she is in the nursing school about to graduate. She is far from me too. Now it looks like she’s been having time for me but with the reason that, we should let God decide for us. What at all do i have to do to let her love me ?
Comment by Delali — October 21, 2009 @ 6:59 am
I’ve been told I’m a good looking guy even though I’m a bit shy and my self esteem is 6 feet under, all my life I’ve been afraid to ask a girl out for fear that rejection may hurt my pride – instead- I’d go out with girls that asked me out, currently I’m married to a woman that proposed to me 9 years ago and I’ve noticed how some women in my neighbor seems to want me even more while married. How do i make her NOT want me without hurting her feelings ?
Comment by Louis — October 23, 2009 @ 12:23 am
hi! everyone, I also have a problem and i believe that you will help me. I have a girlfriend and we both love each other very much. This is the third month since we have been together. However, the problem that i myself experience is that i am not sure what actually to talk about when I am with her. That makes me to be worried about loosing her because i am not really sure about what to communicate with her. Should we talk about our relationship or our everyday events? Plz give an advice. i really need your help
Comment by dingaan — October 28, 2009 @ 8:05 am
Dear Dude,
This is what I advise you to do. Find out anything that ties you two together. It can be anything from friends to some form of activity. Use this to approach her. Talk to her and make her laugh. Girls want to be happy. If you make her happy, she will want to be around you. However, do NOT be fake. It is a huge turn off because the girl should be able to trust you. Honestly, just be yourself. That is the best advice in the world. My boyfriend thought he never had a chance. But I saw how comfortable and confident he was in himself, how he could be himself around me, I fell in love with him. I have never been happier. He is my whole world. Keep in mind thought that she may not be the one, and that is alright because you put yourself out there. You don’t have to wonder “what if?” You can move on and find that girl. I am sure you will sweep her off her feet.
Honestly, to all of the guys out there, the best advice is to be yourself and be confident with who you are because you want someone to love you for who you are, not how you act in front of that person. I hope I helped!
Comment by Natasha — October 28, 2009 @ 11:16 am
Hi,
That is very important. I had this one boyfriend who we loved each other very much, but he did not spend enough time with me and sometimes would not talk to me for a whole week and i thought something bad happened to him. So i broke up with him and then got a new boyfriend who never really loved me at all and was only using me. So a tip for all you guys out there, love your woman with all your heart and only her. Spend lots of time with her and make her feel special 
Since i am single now, there is this friend of mine who likes me so may be we will get into a relationship. i like him and he is really nice and he likes me a lot. so who knows what the future holds? But anyway if you want to ask me any questions i am here for you guys 
I am a girl, just to let you know. lol. but i found this website and i thought i could help you guys out.
If you are not handsome or rich, then you need a girl who is a good person with a kind heart, because those are the perfect girls who are more concerned with things other than money or looks. If you guys want a good woman, than you have to be good guys yourselves. I have been through several relationships and sadly, all of them have ended in me having to brake up with them, because they either lied or did not put enough time to talk with me or spend with me. Not ever girl is the same, but in general good women want good men who are going to love them and not love other women. They also like to a have man who can spend lots of time with them
Comment by Christine Herrera — November 1, 2009 @ 11:07 pm
well, I’ve had luck with woman, always have. its just lately since the military, i haven’t. I mean I’m talking to a few chicks at the moment but one has taking my interest, and its one fresh out of a 2 year relationship and is hurt. we started talking not to long ago, maybe 2 months. shes my exs sister, and I’m fully crushing on her. what gets me is we going on a date this coming up weekend, and i wanna treat her like how she deserves to be treated. not to mention i want to be with her, through thick and thin. she sees this guy from time to time, to get urges out, understandable, but I’m kinda tripping that’s shes hooked on him. i just wish i had some advice from someone else to help me figure out what key things i should do to win her over for good. if some one could liberate me I’d greatly appreciate it!
Comment by tim — November 2, 2009 @ 4:36 am
If i have trouble getting the perfect girl, the girl i’ve been waiting for, what should i do if she likes girls? She just broke up with her girlfriend, and now she hates that girl. Do i have any chance with her?
Comment by Emily Sweeny — November 3, 2009 @ 7:38 am
You’re on the right track Nick, that’s normal and all you need is a little more experience. I think your problem might be that you’re trying a little too hard to carry the conversation. If the girl is interested in you, then the less you “try”, the more successful you will be. Finally, depending on your age, your voice will change a little. Take singing lessons and it will improve (not to mention, you can be the singer in a band afterward… which is guaranteed to get you a lot of attention!)
Comment by Chris Calo — November 3, 2009 @ 10:33 am
Emily, it doesn’t mean shell be mad at u or shoot u down, what u need to do is comfort her where the other chick didn’t excel at. Just be there for her. Talk about it a little, but don’t get to in depth about it. One of my good friends is a bi and another is a less, and they tell me about it all the time, bout how great she is. It sucks cause they come to me as if I’m the best friend, but I’m not, but yes, u have a chance. Just go slow with her. unless she moves faster.
Comment by tim — November 3, 2009 @ 9:47 pm
i love my student, and i mention my views and she refuse me. how she comes to me and loves me.
Comment by ashu — November 3, 2009 @ 10:23 pm
YOU
Yes you, are you a guy?
most probably yes. I’ve read most of the comments, and most of them are just patethic. If you ‘love’ a girl so much, ask her out. The only bad thing she can say is NO. And if she does say NO, then so WHAT? GO ask another girl out, it will take a few days to get over the rejection, but you will survive. And most of the comments also say, ‘I love this girl, she is so beasutiful, but i don’t think she likes me’. Well, here’s the thing, you dont love the girl. Yes, you heard me. Just think about it for a few minutes. You just ssee a girl at you school/university, and just becuase you have this one class with her, you love her? Come on guys, be realisic! When you see this girl, and you just can’t stop looking at her, you cant stop trying to impress her by cracking jokes every other second, it’s not love. It’s just liking the girl. There’s a big difference between loving and liking. If you really love a girl, then that means that you know what kind of character she has, her favourite food, colour, movie, what are her hobbies, and a lot of other crap. Also, you can’t just decide that you love a girl. You get to know that you love her when you ask her out, when you date her, and when you get to know her, when you can trust her with anything. So guys, if you have a crush on this chick, and you really want to ask her out, then just be yourself, yes, be yourself, dont try impressing her or whatevr, and JUST ASK HER OUT, becuase there isn’t a right time to ask her out. The earlier you ask her out, the more time you have to spend with her. So show you are a man, and ASK that chick out!
Comment by Sam — November 4, 2009 @ 6:52 am
great ideas. I’ve been searching about it and this is one of the most asserted ones I’ve gotten. Thanks for sharing your knowledge on this. I’m starting a new relation and I think I’m on the right track thanks to you. Well done
Comment by Dario — November 4, 2009 @ 10:27 pm
hey i like ur article & i thing that i was need to read it thanks alot
Comment by mehdi — November 10, 2009 @ 2:45 am
Thanks Dario and Mehdi. Please guys, if any of you have any questions or problems, or worries, just post it here, i’ll try help by giving some advice, (i hope that you find it useful)!
Comment by Sam — November 10, 2009 @ 11:11 am
good for you
Comment by Robert Orwin — November 16, 2009 @ 7:08 am
There’s this girl I simply like. Not like I think i am in love BUT everything stops when she just doesn’t reply or talk to me anymore. Every day i think of her I just cant get her off my mind i think I am gonna go crazy about this!
Comment by Haikal — November 16, 2009 @ 11:59 am
I am a guy who is shy and does not know how to make a move with a girl. although i talk to girls and some of them will say i am very funny.the problem is i don’t know how to scope a girl, words to say, and how to make the relationship stand firm i need help
Comment by eddy — November 18, 2009 @ 9:26 am
Never fail to phone her, even when she least expects it. I once called some girl that I was interested in at four o’clock in the morning. When inquiring of what I was doing up so early, I told her I was in thirteenth heaven, where people think of their loved ones when they can’t sleep. Wow! First thing early the next morning, she was at my door with a king-sized hug for me.
No matter how many dates you take her, don’t make any elbow – exceeding moves after any date, just drop her home and with a friendly handshake, wish her good night. Don’t kiss her when she expects you to. Your respect as a gentleman will be earned on how patient you are with her when it comes to such matters as kissing her and accessing her inner graces.
Comment by ayomi — November 19, 2009 @ 3:22 am
Way to go Ayomi, great advice! Haikal, perhaps you could give this girl you like so much a bit more space, try ignoring her a little, perhaps make her jealous by talking more to other girls when she’s around. If she likes you, then she will try get your attention, because she wont like it when your giving other girls more attention than her. As for you Eddy, i think that Ayomi gave you some great tips already!
Comment by Sam — November 22, 2009 @ 4:33 am
I have this girlfriend, we’ve been steadying for quite a long period of time, just that i don’t know what to talk about when we are together, please tell me how to talk to her
Comment by Alden — November 23, 2009 @ 6:40 am
Well, that’s kinda tricky. I mean, if you dont know much about her, then you could strike up conversation with her quite easily, by asking her what hobbies she has, sports, music, etc. But if you already know all that, then i have one suggestion for you. If the two of you communicate quite a lot by sending e-mails, or texts, msn or whatever, stop that. Try not to talk to each other via technology. So if something happens during the weekend and you cant wait to tell her the news, wait till you see her, then tell her. This creates more conversation for the two of you to talk about. If that doesn’t work, and you’ve already tried any other solution you could think of, then talk to her about the way you feel on how the two of you dont talk much when you are around each other. Hope it works for you!
Comment by Sam — November 23, 2009 @ 12:23 pm
I think its better if this question is answered by a girl because they know better what they want. So not bad actually but not very interesting. The same points what we listen from our friends
Comment by kakani — November 24, 2009 @ 10:07 am
You know Kakani, not all the girls are the same. They all have different opinions, and i don’t agree with you wanting advice from a girl. Alden, the best thing to do is to just talk to her about how you feel, make her aware that you care about keeping a healthy relationship.
Comment by Sam — November 25, 2009 @ 9:23 am
I love a girl and we study in the same university. She lives in our neighborhood and i had seen her a few times before going to university and i thought she was really beautiful.i attract most girls around me and I’m quite handsome.before the university starts guys told her that we were both applied in the same university and they told me that she looks at me every time i pass. Then i started my relationship with her and got her number the first time i saw her in the university. We have text’ed a lot during these two months then i felt i loved her. I planned to see her on her birthday and i told her i loved her.she replied that she isn’t in the right mood to love someone right now and i told her that i will wait even for years for her.after knowing that i love her she has changed. Its almost a week that I’m begging her for an appointment but she refuses.she sais she is busy or tired or something like that. I really love her and I’m afraid if she likes someone else although she says she don’t. I don’t understand why just after knowing that i love her she changed her behavior. I will do everything to have herself by myself.what should i do?
Comment by vahagn — November 26, 2009 @ 10:42 am
that was good but u can make a girl to love u with you sweety words
Comment by the golden warrior — November 26, 2009 @ 2:29 pm
Ok so there’s this girl and I love her and she has said that she loves me but she has a boyfriend already but her boyfriend is my best friend and we asked her out at pretty much the same day and she said yes to him she has told me that when they break up we will go out but I don’t know if I can wait can someone please give me some advice?
Comment by enjoi — November 27, 2009 @ 9:18 pm
Oh btw we text each other every day and I know she said no to me cause I asked her out with a text (she told me her answer wouldve been different if I asked her in person)
Comment by enjoi — November 27, 2009 @ 9:23 pm
I’m in love to my wife and she never appreciated it. She always told me that its just a joke because she knew that i have a lots of girlfriend in the past. Please help me how to prove her that deep inside i really in love with her.
Nelson
Comment by Nelson — November 28, 2009 @ 6:36 am
Vahagn, from experience, its not a good move to tell a girl that you love her when your not in a serious relationship with her. She most likely thinks that you are moving too fast. Some girls like to go slow, others like a rapid relationship, it’s tricky. So maybe she doesn’t want to commit to be in a relationship with you becuase maybe she had a bad experience with guys, perhaps her ex boyfriend whom she loved, just broke it off or something. This makes her feel unsecure and also unsure of what she wants. So she most likely would like to be single and free, until she feels safe and build up courage again to get in a serious relationship. I’m actually passing through a very similar situation at the moment, and i know how you feel, and it sucks, A LOT. What i think is the best solution is to make her fall in love with you. And how do you do this? It’s simple. Yet, for you it might be hard, becausei think you’r the kind of guy who likes to rush things a little bit (if not, im sorry, but thats the impression i got when you said you told her you love her). Ok, so you make her fall in love with you. Do this by first becoming a closer frind to her. And not just a friend, but a good friend, who she can talk to openly and trust, that you will be there for her. But this will take time Vahagn, can take a very long time until she realises that she loves you too. Do not rush things, treat her as a friend, try meeting up with her often, just as friends. At the beginning it will be hardest, till she realises that your a good guy and that she can trust you. It doesnt matter if you only meet up once a week or less at the beginning, you have to wait. As time goes by, you will start seeing her more. Then when you are really friends, you can make a move, show her that she can trust you. I hope i helped you mate! Good luck, and if you really love her, you ‘ll be patient and wait for her.
Comment by Sam — December 1, 2009 @ 12:42 pm
Nelson, i dont know much about marriage, but i know many friends who have similar problems. But i think from what i hear from friends is that women really appreciate the little things that their men do for them. So you could perhaps on a Saturday morning wake up before your wife, make breakfast and take it up for her in bed, then later on you could perhaps do the laundry. Help her around with the house chores, this shows you appreciate the work she does around the house. Aslo, if she is romantic, then you could perhaps take her out on a romantic dinner at night, or something similar. Talk to her, ask her more about her day after you come from work (if thats the case). And last but not least, tell her you love her, in a meaningful way. Perhaps before you go out in the morning for work, leave a note saying, ‘I love you Babe” or something like that. I dont know much mate, i’m just giving you what my friends tell me from their own experiences. I hope it works out for you!
Comment by Sam — December 1, 2009 @ 12:49 pm
What of you thought you love some one and now there pregnant with your child but like I love her but i don’t love her I can’t trust her she cheated on me but we got over that and I still feel she doesn’t have any feelings for me still like right now we’re not talking
Comment by Larry — December 2, 2009 @ 8:49 pm
come on!! …
ALL THE MEN LISTEEENN
only be your self!! thats the answer 4 everything.
Comment by Sabrina — December 3, 2009 @ 1:29 am
Ok, I am a girl… lemme give you guys some advice
Us girls, we like don’t judge guys based on ‘their looks.’ if they have looks, that’s most certainly a bonus for us! But for my BF I have, I love how happy he makes me feel (as this article says)! He Compliments work so well, even if it’s about jewelry, or an art piece they did! Don’t overdo it with hugs thought, I hate it when guys overdo hugs! It’s very annoying… but my BF doesn’t do that, so I praise that guy above! Also, most girls like if you are best friends with them first. Make them feel that they can trust you with their deepest secrets. They will go to you for advice on anything first! And to wrap this up, tell the girl how you really feel… tell her how much they mean to you. It will make her pretty darn happy.
And if all fails, listen to Sabrina up there (shes #254)
BE YOURSELF!
And Sam, Yes all girls are different. So that’s why be her best friend first! You will get to know her to the fullest!
How my BF got me to fall for him, he’s my best friend. That’s all there is to it. =)
Comment by Becca — December 3, 2009 @ 2:40 pm
I’m insanely in love with this one girl and I feel like she may have feelings for me, but I never see her often enough or long enough to ask her out. I want to avoid asking her out in a text message because it would be really lame and I’m not sure if calling would be the best way to confess to her. What should I do?
Comment by harry — December 3, 2009 @ 6:31 pm
I like this girl but my friend likes her too!!!
how can i get her to choose me
Comment by dan robbo — December 4, 2009 @ 11:02 am
When you go out with them, complement them like, wow. you look good in that dress. but, don’t overdo things. just do that for like twice a week? i have my best friend and she’s totally out of my league.she’s one of the most beautiful girl in our school and i’m just a no one and i don’t look that good. but i got her all over me. but i lost her and we still are best friends and still, that feelings still goes back. but who knows? maybe i’m not really her type. 2 b con.
Comment by marck — December 4, 2009 @ 5:01 pm
here again. see how it works? and we’re best friends now for almost 2years. and she doesn’t want me to leave her. she wants our friendship to last forever.and maybe this’ll happen to you too! or even better, you get to be his man! well if you wanna be hers, try to make a move when you and her are friends. its the best way because you get to know her and u get to get her closer to you thus, making her fall for you slowly.
Comment by marck — December 4, 2009 @ 5:10 pm
hey Harry, I think what Becca said is great advice, ( i mentioned it earlier :p ). First just become friends with this girl, get her to trust you. Also do not rush things, unless she wants to.
Comment by Sam — December 5, 2009 @ 7:07 am
Larry, try give her time to think about the situation, give her time to make up her mind. When she is ready to talk to you, make sure that you are prepared for whatever the answer might be.
Comment by Sam — December 5, 2009 @ 7:10 am
Sam’s right. If you are a total stranger and she does not like you, you might end up being depressed so try to make friends with her and then yeah, do what you gotta do. When you confess, do it personally. Before doing that, make sure she likes you goodluck!
Comment by marck — December 6, 2009 @ 1:29 pm
what if the girl you love likes your best friend even though she knows that she likes you.
Comment by steven — December 6, 2009 @ 9:57 pm
anyone can help me out? i met this girl on the net, we both live in Singapore. we started talking on msn, and slowly move on to texting and then chatting on phone. when i knew her, she had just broke up with her bf. She told me everything about she and her bf, even what they did. We shared our past relationships with each other. Then we start talking about schools, our friends, parents etc. And then i made a confession to her telling that i loved her, she told me she loved me too. We then start to went out together. (we are still friends that like each other). And then, few weeks pass, her ex came to ask her for patch. She asked me, if she should accept him. Well, me being a good guy, told her and persuade her to accept him. I know i made a mistake, but now she’s still love me but is afraid to leave her bf. what should i do?
Comment by danny — December 7, 2009 @ 2:56 am
My ex broke up with me telling me I was to over protective and wanted to see her to much but a week later was with another guy who she. Said is a friend I was moving on and then another week went by and she txt me saying she hated the way it ended and that she never cheated on me so I was txting her for a few days and met up to talk so I told her how felt but now she doesn’t seem bothered about me again we was together for 16 months I want her back what do I do??????
Comment by Graeme — December 7, 2009 @ 9:38 am
My girlfriend and best friend I’ve known for 4 years just got together and are relationship has been complicated. I had to move to California temporarily where i have been here for about 4 months. We talked so much that we ran out of things to talk about, literally. I come back in a week and she just broke up with me. I said i’d love them and try to help. I asked her if this was her and she answered like it was but never said it wasn’t but the whole thing turned out to be hypothetical question. I told her father to get her the help she needed because i didn’t want her to hurt herself on drugs i thought i was helping, but i actually lost practically all of her trust and she hates me and broke up with me over it. I told her I’m so sorry for making such a big mistake and i promise you can trust me it was a big misunderstanding and to please give me another chance and all this crap i had faith in would work and it didn’t. I still want to be there for her because i love her but i don’t even know how to stand up or approach the situation. She doesn’t talk to me, she just tells me I’m sorry I don’t know why i can’t anymore. If i tell her something it brushes past her and she says that’s great or something. And it hurts but i don’t want to give up i don’t want to end with no trust and no friendship or something. I do want to be her boyfriend. I need help in a big way.
Comment by Light — December 8, 2009 @ 3:22 am
Steven, that’s one bad situation to be in mate. I’m pretty sure its hard for you to see your best friend with the girl you love. But my opinion on this is that a girl is not as precious as a friend, and in your case your best friend. Forget about her, do not let her tempt you to ruin your friendship with your best friend, because what will happen is; you and your friend will have a fight, stop talking, then you get to date the girl for a while, and then you realize how much of an idiot you are to choose a girl over your best friend. Find another girl, i know its hard, especially when your crazy on one girl. But it your choice to make, its either her, or him. Good luck
Comment by Sam — December 8, 2009 @ 11:34 am
yo guys if you really love a girl dont give up and if she says she just wants to be friends be friends and then wait a while then start hinting to go out with her again and i had the same problem , now im with her and she loves me cause i treat her with my heart and soul and im always happy for her and my self and i never gave up on her , remember everyone if you really love someone you wont give up on them till you find out about someone else but when you do itll be hard to let go of the person you love , but just never give up on youre self
or the person you love!
Comment by matt — December 8, 2009 @ 8:46 pm
I agree with Sam, Steven. My grandmother told me before if you let her date someone else she will come back and see how good and valuable you really are to her..i think maybe try to avoid her a bit and be there when she needs someone.
Comment by Light — December 9, 2009 @ 12:01 am
Graeme and Light, just both try to be friends with your girls. They might hate you now becuase they think you have lost their trust, but if you try and just be friends they both will realise what they did was wrong, and then they will want you back. Gd luck
Comment by Sam — December 9, 2009 @ 9:05 am
@Nelson: Different people need different things to know that they are loved. Some people need to be touched, others need to hear it, others need to see actions done.
You should figure out what she needs to feel loved… and then do it!
@Larry: That’s not a great situation to be in, it sounds as if you both need to work on a few things. Sometimes getting your life together is the best thing you can do to fix a relationship. Get your life together first, then talk to her and invite her into it, along with with your unborn child.
@Sabrina: That’s cliche, I’d rather men develop themselves and be their best self. Of course, if you try to fake being someone else, that’s no good. But if you’re not happy where you are, work on it.
@Becca: You can be friends or you can be lovers. The transition is hard to do if you start by being friends first… instead, be lovers first and then develop the friendship alongside.
@Harry: There’s no need to “confess loving her”, just invite her to hang out with you, over the phone!
Comment by Chris Calo — December 9, 2009 @ 4:23 pm
I’m trying to make a girl around 20, fall in love with me but she doesn’t want to love some younger than her she says she feels to old for me. She says she just wants to be friends but i cant seem to convince her.
Comment by Der Wolf — December 9, 2009 @ 5:31 pm
@Danny: Start seeing other people and she’ll probably be jealous if she likes you.. If you just wait around, then you’ll always be “the backup”.
@Graeme: Allow me to be direct, it sounds like you’re being a needy wussy. She pulled away and you tried way too hard, making you quite needy. Seriously, you need to check out David DeAngelo’s stuff.
@Light: There needs to be a balance in the relationship. You’re being NEEDY and that’s making her run away. You should also check out David’s stuff.
Seriously though, if you guys want to improve drastically with women, then do 2 things:
1. Get in my email coaching program (you can put your name either under the post or on the right side under the sticky note, it’s the same thing)
2. Read David DeAngelo’s Double Your Dating, it’s a book that I think EVERYONE needs to read to understand what they are doing wrong with women.
I promise that you’ll get a LOT out of it.
Comment by Chris Calo — December 9, 2009 @ 7:36 pm
i asked my friend that presented me to her to tell her thing that would help me and i asked also one of her friends to do the same. my friend later told me that she made up her mind.
Comment by Der Wolf — December 9, 2009 @ 10:04 pm
So what shall I just tell her I don’t want nothing to do with her now?
Comment by Graeme — December 10, 2009 @ 8:19 am
I have been in love with this girl for 7 years. In that time I was in a 5 year relationship with another girl and was engaged to be married. I thought about this other girl almost all the time, so much so that it eventually broke apart my relationship. The hardest part for me is that we are best friends, and it’s either the best thing, or the the worst thing that she moved in with me. I know that she cares for me a lot…like a brother. That’s like saying “ew your disgusting. i will never sleep with you.” I am not unattractive however, and girls constantly like me. They do nothing for me. I only want her, and of course I can’t have her. I thought maybe If she lived with me i’d find something I didn’t like about her, that irritated me, and I would lose feelings. Like a complete moron I am, I made these feelings stronger. I wasn’t getting the signals!! She comes back from across the country after 3 years and specifically wants to move in with me. ME! I was in a dream land. All our friends call us married. We argue about insignificant things. We sleep in separated beds. We even shared a bachelor suite at one time. We have everything in common. I’m always happy when she’s around. I make her laugh. I know I am valuable to her..but how much, I do not know. Perhaps If I become more authoritative, and put myself in a position of power(that’s not simply jealously killing every man she hooks up with) I will work on being happy, I’t’s hard when one of your friends sleeps with the woman you love in your own bed, and makes out with your other friend in front of you, or in your car while you’re there to. Maybe I’m invisible. Perhaps she does it to see what I will do.
Comment by Josh — December 13, 2009 @ 8:28 am
But are you guys officially dating? Because if yes, she’s then kinda cheating on you. If you are dating, then you should ask her what is wrong with her brain. (politeness is advised). If you’re not together at the moment, then you should show her what she’s missing out on. Invite girls over to your place, treat them in her own favorite ways, make her jealous. But I think that that would then make her more pissed or amplify whatever she’s doing. So I think the best thing to do is discuss your relationship between the two of you. Keep me posted! And good luck!!
Comment by Sam — December 14, 2009 @ 10:33 am
I met a girl 2 weeks ago,we got two classes together and we got some common friend’s and i was sitting next to her ,made her laugh,caught her attention she even said that he likes me because i always make her happy… and i realized that shes one of those special girl’s who caught really my attention i mean i like everything about her, i can’t say one thing that i don’t like, so the problem is that she’s to pretty, I mean i know my limits, I know what kind of girl i can have and I’m afraid that if i try to make some move’s I’ll lose her, she will think that I’m another one of ‘those’ guy’s and i don’t want to lose her, if we cant be lovers we can be friends,although she gave me signs,like smiling always she saws me, always talking nice, even if shes nervous, calling me to sit next to her, lot of eye contacts and things like that, so I’m really confused, what do you think that i should do?
Comment by DiamonDz — December 14, 2009 @ 2:19 pm
I am Falling in Love of a girl. But don’t understand how give offer her and what she like. How can start chat with her. Please Help me to do My Job.
Comment by Sunil — December 15, 2009 @ 10:23 pm
I love a girl but she don’t care about me. Just receive my call and cut few moments later and don’t say anything. She receive my gifts. But how can i make herself as my lover also i want to marry her. please give a best advise.
Comment by raj — December 18, 2009 @ 11:40 am
Really nice…good points,lets see if this work for me or not!!
Comment by Leon — December 19, 2009 @ 2:05 am
we all..not just guys or just girls…but ALL OF US…need to work on ourselves. that is why the 2 soul mates…may never meet……….only when we learn about ourselves and know what we want…we understand true love in ourselves and we see what we hide in our subconscious.
Comment by nycmuse — December 20, 2009 @ 12:16 am
raj,
do you know anything about her? her interests, hobbies, what troubles she’s going through in life, the stress, etc?? do you ask her any important questions in life? or do you just make small talks?
do you talk about feelings and thoughts? how you feel about cool things she does that she’s proud of? if you don’t speak up in the clear way she will not understand you and you cannot blame her for it. Gifts won’t mean a thing if she cannot understand anything from it.
do you know what “love” means to her? do you know what “marriage” means to her? if you do not know her, how do you know you love her?
Comment by nycmuse — December 20, 2009 @ 12:19 am
matt,
i kind of agree and don’t agree (but who cares who agree with what, right?) but anyway, i was gonna say…when we truly…love someone, we cannot give up even if we wanted to. the love never goes away, coz it’s love. it’s in our heart. it’s part of who we are, and we make it our own or maybe we become love itself when we fall in love. that’s why some of us become crazy when we fall in love. we’re no longer what we used to be. love changes people. but craziness is us not being used to being in love. not understanding, not accepting….not working on putting the effort to make ourselves feel better by being loved back. putting the effort to show the person how we feel. showing we care, showing we listen and we mean what we feel.
for the one we love to understand how we feel…or even to acknoledge the love we have for him/her, we need to listen very carefully and know and don’t do what they don’t want…and ask questions to show that we’re thinking and we want to know. and make action according to what we hear. if you fail, you try again. when we’re rude, we try to explain what we meant to do and apologize for the trouble we caused. showing we care…as much as possible to those we love…is the most important thing. no human being cannot appreciate it when others show they care.
Comment by nycmuse — December 20, 2009 @ 12:27 am
I’m a girl and I feel the same way as a lot of you guys. Love is so beautiful and painful at the same time. I think the key is to love without attachment. Love yourself more than the other person because the most important relationship you will have in life is with yourself. Love other people abundantly but without expectations. Do what is best for you and try to improve yourself for your own sake because you love yourself, not for anyone else. Love without possessiveness. Maybe you will never have these ladies, but you can still love them in a corner of your heart. Be happy
Life is too short to accept agony and pain simply because someone you love can’t love you back in the same way. Loving yourself is the main point, giving love is important, recieving love from yourself is essential, recieving love from others is not important.
Comment by k — December 24, 2009 @ 7:23 pm
Dont make her love you. What if she dont wanna be loved? I didnt, but he didnt care and made me fall for him. And now i cry my self to sleep because he “changed” his mind and fell of some other girl. What happened to “i love you baby, ill never leave you”? He broke my heart, just stop and think about it, some girls dont wanna be loved.
Comment by DAWN — December 28, 2009 @ 9:32 pm
Every girl i meet wants to be my best friend. Girls have like, a HUGE attraction to me, and tell me i’m good looking, and always want to get close to me and stuff… but its because they want to be my best friend. now, every time i see a girl i REALLY like, i’m scared to get to close or friendly with her because i KNOW I’ll be in the friend zone.
btw, i know i don’t come off as unmanly. i play football and box.
Comment by Alex — December 29, 2009 @ 1:49 am
My love for this girl has reached an uncontrolable point, to where she utterly controls my thoughts. I’m planning my life around her, but she only thinks of me as close friend. She’s going out with this guy, since may, and she seems to have a strong bond with him. She does not flirt or talk about relationships with me at all, yet i make her happy and sometimes laugh when i speak to her. We have a lot in common, and recently i found out that her mum knew my mum 15 years ago. This sparked a strange feeling i think we both shared, which brought us together as friends. I now think of her as a female version of me, except much more confident and popular. I love her so much, she is so talented and clever, and so massively beautiful, although some of my mates call her ugly, perhaps out of jelousy towards her boyfriend. I feel that, because i’ve known her so long, and we’re so close as friends, i deserve a chance with her, to treat her right and be myself. I want more that friendship, i value her more than anything else in my life, and this has been building for a long time. I want to spend my life with this right girl.
High school is quickly ending, however, and she’s got a bond with this guy. I need to appeal to her thoughts! I warn you, she’s an incredibly complex and free-thinking girl, so it may be hard to figure this one out.
Help me, i shout to the world!!
Comment by loving lowles' girlfriend — January 1, 2010 @ 5:17 pm
Before anyone can say about treating her right, making her feel good etc. i already do that. She’s started sitting by me at lunch, because i’m a good friend, someone she feels safe with, and i make her happy and sometimes laugh. Her BF also likes my, cause i play the guitar, and he wants me to play guitar with her, cause she plays too, and he thinks she is excellent. He’s always with her, and i can’t have a quiet chat with her. I think i’m getting close to her in many ways, but only as a friend. I love her much more than as a friend.
Comment by loving lowles' girlfriend — January 1, 2010 @ 5:31 pm
I really like my best friend. She likes me. She has a boyfriend. I’m walking away because I’m her ” back up” boyfriend. Just a tool. Pretty messed up. But I’m bit giving up (;
Comment by Jayosh — January 2, 2010 @ 6:20 pm
Falling one’s love is abstract matter it don’t depend on any particular characteristics. You may fall one’s love just by any noticeable character, that might seems disgusting to others.
Comment by Mahbub — January 5, 2010 @ 9:56 am
Love is complicated. If you love someone make them happy and set her free that’s love its not fair.
Comment by chAd — January 6, 2010 @ 1:04 am
i was always alone and i did not know love or what is this word mean until i meet a girl and i talk to her then time after time i started to be attracted by her way of speaking, her way of thinking, her smile and her way of moving her face. So all of that make me to think about her all the time day and night and i started to feel different in my way of thinking about life and future and to asked my self one day is this really love who make me to feel like this? Then i realize that’s the love and i am in. So I advise all the guys to wait and be patient everyone of us have his partner so it depend of the time of seen her .
Comment by hamid — January 8, 2010 @ 3:29 pm
I’m in love with a girl for one year now. When i first started to love her i had chances and she was in love with me too. But i didn’t do anything because i ‘m a shy person and i don’t have a self-esteem. Now she don’t like at all but I’m still love her, my friends is telling my all the time to stop think her but i cant. Please help I need advice on how i can build my self-esteem.
Comment by Orestis greece.... — January 10, 2010 @ 3:38 pm
I liked this girl for 2 years and she seems to look at me sometimes during class. I try to start a conversation, but it doesn’t last long. She sometimes looks at my hand and my feet. Everytime she laughs at a joke our teacher tells she looks at me. Last year, she asked me to sign her yearbook and asked if i would like to sign her’s Are this signs that she truely loves me? If not then what signs am I suppose to look for?
Comment by Austin — January 13, 2010 @ 2:03 pm
Hi dear. Could you help me please? I’m falling in love with a girl and we are good friends. Presently, she’d just broken up with her boy friend and I feel that now there is a chance for me to have her; I really want to tell her that I Love her ,but I can’t. I don’t know how to speak, when,and where and how long should I start to do so. Please give me some advivces, Best regards
Comment by Dara — January 16, 2010 @ 9:07 am
i’m in love with a very beautiful girl but she doesn’t know that and she lives in canada and i live in lebanon so what can i do to show her that i’m in love with her?
Comment by mohamad nassabain — January 16, 2010 @ 3:37 pm
I’m in love in a girl with a girl, she is my neighbor my mom and her mom was a good friend, our mom want us to be couple, when i was a young i really like her, when i grow up i get many girl friend, but still i really like her, i mean I’m not happy with my ex girlfriends because the one i love is this girl, i ask her if i can come to there house, she said OK but I’m busy, then i ask again next week and didn’t reply my SMS, then after few days she SMS me and said “sorry I’m kinda busy, maybe you can come here next time, then at Saturday and a Sunday she dont have work that’s why i ask her again, and she didn’t reply my sms, then after few days i ask her for a date and she answered me “sure but I’m busy” dang, what should i do? Plz help me!
(i only ask her for a date and visiting her every Saturday and Sunday so she dont have work)
Comment by Eric — January 18, 2010 @ 9:39 am
I love this girl & i’ve told her that. But she has a boyfriend who is the star football player. She told me that she likes me, but she’s still dating the other guy. Last week the day after she told me that she likes me she told him they “needed a break”. But the next day it was too hard & she got back together with him. I’m her friend that she tells everything to, and she says she isn’t happy in the relationship with him but she doesn’t know why. But at the same time she says she knows she needs to break up with him but she doesn’t because it will be really hard because of everything they’ve been through together..What do I do?!?! I can’t get over her because I love her more then i’ve ever loved something & i want her more then i’ve ever wanted anything.
Comment by Tyler — January 18, 2010 @ 2:54 pm
I like this girl from school, Shes perfect. And we make a lot of eye contact but i don’t really talk to her. Only recently i said hi and she just passed by an said hi back but didn’t even look at me in the face she was looking down and her tone was kind of low wen she said it like if she was nervous or something. What does that mean?? Also its hard 4 me because i recently broke up with a girl from her class i didn’t really like an since her class is all girls they all tell each other everything, she found out about a letter i send her in Christmas an got mad but i told her some good explanations an she believed me haha. But i do like this girl a lot i just get nervous to start a conversation an that i might get rejected….
Comment by John M. — January 19, 2010 @ 6:31 pm
I’ve been inlove with this girl for years now, we used to be very close and for a while we were even being romantic together. But we grew apart and we both changed, but we’ve started talking again and I’m realizing that I still have very strong feelings for her. The problem is she has a boy friend and I have a girl friend, but I’d leave my woman in a heart beat for her, but she no longer seems interested! I’ve been head over heels for her for the past 3 years! I need help
Comment by Patrick — January 21, 2010 @ 10:07 pm
Ok – a girl that i like a lot and have been dating on and off for a few months. She’s very beautiful and she has thus half of Los Angeles rich biz men/celebeberties after her so im constantly watching my back. We had a really good thing going but we weren’t exclusive yet although we were with eqach other a lot. So there was an assumption of risk factor. The, the night i was leaving for out of town we get in a huge fight related to how she was being ineffectionate on my last night. I flew off the handle, said some pretty verbally abuysive things (all derriving from the fact that she went out on another date the night before) and said that that night i was a monster, traumatized her, and she could NEVER see me in a different light after that night and NEVER be ina serious relationship with me and shes not the right girl for me, only could be best friends but not a couple b/c i scared her. The dynamic is extra weird becuse right when we got in this fight we were looking for apartments to move in together for convienence purposes (not to advance the relationship), and so she’s extra trying to protect her space and privacy. Does this really mean “never” or can i redeem myself and if so how? Thanks
Comment by Zach — January 25, 2010 @ 5:28 am
Ok-I got involved with this Girl but she really wasn’t my type. she ended up falling madly in love with me & did everything to make me happy & I was very happy with her but I never fell in love with her. After 3 months I didn’t really want to but let her move in. She had 3 small kids & I had 1. It was very crazy for me. My 8 yr old just about hated her but he was influenced by his mother. I also could have been nicer to her at times i wasn’t very nice at all. We ended up breaking up after living together for about a year.It broke her Heart. She would still come to my house and sleep over 4-5 times a week. I kinda just wanted her to go away & my attitude showed it but, I didn’t want to be alone ether. This went on for over 2 months. Then just the other day I found my self missing her really bad. The next day I decided she was the best thing that ever happened to me and I instantly was in love with her. I wanted her back and i wanted to give her my whole heart. On the 3rd day She came to me & I told her all of this. She then went on to tell me that She came to say goodbye because she met someone earlier in the week and was just about in love with him. I cried and cried & so did she. So instead of leaving she told me we could still be friends & ended up staying with me for the next 4 days but i wasn’t aloud to kiss her or make love. On the 6 day she wants to see him again. Then come back to me & stay over again. I am now madly in love with her & the pain of her seeing him is great! She also says she wants to do the same with him (be friends) until she can come to terms about me now falling in love with her. She also says she now doesn’t know what to do but I know they’ve been making love. Also my son now tells me he misses her & her kids. Is it possible to get her back? I love her & need HELP!!! Thank You.
Comment by Kevin Stanley — January 29, 2010 @ 11:15 pm
hiya
i am saad and live in uk
i love a girl which is in poland and she has a boyfriend.
i told her that i love her but she cant understand to decide whether she could choose her boyfriend or me.she asked me to give her some time.
how can i get her to be mine?
Comment by saad — February 2, 2010 @ 6:40 am