How to make a girl fall in love with you
The thought of learning how to make a girl fall in love with you is a disturbing one. Love is a huge emotion that can radically and completely dictate someone’s life. If it was possible to perform a few magical steps in order to make someone fall in love with you, we would live in a harsh world of broken hearts. Uh oh… don’t we already?
You cannot make anyone do anything and you certainly cannot make anyone love you. The more you try to make someone love you, the less they will. Its kind of a catch-22 in that way but fortunately there are two aspects you can concentrate on to help you along the way.
What do you love in life? Usually its the things that make you happy and the things that we attribute the most value to. Keeping in mind these two aspects of human nature, we can therefore conclude that in order for someone to love us, we must make them happy and we must be valuable to them.
Let’s work on making them happy first, its really simple and is overlooked by most people. The simple rule to making someone happy is to be happy yourself. Being happy is contagious and people in your presence will automatically feel similar to you. If you’re happy about life, then the people around you will want to have you around them as well. If you’re always down, depressed or angry, then you are making yourself very hard to love.
Example #1: Think of someone that you love or loved. Imagine them in your mind until you can see a picture of their face. In this picture, are they happy or sad ? Its very likely that in the mental picture that you have, they are smiling or happy. If it worked for you, then it should also work for others.
The concept when pondering about how to make a girl fall in love with you is value. The things you love the most consequently have a lot of value. Can you really fall in love with something that has no value? Things that are replaceable, or are easily attainable have little value in our lives. So make yourself valuable and people will love you. Being valuable isn’t as hard as people think.
The concept of value is relative, in an organization, the most valuable person is the boss even if in another situation, he could be completely insignificant. This is why so many secretaries are attracted to their boss. He has the most value. Let’s take this concept and apply it in practical situations.
Example #2, If you’re in school, then the most valuable person will be the person that is most respected by his peers. This can be the football star among cheerleaders, or the smart guy who gets the best grades. He can also be the guy who makes the girls laugh the most, or the guy that has the best house parties that everyone wants to attend.
In a work environment, the most valuable person can once again, be the social funny guy that everyone wants to hang out with, or the boss, or the sharp guy that the boss respects the most.
But… what if the girl I like doesn’t know about these social situations ? Well then… Tell her about your day! Although not as efficient, just telling her about your daily interactions (in a non-gloating way) can be an effective way of communicating your value.
The Double Your Dating book explains in detail exactly how to be perceived as the most valuable person while building massive attraction.
In the end, the concept of learning how to make a girl fall in love with you is a flawed one because as soon as you try to make someone love you, they won’t. So instead, concentrate on being happy and valuable, the rest will come naturally.
good points
Comment by tendai — November 19, 2007 @ 12:50 am
i am falling in love of a girl. But don’t understand how give offer her and what she like.please help me to do my job.
Comment by sushanto — February 23, 2008 @ 6:36 am
i love this girl but she likes this other guy and she hates me. she be cursing at me and stuff. but we hardly talk.
Comment by saduglyboy — February 26, 2008 @ 8:38 pm
i need help i am ugly with lots of pimple and a scar. i am so poor i dress ugly. i suck. i get bullied. please help me get this girl
Comment by saduglyboy — February 26, 2008 @ 8:41 pm
It´s a good comentary, I´m gonna use these advices, hope they work. thanks.
Comment by Erik — April 14, 2008 @ 6:19 am
I dont agree with you at all. My girl says that she is happy with me, she wants me to be with me, she wants to marry me but she is not attracted to me and doesnt love me. Further to your discussion, she always feels like a queen when i am around too.
so why does she says that she doesnt love me or is not attracted to me????
Comment by Umair — April 26, 2008 @ 8:04 am
For every one here who think that he’s ugly and that’s why he don’t get the girls… stop right there !!! From what I know, girls dont see the same things as we see… Let me explain with my bad English. The only thing that girl see in a man it is self-esteem, if it’s too low, well guess what , girls wont get attracted to you. Sure they will feel good with you cause their self-esteem is higher than yours… but they will only be friend, most of the time pretty good friend, even become your best friend.It could be nice but it’s not what you want, doesnt?First: Stop judging yourself or complain about the way you talk,walk,look, build your self-esteem…Love you as you are. If you cant love yourself how do you think you gonna make feel the love to someone else.Second: please don’t be scared to make a move.Hug her often,not too much cause they will think your gay… lol just kidding. Hold her in your arms to make her feel that you can provide to her security… I was suffering from very low self-esteem before and guess what… never had a girl friend. But now, girls are the one who makes me compliment, instead of me. they want me, they fight for me!!! But common guys don’t turn out and be a completely ass hole like every other guys who gets the girls. Stay nice to girls, compliment them but not too much, make her happy,listen to her for better communication, make all of this naturally.This will be your secret arsenal that other guys don’t have :)Don’t forced yourself to say or do things that you don’t want or feel(this is very important)…Don’t cry in front of a girl you want. She will think your not strong enough emotionally to give her what she needs the most security, stability etc.
Comment by John — May 7, 2008 @ 11:34 pm
saduglyboy: Read the post. It’s not all about looks.
Umair: Because you’re a doormat :>
I strongly suggest you read the double your dating book as suggested in this article.
Best of luck.
Comment by Matt — May 8, 2008 @ 8:54 am
i am rlly inlove with a girl but the other dat sge broke up with me and hopefully this is a good way to win her back
:D 
Comment by nathan garner — June 1, 2008 @ 8:36 am
Some people told this girl i like her. Then the next week she hates me, but we still have eye contact with each other. What should I say if we dont even talk any more
Comment by ........ — June 3, 2008 @ 10:37 pm
Have you the courage to ask her out? Women want their men without fear. Only then can you know the answer you seek; ask her.
Comment by Socrates — June 4, 2008 @ 7:51 pm
Let me try your valuble tips on my lover who hates me a lot when i love her more.
Comment by AJITH — June 5, 2008 @ 1:28 am
what if you ask her to go out and she always has an excuse…she donsn’t feel like it…or whatever..but the point is after several attempts she does not go out with you.
Comment by marcos — June 6, 2008 @ 8:40 pm
Marcos:
If you ask her out and she always has an excuse, it’s likely she doesn’t want to go out with you.
That usually means that you didn’t build enough attraction initially. I’d read up on more specifically on creating chemistry, flirting and building attraction.
Comment by Chris Calo — June 6, 2008 @ 10:09 pm
4 years ago a beautiful girl asked me out..we were goin great about 9 months on we broke up and from then on we were off and on constantly. i tried everythin but we always fought so one day i found the perfect opportunity to say i love and she said it back. few months on we crashed and burned again. and nothin happened between us for ages. until now..i want her back again we’ve been talkin for last few days..and secretly meetin up to talk bout old times..but she has a boyfriend and they’ve been together for 7 months now and she says she likes him but we text like everyday..what can i say to her for her to be mine once more?
Comment by kyle — June 10, 2008 @ 5:54 pm
i think,the best way of making a girl to love someone,is for the guy to love the way he is and have the boldness to confront sure girl.
Comment by albert — June 14, 2008 @ 3:58 pm
right i am falling for a girl and until last weekend everything was going great we live bowt 50 miles apart i work alot and only c each other a few times a week! but we txt all the time and wen we are together its amazing but she occasionally meets a guy she has had relations with for the past year or so and sometimes the hook up but she sais she is falling for me but cant make a commitment due to this guy ! can u help me out this one ?
Comment by westy — June 17, 2008 @ 3:22 am
i have a problem of the interesting nature. As it happens, i’ve been with a girl of my dreams for one year and 11 months. for the first couple of months, she has been the one that kept our relationship alive, and after that, she was, and still is the women of my life. but, in the past several weeks, it seems her love for me is fading. I love her with all my heart, and i tell her that, but she can’t seem to tell me that she loves me. I need help to keep her with me
Comment by Filip — June 19, 2008 @ 3:32 am
My girl says that she is happy with me, she wants me to be with me, she wants to marry me but she is not attracted to me and doesnt love me. Further to your discussion, she always feels like a queen when i am around too but she is not in love with me WTF (i know its frustrating).
if she is not in love with me or not attracted to me so then why does she wants to marry me????
Comment by Umair — June 24, 2008 @ 10:31 pm
Filip,
i have the same problem although my girl never said that she loves me from the start
Comment by Umair — June 24, 2008 @ 10:36 pm
I’ve liked this girl for awhile now and she started to like me too we flirted and talk from when i woke up till like 2am and even sometimes 5am but then she started coming up with excusses and said “everything reminded her of her ex” now a days we just talk like friends i do love her as a freind but sometimes i just don’t know what to do becuase i still do like her a little and she is back with her ex so i dont want to get in the way of them and get her to like me. help plz?
Comment by john — June 25, 2008 @ 8:28 am
i need help i am not ugly but i have lots of pimple. what should i do?
Comment by john — June 28, 2008 @ 11:32 pm
i love a girl and i asked her that she will marry me. she stop to talk with me and don’t told me any appropreat answer only say that her marrege almost confirm so itis imposible.
tell me what she think about me.
Comment by Harry — June 29, 2008 @ 2:12 am
i love a girl but she says she likes me as a friend.we have been friends for a year now.but she sometimes says she needs me in her life.she also says i should make her fall in love with me.please help me out.
Comment by Snitch — June 30, 2008 @ 1:27 am
I met this girl back in late 2006 and we became friends, went out, and then fell for each other. We dated on and off for about a year, and we were best friends. Now she’s moved on, but I can’t stop thinking about her. I want to be with her again, though it will never happen, we’ve talked about it. I dont know what to do anymore… any suggestions?
Comment by Jonny Fry — July 2, 2008 @ 12:35 am
I proposed a girl 5 months ago..but she refuses that time…but still we are talking to each other but I felt now shez in love with me but Shes not proposing it..May I know the way how to make her proposed??
Comment by George — July 2, 2008 @ 1:05 pm
if you ask about my life ,…..I will say…. I am bored..
Ya totally bored.
No one is their to have a talk with me. No one that is a girl to have some relationship,..at least to get part time(flirt) or for full time. Secondly i feel nervous to have talk with a girl.
please help me so that a girl come to me and propose me ( i.e,for flirt or full time)has i won’t be able to go first attempt to them.
wherever i go i never seen a girl having at least a look on me.
I have a good posture, pale color,fine looking, have an average height, nice communication in English a bit. still all these i have, but not a single glance from girls.
what should i do? Can u help me out from this. if u then please help me.
Comment by robin — July 4, 2008 @ 8:39 am
there’s this girl i really like but she doesnt like me back. she said so herself. now i feel as if i havent got a chance with her at all and its getting me down.
Comment by kieran — July 4, 2008 @ 2:13 pm
1.5 years before there was a relation between me and Swarna.may be it was friendship. on proposing her i did little bit foolish task. But i love her more than i can say. Still now i love her. my every breath feel her. But now she loves another guy. i cant forget her. i cant concentrate another girl. what can i do now?
Comment by Himel — July 10, 2008 @ 2:52 am
i love this girl, she’s in my maths class i sit opposite her. im in year 8 in london. i love her after five years of friendship but i dont know how to tell her that i love her. Why cant she say i like you mahfuz. If she is reading, Fahmida, please keep it to yourself, but remember.
Comment by mahfuz — July 12, 2008 @ 1:12 pm
I love one girl but many times i tell her that i love her too much i can’t live without her love. so how can she love me please help me with what i can i do then she love me .
Comment by Ramakant — July 13, 2008 @ 1:14 am
i have been in love with this girl for 2 years… i ask her before whether would we have a chance together anot.. she says no.. then after tht i still contact her and chat on the msn…. she has a boy friend now but her attitudes towards me is way different from last time ( in a good way). She even ask me whether i wanted to go out with her anot, but in the end she didnt want to go with me as i thought maybe she has a boyfriend and does not want to be seen wit me and her outside since she has a boyfriend. I really love her and i really want her. I have tried to have others girls but even though the other girls were better looking, i still love my old lover. What should i do?
DO U HAVE TO ANSWER?
REGARDS.
Comment by sahar — July 14, 2008 @ 11:42 am
so i like this girl, she’s my best friend, and idk i think she likes me but im not positive. everyone we see thinks we go out wen we don’t, idk what to do, plz help me out.
Comment by scarz — July 15, 2008 @ 5:07 pm
i dont know if any girls have posted here, but i will try to answer questions.
first of all, girls really dont care about looks! they just look at the inside, which will show on the outside. if a guy has high self-esteem, he will be more outgoing and smile more. if he cares about taking care of himself (and others), he will be clean and wear nice things because he cares about his image. if you dont like something about yourself, change it! what else can i say?
secondly, it’s easy to get a girl to fall for you. honestly. words alone will do it. i know i probably shouldnt say it, but if you want the right girl and be sure she will be with you a looooong time, just be real! girls love words, but they love it even more if they are backed up b y action. the more you SHOW her that you love her, the more she will love you.
it’s up to you guys to keep the limits. if you dont, things will move too fast and she will probably end up breaking up with you.
i will give you an anecdote. my exes went out with me and they thought i was amazing, but i knew they weren’t good engough for me. i shouldnt have gone far with them because i knew that we were going to break up, but i let myself go. a tip… girls will make compromises, but in the end, they will do what is right probably or will be very unhappy or will cheat on you with another guy who sweet talks her. just be honest. ask her what she really really thinks. if she doesnt think that you guys will end up together, dont force it. by not forcing antyhing and by giving each other space, that could either increase the bond between you two or increase the friendship and the amount of respect you will have in your life.
anyways, i cant think anymore… too much to say!
i hope this helped. just BE YOURSELF and ASK QUESTIONS!!! this is very important.
Comment by normalgirl87 — July 16, 2008 @ 12:08 pm
i love this girl since 2003, and each year i ask her to be mine but than she just make me feel good,she never treat me bad.she never say yes to me but than we kissed two times this year. she promise me that next year we will start dating. do u think she loves me,but me i love her with all my heart.
Comment by johnny — July 22, 2008 @ 5:35 am
I dated a hotttttttttt girl, but I made mistake by asking her to do me a bj on the 3rd date! ahh, she never talked to me anymore!
Comment by Peter Pan — July 22, 2008 @ 10:08 am
like me i have been so scared of girls during ma high schhol dayz but now i am in a univesity i decided to wake up and be on the look out.so what i have come to know is that girls are so simple they only go for any face be it black or white,they dont judge the book by its cover.so please i tell yu know to be not afraid of girls remember they are the gift from God.
Comment by vaino — July 23, 2008 @ 7:34 am