How to get a girlfriend
You know it’s funny that a lot of guys who aren’t even dating on a regular basis are trying to figure out how to get a girlfriend when instead they should be learning how to get a girl’s number. If you’re clever, you already spotted step 1 to getting a girlfriend: go on dates.
Dates can be thought of as a trial period for couples to see if you want to get to know another person or not. The first date being the most important of them all as it sets the tone for the rest of the relationship, no pressure!
It doesn’t matter where you get the date, personals, through friends or even randomly meeting someone during the day using some crafty pick up lines, it’s the first date that counts the most.
When dating, each subsequent date must progress more and more. If the first date as great and the second is a flop, then you can kiss (or not) that potential girlfriend goodbye. Ideally, you would want to become closer with your date every time you go out together. In other words, the third date should be more physically intense than the first one! If you aren’t growing, then you’re dying.
Set The Girlfriend and Boyfriend Tone Immediately
In order to grow together, you want to set the tone right away that you are a potential mate and not ‘just a friend’. The closer of a friend that you become, the harder it will be to change that into a relationship. This applies to girls and guys alike. You’d be amazed if you knew how many girls had crushes on their ‘best guy friend’ and he just isn’t interested.
A loving relationship takes time to build
If you’re looking to turn that woman into your girlfriend, then you’ll need to be interesting enough to want her to get to know you more. If you lead an interesting life, then show her a piece at a time, keeping her intrigued. If you show her absolutely everything on the first date, then there won’t be much to go on later on. If you already read the book, then watching the movie version won’t be as compelling because you’ll already know exactly what happens. It’s more fun to be surprised.
Spark love so you aren’t just a guy friend
The part that most men lack is to create massive attraction while you are dating. It’s a shame because they really have all the pieces except for that one last little piece. Fortunately, it can be solved by simply reading a few good books on the topic. The man I recommend the most on the topic is David DeAngelo. He shows you exactly what it takes to create massive attraction and get that girl you’ve been wanting.
Usually I find that most guys have all the other aspects of their life covered, but remain clueless when it comes to really building massive attraction. Well let me tell you, you might have everything going for you in terms of looks, money and fame, but if you can’t spark attraction you’re not going to get a girlfriend. So what’s the best way to do that? Well you have to be a man that isn’t afraid of showing his desires.
More Tips on How To Get A Girlfriend
Now I’m not saying you need to go out and tell a girl you’re attracted to her (although that does work when said in the right tone), but instead don’t play it safe. One huge mistake guys do that kills all attraction is to approach women in an overly safe manner. So that even if she rejects you, you don’t feel rejected because ‘you weren’t really trying’. How do you know if you’re doing this or not? Well if you make up an excuse to hang out with her on a continuous basis, such as to study together, for work or any other reason then you’re playing it too safe.
Girlfriends Require Constant Attraction
Instead, the real way to build attraction is to make sure she knows that you’re attracted to her in the first place. Then from there, tease her and use the techniques described in David Deangelo’s book, I know I said it before, and I’ll say it again, he’s really the man when it comes to building attraction. Best of all, it doesn’t require learning how to get a flat stomach or a six pack!
The last and most overlooked part in how to get a girlfriend is that you must look for someone who is compatible with you. If you’re a geek that enjoys playing video games, then go for a hot geeky girl that enjoys playing video games as well. If you’re into going outdoors, then find a girl that enjoys the same things as you. Getting a girlfriend can be a very rewarding experience if you choose right and will enhance your quality of life to levels you never thought possible, who knows, she might end up being your fiance one day!
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Comment by Hasil — August 22, 2008 @ 11:35 am
Hasil! first of all do you like a girl? yes? then first get to know her well, be her friend but attention!! if you become a really close friend it´s going to be damn hard to make her your girlfriend (i know by experience…) well show her your best qualities but don´t brag about them all the time let her see them by herself, don´t worry if you´re not really hot but you can use some style (you need to learn on your own), never and i mean ever be rude to her or curse really bad (she isn’t a guy, and that’s a common mistake), take her to dinners and party. (note:ask her first if she wants to go out alone with you if she does you almost nailed her if not…work it a little more but still take her out heaven with her friends. and by the way if her friends like you, not love you, they will talk with her and tell things like “he´s cute…” or “he´s funny…” and crap like that)
if you got a first date congratulations, you´re few steps of having a girlfriend, note:do not kiss her in the first date unless you´re 100% sure she wants and you´re 100% sure you can handle it. Did it already? then go waste some time having fun with your girlfriend if you know what i mean….
Comment by Alex — February 3, 2009 @ 5:02 am
i never had a personal life. and never ever dated or never had a girlfriend. i mean i had problems. now i work and there are like 100 nice girls and im only boy with 50 of them. the problem is i like a couple of them and this one i realy like.but i dont feal eny atraction. i think she likes me but i dont know for shore.how do you do it ? it seams very bad. im 25 and im doomed to live alone all me life.
Comment by roberto — February 20, 2009 @ 2:08 am
there is this girl i like and she is a year younger than me. I really like her and want to ask her out. But i am plain old scared u know. Plus the girl knows i like her.
Comment by mohammad — March 2, 2009 @ 1:20 pm
You shared a lot of great information in a short and to-the-point article. I really agree with finding a girl you’re compatible with, because most inexperienced guys settle for just any girl that isn’t bad looking. And they end up unhappy in an unhealthy relationship. Putting up with a lot of BS because you’re afraid of being alone isn’t right! There are millions of girls in this world and there’s no reason to stay with one that makes your life miserable. So don’t be shy or afraid to dismiss the girls that don’t really make you happy!
Comment by Driver — March 29, 2009 @ 2:52 pm
she knows i like her and i think she is a little embarrassed should i ask her out now or wait until she has come to term about my feelings for her?
Comment by Robbie — April 25, 2009 @ 5:30 pm
a lot of girls reckon im hot, but it seems to me that girls dont actually like guys who are shy and sensitive but prefer guys who are complete jerks. the bad thing is, that im shy so i cant even talk back to them. this makes it a lot harder to tell a girl i like her, what should i say to a girl? im juz asking ccos i dont wannna make a fool of myself
Comment by Guauvi — April 27, 2009 @ 11:15 am
I’m that kind of guy who enjoys literature and very little socializing, mostly because of how nervous I can get in a social situation. I embarass easily because of this and it shows in weired ways sometimes. Like say, a girl comes up to me and speaks to me but I can’t even answer… I mean I can, I just immediatly go into a negative state of mind where I am so self consious of everything I say and do that I just go silent. There are more than a few girls I know that like me (I think anyway, otherwise they wouldn’t try to be around me so often or maybe there is just something wrong with me) but in my negative mind set I think; No she could never like a guy like me, heck I’m not all that handsome or athletic or intelligent, what could she possibly see in me? I’m still in school and I vowed that I would’nt graduate high school without having had a girlfreind at least once… but now I see that slipping away with each day that passes and it makes me wonder: how the heck would I go about doing that in the real world without the experience that most guys get in middle school? does anyone have any suggestions for a guy like me
Comment by Amyas Leigh — April 28, 2009 @ 2:25 pm
to amyas leigh: what it comes down 2 is that you have one girl that u cant stop thinking about in your heart. “deeply loving someone gives you courage where being deeply loved gives you strength” a little quote. guys have a natural sense to women, like i got my green-haired goddess cause i was attuned to her emotions.
Comment by chris — May 17, 2009 @ 1:39 am
About half of my friends are chicks and I’ve never even made out, it feels horrible always( often ) hanging out with hot chicks and know that more than half of them are like sleeping all around. The thing is their close friends and even if i could i wouldn’t date them. I just don’t have the same idea of what dating or being in a relationship is meant to be like I’ve had lots of opportunities and i party every single weekend.
Comment by Kyle — June 8, 2009 @ 3:07 pm
kyle, I’m afraid to say and i don’t mean it offensively but it sounds like you’re a lady-boy. You don’t seem to give the impression that u want to be with these girls. You may have become a ’safe boy’ for the girls to hang around with. this is a bad position to be in!!!!
Comment by martin red — July 1, 2009 @ 6:36 pm
There’s this chick i like in school and she kind doesn’t seems to talk to me much. I say hi to her but what ever i do she seems just to ignore me or avoid me i don’t do anything weird I’m just normal and i really need help. Oh and there this other chick we like each other but she already has a boyfriend please help!
Comment by Kevin — July 11, 2009 @ 2:40 am
There’s this girl who asked me out but my best friend fancied her so i said no. Now my best friend doesn’t fancy her and i want to go out with her but i don’t know what to say. Should i tell her why i didn’t go out with her in the first place or should i just asked her out??? Please help me!!
Comment by me — July 15, 2009 @ 6:56 am
hey Kevin, you say that chick you like is avoiding you, well maybe she is shy and she likes you, who knows. try asking her a question like if she’s seen a certin movie and ask what its like because you were interested in it, and pick a movie you think she might of watched. Then go on from there.
Comment by Nick — July 23, 2009 @ 9:04 pm
also kevin if shes in one of your classes then see if she glances at you then you look at her and she looks away really quickly and blushes then she most likly likes you (or shes a good actress and is just playing with you)
Comment by Nick — July 23, 2009 @ 9:16 pm
i read David’s book and it has some interesting content that will help with any relationship, read this book for the best results with girls girls you really want to date
Comment by trey — July 28, 2009 @ 9:32 pm
There is this girl on my street that i really like, I think she is my age group. I don’t think she knows me,i have only talk to her like once, when i asked her of somebody. I see her with guys with cars. I don’t have a car, and don’t think my finance weigh up to those guys. This makes me scared to approach her. How do i go about this. Please i need advice from anyone.
Comment by Lester — August 27, 2009 @ 2:49 pm
There’s this girl i cant take my mind off, we have known each other not for the best part of a year. I have told her i really like her and asked her if she would be me girlfriend, she told me that she thinks I’m a really sweet boy but she is still in love with her old boyfriend. I felt so depressed but i told her that she deserves to be happy and to do what she feels is the right thing to do. she has been single now for about 3-4months, I still really like this girl and i don’t want to give up but i also don’t know what to do. can you help me
Comment by Jamie — August 28, 2009 @ 8:10 pm
i asked this girl out, and she said no. i was completely down for months, and i think she knows. should i ask her again?
Comment by Dan — September 8, 2009 @ 11:55 pm
yes I’ve read all the books and read other peoples responses about getting girls but i have all i need to get a girl friend but every time i go ask out a girl she says something that changes the way i was going to ask her so now I’m standing there looking a dummy in front of her friends and I’m faced with just walking away do you have any good ideas to help me from getting stumped in front of beautiful girls
Comment by zak — September 13, 2009 @ 6:57 pm
I have tried so many things and i still cant get a girlfriend and i think i might be getting desperate. I don’t know if that’s good or not.
Comment by Mike — September 15, 2009 @ 2:21 pm
Yeah, a bit of advice for all of you. Don’t come on too hard. Find a girl who you think is hot, and talk to her. Make sure you relax, crack a few jokes, and be in control.
If it doesn’t turn out too well, or she doesn’t like you, then you’ve got the wrong girl guys. If you don’t click, then find someone else. It won’t work .
One of the biggest mistakes is for people to concentrate on this ONE chick, and forget about the 3 billion others in the world.
My advice for you guys who REALLY want to get a girlfriend.
Talk to some girls. Be relaxed, but don’t get stuck in the ‘friend zone’. Know that you want to get with this girl, and make sure that you are in control of the situation.
Also, don’t retreat into your ‘personal shell’. This is something that holds back a HEAP of guys. Whenever you feel it kicking in, do the opposite of whatever it tells you to do. Trust me on this one…
Thanks guys, and good luck getting with that perfect girl!
Comment by dan — September 22, 2009 @ 3:36 am
amyas lee,
I’m pretty much in the same situation you are…
Don’t dwell on it dude, we’ll get through this
Comment by greg — September 22, 2009 @ 3:41 am
theres this girl i have a BIG crush on at school and i always say the wrong things to her please any help
Comment by some guy — September 29, 2009 @ 12:34 pm
Hi i just wanted some help. I have a friend and i know her, but a strange thing that i have started liking her. I have never talked to girls and now i am in college, i just talk with her and she already has a boyfriend. When i heard this my heart broken and I started crying. The only girl i liked, please help me!
Comment by the one who is lost — October 5, 2009 @ 2:14 am
i like this girl and she knows i like her. I found out the other day that my friend is going out with her. I have strong feelings for her and don’t know what to do. I really like her but he is my friend. What do i do?
Comment by andy — October 14, 2009 @ 8:13 am
ok, i found a girl that i like, and apparently she likes me back. the problem is that she doesn’t believe in dating at our age! that is when i got stuck and no where to go
Comment by christian albertson — October 20, 2009 @ 7:24 am
hey i don’t drive and don’t have a car, is that gonna keep me from being able to get a girl? Its kinda hard to go on any real “dates” if you don’t drive. I don’t know, any advice?
Comment by chad — October 21, 2009 @ 1:25 am
There’s this girl I really like but I’m not quite sure about how to get her to talk to me or get to know her or anything and I kinda shy so what should I do?
Comment by Ryan — October 25, 2009 @ 5:18 pm
There’s a girl at club i go to, I’ve spoken to her quite a bit and i really like her, i was thinking of asking her on a date, however is it too early (I’ve known her for about 1 month and a half) and also what type of date should i do (i was thinking of cinema, is that too cliche though.)
Comment by jack — November 5, 2009 @ 3:54 pm
I need help getting a girlfriend. anyone?
Comment by bob — November 7, 2009 @ 10:28 am
hey, what do you do if you are naturally funny, but get rejected by girls before you can even start to get to know them? Does it mean I’m just hopeless? Or that I am completely non-attractive?
Comment by Neal — November 9, 2009 @ 8:10 am
It s a girl in my school I like her so much and probably she likes me but i m not sure she likes me to be her friend or she see me as a potential boyfriend, when I talk with her and I see her my mind stop working and I don`t know what to say. Also her bestfriend might like me. p.s. girls find me attractive but i need some help in communication.
Comment by Jack — November 13, 2009 @ 7:01 pm
Hi. I have never had a relationship before. Not that it is important but every day when i look at the other couples i start to get jealous because all the girls i fell for never shared the same feelings as i did for them . I try to talk to them but i get pushed away . When i meet them my mind goes blank thinking what i should say? Whats next? Just thinking that i would do something wrong just keeps me quiet So what should I do? What do the girls want?
Comment by Haikal — November 16, 2009 @ 11:52 am
I really like a girl who is about the same age. I have indirectly said that i like her. One day her brother also asked me if i like her but that was long back. I think she a boyfriend now. she used to live in India but now she has shifted to US. I tried to reach her through mail but she never responses to my email. I don’t know what to do. one thing i know is that i like that girl very much and can do anything for her. I just want her to be mine. could u plz help me. I met this girl at a sports club. she is not in my school.
Comment by Sumit — November 19, 2009 @ 11:33 pm
hey usually the girls loves the smiley face and you have to be more confident and forget all the negatives thoughts show your interest and your respect at the same time , when you approach the girl say hi i did that several times and its works !you can start with nice words you look familiar do i know ? i have seen that face before be sure she already knew you doing this in order to meet her
at this moment introduce your self and start to open a conversion like you know her from a very long time don’t feel panic keep smiling and listen to her conversation with interest and they would love that prove that you care and you are sensitive and courage they adore this type of guys , don’t ever show up !! just be your self also if you use a nice perfume dolce & gabbana for example will leave so much effects , i met so much girls i consider my self so lucky beautiful even from KSA beautiful life gd luck
Comment by marvin — November 22, 2009 @ 5:02 am
once i met a girl at mega store shes was put her head phone i stand beside her also i did the same and i look at her cds i said that i like so much that singer and i said i like this song and that song she was so happy because she loves him too much i was so surprised when she was more interested in me i said i got a good luck from subject to another subject we walked together and we exchanged phone numbers remember don’t send any sms in the same day she will feel you are Sticker or boring take 2 days and than send her sms or call her be polite with your words because they keep thinking you might following her.
Comment by marvin — November 22, 2009 @ 5:10 am
when you go to the mall you will face a lots of pretty girl just stand inside the mall and act like you are looking for some shop inside the mall you can start like that( sorry can you help me please ? im looking ETc ) with a smile and look at her eyes tenderly like you are in passion moment i believe the eyes has a magical power to send a message without a words she will notice you doing this in order to get too close if she react gently open a conversion really you are so kind these words will open the Alert in her Emotions for a second as the brains giving orders than keep on talkin forget the shop iam sure she will be pleased with your nice words i succeed with that , ciao
Comment by marvin — November 22, 2009 @ 5:21 am
I need a girlfriend, but when ever i see a girl i never know what to say. i need help
Comment by desparate — November 28, 2009 @ 8:49 am
I had an experience where I worked hard off trying to get her and all I do is become her best friend. Now we’re not even friends because she’s promiscuous now. How can I prevent this from happening.
Comment by Zack — December 6, 2009 @ 9:50 pm
curses, i like this girl, and she likes me, but we became good friends, damn i hate that, does everyone get that girl line “i dont date really good male friends because when we split up the friendship will be ruined”?
Comment by shaun — December 9, 2009 @ 10:52 am
@ desparate, walk up to her and start talking, if not try a cheesy chat up line, but nothing sexist
Comment by shaun — December 9, 2009 @ 10:53 am
Hi, I need an advice on how to get a girlfriend.
In the past years many girls had approached me but whenever I see a girl approaching me it’s like a turn off to me, like if my inner thoughts telled me “that was easy, you just looked at her a few times” and next Im ignoring this girl, even if she is hot. I might act like that because I might think I will be rejected, how can I become the fear of being rejected ?
By the way, when Im drinking a little, this fear just goes away, but I’m afraid that I will be looked with pity (or people will laugh at me) just because I can just approach a girl when I’m drinking a litte. I don’t wanna approach girls with this too-safe manner, plus I don’t even am 100% the way I really am when I’m drinking, I am a serious guy. When I’m drinking I don’t like to be laughing all the time (but you can’t stop that), I rather enjoy deep conversations, etc.
I enjoy what I do, I am a computer programmer (not by profession, though Im working on that) and often a mobile dj. I know what kind of girl I want; a charming one, she has not to be a model nor to have a perfect body.
It just takes a little time or what ?.
I think I have been depressed for the last 8 years, it started when I was 15, because I moved to another city, far away from my friends, life, and feelings. There was this girl I have just erased from my mind by the wounds and scars of time.
Before I moved, I was just about to approach her. Now she is married to another guy ( I knew by searching her [myspace] )and I have completely erased the idea of being with this girl from my mind, albeit it HURTS.(You guys who are or were in a similar position know what I mean by putting this in capital letters).
I’m not economically too well positioned, I work on a weekly basis and I earn not too much money, just enough to eat, paying basic billings, etc. Im my place, my mother always tries to fight with me, she wants me to give her money to buy alcohol and cigars, but sincerely I cannot afford that, so this always leads to a fight. I hate this, cause last night I was feeling very comfortable and happy, and she just ruined it all. As for my late dad, who died in 2000, he only played ONCE with me football when I was a child; he made fun of me and preferred my sisters.
I am writing all these things about me to give you a better picture.
To finish, I’m just asking for an advice to work on guys, so I can find the girl of my life, not being too lonely and have a reason to live for. Please help me, any comment will be greatly appreciated.
Thank you.
Comment by John — December 15, 2009 @ 5:38 am
Hey i need help,
i really like this girl and we get along get but i dont know if she thinks we’re just friends or what… we go to the same school and i see her almost ever day and we text everyday and have been for about a year now. when we text we just talk about our days and other stuff i try to be flirty to her and she flirts back. we always say i love u at nite and she asks me how much i love her but we have never really said anything about us. i dont know if she is just saying that as to be a flirt or wat… please help
Comment by Steve — December 15, 2009 @ 9:52 pm
Damn, i cant get it right!!!
… 2 years ago i was riding my bus home , then i suddently saw this girl, and in that instant i just felt this intense warm sensation all over my body,then she looked back at me so i keep looking and she did the same thing; then we exchanged gazes all the way home.
from that moment on, i cant stop tinking of her, in the first weeks i looked for her at school then y saw her, i stared out by finding out in which class she was , then i reallized i had some friends in her class , so i asked them her name , Adriana , simply beautiful … so anyways i tried to aproach her and i couldnt , then i asked a friend to introduce us , he did , but in the moment she came close , i couldnt say ANYTHING , she looked at me and gigled , then she leaved .
some time later y tried again and something similar happened, and all the times i tried to tell her or ask her anything my friking tongue wouldnt move, then the classes ended taking all my hopes away, then all of the sudden at the start of the nex year’s classes she whent to were i was playing soccer and ask me my class’s number…
in the next recess i found out that the school had organised a love mail, a then , when i got back to class i recived a letter , im sure it was from her cause none of her friend had shown interest in me and no one had asked me my class’s number, but it didn’t said it was from her … it said someone else’s name ,
this confused me a bit, but i then a strated to not seeing her that often and she seems to have lost all interrest in me ,
pleas help me , what should i do , get some courage and ask her out or just try to find someone else?
ps: i think her friends dont like me.
Comment by Eduardo — December 19, 2009 @ 2:26 am
Look I know I’m still young and have plenty of time for a relationship. But I’ve never dated or even kissed a girl. I’ve always been good at helping girls and guys out with relationship problems mostly because I’m the middle man or rather third party. However much I enjoy helping these people, I really feel the need to get a girl-friend. Knowing this information I take it you can assume that I know rather a lot about how to handle a girl and what to do and what not to. Although, this hasn’t helped me in the endeavor to getting a significant other so I’m in desperate need of help. I know confidence is key but physically speaking I’m undesired. Thank you for your time and please email me with any tips you may think of that will help or all out solve my problem.
Comment by kody compton — December 28, 2009 @ 2:19 am
Hey i seriously need help i suck at talking to girls im a loser and i like this girl and she occasionally gives me a nice smile but im not sure if she likes me or if shes trying to be nice i really like her but i have never had a girlfriend and i really don’t know how to get her i need serious help!!!
Comment by Jed — December 31, 2009 @ 8:16 pm
Hello i am having trouble actually starting conversations with females i feel like a loser by coming here but hey what have i got to lose.
I always seem to fall in love with the wrong girl, The unavailable girl, maybe i should see a psych or maybe not, i have ruined friendships because of it.
I even fall in love with my mates girlfriends i don’t know why but it has destroyed me socially… HELP
Comment by dontdiefromdesire — January 4, 2010 @ 4:14 am
There’s this girl i like right I talk to her already i tease with her but I only see her once a day and I’m always competing for her and never get alone time and its driving me insane!
Comment by Jon — January 6, 2010 @ 9:35 pm
god bless you! you changed my life!
Comment by emo fitzgerald — January 16, 2010 @ 3:36 pm
hey guys. i was wondering if anyone could give me a few tips. imma freshman in highschool who just wants this girl to be his girlfriend. ive met this girl twice now at my cousins rock concert. im totally into her, i even gave her my number and she has mine, and weve talked a couple times, but im not to sure how i can sweep her off her feet next time we meet. can anyone help me?!
Comment by jake — January 18, 2010 @ 9:57 pm
Hi, I need an advice on how to get a girlfriend.
I really like a girl who is about the same age
Comment by shailendra — January 19, 2010 @ 12:45 am
I’ve tried so hard to find someone. I’ve had a couple of girlfriends in my life as a high school student. But now as an adult, nothing has come my way. I’ve done everything, tried everything. Still no result. I just don’t get it. Am I meant to not have a companion in life? 6 years I have been single with no luck. I begging anyone to help me out here.
Comment by kiknchikn — January 19, 2010 @ 9:12 pm
Omg… Like 5 girls like me, one thinks I like her, another insults me, and the rest r very nice to me. I’m smart, athletic, and funny. only thing is, I’m really shy. what should i do?
Comment by zane — January 23, 2010 @ 11:28 pm
Can I have help I like this girl but I get to nervous and i cant talk to her face to face. I don’t even think any girls like me except for my ex that doesn’t trust me.
Comment by Zack — January 24, 2010 @ 3:05 pm
OMG! 2 more girls like me. i found out today at a swim meet. plz help! i dont know what to do with all these girls!
Comment by zane — January 24, 2010 @ 5:14 pm
lol! i found out today that yet another girl likes me!
Comment by zane — February 1, 2010 @ 5:55 pm