How to get a girlfriend
You know it’s funny that a lot of guys who aren’t even dating on a regular basis are trying to figure out how to get a girlfriend. If you’re clever, you already spotted step 1 to getting a girlfriend: go on dates.
Dates can be thought of as a trial period to see if you want to get to know another person or not. The first date being the most important of them all as it sets the tone for the rest of the relationship, no pressure!
When dating, each subsequent date must progress more and more. If the first date as great and the second is a flop, then you can kiss (or not) that potential girlfriend goodbye. Ideally, you would want to become closer with your date every time you go out together. In other words, the third date should be more physically intense than the first one! If you aren’t growing, then you’re dying.
In order to grow together, you want to set the tone right away that you are a potential mate and not ‘just a friend’. The closer of a friend that you become, the harder it will be to change that into a relationship. This applies to girls and guys alike. You’d be amazed if you knew how many girls had crushes on their ‘best guy friend’ and he just isn’t interested.
If you’re looking to turn that woman into your girlfriend, then you’ll need to be interesting enough to want her to get to know you more. If you lead an interesting life, then show her a piece at a time, keeping her intrigued. If you show her absolutely everything on the first date, then there won’t be much to go on later on. If you already read the book, then watching the movie version won’t be as compelling because you’ll already know exactly what happens. It’s more fun to be surprised.
The part that most men lack is to create massive attraction while you are dating. It’s a shame because they really have all the pieces except for that one last little piece. Fortunately, it can be solved by simply reading a few good books on the topic. The man I recommend the most on the topic is David DeAngelo. He shows you exactly what it takes to create massive attraction and get that girl you’ve been wanting.
The last and most overlooked part in how to get a girlfriend is that you must look for someone who is compatible with you. If you’re a geek that enjoys playing video games, then go for a hot geeky girl that enjoys playing video games as well. If you’re into going outdoors, then find a girl that enjoys the same things as you. Getting a girlfriend can be a very rewarding experience if you choose right and will enhance your quality of life to levels you never thought possible.
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Comment by Hasil — August 22, 2008 @ 11:35 am
Hasil! first of all do you like a girl? yes? then first get to know her well, be her friend but attention!! if you become a really close friend it´s going to be damn hard to make her your girlfriend (i know by experience…) well show her your best qualities but don´t brag about them all the time let her see them by herself, don´t worry if you´re not really hot but you can use some style (you need to learn on your own), never and i mean ever be rude to her or curse really bad (she isn’t a guy, and that’s a common mistake), take her to dinners and party. (note:ask her first if she wants to go out alone with you if she does you almost nailed her if not…work it a little more but still take her out heaven with her friends. and by the way if her friends like you, not love you, they will talk with her and tell things like “he´s cute…” or “he´s funny…” and crap like that)
if you got a first date congratulations, you´re few steps of having a girlfriend, note:do not kiss her in the first date unless you´re 100% sure she wants and you´re 100% sure you can handle it. Did it already? then go waste some time having fun with your girlfriend if you know what i mean….
Comment by Alex — February 3, 2009 @ 5:02 am
i never had a personal life. and never ever dated or never had a girlfriend. i mean i had problems. now i work and there are like 100 nice girls and im only boy with 50 of them. the problem is i like a couple of them and this one i realy like.but i dont feal eny atraction. i think she likes me but i dont know for shore.how do you do it ? it seams very bad. im 25 and im doomed to live alone all me life.
Comment by roberto — February 20, 2009 @ 2:08 am
there is this girl i like and she is a year younger than me. I really like her and want to ask her out. But i am plain old scared u know. Plus the girl knows i like her.
Comment by mohammad — March 2, 2009 @ 1:20 pm
You shared a lot of great information in a short and to-the-point article. I really agree with finding a girl you’re compatible with, because most inexperienced guys settle for just any girl that isn’t bad looking. And they end up unhappy in an unhealthy relationship. Putting up with a lot of BS because you’re afraid of being alone isn’t right! There are millions of girls in this world and there’s no reason to stay with one that makes your life miserable. So don’t be shy or afraid to dismiss the girls that don’t really make you happy!
Comment by how to get a girlfriend — March 29, 2009 @ 2:52 pm
she knows i like her and i think she is a little embarrassed should i ask her out now or wait until she has come to term about my feelings for her?
Comment by Robbie — April 25, 2009 @ 5:30 pm
a lot of girls reckon im hot, but it seems to me that girls dont actually like guys who are shy and sensitive but prefer guys who are complete jerks. the bad thing is, that im shy so i cant even talk back to them. this makes it a lot harder to tell a girl i like her, what should i say to a girl? im juz asking ccos i dont wannna make a fool of myself
Comment by Guauvi — April 27, 2009 @ 11:15 am
I’m that kind of guy who enjoys literature and very little socializing, mostly because of how nervous I can get in a social situation. I embarass easily because of this and it shows in weired ways sometimes. Like say, a girl comes up to me and speaks to me but I can’t even answer… I mean I can, I just immediatly go into a negative state of mind where I am so self consious of everything I say and do that I just go silent. There are more than a few girls I know that like me (I think anyway, otherwise they wouldn’t try to be around me so often or maybe there is just something wrong with me) but in my negative mind set I think; No she could never like a guy like me, heck I’m not all that handsome or athletic or intelligent, what could she possibly see in me? I’m still in school and I vowed that I would’nt graduate high school without having had a girlfreind at least once… but now I see that slipping away with each day that passes and it makes me wonder: how the heck would I go about doing that in the real world without the experience that most guys get in middle school? does anyone have any suggestions for a guy like me
Comment by Amyas Leigh — April 28, 2009 @ 2:25 pm
to amyas leigh: what it comes down 2 is that you have one girl that u cant stop thinking about in your heart. “deeply loving someone gives you courage where being deeply loved gives you strength” a little quote. guys have a natural sense to women, like i got my green-haired goddess cause i was attuned to her emotions.
Comment by chris — May 17, 2009 @ 1:39 am
About half of my friends are chicks and I’ve never even made out, it feels horrible always( often ) hanging out with hot chicks and know that more than half of them are like sleeping all around. The thing is their close friends and even if i could i wouldn’t date them. I just don’t have the same idea of what dating or being in a relationship is meant to be like I’ve had lots of opportunities and i party every single weekend.
Comment by Kyle — June 8, 2009 @ 3:07 pm
kyle, I’m afraid to say and i don’t mean it offensively but it sounds like you’re a lady-boy. You don’t seem to give the impression that u want to be with these girls. You may have become a ’safe boy’ for the girls to hang around with. this is a bad position to be in!!!!
Comment by martin red — July 1, 2009 @ 6:36 pm