How to get a girlfriend
You know it’s funny that a lot of guys who aren’t even dating on a regular basis are trying to figure out how to get a girlfriend when instead they should be learning how to get a girl’s number. If you’re clever, you already spotted step 1 to getting a girlfriend: go on dates.
Dates can be thought of as a trial period for couples to see if you want to get to know another person or not. The first date being the most important of them all as it sets the tone for the rest of the relationship, no pressure!
It doesn’t matter where you get the date, personals, through friends or even randomly meeting someone during the day using some crafty pick up lines, it’s the first date that counts the most.
When dating, each subsequent date must progress more and more. If the first date as great and the second is a flop, then you can kiss (or not) that potential girlfriend goodbye. Ideally, you would want to become closer with your date every time you go out together. In other words, the third date should be more physically intense than the first one! If you aren’t growing, then you’re dying.
Set The Girlfriend and Boyfriend Tone Immediately
In order to grow together, you want to set the tone right away that you are a potential mate and not ‘just a friend’. The closer of a friend that you become, the harder it will be to change that into a relationship. This applies to girls and guys alike. You’d be amazed if you knew how many girls had crushes on their ‘best guy friend’ and he just isn’t interested.
A loving relationship takes time to build
If you’re looking to turn that woman into your girlfriend, then you’ll need to be interesting enough to want her to get to know you more. If you lead an interesting life, then show her a piece at a time, keeping her intrigued. If you show her absolutely everything on the first date, then there won’t be much to go on later on. If you already read the book, then watching the movie version won’t be as compelling because you’ll already know exactly what happens. It’s more fun to be surprised.
Spark love so you aren’t just a guy friend
The part that most men lack is to create massive attraction while you are dating. It’s a shame because they really have all the pieces except for that one last little piece. Fortunately, it can be solved by simply reading a few good books on the topic. The man I recommend the most on the topic is David DeAngelo. He shows you exactly what it takes to create massive attraction and get that girl you’ve been wanting.
Usually I find that most guys have all the other aspects of their life covered, but remain clueless when it comes to really building massive attraction. Well let me tell you, you might have everything going for you in terms of looks, money and fame, but if you can’t spark attraction you’re not going to get a girlfriend. So what’s the best way to do that? Well you have to be a man that isn’t afraid of showing his desires.
More Tips on How To Get A Girlfriend
Now I’m not saying you need to go out and tell a girl you’re attracted to her (although that does work when said in the right tone), but instead don’t play it safe. One huge mistake guys do that kills all attraction is to approach women in an overly safe manner. So that even if she rejects you, you don’t feel rejected because ‘you weren’t really trying’. How do you know if you’re doing this or not? Well if you make up an excuse to hang out with her on a continuous basis, such as to study together, for work or any other reason then you’re playing it too safe.
Girlfriends Require Constant Attraction
Instead, the real way to build attraction is to make sure she knows that you’re attracted to her in the first place. Then from there, tease her and use the techniques described in David Deangelo’s book, I know I said it before, and I’ll say it again, he’s really the man when it comes to building attraction. Best of all, it doesn’t require learning how to get a flat stomach or a six pack!
The last and most overlooked part in how to get a girlfriend is that you must look for someone who is compatible with you. If you’re a geek that enjoys playing video games, then go for a hot geeky girl that enjoys playing video games as well. If you’re into going outdoors, then find a girl that enjoys the same things as you. Getting a girlfriend can be a very rewarding experience if you choose right and will enhance your quality of life to levels you never thought possible, who knows, she might end up being your fiance one day!
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Comment by Hasil — August 22, 2008 @ 11:35 am
Hasil! first of all do you like a girl? yes? then first get to know her well, be her friend but attention!! if you become a really close friend it´s going to be damn hard to make her your girlfriend (i know by experience…) well show her your best qualities but don´t brag about them all the time let her see them by herself, don´t worry if you´re not really hot but you can use some style (you need to learn on your own), never and i mean ever be rude to her or curse really bad (she isn’t a guy, and that’s a common mistake), take her to dinners and party. (note:ask her first if she wants to go out alone with you if she does you almost nailed her if not…work it a little more but still take her out heaven with her friends. and by the way if her friends like you, not love you, they will talk with her and tell things like “he´s cute…” or “he´s funny…” and crap like that)
if you got a first date congratulations, you´re few steps of having a girlfriend, note:do not kiss her in the first date unless you´re 100% sure she wants and you´re 100% sure you can handle it. Did it already? then go waste some time having fun with your girlfriend if you know what i mean….
Comment by Alex — February 3, 2009 @ 5:02 am
i never had a personal life. and never ever dated or never had a girlfriend. i mean i had problems. now i work and there are like 100 nice girls and im only boy with 50 of them. the problem is i like a couple of them and this one i realy like.but i dont feal eny atraction. i think she likes me but i dont know for shore.how do you do it ? it seams very bad. im 25 and im doomed to live alone all me life.
Comment by roberto — February 20, 2009 @ 2:08 am
there is this girl i like and she is a year younger than me. I really like her and want to ask her out. But i am plain old scared u know. Plus the girl knows i like her.
Comment by mohammad — March 2, 2009 @ 1:20 pm
You shared a lot of great information in a short and to-the-point article. I really agree with finding a girl you’re compatible with, because most inexperienced guys settle for just any girl that isn’t bad looking. And they end up unhappy in an unhealthy relationship. Putting up with a lot of BS because you’re afraid of being alone isn’t right! There are millions of girls in this world and there’s no reason to stay with one that makes your life miserable. So don’t be shy or afraid to dismiss the girls that don’t really make you happy!
Comment by how to get a girlfriend — March 29, 2009 @ 2:52 pm
she knows i like her and i think she is a little embarrassed should i ask her out now or wait until she has come to term about my feelings for her?
Comment by Robbie — April 25, 2009 @ 5:30 pm
a lot of girls reckon im hot, but it seems to me that girls dont actually like guys who are shy and sensitive but prefer guys who are complete jerks. the bad thing is, that im shy so i cant even talk back to them. this makes it a lot harder to tell a girl i like her, what should i say to a girl? im juz asking ccos i dont wannna make a fool of myself
Comment by Guauvi — April 27, 2009 @ 11:15 am
I’m that kind of guy who enjoys literature and very little socializing, mostly because of how nervous I can get in a social situation. I embarass easily because of this and it shows in weired ways sometimes. Like say, a girl comes up to me and speaks to me but I can’t even answer… I mean I can, I just immediatly go into a negative state of mind where I am so self consious of everything I say and do that I just go silent. There are more than a few girls I know that like me (I think anyway, otherwise they wouldn’t try to be around me so often or maybe there is just something wrong with me) but in my negative mind set I think; No she could never like a guy like me, heck I’m not all that handsome or athletic or intelligent, what could she possibly see in me? I’m still in school and I vowed that I would’nt graduate high school without having had a girlfreind at least once… but now I see that slipping away with each day that passes and it makes me wonder: how the heck would I go about doing that in the real world without the experience that most guys get in middle school? does anyone have any suggestions for a guy like me
Comment by Amyas Leigh — April 28, 2009 @ 2:25 pm
to amyas leigh: what it comes down 2 is that you have one girl that u cant stop thinking about in your heart. “deeply loving someone gives you courage where being deeply loved gives you strength” a little quote. guys have a natural sense to women, like i got my green-haired goddess cause i was attuned to her emotions.
Comment by chris — May 17, 2009 @ 1:39 am
About half of my friends are chicks and I’ve never even made out, it feels horrible always( often ) hanging out with hot chicks and know that more than half of them are like sleeping all around. The thing is their close friends and even if i could i wouldn’t date them. I just don’t have the same idea of what dating or being in a relationship is meant to be like I’ve had lots of opportunities and i party every single weekend.
Comment by Kyle — June 8, 2009 @ 3:07 pm
kyle, I’m afraid to say and i don’t mean it offensively but it sounds like you’re a lady-boy. You don’t seem to give the impression that u want to be with these girls. You may have become a ’safe boy’ for the girls to hang around with. this is a bad position to be in!!!!
Comment by martin red — July 1, 2009 @ 6:36 pm
There’s this chick i like in school and she kind doesn’t seems to talk to me much. I say hi to her but what ever i do she seems just to ignore me or avoid me i don’t do anything weird I’m just normal and i really need help. Oh and there this other chick we like each other but she already has a boyfriend please help!
Comment by Kevin — July 11, 2009 @ 2:40 am
There’s this girl who asked me out but my best friend fancied her so i said no. Now my best friend doesn’t fancy her and i want to go out with her but i don’t know what to say. Should i tell her why i didn’t go out with her in the first place or should i just asked her out??? Please help me!!
Comment by me — July 15, 2009 @ 6:56 am
hey Kevin, you say that chick you like is avoiding you, well maybe she is shy and she likes you, who knows. try asking her a question like if she’s seen a certin movie and ask what its like because you were interested in it, and pick a movie you think she might of watched. Then go on from there.
Comment by Nick — July 23, 2009 @ 9:04 pm
also kevin if shes in one of your classes then see if she glances at you then you look at her and she looks away really quickly and blushes then she most likly likes you (or shes a good actress and is just playing with you)
Comment by Nick — July 23, 2009 @ 9:16 pm
i read David’s book and it has some interesting content that will help with any relationship, read this book for the best results with girls girls you really want to date
Comment by trey — July 28, 2009 @ 9:32 pm
There is this girl on my street that i really like, I think she is my age group. I don’t think she knows me,i have only talk to her like once, when i asked her of somebody. I see her with guys with cars. I don’t have a car, and don’t think my finance weigh up to those guys. This makes me scared to approach her. How do i go about this. Please i need advice from anyone.
Comment by Lester — August 27, 2009 @ 2:49 pm
There’s this girl i cant take my mind off, we have known each other not for the best part of a year. I have told her i really like her and asked her if she would be me girlfriend, she told me that she thinks I’m a really sweet boy but she is still in love with her old boyfriend. I felt so depressed but i told her that she deserves to be happy and to do what she feels is the right thing to do. she has been single now for about 3-4months, I still really like this girl and i don’t want to give up but i also don’t know what to do. can you help me
Comment by Jamie — August 28, 2009 @ 8:10 pm
i asked this girl out, and she said no. i was completely down for months, and i think she knows. should i ask her again?
Comment by Dan — September 8, 2009 @ 11:55 pm
yes I’ve read all the books and read other peoples responses about getting girls but i have all i need to get a girl friend but every time i go ask out a girl she says something that changes the way i was going to ask her so now I’m standing there looking a dummy in front of her friends and I’m faced with just walking away do you have any good ideas to help me from getting stumped in front of beautiful girls
Comment by zak — September 13, 2009 @ 6:57 pm
I have tried so many things and i still cant get a girlfriend and i think i might be getting desperate. I don’t know if that’s good or not.
Comment by Mike — September 15, 2009 @ 2:21 pm
Yeah, a bit of advice for all of you. Don’t come on too hard. Find a girl who you think is hot, and talk to her. Make sure you relax, crack a few jokes, and be in control.
If it doesn’t turn out too well, or she doesn’t like you, then you’ve got the wrong girl guys. If you don’t click, then find someone else. It won’t work .
One of the biggest mistakes is for people to concentrate on this ONE chick, and forget about the 3 billion others in the world.
My advice for you guys who REALLY want to get a girlfriend.
Talk to some girls. Be relaxed, but don’t get stuck in the ‘friend zone’. Know that you want to get with this girl, and make sure that you are in control of the situation.
Also, don’t retreat into your ‘personal shell’. This is something that holds back a HEAP of guys. Whenever you feel it kicking in, do the opposite of whatever it tells you to do. Trust me on this one…
Thanks guys, and good luck getting with that perfect girl!
Comment by dan — September 22, 2009 @ 3:36 am
amyas lee,
I’m pretty much in the same situation you are…
Don’t dwell on it dude, we’ll get through this
Comment by greg — September 22, 2009 @ 3:41 am
theres this girl i have a BIG crush on at school and i always say the wrong things to her please any help
Comment by some guy — September 29, 2009 @ 12:34 pm
Hi i just wanted some help. I have a friend and i know her, but a strange thing that i have started liking her. I have never talked to girls and now i am in college, i just talk with her and she already has a boyfriend. When i heard this my heart broken and I started crying. The only girl i liked, please help me!
Comment by the one who is lost — October 5, 2009 @ 2:14 am
i like this girl and she knows i like her. I found out the other day that my friend is going out with her. I have strong feelings for her and don’t know what to do. I really like her but he is my friend. What do i do?
Comment by andy — October 14, 2009 @ 8:13 am
ok, i found a girl that i like, and apparently she likes me back. the problem is that she doesn’t believe in dating at our age! that is when i got stuck and no where to go
Comment by christian albertson — October 20, 2009 @ 7:24 am
hey i don’t drive and don’t have a car, is that gonna keep me from being able to get a girl? Its kinda hard to go on any real “dates” if you don’t drive. I don’t know, any advice?
Comment by chad — October 21, 2009 @ 1:25 am
There’s this girl I really like but I’m not quite sure about how to get her to talk to me or get to know her or anything and I kinda shy so what should I do?
Comment by Ryan — October 25, 2009 @ 5:18 pm
There’s a girl at club i go to, I’ve spoken to her quite a bit and i really like her, i was thinking of asking her on a date, however is it too early (I’ve known her for about 1 month and a half) and also what type of date should i do (i was thinking of cinema, is that too cliche though.)
Comment by jack — November 5, 2009 @ 3:54 pm