My friend was rapt with this young lady he’d met. “She’s not only hot”, he said to me with enthusiasm glowing in his eyes, “but smart and funny too – AND she is into Anime as much as I am!” She was a great match, and I was quite happy for him. Imagine how sad I got when two weeks later, he told me he was losing her. What had happened? The answer was in the latest text message she had sent him: “I need a little time to myself…” This is going to be about how to get a girl to chase you, so this never happens again.
Give a girl room to chase you
My friend had got carried away with this girl, and that’s how he drove her out of his life. Sure enough, she saw him a couple more times, but eventually, the relationship fizzled out and grinded to a halt. I’m sure she was interested in him at first: he’s a charismatic and passionate guy. If something ignites his excitement, he’s all over it, and he follows through. It’s actually attractive when a guy treats his hobbies that way: he knows so much about Anime, it’s sick. And that sparkle in his eyes when he talks about it – I can imagine his passion left a great impression on the girl.
But then, he applied the same enthusiasm to her. He really wanted her in his life (and who can blame him?), and it showed. Waaay too much.
Instead of relying on nature to work its magic, he tried to “steer” the chemistry between him and the girl, and in doing so, he impeded the one thing that would have worked: a natural unfolding of affection.
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