Its a shame that most men don’t know how to approach girls properly because it is so easy if done in the right frame of mind. The approach should be an enjoyable experience for both you and the girl that you are going to meet. Now let’s examine the frame of mind that most men adopt when speaking to a woman for the first time.

Usually you can break down the process of the clueless man in a few simple steps.

1. Sees attractive girl
2. Thinks about how attractive she is and weighs out if its worth talking to her or not. If she’s REALLY attractive and you think you stand a chance, then it might be worth taking a shot.
3. Tries to think of something to say but draws a blank, heart rate increases.
4a. Goes up to the girl in question, asks an awkward question that conveys absolutely no attraction and produces an awkward moment.
4b. Goes up the girl, tries to impress her and is mad when she walks away.
4c. Goes up the girl, acts cocky & completely out of tune with the rest of the social environment, creates an awkward moment.
5. Man ejects from the situation

What you should do is pretty much the OPPOSITE of all the steps above.

First, before you ever start approaching women, you have to know WHAT kind of woman you want. This is CRITICAL and FUN to do. Write out (or think really profoundly) the woman of your dreams. What does she look like? How does she walk ? How does she old herself ? How does she laugh ? How does she dress ? What kind of personality does she have ? Is she sweet, sexy, edgy, kind, cocky, sassy, smart ? What does she do for a living ?

Imagine her and have no limits. Do it now… I’ll wait.

Alright , I know you’re not doing it now, but do it after you finish reading, Ok ?

A change in thinking

Once you do this, meeting girls will radically change. First, the concept of “you attract what you think of” is very true, and you’ll automatically be drawn to the woman of your dreams. Second, when you are meeting girls, your objective is now to find out if she is your ideal girl.

To paraphrase, when you talk to a woman for the first time, you will be interested in knowing what kind of person she is. If she doesn’t measure up to your ideal girl, then tease her about it. If she does have characteristics that are aligned with your ideal girl, then you’ll genuinely be able to point out how you appreciate that about her.

For example, if you were looking for an honest girl, then you could ask in your conversation,

You: “On a scale from 1 to 10, how honest are you?”
Her: “Umm, I’m an 8″
You: “Is that the 2 or the 8 talking now ??”

If you’re looking for a smart girl, then try to find out how intellectual she is ! If you want a girl that’s adventurous, then talk about adventures !
This concept of figuring out if this girl measures up to your expectations will all come naturally when you know what you really want in a girl. You see, most men don’t know what they want and therefore will just SETTLE for anything with 2 legs. Don’t be one of those people.

Women KNOW exactly what they want
Because they know what they want, they can pick and eliminate men so easily. Being picky shows that you have choice in mates, and that makes you attractive.

The problem with approaching girls is that men don’t know what to say first. Even though the words you say really don’t matter, I’ll give you a few samples.

The easiest, and best approach is:
“Hey! I’m just here doing xxxxx (whatever you are doing at the moment), I felt like talking to you.”
Then just go on and figure out who she really is and if she’s right for you.

If you want more knowledge on approaching and dating the girl of your dreams then I can recommend a read that will probably change your life. In the book Double Your Dating by David Deangelo, you can find many powerful methods for generating massive attraction immediately when you meet a girl for the first time. It is a highly recommend book that every guy SHOULD read. Seriously.

If you know how to ask questions, then you already know how to approach girls. Just go in, and find out what you like and dislike about her, then choose the one you enjoy the most!