How To Get a Girl To Like You
A simple, quick way to learn how to get a girl to like you is to remember the little details and then casually insert them into your conversation at a later date. The problem is that guys tend to remember larger things and women appreciate the details. Do you remember what she was wearing the first time you saw her? Probably not… but she will.
Getting a girl to like you isn’t just about remembering little details either, it’s also about triggering massive attraction right from the start. One of the gurus on this subject is David DeAngelo, he teaches guys how to create massive attraction in any situation.
Once you have attraction, and you’re fairly confident about the situation, the easiest way to really have all the details sink in is not to concentrate on remembering the details, but to really be passionate about the situation that you’re in. The more your truly devote yourself to that situation, the more the little details will stick.
Contrastingly, the more you are aloof and distracted, the more you will miss the subtle little details that show her that you really care. Humans, especially women, need to know that you really care, and being knowledgeable of the little details is one of the best ways to show this. Not to mention, the little details of your relationship are things that only you two share. Not even her best friend will know what she wore on your first date, so if you know, then you’ll be that much more ahead of things.
A fair warning about this… subtle details are great but don’t overdo them. Bring them up if they are appropriate, but sprinkle them throughout your interactions instead of fully using them.
For example, saying: “Hey remember that our first date, when you wore that top and those pants, yeah… I liked those” is really odd and out of place.
Instead, if she happens to wear the same shirt that she wore on your first date, mentioning: “Didn’t you wear that when we first met? That was a good day!” would come off much better. The difference is that one is sincere and natural, the other is manufactured.
Don’t manufacture your comments, let them come to you naturally! It’s the little details that count when you’re trying to figure out how to get a girl to like you, remember them and you’ll reap the rewards.
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Comment by junior — October 9, 2008 @ 10:05 am
I loved a girl.. I have been trying to get her.. Already. 3 Years. We broke up just because of 1 lie. I know i shouldn’t have lied. So i wrote her a letter. To forgive me.. But. She got more angry. Can you please help me? I really love her.
Comment by Leon — November 14, 2008 @ 12:53 am
Leon: The sad truth is that if you wrote her a letter asking for her forgiveness and she got more angry, then there are other forces acting here that you need to handle first.
First of all… it sounds as if you’re a little concentrated on this one girl. Have you seen any other girls in these 3 years? If not, then you should.
Keep on reading the site and I’m sure you’ll get a few insights on what went wrong… and it’s not just 1 lie.
Although 1 lie could have been the catalyst for the breakup, it’s not 1 thing that ends an entire relationship.
Comment by Chris Calo — November 14, 2008 @ 10:43 am
i have this friend who lives down my street and ive known her for a long while and shes liked me for so long and I’ve liked her but we’ve never dated, and recently i met her friend and i fell for her slightly and overtime I’ve fallen for her and i did the “tell the girl how you feel” thing I’ve heard about, and its gotten weird and shes taking it well and all it seems but its gotten weird now sorta. what should i do ? i really like her and want to be with her..
Comment by Lance — November 20, 2008 @ 4:15 pm
i have liked this girl forever and we went out once but didn’t work. We have been friends forever and i haven’t stopped liking her. Yes i have had other girlfriends but when I’m around her i just fall for her. She said she liked me just a little but she wouldn’t go out with me because my ex still likes me. I really like her and might love her…
Comment by Josh — November 22, 2008 @ 9:55 pm
ive really liked this girl since ive known her but never really knew how much until i stayed at her house one night and we kissed during the night. she woke up the next day and didnt speak about it and hasnt since, until it got out and people started talkin and she got angry at me for telling people.
its hard because her cousin lives with her and i am his best friend so its really awkward because of the friendship i have with her cousin, they are like brothers and sisters!
i think she has liked me for some time but never been quite sure! but now i just want to ask her out because we will be moving apart because of educational preferences! how should i approach her knowing wot happened? i really, truly love this girl but im not quite sure if she knows how much!! help?? cool i not this much of a romantic type until this one girl so its quite unusual to ask how to go about your life!!
Comment by dave — January 1, 2009 @ 2:34 pm
I love this girl, but she has a boyfriend. She tells me she likes me too. I have had intercourse with her as well. But she has not broken up with him . What should I do?
Comment by Anonymus — January 13, 2009 @ 8:18 pm
dave: i think the problem might be after you saw she liked you (kissing) you turned into a wuss. it was just a kiss and you don’t care ~ don’t forget that PLZ 4 ur own sake and any other guy who’s been their.
JOSH: you said it ur self “it didn’t work” look though that whole i won’t date you cuz ur EX likes you was 1. a reason to not be mean and blow you(OFF!) 2. she likes you and wuz seeing ur response. either way you should have done the same thing… RUN!!! really but since that ain’t happening ~ when she told you the whole “cuz your ex likes you” thing, you should of busted her on it and change subject. or something of that nature. what do you do now? flirt flirt flirt ~ touch touch touch -until she stops you –> you’ll never know if she would’ve!!!! good luck~~~Crash
Comment by Crash — January 15, 2009 @ 2:48 am
i met this girl, she is really cute, and i dont know when to tell her i like her or when to ask her out. we have some things in commen if that helps. i was wondering how can i get her to notice me more and get her to like me back
Comment by CeeJay — January 26, 2009 @ 1:37 pm
there is a new girl in my class i really love. we are friends but i dont know what to say when i am in front of her. can u plz help me to get her. one more problem – i m not the only one who likes her – there are also a couple of other guys in my class who like her too. i dont know what to do. i really need help…
Comment by jay — January 29, 2009 @ 11:43 am
I’ve liked this girl for almost 4 years and we’ve been friends the whole time. She knew I liked her a couple years ago but I said I didn’t anymore even though i still did. throughout the whole entire time the passion has increased and decreased. How do I get her to like me back? She’s said She liked me in the past but not anymore. Am I stuck being one of her closest friends? or can I fix it?
Comment by Mò — May 9, 2009 @ 7:47 pm
Yo. I got the same problem but iv’e known the girl for almost 8 years now. I didnt start liking her till about 3 years ago but i always denied it because i didnt want to jepordize our friendship. BUT i think she MIGHT like me; how do i know after 8 years of friendship??
Comment by killz — May 22, 2009 @ 7:35 pm
And if i tell her, what if she don’t like me? That could be akward!
Comment by killz — May 22, 2009 @ 7:36 pm
i like this girl and she knows i like her, how do i get her to like me?!
Comment by doug — June 17, 2009 @ 3:04 pm
so this girl i met is amazingly gorgeous, no matter where she goes guys gawk at her. she works above me. Problem is the age, shes older and done school and I’m not. I’m not going to lie she is kinda like a guy she likes working for guys. So for the first week or so i was pretty aloof. We went on a few dates and seemed to have a great connection. she said she found me attractive and liked me. She couldn’t get enough of me then after sex for the first time tells me she doesn’t want anything serious. But at the same time keeps giving me mixed signals. I feel she doesn’t respect my time and seems to not really care about me. or at least seeing me as much anymore. i feel like we are not longer on the same level anymore. I want to know how to take control out of her hands and basically show how i have value. any thoughts would be greatly appreciated.
Comment by josh — June 29, 2009 @ 8:48 pm
i really like this girl and she really likes me says, but she flirts with a lot of other boys but i don’t think she can help it. Also its a hard situation because My ex girlfriends is like best friends with the girl i like and we would be going out by now but its all to do with the ex girlfriend stopping us please help what do i do!
Comment by chris — July 1, 2009 @ 1:00 am
I got a best friend who I love more than damn near if not more than anyone on this earth. And she knows everything about me and I do about her (I mean everything) and even though I have had plenty of girlfriends I can say by far that I haven’t loved them this much before. And I really think I’m falling for her.I have came straight up with the situation and told her that I love her. But this whole thing was said in a weird moment……basically she saw something I put on the internet as a headline and she thought i was talking about a girl I liked or was going to go with. And she asked me who it was so I acted like I wasn’t going tell her cause I was really nervous. Which I never am? I’m usually the person giving the love advice. Anyway so I told her it was her I was talking about and she didn’t believe me and I called my closest friends who knew that I was and she thought it was all planned and I was playing. And I figured maybe she just was too afraid to say I don’t like you in fear that I would take it personally. Or is it that she was nervous to tell me what she really felt…..and ever since that day she does things a little more openly towards me like in a flirtatious way though. Like when I’m over her house she may wash up in the shower and sit around me in a robe. And she knows that I’m going to pull the string and what she does is where something such as a bra and panties under it too tease me. But even though me and her are friends we constantly flirt and. Play on and off anyway. What do you think is going on with me her and the situation
Comment by patloc — July 5, 2009 @ 7:36 pm
This is for comment number 1 ; Go talk to the girl in person wemon like courage. btw a letter wtf tht never works lol. courage when u see her give her a kiss hug her tell her that u love her aND IF the doesnt work stalk her lol jk bt tell her u will it never fails.
Comment by Nathan — July 20, 2009 @ 3:33 pm
Hey, so I have loved this girl for almost 8 years which is longer then I can remember and we have been best friends for like 6 years and I have never gotten her to so much as to like me. She knows I love her and that hasn’t messed up our friendship but how do I get her to love, or at least like me?
Comment by chris sanders — August 13, 2009 @ 11:48 pm
there is this girl i like but I’m not sure if she like me too!
i tell her sweet words and she would only laugh and have a great time but I’m afraid to ask her out because maybe she would tell me no! what can i do to make her like me as i do?
Comment by heber — August 14, 2009 @ 9:04 pm
here’s an interesting story. I’ve liked this girl for three years. Its unfortunate she lives far away (about an hour to be exact). I vividly remember the first time I saw her, it was like a truck hit me. By far the most beautiful girl with an awesome personality to go along with it (in my opinion). Somehow, I’m not really sure how, we exchanged phone numbers and talked on the phone. A few months go by and she eventually invites me to her house to hangout. We did, and it was a lot of fun but nothing “extra special happened”. From that point we still talked on the phone and hung-out here and there. I ended up going to Penn State this past year and we still continued to talk. About half way through the year I told her how I felt. The key thing was that I was realistic about it. I wasn’t going to ask her out, wasn’t asking how she felt. At that point she still handed chosen a College yet (a year younger then me) and her reaction was secretive none the less. lucky for me, she didn’t ignore me after that, still talked on the phone etc.. etc… Now here’s the best part, for my b-day (just this past year) I got a txt saying Happy Birthday from her. It really made me feel good but, i got a second txt message saying “I got into Waseda University!” and for those of you who don’t know thats a college in Japan, yep Japan. At this point I’m not sure if im upset that she’s going to college in Japan or not. of course it will make it harder for me but to tell you the truth. Its worth not giving up.
If you guys really like someone. if you really really like someone, it takes time to build a relationship of any type. That kind of relationship doesn’t sprout over night. Personally, I believe the harder you work and the more you try the better the relationship is going to be. Now im not saying that its always going to work out, but don’t give up and move on right away. Guy’s these days can be really lewd and it’s really a shame. Just be mannered. Oh one last thing, you can’t “make” a girl like you that ridiculous. There in charge of their own feeling, just like we are in charge of our feelings.
Comment by Ryan — August 19, 2009 @ 6:28 am
Wow ryan, that was a useles sob story, no offense.
Comment by chris sanders — August 21, 2009 @ 10:25 pm
I really like a girl, but she said that she doesn’t like her, but I like her so much.I have never felt so.What to do?
Comment by Anton — November 2, 2009 @ 9:38 am
Well I’ve liked this girl named Amanda for awhile and we went out once but it didn’t work but we are still *best friends* i really want her back what should i do? she hugs and comes over sometimes but i truly love her
Comment by chris — November 4, 2009 @ 2:44 pm
I know there are loads of other comments like this one but i just had to write in. There’s this girl who is two years above me at school, and I’ve had a crush on her ever since I met her when i was five.(long time!) When i was five we were really good friends, but over the past few years we’ve drifted apart slightly. We still say hi to each other other, but nothing else really. I love her so much, and do you think I should get to be good friends with her again before I ask her out?(is that right?!) Should I approach her and say “do you remember so-and-so?” or something else?
Comment by jayjay — November 6, 2009 @ 11:45 am
I like this one girl slot but we live kind of far away from eachother we went out for like two mothes but she broke up with me because she says she doesn’t like me anymore, we’re sort of friends now but I want more than that how do I get her to like me again?
Comment by Bob — November 6, 2009 @ 10:18 pm
I like a girl and I try to talk to her but I always get nervous is there anyway I can help not doing that
Comment by Austin — December 3, 2009 @ 9:24 pm
I love this girl a mutual friend asked me if i liked the girl..i said no since she was standing right there and im shy..the mutual friend asked her when i was out of room and said no just as friends.. shes cute smart funny ..and i love her we have 6th and 7th hour together and we both finish work in 7th hour same time and go to choir room to help the teacher since we are her facrite studenrs…we are both in showchoir and are partnered for a slow song. should i give her a gift and tell her how i feel or give up on it?
Comment by Loverboy — December 5, 2009 @ 10:57 am
Loverboy, WHY in the world would you give her a gift? That’s like stating “I’m under you and I need you and you have power over me”. Well, OBVIOUSLY some women you might like will end up having power over you in a sexual matter but you can’t, for the love of god, show that power she has over you.
Really man, if you like her – be a man while dancing with her, lead her, ask her if she’s comfortable ONCE(!), try to flirt with other chicks on the room but don’t be obvious. Believe me, the trick is: be cocky (only works if you’re genuinely funny or witty), lead her (don’t ask the questions, make suggestions – if she follows you that means she’s into you)… and don’t be a wuss! The only time you get to be more sentimental is after having sleeping with her, not before.
Really, if you love her be the man she needs, she craves for. Don’t feel bad for someone telling you “man up!” but that’s what you’ve got to do in order to get her.
Otherwise, don’t be surprised if the biggest jerk in the world gets your girl. Be a jerk, don’t pretend, just be a lousy superficial jerk, only show emotions after sleeping with them (girls love that… but never be whiny or wussy before bed)…
Well, I guess I made my point.
Comment by Pedro De Mello — December 7, 2009 @ 5:16 am
and I do lead her while dancing. I had to teach her sister the song and she literaly jumped onto my shoulder (and im not short either) lol
and one slight problem..I’m shy :X
Comment by Loverboy — December 7, 2009 @ 6:44 pm
My best friend was Brazilian and he got more women in the 4 months that he was here than I had in the entire 25 years of my life (Approximately 25-30). We worked at a casino, lot of potential to meet women and at night we partied at their apartment which housed employees from the exchange program. He got the girls to like him by being confident, humorous, and a little cocky,in a rather nice way. It was his personality that won the girls over and he was a bit of a tease. He showed interest in them, but knew when to shut off his emotions to keep them wonldering and wanting more. He made the girls feel comfortable, enabling him to get closer to them and all touchy feely and all. Things never got awkward for him, he was always in control. He flirted with just about all the girls incaspiculously, therefore creating competition among the women; while making the ones he didn’t flirt with wonder what was wrong and making them want him even more. This guy was skilled, sorta like a professional at what he did. Never give all of your attention to any particular girl, especially early on, even if you really like them. Coming on to quick or to strong labels you as easy and weak in their eyes. Women love a challenge and yes, there’s a fine line between being to nice and mean(arrogant). Walk that line carefully. Even if you’re confident the girl likes you, make her work a little, give her some of your time/ attention but not to much, if she wants to hang out- tell her you’re busy, blow her off a time or two, but keep her interested. She may like you a lot, but if you give in to easy, she may be turned off and push away, because she knows that she already has you, thus; busting her ego and moving on to another guy to see if she can get him or not. We all know girls love attention, especially from guys and they’ll look for ultiple men to give it to them. Hope this helps- remember, be yourself and be confident in who you are, where you’re going and what you want. Dress nicely and secure your finances. This will help boost confidence and relieve stress and worries about not having no money. Notice I didn’t say dress fancy, or get rich; this doesn’t win women, although it can help, as well as hurt and possibly attract the wrong kind of women.
Comment by Kaylab — December 20, 2009 @ 8:15 pm
I am in college and as i started school met a girl that was a freshman that blow my mind i really liked her from the start. About a month later i talked to her to see if she liked me and she straight up said she liked me as a friend and she didn’t have those kind of feelings for me. Now a while back i agreed with her to just be good friends. i now know a lot about her and she has spent a couple nights at my apartment(nothing happened). i am now even friends with her sister and her mom. We talk at least once if not more a day, we have gotten really close but the thing is i am still mad for her its driving me crazy and its been 5 months already i don’t know if i can take it anymore i think about her day in and day out. i have tried just getting over her and not talking to her anymore but she gets driven to tears. But the combination of her being really upset because i don’t want to be just friends, and the fact that i am madly in love with this girl brings me right back. What should i do?
P.S. She slept with one of my friends that neither of us talk to anymore before she ever met me. But she hasn’t been with anyone since and im pretty sure i would know the girl tells me almost everything.
Comment by aaron — December 23, 2009 @ 12:49 am
Ok i been working with this girl for about a year, shes fun outgoing hyper and very active we hang out after work,i like her alot and i dont know what to do shes about two years older then me we flirt and all that but i cant go out with it and tell her i like her… WHAT TO DO????
Comment by El — January 5, 2010 @ 4:24 am
i really like this girl a lot i mean she’s one of my best friends but i just can’t seem to win her heart even though i give her mine
Comment by eric — January 5, 2010 @ 9:57 pm
what should i do?? im heartbroken
Comment by eric — January 5, 2010 @ 9:58 pm
Well, i’ve been talking to this for over a year now. In the first 5 months i’ve been talking to her, We started going out shortly thereafter but it only lasted 8 days( i called it off becuase of the distance) then i regretted having had to break it off with her. Ever since i’ve been trying to get her back but she’s not responding. She never once told me how she felt about me, well, she’s always saying that i’m a very nice guy and she could see us going out if i wait a little bit longer. I told her Love is no pity, it’s either she feels me or she doesn’t because i don’t want her to feel bad and just go out with me. That was one of the reasons why i broke up with her- she never once told me if she liked me or not. So i took it upon myself to ask her if she feels the same way, then she said she likes me as a friend and she continued by saying she wants us to still be best friends. But, before when i asked her how she felt about me she said i’m a nice guy and all of those wussy-stuff that ruined it. And i seriously feel differently now, i was madly in love with this girl but i’m not heartbroken.. So my question is, how do i turn it around???
Comment by McArthur — January 9, 2010 @ 1:52 am
i like this girl but she told me twice that she don’t think that its gonna work out between me & her …. i was a little bit crushed but i still like her she wont stay out of my head
Comment by bryan — January 21, 2010 @ 6:20 pm
Ok so im dating one of my little sister’s friends. She and I met a few days ago and I really haven’t fallen so easily and she says she has fallen for me as well. Thing is, She has a boyfriend shes never even met before. Not only that but she is torn between Me and Him. She knows she needs to make a choice. However, Lately shes been saying she wants to sleep with me and i told her I could only do that if I was the only guy she was dating. She got upset. The next day her friend snaps at me telling me what I said was not smart. Now, Today I told her I felt like i was being used. She snapped at me again but that’s understandable. Later on in the day around 3:00 pm a guy friend who likes her started text’ing me thru her phone. He told me to sleep with her before she loses interest in me because she wants it really bad. Now, What I don’t seem to get is Why on earth would you say something like that?! So i have to have sleep with her just to keep her interest? Is there something I’m not getting? I don’t know what to do or say please help.
Comment by Josh — January 22, 2010 @ 5:37 pm
So there is this girl Im kinda intrested in an I wanna get to know her but when I’m around her I can’t think of anything to atlants. Its not that I’m nervous it’s that nothing comes to mind when I’m around her but I also used to like her friend who is one of my closest friends an I still kinda like her. I wanna move on from her an see if anything can happen with her friend and she’s supportive of that but around her friend I can’t think of anything to say help me out
Comment by Joshua M — January 26, 2010 @ 1:50 pm
I have liked this girl since I’ve first met her, she is physically attractive but thats not why I like her so much, she makes me laugh and when I am around her I feel amazing and shes what I look forward to during the day. I like her a lot but I have been getting mixed messages, she looks at me and when I look at her she turns her head quickly, she laughs at almost everything funny I say, and she lets me sit real close to her and we talk a lot. The thing is when i was at a football game with her she mentioned only being there because she likes one of the guys who plays defense for our school. How do become positively sure that she likes me and how can I make sure that she keeps liking me.
Comment by Angel — January 27, 2010 @ 4:39 pm
there is a girl i really like, i also had a chance to tell her i like her and she tell me she likes me too, but somehow i hurt her feelings by telling her like “we can get this relationship later”. now she don’t like me anymore, she like another guy now… pls. give me some advice… i really really like her,
Comment by dominique r. — February 2, 2010 @ 4:20 am
I am in love with a girl i have been seeing for the past 3 months. We have spent a lot of time together…talked a lot and done a lot together, but have never been intimate. I think i love her a lot. She is in a relationship with another guy and she tells me this makes it very difficult for her to get to be intimate with me at the same time and would rather we continue to be friends. Lately we traveled out together for a week but still came back to the point we were. I feel frustrated because i want her so much, i want to be with her. How do i get her to be more attracted to me and get intimate. Oh the other point is that we have quite a huge age difference.
Comment by Pedro Tchiaze — February 7, 2010 @ 9:16 am