Hey, did you ever go out of your way to convince a girl of your personal qualities and assets? Take a date for example: she looks at you from the other side of her coffee mug with mixture of friendliness and waning interest as you tell her all about your job, your solid character and your possessions.

You see, what you are doing there is called qualification: you’re trying to qualify yourself to her. What most men don’t know is that this very process, if it happens the other way around, can be a major attraction trigger for a woman: once she has to actually work for your approval, she’ll get quite excited about you. Now, how do you get to a point where you are qualifying a girl?

1. Define your standards

What does “qualification” mean? If a person is “qualified” for something, they have the skills or traits it takes to live up to a certain set of standards. That’s what you’re trying to convey to a girl when you’re telling her about all your accomplishments. You’re subtlety saying: “This is why I’m good enough for you”. I’m sure you’ve spent a lot of time figuring out what women generally want in a man (stability, humour, good looks, wealth, social success, charisma…), but can I get an honest answer from you about something?

How much time have you spent defining your standards when it comes to women?

If you’re like me, that idea probably never occurred to you (it only dawned on me when I started to seriously study seduction): now, I’d like you to sit down and define exactly what you want in a woman. Make a list of traits, and keep refining it as you go through your day and watch women, or interact with them.

Only when you have such a clear idea of what you want that you can you “screen” a woman according to it.

Women are already very good at this. From an early age, they are already talking about their ideal husband and that’s why they tend to be very good at making guys qualify themselves.

2. How it affects your mindset

All right, so now you have a clear idea what you want. Do you feel any different? If you spent your life up until now trying to kiss up to hot chicks so you could get a piece of them, I think that this little act of making this list alone will have changed how you perceive yourself. What’s new? You’re now the guy who selects women, not the guy who tries to get selected.

Realize this: you have every right in the world to go out and get what you want, and in any area of your life. Don’t even settle for anything below your standards. Want a non-smoker? Go get her. It’s as easy as asking: “hey, do you smoke?”

3. How to do it

In fact, let’s stay with the “smoking” example. Now, imagine you’re on a date and she mentions her cigarettes while she’s talking to you. Now, you may be inclined to bite your tongue and be nice about it, not mentioning that you don’t want a smoker. After all, you don’t want to piss her off, right? Wrong. Here’s where qualification kicks in. Imagine going on like this:

You: Hang on a second there. You smoke? Ugh! That’s despicable!
(turn away with a playfully overdone look of disdain on your face)

Her (laughing): Well, only occasionally!
(there! She’s qualifying herself to you!!)

You: Yeah? Like, only when you’re awake? I knew there was a string attached to you.

The key here is to be playfully challenging.

Yes, she can have your affection, but she has to work for it. When you present a challenge, don’t make it insurmountable: you’re willing to be with a smoker if she makes an effort to cut it down or smoke outside? Good. If smokers are an absolute, rock-solid no-go for you though, and she clearly smokes a lot and has no intention of changing that, well then you guys don’t fit together.

4. The concept of investment

The more somebody invests in something, the more they ultimately want to get it. If a woman signals that she is willing to make an effort for your affection, that’s a clear sign of attraction. Don’t underestimate these little things. The more confident you are about yourself, the more boldly you can ask for her investment. If delivered with the right kind of tenure, you can even open a woman with a qualification question: “Are you friendly?”

In general, though, you don’t want to start qualifying a girl right away. Spend some time talking to her, build interest, intrigue and attraction, and then subtly introduce your “woman requirements” into the interaction. Just remember: get a girl to invest in you rather than investing too much into her too soon. Women are attracted to challenging men.

Shhh! I’ll tell you a secret. I’m good at people-watching. I was at a party yesterday, and I saw this guy chatting with a flirty girl: as I watched them, I could literally see a big red sign flashing in his head: “How can I compete against the other men in here to attract that flirty girl?” I’m sure this guy spends a lot of time wondering how to be attractive to women.

Let me tell you, he could nudge his attractiveness up quite a bit if he adopted the following reality: “How can the women here compete against the other GIRLS in here to attract ME?” The idea is that instead of chasing women, you should be working on getting them to chase you.

Social vibe dictates attractiveness.

What you need to realize is that there’s a greater dynamic going on here. You’re at a party, it’s a closed social environment in which people will observe each other constantly: nobody’s actions go unnoticed. Now, imagine how valuable it is to be socially successful in that place! Displaying a great social vibe will boost your attractiveness, believe me.

In fact, this applies to any environment. How people perceive you determines your attractiveness. It’s pretty logical, when you think about it.

Is this girl up your alley?

Now let’s put you in that position at the party. What a glorious vantage point.

There’s one way to find out: go and test the other girls. Wander off and mingle. Find out how the other girls roll, what their desires and goals are, yes, in fact, if they even know what they want, and if they match your standards. Shy girl wants to get laid, but is too shy to say so, skinny girl loves the seaside, laid-back girl is a sculptor, bouncy girl has a damn good fashion sense. This recon work gives you two benefits:

1. You establish a “ranking” of the present girls
2. If Flirty doesn’t work out, you still have Shy, Skinny, Laid-Back and Bouncy!

Isn’t that an amazing position to be in? Now, if Flirty is really up your alley, go back to her and say the following (and I dare you to do it):

“Hey, I just spent an hour talking to all the other girls in this place, and you’re my favorite because [insert VALID, SOLID REASONS here, and I don't mean her boobs]. Come over here and sit down with me, I want to learn more about you and grope your legs while I’m at it.”

She’ll love you for it. You know why? Because she has a big ol’ red sign in her head saying “How can I compete against the other girls in here to attract ANY guy?” Trust me. I’ve seen it. You just answered that question for her, with concrete arguments, made her laugh AND implied that her legs are hot!

What if she doesn’t want you?

Hey, let’s be real. She may say “yeah well I have a boyfriend”, or “sorry, but I’m not interested”. Are you gonna crawl up in the corner in a fetal position? No! Remember what I said above. You say “Thanks”, turn on your frickin heels and go back to the other five you have in store. Oh, and while you do, be sure to watch her kick herself over letting you go.

You have to learn one thing: women are COMPETITIVE. I saw a friend talk to a girl at a party and then move on to another one he liked more. I asked the first one later and if he got her number. “No”, she said. “He’s making out with some French chick now.” I asked: “Is somebody jealous here?”, and she answered: “Well, maybe juuuuust a little.” Never mind that she talked to three others in the meantime herself!

They See What’s Going On.

Let that be a lesson to you. The next time you wonder how to be attractive to women, turn that question around and ask yourself how THEY can be attractive to YOU. Do it for yourself, and do it for me! I’ve grown afraid to people-watch because I see so much misery when I do. Make my world a better place! Go out, build your social proof and get the girl!

“You reap what you’ve sown”. “Life’s what you make it”. Don’t you love those catchphrases that contain a world of value in just a few words? I have another one for you that is both easy to remember and powerful in its message: “stop needing, start wanting”. It’s time you take some steps to learn how to stop being needy: today’s article is about transforming it into a strong notion of “wanting”.

Stop needing

Life’s not fair. Did you ever notice how you attract women best when you’re on an emotional high, when every bit of your life is 100% under your control? You have a virtual aura of success and happiness around you. But what happens when things go south, you lose your job, get dumped, experience a tragedy? In these moments, when you actually really need somebody by your side, you lose all your attractiveness. Doesn’t it suck?

For many people, that sense of “needing” something or somebody to fulfill their life is more than just a passing state triggered by bad circumstances. They live with a constant feeling of incompleteness, of lack. Needy people are also known as “Energy Vampires”: instead of enriching the life experience of others with their presence, radiance and positivity, they drain these things from their peers in an attempt to fill their void inside, or replenish their dried-up resources. Doing so, they leave others feeling depleted and negative.

Stop worrying

One surefire way to destroy anybody’s attraction or affection is to throw self-deprecating remarks: “I bore everybody to tears”, you say, and then you sit there, staring into the void with morosity. I’ve seen people do this at social gatherings, parties, or within small groups of close friends.

This is a self-fulfilling prophecy. Think about it: most people who spend time with you do so because they like you. You, however, soon start worrying about what they think, frowning and fretting in their presence: then, when they’re no longer cheery around you, you inevitably conclude that you’re a boring dope. What’s next? Depression?

If you hadn’t worried in the first place, none of this would have happened.

Start living a life of abundance

You want to move your points of reference inside: from now on, make the love you have for yourself your main measure for a good life. How can outside events throw you off-track if your strength is rooted inside?
Here are a few notions you should make friends with as quickly and deeply as possible:

1. It’s okay to love what you see in the mirror.

If you don’t like it yet, go out and buy the kinds of clothes you feel great in, change your facial hair, practice your smile, train yourself to raise one eyebrow, do some sports. Whatever you feel suits your personal likes and ideals is what makes you awesome – and it’s okay to look in the mirror and say: “I am awesome”. Other people do NOT want to have to tell you that so you’ll feel good. They want somebody who already feels good about themselves. Become that person.

2. You have great talents and qualities.

You are musical. You can fix things. You have amazing facial features. You are tall. You are strong. You can memorize things in an instant. You have no trouble learning new languages. You have a strong voice. Your pencil drawings are amazing. You protected the weak back in school. You love your parents. You are sociable. Does any of this apply to you? What else is there? Get hobbies, read books about the areas in your life you want to improve, take action, follow your passions!

Start Wanting Wealth and Abundance

When you have that down, you will stop needing. Now, you can start WANTING: consider the shift in your priorities. You now know that you will do great even if you lose your job, your car explodes, your house gets annexed by aliens, your friends move away, you don’t have a girl. You’ll do fine just because you know you have strengths, qualities, achievements, looks.

You are then in a position to let a woman know: “I don’t need you in my life. But I do want you.” This is a powerful notion! She will realize that your life is great as it is, but you want to make it even better by having her in it – how different does that sound from “my life is shitty, please be with me so it becomes bearable.” After you master how to stop being needy, you will feel less afraid to talk to women and attract them: your inner strength allows you to go out and enrich others’ lives with your reality.

You know that Green Day song “Nice Guys finish last”? When it comes to dating and women, this may be the most important thing you learn. Don’t be a “wuss”. Cuddly lapdogs may be cute and adorable, but if you’re the human equivalent, guess what: you are not getting laid. Today, I would like to add some extra vertebrae to your spine. Here we go: four new tips for your integrity.

1. Know your values and expectations.

If you don’t know what you want in life, and in a woman, then you can’t go out looking for it. Oftentimes, we feel uneasy during an interaction or conversation, or we have some inner gripes about the way we’re being treated. However, the feeling is just a tad too vague: we can’t exactly put our finger on it and it’s not enough to push us over the edge. Heck, in fact, most of the times the feeling is there plain as day, but we simply don’t pay attention! Think about this: “A girl you were supposed to see calls you up and says: “Oh, I can’t go out on Friday, I’m meeting up with friends”. We feel uncomfortable, but we don’t listen to the emotion. I want you to take the first step: explore yourself and find what makes you uneasy. Some major signs that you are letting yourself be pushed around:

- She walks all over you.
- She’s flaking on you without valid reasons.
- She (ab)uses you.
- She’s not there when you need her.

2. Listen to your feelings.

Let me expand that: monitor your feelings while you’re interacting, live, right there and then. A woman may well do something that turns you off, and most of the times, she’s not even aware of the implications of her actions. That’s why it’s so important for you to be aware of your emotional responses. I used to think to myself after an interaction: “you know what? That person actually pulled a pretty mean one on me! And I let it slide.” Instead, I should have asserted myself and called her on her actions. When you aren’t afraid to call others out on their actions, you’ll be walking with your head high.

Of course, this goes for good responses as well. When somebody makes you feel great, that is something you should mention and reward! Make that emotion conscious, show it, and live it fully!

3. Assert your boundaries.

Once you realize where your standpoint, assert it. I’ll tell you something about me: I am into smart and ambitious women with many facets. I was on a date with a girl who had only one thing to show for herself: “I like to get drunk with my friends every weekend.” It turned me off big time, but I didn’t say it.

I would do so now, and so should you! “You know what? That’s kind of a turnoff for me.” What have you got to lose? It turns you off, right? So state the fact. It’s up to her to react. Other examples:

- “I get the feeling you’re only calling me when you want something. Sorry, I don’t want that kind of relationship.”
- “You stood me up once. If you’re planning to do it again, perhaps we should stop wasting each other’s time right now.”
- “You just want to be friends? Great! Then I’ll introduce you to my single friends and you can do the same for me.”

4. Don’t be afraid to piss them off.

You probably noticed that the above may entail pissing a person off. Well, know what? It’s either them or you. Sure, it’s great to be friends with somebody, and we all want our human touch and good vibes. But how far are you willing to go for that? There are tons of people out there who could truly make you happy in return for you investing in them. By asserting yourself, you make your point very clear. If the other person values you, they will comply. If they don’t – well, you just saved yourself (and them!) valuable time and energy.

The fact of the matter is that your backbone is an important part of your attractiveness. These four tips for your integrity will not only make you more confident and happy, they will also help you be more attractive: if you show that you won’t just bend with the wind, you will earn respect and female affection. You become a leader, not a follower: you’re the one in control of your reality now.

If there’s one common re-occurrence in the world of dating, it’s the fact that seemingly all guys get to a point where they say: “There’s just this one girl… I love this girl, you have to help me!”. Unfortunately, most of the time these guys haven’t even talked to this girl yet! So let’s make it clear right now, if you’re in love with a girl and you haven’t talked to her yet, then it’s not love. It might be lust, infatuation, attraction and possibly even obsession, and I’ll tell you, all of these things are very common and normal but it’s not love.

The most comforting thing is to realize you aren’t alone.

That’s right, there are hundreds of other guys that feel the same way that you do, hopelessly ‘in love’ with a girl and they don’t have the slightest clue on how to proceed in order to attract, seduce and make her fall in love with them. Don’t worry though, there’s hope and I’m going to show you how you can attract the girl of your dreams.

A simple model of love

If we were to over simplify an interaction between a male and a female, we’d have the following:
1. Man approaches the woman
2. Man talks to the woman
3. Man builds attraction
4. Man builds rapport, comfort
5. Man escalates the interaction into a more intimate one.
6. Couple falls in love

With this simplified model of human courtship in mind, where are you having problems? Some guys might be great at building comfort with a woman, but have no idea on how to build attraction. Similarly, you might be great at naturally building attraction, but you’re incapable of approaching and talking to women!

You might even look at this list and think: “Wow, well I need help with all of these!” Well that’s fine, so let’s just start the the beginning.

1. Approaching women

This is a skill you must have if you’re going to be successful on a regular basis with women. If you can’t approach women, then you’ll be stuck meeting ‘friends of friends, classmates and co-workers’ your entire life. Now this works well for some people, but it really becomes more of a game of luck rather than anything else. What happens when you see a beautiful girl you’d really like to talk to on the street, while you’re shopping… if you always rely on knowing a friend, it’s likely that you’re going to be missing out on a lot! Even within the same school or workplace, you’re likely not to have the same friends!

Now there are a lot of theories on approaching and all of them have their advantages, from direct approaches to indirect approaches, to using situational openers to opinion openers, from being completely open about your intentions to hiding them until the girl gets to know you better, all of these might work, it’s just up to you to figure out which one works best for you.

Personally, I love indirect approaches because I feel they are more natural. You get to know the person a little better before initiating a deeper, more engaging conversation with them. It might take a little more time, but then again, that’s the fun of it. It allows for flirting, slowly discovering the person and it’s the most comfortable approach for both the guy and the woman.

An example of an indirect approach would be to initiate conversation for a reason other than the obvious one which is to get to know her better. For instance, if you were both in the juice section of the supermarket, you could tell her you have to leave soon, but you wanted to try out a new juice, what’s her favorite juice?

It’s a simple question about juice, and the major pitfall of an indirect approach is that you don’t indicate any interest in her, but rather in the juice itself. So if you don’t follow up with something a little more personal, she’ll never know that you’re attracted to her. However, it’s a very low risk approach and relatively natural as well. It gets the conversation going, and from there, you need to steer it in the right direction in order to get to know her better.

Remember, if you start with an indirect approach, you must eventually make your intentions clear! Although some girls might immediately know that you approached them for a reason, the whole point of the indirect approach is to not immediately signal your interest. So keep the conversation going after you’ve initiated the conversation, and then don’t be afraid to show interest! She eventually needs to know that you’re attracted to her, and this should be within the first five minutes of the interaction.

Of course, during this time, you should have had sufficient time to build attraction to yourself so that when she realizes: “Oh, this guy is interested in me!” She’ll be interested in you as well. The main man for building attraction in record speed is David Deangelo. He has a way of putting things in a way that’s so simple and obvious, it’s impossible not to learn. His book Double Your Dating is the one I’d recommend reading if you’re looking to build that attraction within the first 5 minutes of the interaction.

In the second part of the “I love this girl” series, we’ll talk about how to talk to woman that you’ve just met using an indirect opener. This should give you some great insights on what to say after you’ve said hello.

There is nothing more intimate than the human touch. In truth, we are just like dogs and cats – we love to be petted and caressed. However, there is a certain skill to knowing when and where to touch a woman, and this skill could be the difference between being the naturally sexy guy and the creepy, pushy guy. Here are some tips to help you use touch or kino effectively. (Kino is short for kinaesthetics which is the ability to feel movements and touch)

You can group the different types of kino into three major groups – minor kino, medium kino and major kino. Each one is used at a different time in the interaction but one of the most important things you should know is that you should always be touching. You need to allow a woman to become familiar to your touch if you are to have any hope to get anywhere with her. The three stages of touch are used linearly but you will constantly find yourself going back to the previous stages to make your woman more comfortable with you.

Minor kino is very basic, almost unconscious touching that will get a woman used to your touch. Imagine meeting a woman and not touching her for the entire night before going in for the kiss. It would seem almost out of the blue and the woman would feel awkward and out of place. Hopefully you can see the importance of building up her familiarity to your touch. Minor kino is the very basic, most socially acceptable form of touch. Things like a tap on the shoulder, a handshake or a high five are all examples of minor kino. A woman will feel no social pressure in these acts and will therefore reciprocate accordingly, getting her already used to your touch.

How to touch – Start with minor kino:
- Light tap on shoulder
- Secret Handshake,
- High Five,
- Gently brush her arm
- Any touch that is socially acceptable.

The next level of touch would be medium kino. This is kino more oriented to showing interest and intimacy with a girl. After building up with a lot of minor kino, you can escalate to doing things like frontal hugs, games of thumb war and holding hands. Anything that can be considered something that “close friends” would do is considered medium kino and with practice, you can start using it mere hours after you meet a girl. Medium kino gives you the opportunity to actively show interest in a girl and is also a good gauge to see just how comfortable she is with you. If she flinches or pulls away at any time, it’s a good idea to do some more minor kino as well as strengthen the connection the two of you share.

Once you are both more comfortable with each other, move onto medium kino:
- Game of thumb war
- Hugs
- Holding Hands
- Light playful push

The last level is Major kino. This is the kino that is often used by intimate couples and as such it can evoke a powerful emotional response from your woman. It is often used sparingly and when you’re ready to take things to a new level. Examples of major kino would be stroking the face, touching the lips, long, intimate hugs and of course, kissing. Anything that one might do while in a relationship or as a couple can be considered major kino. To do any of these without building up to it with minor or medium kino will simply make you look like a creepy stranger, no matter what else is going on, but by applying the previous two steps liberally, it is possible to transition into major kino very easily.

Don’t ever attempt major kino without first building through the other levels of touch. Major kino includes:
- Stroking the face
- Stroking the hair
- Touching the lips, hips
- Hugging
- Kissing

As you may have gathered, moving up through the different stages of kino takes courage. At any stage, you risk rejection and being labeled a creep, yet don’t give up. If major kino is badly received, go back to medium or minor kino and make her more receptive to your touch. If medium kino is pulled away from, you probably didn’t give enough minor kino for her to be comfortable with you just yet. With practise, using your abilities to touch will be a potent weapon in your pickup arsenal and definitely one that can help you create strong, intimate connections with the women of your choice.

You have the personality. You have all the tactics and routines. You have everything you’ll ever need to seal the deal. Yet, unless you know how to get a girl’s attention, everything you’ve been working on will be useless. So here’s the question – how can you get her attention?!

What women, and in fact most people in general, are attracted to is value. If a person holds value, they usually hold the attention of the room as well. However, when I talk about value, I’m not talking about simple monetary value – value reveals itself in many other forms, not all of which are tangible.

One convention that is certainly popular among many people is that of “Peacocking”, or dressing in such a way as to attract attention from others. The term “peacocking” comes from the tailfeathers of a peacock. They serve no evolutionary advantage to the peacock, in fact being almost detrimental as they attract the attention of predators. Yet, the peacock is sending out a message to all potential mates out there – “I have this thing that is completely useless yet I’m still surviving strongly.” The peacock is essentially showing off its ability to survive despite such a detrimental trait.

Peacocking in people holds a very similar perspective. By wearing something outlandish and attention-grabbing in a place you wouldn’t normally wear it you will be conveying that you are capable of surviving in the social jungle even while wearing something that may potentially make you the target of ridicule by others. You stand out from the sea of other guys and as a result, women will be paying attention to you.

Another way that will definitely get you attention is your social circle. Think of it like this – if you were walking down the street, talking to Tom Cruise, you would definitely get the attention of women. You might wonder, “How can I use my social circle to get me attention if I don’t know anyone famous?” The key is to give value. If your group is the group being the loudest and having the most fun in the venue, girls will tend to gravitate to you. Girls want to be a part of the party, and if you are in the heart of the party, or even better if you are the heart of the party, then they will definitely notice you and want to enter your reality.

Your attitude can also help you can draw the attention of women. These women are constantly being complimented by orbiters and being held on a pedestal by guys everywhere. By revealing yourself to be a guy who is not looking to get anything from her and is not overawed by her beauty, you immediately show your value – a man who could possibly look after her and can be trusted to keep her safe should she choose you. Give her reasons to want to be with you in the way you act, both to yourself and others

These three examples are merely a few ways to show value out of the plethora out there. At a basic level, the way to get a woman’s attention is to stand out. It appears obvious but how many of us actually feel comfortable, stepping outside of what are considered “social norms” and having people paying attention to us all the time? If she is going to be paying attention to you, so are many others, and you must be comfortable with yourself regardless of who is watching you at what time and what you are doing.

The Art of Seduction month of July article lineup started with an excellent article on kissing tips provided by our very own Razzputin.

After noticing that there were a LOT of guys that were really hung up on one particular girl in their life (we’ve all been there!), we produced an article directed just for you so can actually get that special girl in your life! In a way, the ending of the article might surprise you… it’s worth a read.

Finally, we have a guide on “How to look good” for men. Now it’s not your typical article (do we ever write typical articles here?) but it does provide a lot of good points that I’m POSITIVE have been overlooked by many guys. If you care about your appearance, then this article is for you.

Do you often find yourself thinking… “Ahh what a great night but I should have kissed her” ? If so, then you’re not alone. It seems as if one of the biggest regrets that guys have during dates is not knowing when to make that move. It’s not your fault either, it’s a daunting task to dive in when you don’t know what’s going to happen!

Fortunately, there’s help. Here’s how you can live with the regret of “I shouldn’t have kissed her” instead!

First, during the date, you must slowly build some physical comfort. This means that there should be some physical contact of some sort. This can be brushing against each other, little subtle touches or even bigger touches such as touching hands. This makes a kiss at the end a lot more natural because it’s just a progression of what’s been happening. When you’re hanging out with someone and having a good time, it’s likely that there’s going to be some sort of physical contact… so don’t even worry about this. If there isn’t any however, then sound the alarms!

Second, there’s a trick to know WHEN a girl’s ready to be kissed. I can’t take credit for it though, it’s David DeAngelo that came up with it. He calls it his ‘Kiss Test‘ and it works every time. Use his test, you can tell exactly when a girl is ready to be kissed without having to have an awkward moment.

Finally, just enjoy yourself. Usually, if you really feel that you should have kissed her, then she probably feels the same way. You just need to take your courage in hand and go for it!

Listen, if you really want to know how to look good, just take a look around you and notice what you like in people. Then, notice the trends… you’ll start noticing that most good looking people have similarities that go beyond just what kind of shoes they are wearing. (although that’s important too)

I think many of us have been trained to look for the wrong things when we think of looks. It’s likely that you have an incorrect illusions about what you need to do in order to look good… but it’s not your fault. Magazines, media and friends have all forced their ideas about what beauty should be and what it shouldn’t… and with a little repetition, those notions kind of just ’sink in’.

While the fashion industry’s notion of beauty is wrong. The movie industry? Well… they sometimes get it, but I suspect that’s just the natural beauty of the actor or actress revealing itself.

In order to look good for the opposite sex, you must appeal to their desires.

If they desire you, then by definition, you are attractive to them. For example, women that appear slightly more revealing and easy going are usually seen as more attractive. “Of course!” you say, everyone knows that… but it’s the WHY that’s interesting. When women are more revealing, men have an easier time processing the idea that they could sleep with them… they just seem easier because they are closer to having less clothes! The clothes teases the mind, making the guy imagine what could possibly be behind.

This makes the woman seem much more fertile and therefore more attractive, on an instinctive level. To further this, the reason guys prefer women that wear heals is because they are already on their way to bending over forward, if ever so slightly. Subconsciously, they seem easier to sleep with to men because of the way they are positioned. As an added bonus, they appear taller, more slender and more submissive (this is the important one). The more submissive the woman, the more attractive she is to a man. Although I’ve seen women do crazy stuff on heels… they are usually more fragile and unstable, which is attractive to men.

So now… how can MEN LOOK GOOD ?

Well, for one, in order to be attractive to a woman, you must seem like a good mate. When she sees you, she must FEEL (not think… feel) that you are healthy, clean and dominant.

What are the indicators that you are a good mate?
Well, according to scientists that have studied beauty, symmetrical features (meaning your eyes, ears and eyebrows are at the same level on your face) is the biggest factor.

Great to know… but in my experience, that’s only a tiny factor.

What really makes you look good depends on a huge array of variables. This huge list really isn’t practical so I have summarized it for you, retaining only the most important aspects of physical beauty for men.

First, the general body appearance. Our minds have been programmed to associate smoothness with clean, healthy and properly maintained. That’s why, the most important thing you can do is to have smooth, non-wrinkled clothes.

If you’re a guy, and you don’t iron your clothes on a daily basis, then make sure you change that immediately.

When we see nice smooth, nice curves, we automatically associate beauty. That’s why Yoga sports wear looks so hot on women. That’s why, when you first buy clothes, it looks amazing. Once you wear it 2-3 times and it gets wrinkled, it loses it’s attraction.

Similarly, the same concept applies to cars. I know it’s a stretch, but imagine a wrinkled car… then imagine it brand new. Big difference right? The same thing applies to you and your clothes!

However, even if you iron you clothes and it looks smooth BEFORE you put it on… then that doesn’t mean it will look good WHILE you’re wearing it.

Your clothes has to look smooth and wrinkle free while you’re wearing it! That’s why guys look so good in brand new suits, they don’t have any wrinkles!

Some clothes are more prone to wrinkling than others… for example, if you own any baggy clothes, it won’t be smooth when you wear it. Baggy clothes form lumps of fabric and therefore, is horrible for smoothness. This is why fit shirts are much more attractive than loose shirts. The tighter fitting shirts will create a smoother surface as it curves around your body. This has NOTHING to do with being muscular, slim or even overweight. In fact, being slim and wearing baggy clothes is probably the worse thing you can do.

Same thing goes for pants, make sure they are completely wrinkle free and that they form smooth curves. Once again, this is why dress pants with a suit look the best… However, since most of you are going to be wearing jeans during the day, just make sure they are wrinkle free and they look new!

Note: An extra tip for jeans. Notice the back pocket. There’s usually a design on it. The nicer the design, the ‘hotter’ your jeans look. People don’t consciously notice this… but subconsciously, they do.

Second, make sure you have nice shoes.The most important thing is that the shoes are CLEAN and smooth. That’s why a lot of sneakers are generally regarded as non-attractive… it’s because of the laces and bumps on the shoes! (and that’s why super smooth sneakers are worth 300$) So when getting shoes, make sure you have smooth curves and that they are CLEAN!
Brand new 40$ shoes will be more attractive than 200$ shoes that are 1 year old!

Then nails, make sure your nails are trimmed.Women DO notice this and it’s a huge health indicator. They usually pay so much attention to their nails that they’ll end up checking out yours as well. Just make sure they are properly cut and trimmed.

Then we have hair… this is a big one. It’s VERY important to be very well groomed in this area as it represents (often very accurately) how much you take care of yourself. The worse being when you have a lot of hair in the back of your neck. It’s not the haircut that matters, but rather how recently it was done. When your hair is freshly cut, you instantly look better!

A general rule of thumb would be to get your hair cut every 2 weeks.

As for facial hair, make sure you maintain it daily! This is another huge health indicator. If you have any facial hair, it needs to be trimmed and/or shaved every single day. Trim those sideburns so they aren’t puffy!

Your skin is a huge health indicator as well. These days, getting a little sun will go a long way. Make sure you get enough sleep and get some sunlight every day. You don’t need to be tanned, but you need to look as if you go outside on a daily basis. Also, it’s usually a good idea to reveal a bit of skin. This makes you a more likely mate because you’re almost undressed! Skin is hot.

Then we have body posture.Body posture is a huge health indicator that women pick up on all the time. Don’t waste your time reading on body posture because there’s only one way to fix it: Go to the gym. Seriously. It’s the best thing you’ll ever do for your appearance.

Finally, the more dominant you are as a guy, the more attractive you will appear to women. Remember how I mentioned that submissive women are attractive? Well, it’s the opposite for guys. That’s why bigger guys can be very attractive to girls. When you’re dominant, you’re laid back and you feel huge. Don’t make the mistake of being angry… because then you look like a small barking dog.

The dominant guy will talk with a deep voice, move slowly and he’ll be there to protect others in the event of an emergency. Keep that in mind, assume the role of the dominant male and you’ll be regarded as hot by women. Knowing how to look good isn’t hard, but it’s something you have to work at on a consistent basis. Constant haircuts, trimming, new shoes and wrinkle free clothes are time consuming, but the rewards are worth it!