Its a shame that most men don’t know how to approach girls properly because it is so easy if done in the right frame of mind. The approach should be an enjoyable experience for both you and the girl that you are going to meet. Now let’s examine the frame of mind that most men adopt when speaking to a woman for the first time.

Usually you can break down the process of the clueless man in a few simple steps.

1. Sees attractive girl
2. Thinks about how attractive she is and weighs out if its worth talking to her or not. If she’s REALLY attractive and you think you stand a chance, then it might be worth taking a shot.
3. Tries to think of something to say but draws a blank, heart rate increases.
4a. Goes up to the girl in question, asks an awkward question that conveys absolutely no attraction and produces an awkward moment.
4b. Goes up the girl, tries to impress her and is mad when she walks away.
4c. Goes up the girl, acts cocky & completely out of tune with the rest of the social environment, creates an awkward moment.
5. Man ejects from the situation

What you should do is pretty much the OPPOSITE of all the steps above.

First, before you ever start approaching women, you have to know WHAT kind of woman you want. This is CRITICAL and FUN to do. Write out (or think really profoundly) the woman of your dreams. What does she look like? How does she walk ? How does she old herself ? How does she laugh ? How does she dress ? What kind of personality does she have ? Is she sweet, sexy, edgy, kind, cocky, sassy, smart ? What does she do for a living ?

Imagine her and have no limits. Do it now… I’ll wait.

Alright , I know you’re not doing it now, but do it after you finish reading, Ok ?

A change in thinking

Once you do this, meeting girls will radically change. First, the concept of “you attract what you think of” is very true, and you’ll automatically be drawn to the woman of your dreams. Second, when you are meeting girls, your objective is now to find out if she is your ideal girl.

To paraphrase, when you talk to a woman for the first time, you will be interested in knowing what kind of person she is. If she doesn’t measure up to your ideal girl, then tease her about it. If she does have characteristics that are aligned with your ideal girl, then you’ll genuinely be able to point out how you appreciate that about her.

For example, if you were looking for an honest girl, then you could ask in your conversation,

You: “On a scale from 1 to 10, how honest are you?”
Her: “Umm, I’m an 8″
You: “Is that the 2 or the 8 talking now ??”

If you’re looking for a smart girl, then try to find out how intellectual she is ! If you want a girl that’s adventurous, then talk about adventures !
This concept of figuring out if this girl measures up to your expectations will all come naturally when you know what you really want in a girl. You see, most men don’t know what they want and therefore will just SETTLE for anything with 2 legs. Don’t be one of those people.

Women KNOW exactly what they want
Because they know what they want, they can pick and eliminate men so easily. Being picky shows that you have choice in mates, and that makes you attractive.

The problem with approaching girls is that men don’t know what to say first. Even though the words you say really don’t matter, I’ll give you a few samples.

The easiest, and best approach is:
“Hey! I’m just here doing xxxxx (whatever you are doing at the moment), I felt like talking to you.”
Then just go on and figure out who she really is and if she’s right for you.

If you want more knowledge on approaching and dating the girl of your dreams then I can recommend a read that will probably change your life. In the book Double Your Dating by David Deangelo, you can find many powerful methods for generating massive attraction immediately when you meet a girl for the first time. It is a highly recommend book that every guy SHOULD read. Seriously.

If you know how to ask questions, then you already know how to approach girls. Just go in, and find out what you like and dislike about her, then choose the one you enjoy the most!

If you know how to make a girl smile, then you will automatically be more successful with women in general. People like to smile, it makes you feel warm and fuzzy inside and these feelings will be associated with the person who has made you smile. Wouldn’t you like a girl to feel warm and fuzzy when she thinks about you ?

Here are the kinds of smiles you are trying to get:

• Genuine smile
• Compliment smile
• Impressed smile
• Happy smile

And here are the kind of smiles you want to avoid:

• Polite smile
• Weird / “You are insane” smile.
• I own you smile

Situational smiles
The easiest way to make a girl smile is to make use of the environment that you’re both in at the moment and to highlight something funny that is occurring. There is always something interesting, or funny happening if you pay attention to it.

For example, if you’re both waiting in line… make eye contact so that she notices you, and then immediately go into a huge fake yawn hinting that you’re bored of waiting line. This works great if there’s a huge line and no one is talking. The key is to be funny while retaining your dignity. If you make a fool of yourself, you’ll get the “you are weird” smile.

A more verbal approach in situational smiles would be to point something funny out to her. Usually talking about other people or items is an easy way to score a laugh. If you were grocery shopping and you happened to be in the cheese isle, you could say in a serious tone: “This cheese reminds me of the moon”, and then break out a small grin. Its dumb, but it works. ( Here’s a little more information on lines to make a girl smile )

Avoid pre-canned material
Of course, the WORSE way to make a girl smile is to use someone else’s joke or canned material. If it doesn’t come out as spontaneous and natural, then it will trigger the polite smile. What ever you do, do not ever tell a joke with a beginning, a middle and an end. These will NOT trigger any attraction what-so-ever. In fact, what this says is that you are trying to impress her and this will consequently lead to less attraction.

Body language smiles & smiles attract smiles
Sometimes giving a genuine smile will result in receiving one as well. “Give and you shall receive!” The best place to try this is in a setting where you are busy and CANNOT immediately talk to the woman in question. The smile says: “Hello, I’m interested and I WOULD talk to you, but unfortunately I’m busy right now and I can’t, so I might later if you return the smile”. Imagine you were hard at work, waiting tables, lifting boxes, actually doing something… and you saw an attractive woman you wished to talk to but at the moment, just couldn’t. A nice genuine smile would be infinitely appropriate and would peak her curiosity assuming she found you remotely attractive.

If you don’t end up talking to her, then she’ll leave thinking: “Oh I should go back to that place where that guy smiled at me… maybe he’ll still be there and won’t be busy this time”

Conversely, if you DO talk to her, she’s likely to be much more receptive and excited to get to know you.

The worse place to give a big smile as an opener is at a club, bar, party or any social setting. This immediately says: “Hello, I don’t have the guts to talk to you”. In those situations, talk first, THEN smile.

Comedy: Exaggeration and misleading
Assuming you’re hanging out with the girl, exaggeration and misdirection are the best ways to make someone smile. Its the essence of all comedy and it works for professional comedians as well as for you.

If you can get a girl smile, she’ll usually be more attracted to you. All those good feelings get associated to you and consequently, you end up being the guy who makes her feel good. The last and most powerful way to make a girl smile is called using the “cocky and funny” technique. Not only does this technique work every time, but it also triggers powerful feelings of attraction at the same time. The “Cocky and Funny” technique is covered in detail in Double Your Dating by David DeAngelo. Not only will you learn how to make a girl smile, but you’ll learn how to create powerful attraction as well.

If you had to choose one book that changed your life. This book would have to be responsible for completely turning around your dating life, it would have to have had a real immediate and apparent impact. It would be one of those books that you run out to recommend to your friend who just got dumped by his girlfriend, a book that you read at LEAST three times already and keep it nearby because you’re probably going to re-read it, just to make sure you soak up all the information. So far, this year, that book seems to be Double Your Dating by David Deangelo. Nearly all other books on the subject of dating refer to Double Your Dating at one point or another. It truly is one of the best book for beginners and intermediates alike.

Its is one of the most influential books out on the subject of male interactions and teaches anyone how to attract women without using any techniques within a day or two. It also managed to climb the charts as being the most recommended books of 2007 on SeductionBooks.org

The thought of learning how to make a girl fall in love with you is a disturbing one. Love is a huge emotion that can radically and completely dictate someone’s life. If it was possible to perform a few magical steps in order to make someone fall in love with you, we would live in a harsh world of broken hearts. Uh oh… don’t we already?

You cannot make anyone do anything and you certainly cannot make anyone love you. The more you try to make someone love you, the less they will. Its kind of a catch-22 in that way but fortunately there are two aspects you can concentrate on to help you along the way.

What do you love in life? Usually its the things that make you happy and the things that we attribute the most value to. Keeping in mind these two aspects of human nature, we can therefore conclude that in order for someone to love us, we must make them happy and we must be valuable to them.

Let’s work on making them happy first, its really simple and is overlooked by most people. The simple rule to making someone happy is to be happy yourself. Being happy is contagious and people in your presence will automatically feel similar to you. If you’re happy about life, then the people around you will want to have you around them as well. If you’re always down, depressed or angry, then you are making yourself very hard to love.

Example #1: Think of someone that you love or loved. Imagine them in your mind until you can see a picture of their face. In this picture, are they happy or sad ? Its very likely that in the mental picture that you have, they are smiling or happy. If it worked for you, then it should also work for others.

The concept when pondering about how to make a girl fall in love with you is value. The things you love the most consequently have a lot of value. Can you really fall in love with something that has no value? Things that are replaceable, or are easily attainable have little value in our lives. So make yourself valuable and people will love you. Being valuable isn’t as hard as people think.

The concept of value is relative, in an organization, the most valuable person is the boss even if in another situation, he could be completely insignificant. This is why so many secretaries are attracted to their boss. He has the most value. Let’s take this concept and apply it in practical situations.

Example #2, If you’re in school, then the most valuable person will be the person that is most respected by his peers. This can be the football star among cheerleaders, or the smart guy who gets the best grades. He can also be the guy who makes the girls laugh the most, or the guy that has the best house parties that everyone wants to attend.

In a work environment, the most valuable person can once again, be the social funny guy that everyone wants to hang out with, or the boss, or the sharp guy that the boss respects the most.

But… what if the girl I like doesn’t know about these social situations ? Well then… Tell her about your day! Although not as efficient, just telling her about your daily interactions (in a non-gloating way) can be an effective way of communicating your value.

The Double Your Dating book explains in detail exactly how to be perceived as the most valuable person while building massive attraction.

In the end, the concept of learning how to make a girl fall in love with you is a flawed one because as soon as you try to make someone love you, they won’t. So instead, concentrate on being happy and valuable, the rest will come naturally.

If you know how to attract girls, then chasing women won’t be necessary as they will come to you. When a woman is chasing you instead of the other way around, it is much easier to be relaxed and have a good time instead of concentrating on what to do next.

So what attracts people, and more specifically girls ? Things that are out of the ordinary. If you blend in with the rest of the world, then no one will ever notice you walking down the street, or in any location for that matter. How do most people blend ? By following what everyone else does and this leads to catastrophic results when trying to attract women.

Being a follower is boring and speaks a lot about your personality. It shows that you are insecure to try new things and that you don’t want attention. Now the trick to being noticed is not to dress up in bright yellow colors, but to add one interesting item to your physical appearance. There are a few guidelines to selecting the proper attire that will attract women without making you look like a fool.

First steps to being more attractive.
First, take into consideration what kind of social setting you will be in. If you’re going to a club, then you can go all out with outlandish clothing and accessories. However, if you’re going to the library, it would be more effective to carefully choose one single attention drawing accessory.

For clubs, keep in mind that you want to look different than everyone else. If everyone else is dressed up with expensive clothing, then wearing something cheap will work better. You’ll automatically be classified as the ‘guy who doesn’t care’, which can be very attractive.

If you’re at a place where people are dressed like bums, then feel free to dress up a little more and you’ll automatically be seen as ‘the only classy guy’ in the place.

Sometimes clothing itself can make a large enough difference, however accessories can further improve your magnetism throughout the day. Something unique that represents you is the ideal thing. Let’s say you enjoy biking, then you could have a necklace with a bicycle on it for instance. Then, in a social situation, people will notice and comment on your accessories.

The more out-of-the-ordinary your accessories are, the more you will get noticed. However, you must be able to continue the conversation and match the boldness of your accessory with your personality. Once you learned how to attract girls, you’ll need to learn how to keep them.

The attitude that you have is more important than all the clothes, money and looks in the world. Its cliche, but personality is more important to women than looks. In fact, there are a few secret techniques that will make you irresistible to women regardless of appearance. One of the most effective techniques is called “Cocky / Funny” in the the Double Your Dating book by David Deangelo. It teaches all the fundamental and advanced ways on how to ATTRACT girls and keep them attracted to you permanently.

When men think try to list what attracts women, they usually mention looks, money and power. Those things help, but as we will see, there exists many more powerful traits that will attract women. The same thing applies to men, who in general will be attracted to a seductive smile, good body language (posture) and signs of healthy genes.

In general, women are much more perceptive and search out for personality more than just good looks. This is fortunate for most men because, let’s face it, we’re kind of rough looking. However, rough is good, it alludes to strength and reliability… it shows that you care more important things than looks. So if you look rough, that’s fine. Just don’t look like a pansy.

Attractive Body Language According to studies, upwards of 90% of communication is non-verbal and is done through body language. This is why you must have good body language if you are to attract women. So how do you get good body language? Well, you could fake it for a little while… sit up straight. No… not THAT straight, you don’t want to look like a stick. Shoulders back as if a 90km/h wind was pushing you. Head up! Make sure your head is UP ! If you’re doing all this right now, chances are you are as tense as a pole. The key to attractive body language is to be relaxed all while having good posture.

Stop faking attractive traits!
Now does this seem difficult ? Well it is… and its really not supposed to be. The reason its difficult for many people is because you are faking it! So the solution? Don’t fake it ! Our bodies are naturally prone to take this position when are muscles are exercised properly. Go bench press weights for an hour, workout your shoulders by doing rows and do 20 minutes of abs. Your body will naturally take a very attractive posture and you won’t have to think about it. Humans were never intended to think about body language and I strongly recommend you don’t. Work out once a day and that will solve itself.

Now the second thing that attracts women is the social status of the man. How valuable is he to society, to his friends, to his family, to the human population in general? Its no surprise that someone who is valuable will be attractive to others. That’s almost the definition of the word! But how do we define value ? That depends on the individual. For some women, a powerful man who overlooks others is attractive. Others prefer a man that is loved by all his friends. Some women, actually… a LOT of women are attracted to rock stars because they are seen as valuable by tons of other competing women.

The concept of value is all relative as well, an nomad tribe will have an individual seen as more valuable than others, and he will be more desirable. In our modern culture, the boss, or CEO of a company is seen as valuable. Presidents are also seen as valuable, as Clinton clearly illustrated. The big problem that guys run into is that they try to fake value. They try to impress women by TELLING them they have value, “Look at my car”, “I do this and this”, “I’m important because”, etc. This is counter-productive. Trying to prove that you have value just makes you less valuable.

In order to gain value and ultimately attract women, you must do so naturally. Accomplish something! Be occupied with your life. Set goals and achieve them. When you look back on your life, think: “Would I want to date myself?”. If you’re proud of yourself, then you are valuable. People who are valuable don’t need to tell others that they are, it shows. Being valuable can go from getting the highest grade in the class (yes, women like smart men) to taking pride in having the nicest garden. I’m taking a really wild example here… but if you are really passionate about gardens and you spend all day perfecting your garden, then at the end of the day you will glow of pride and confidence. This makes you valuable, to yourself.
Feeling valuable leads to others finding you valuable and consequently attractive as well.

Lastly, women respond to energy, laughter and honesty. Energy is contagious, and it sparks (literally) interest. If you are genuinely happy with life, and are excited to live it with her, then that in itself will be attractive. People want to be where the action is, they want to live their life to the fullest. This might be spontaneity one night, and a passionate night the next. If you’re where the party is at, then people will want to join you.

If you are a funny man, then you are definitely one step closer to being successful at attracting all kinds of women. Who doesn’t to laugh ? Hell, there are some guys I would want to date just because they are fun to be around, just as long as I get to be the big spoon. Laughter comes from not taking things too seriously, from teasing, from saying inappropriate things or exaggerating scenarios and stories. A funny man is considered to be ‘quick’, and strangely enough, cardiovascular activity increases the ‘sharpness’ of the mind. So does reading novels. So pick up a book, go for a jog, watch some funny videos and you’ll be set.

The last, and most difficult thing to find in a human being is honesty. Women are extremely attracted to genuine men. If you don’t fake your life, and tell it how it is, then this is the most attractive asset you can have. The reason is that people who are genuine are comfortable to be around with. Being genuine shows that you have fully accepted yourself and that you are proud to be who you are. If you dislike something, then say it! Chances are the other person is feeling the same thing as well. One of the most attractive things is seeing someone genuinely excited about something, its contagious and people will want to be with you to share your level of enthusiasm. Be genuinely excited about your life, its the only one you have.

These categories are only SOME the answers to what attracts women. For the complete list of the most powerful triggers to attract women, you MUST read David DeAngelo’s Double Your Dating. It will change your life, seriously.

If you remember the saying, you get what you shall receive, then it is no wonder that many guys search for how to make a girl feel good. The logical idea is that if a guy makes a girl feel good, then she will stay with him forever because she will feel happy around him. Is this is absolute truth ? Not quite… If I look at all my relationships, including girlfriend, friends and family, I tend to hang out with those that make me feel good more often.

Most people seek to avoid pain and gain pleasure, and feeling good is the definition of pleasurable. There are some pitfalls however, if you make someone feel good by degrading yourself socially, then that person will not respect you. The idea is that you cannot make someone feel good if, in terms of status, you are not worth anything. Let me elaborate.

If you are a clingy guy who always tells a girl that she is beautiful, she might enjoy it the first time, but she’ll soon come to realize that you are putting her up on a pedestal. Since everything is relative, telling her that she looks great consequently means that you do not look as good as her. When your social value drops, your ability to make her feel happy drops substantially. For example, imagine a famous actor of your choice walking down the red carpet. Now a crazed fan runs up to him and tells your favorite actor that he is amazing. “Big deal” he thinks, another fan. In this situation, the fan might have a masters in Cinematography, it wouldn’t matter, the approach taken by the fan reduced his value to less than zero and therefore his compliment had absolutely no effect. However, if another person, say… a respected peer of the actor, maybe a co-star, came up to him and told him he really played a specific part in the movie well, then this statement would be valued much more.

The golden rule on how to make a girl like you.
So how does this relate to making a girl feel good ? Remember the golden rule that people will feel comfortable around you IF you feel comfortable yourself. Same applies to feeling good, if you feel good, then she shall feel good as well. Enjoy life, be happy and it shall be contagious. In order to make her feel good, she must be happy to be around you.

If you must compliment her, make sure that she deserves it. Tell her something specific, accurate and include yourself in the goodness as well. There is a huge difference in saying: “We’re the best looking couple at this Halloween party” and “You look the best at this Halloween party”. But enough about looks, people don’t care as much about looks as society leads us to think. Here are some quick situational examples:

• Get her to cook for you, and then tell her the food was amazing
• Go out and do a team activity, and then ‘talk her up’
• If she’s putting herself down… talk her up
• If she’s talking herself up… tease her!

If you’re still wondering how to make a girl feel good, then I’ll leave you with this piece of information: Make sure to read the book Double Your Dating by David DeAngelo, it shows you how to make a girl feel so good she’ll be addicted to you for life.

Most of the extremely attractive women in this world are used to getting a lot of male attention.
They get special treatment, looks from everyone and often see pathetic attempts to pick them up. The fact of the matter is, this will only help you in succeeding with these women.

We’re going to discuss why this is beneficial to you, the ordinary guy who’s trying to pick up a woman during the day.

But right before I do, I want to take you through an ordinary day through a woman’s eyes.

First, she wakes up, looks in the mirror and thinks about how she looks ugly without makeup on, she thinks about her day, the things she wants to accomplish, the stresses of the day.

Afterwards, she showers, fixes her hair, puts makeup on and color matches what she’s wearing. As she leaves the house, she looks at herself in the mirror and thinks: “ok, now I look ok”

The day starts early, and on the subway she has guys discreetly and non-discreetly glancing at her. She tries to ignore this by reading a book, or by looking away, not interested. She knows that she can’t even look at a guy she finds attractive, because she’s already getting too much male attention and cannot handle anymore. If she were to see a guy she finds attractive, and signal him that she likes him, he might come over, start talking to her and this would draw more attention to her from the other undesirable men all over the place.

Therefore, her daily objective is to receive validation from men who are checking her out while being as discreet as possible, blending in. Its two opposites, but who said women were simple.

Then as she gets out, a man blurts out an awkward “hello” and then says nothing more. She knows its because he likes her, but she’s not really interested in a guy who is intimidated by her.

During her day, she is once again treated in special ways due to the way she looks. The older man behind the counter gives her a special discount at the store, the young clerk is giddy when he serves her and worse of all, the group of guys just stare at her as she walks by.

She respects none of these people, men in her mind, are weak.

The only time she was turned on was when she saw her teacher, or boss, doing something with confidence. She also saw an attractive guy walking by in the morning, but he didn’t notice her.

So she goes to sleep at night, needing some male attention, she logs on to MSN to talk to her guy friends who try to flirt with her while being friends. She goes to bed alone, waiting for the weekend where she can maybe let loose, drink a bit so she’ll have a reason to be less picky, so she can go home with a guy who’s at least going to satisfy her physical desires.

She cries a bit before going to bed, she doesn’t know why, but it feels right and helps her sleep.

Now what if.. during that day, she met an attractive guy who didn’t seem fazed by her beauty. He talked to her as if he was curious about her and how she felt during the day.

She doesn’t want to talk about what she’s doing, she wants to tell you how she’s bored.

She wants to know about someone else’s interesting life. She likes the excitement, she likes you because you’re new. She likes you because you seem happier than her, is there something you know that she doesn’t ? She’s excited to meet you because you’re different.

The trick is to be original, make her laugh once, make her smile. Get her interested in you, let HER ask a question. Bait her, make her ask you things by having suggestive sentences.
ie: “I just got back here and now there’s a storm!” She will ask you “Where have you been?”

Then get her number. Call her the next day. She’ll thank you for it.

First, I want to tell you what it is like to be one of these women. It’s important to be able to see the world through an attractive woman’s eyes.

Imagine just for a second…

You are walking from the subway to the store to return a pair of shoes you bought last week.

Not one minute off the subway, a man looks at you and smiles. He holds eye contact past the point of being comfortable, but says nothing, and keeps walking.

Now on the street, another guy looks at you and exclaims “Wow, you’re hot.” And continues to watch you as you walk past him.

What was he expecting? Did he thing you would turn around and chase him down simply because he expressed his interst? Jeez. This is getting old. You just want to return your shoes!

Once in the store, you are on your way to the counter when a very sophisticated older gentleman approaches you.

He seems very nice and holds up a conversation pretty well. He tells you your eyes are pretty, and he was intrigued by your smile.

This is somewhat refreshing, since he seems to pay attention to you.

But his compliments don’t stop there. Now he is looking at your breasts. And he is telling you your shirt is also very pretty. Ok Ok… enough old man, I get it.

And now he is telling you he would like to buy you a diamond necklace to go with your shirt.

What? What did you do to win this man’s attention? He must be very desperate. Does he do this to every girl?? Can you see how frustrating life can be for one of these women?

Every man is either too scared to make a real approach or so nice that it is sickening.

BE DIFFERENT.

That’s right. The way to get the attention and build attraction with these women isn’t through money, fame or good looks. You must be different and distinguish yourself from every other guy who has given her attention in the past 24 hours.

In a nutshell, the two most effective ways to distinguish yourself from the monotony and endless barrage of boring men lies in the following two behaviors.

1. Have the confidence to approach, hold eye contact and have a normal conversation with her.

Most men are intimidated by beautiful women. Don’t be one of them.

2. Be more impressed by her personality than her physical beauty.

Take the time to learn what makes her special from every other woman around you. Learn about her interests, passions and dreams. Then use those as starting points to demonstrate your interest in her.

Mastering those two things will put you light years ahead of most men out there, and put you in a position to find a really beautiful woman who appreciates being with you as well. If you’re really interested in turbo-charing your progress and learning things that 99% of men don’t know about women, then you need to read Double Your Dating by David Deangelo. It will change your life and you’ll be attracting more women than you can handle in one evening.