In today’s relationships men seem to have problems with how to love a girl. I say this because most of what is said about dating revolves around playing hard to get and never revealing all your emotions. This can be really contradicting if you want to show a woman that you really love her.

A lot of men will be reluctant to demonstrate their love for a girl because they claim it shows a sign of weakness. This fear is not really about weakness, but rather the fact that they fear that they will be hurt if the girl doesn’t reciprocate the feeling.

If you’re going to love a girl, love her for who she really is, including her qualities and her faults. This usually means that you will have to get to know her before declaring your love which is a step that many guys skip. In fact, if you truly know the girl in question, you’ll already know how she feels.

Once you know, and you feel the moment is right, just tell her directly. There’s no sense in playing it safe, you’re either all in or you’re not.
Best of luck !

Every relationship has a start, here are some first date tips that can ignite a passionate and exciting evening.

1. Place the odds in your favor by positioning yourself in a comfortable environment and activity.

If you’ve never tried roller blading before, it might not the best idea to try it on a first date. It is however, perfectly acceptable to have your date try something new for the first time. This has two effects, first it naturally demonstrates that you are a leader and subsequently, you can be more at ease which is another attractive quality.

2. Make it personalized to her. During time pre-date contact you have had with the girl, you usually can piece a little information about her. Use the little bits that you know about her and apply it to the date. If it feels generic, then it won’t be special.

3. Contrastingly, if you are single and going on frequent ‘first dates’, then it can be a good idea to establish a ‘favorite date’ routine. For example, if there’s a zoo nearby and you’ve been on 2 dates at the zoo in the past month, then you’ll pretty much know exactly what to do, what to say, where to go. Practice makes perfect, even in dates. It might be repetitive for you, but unless you tell her (and don’t!), she won’t know you’ve been on that same date ‘route’ 2-3 times before.

4. Lead the way. In nature, the male tends to be dominant and lead. You can either think of it as a burden or as a privilege, but it’s much more enjoyable to think of it as a privilege. So suggest things, lead the way towards things that you want to do. If she doesn’t want to, she’ll object and from there, you can both agree on something.

5. Be yourself… but be your best self. If you’re going to show a side of yourself on a date, then mind as well show her the good side of you! Trust me, you’ll have plenty of time to show her the lesser sides of you later on. On a date, she wants to see your dominant playful side! So if it’s hiding in there somewhere, bring it out.

With these first date tips in mind, you’ll be better prepared to have a more enjoyable date, for both you and her. As usual, if you’re looking for ways to create massive attraction during the date, I would recommend reading the book Double Your Dating by David DeAngelo. He presents ways to turn any normal date into a hot adventure you’ll never forget.

You know it’s funny that a lot of guys who aren’t even dating on a regular basis are trying to figure out how to get a girlfriend when instead they should be learning how to get a girl’s number. If you’re clever, you already spotted step 1 to getting a girlfriend: go on dates.

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It seems that the biggest problem guys encounter is how to make a girl want you. The mentality of most guys is that only men like women initially… and somehow you have to convince them to like you in return. This fallacy has propelled men into trying to ‘win over’ women, as seen in so many Hollywood movies.

Unfortunately, this isn’t the rule, but rather the exception.

The general rule is that women are attracted as much as men to new people they meet throughout their lives. Its just that most women are used to being approached, so they won’t be as pro-active about talking to a guy they like. For men, its a different story.

They are used to being ignored by women, and that further propels the myth that women aren’t attracted to men. So with that frame of mind, they approach and converse with women with the “I need to make her like me” mindset. This is awful !

There is nothing worse than a person that is “Trying to make you like him!”

The first rule to getting someone to like you is to be at LEAST their equal in terms of status. A healthy relationship has both partners doing things for each other. One partner might work while the other raises the kids, one might cook and the other might build the deck and so on.

However, this is often taken out of context. If you’re at a bar, and a girl asks you to buy her a drink. She’s testing you to see if you’ll do as she bids. Why WOULD you buy her a drink ? The only context that this might be socially acceptable would be if the guy proposed: “hey, let’s get some drinks and then he casually bought hers.” By the way, if ever in doubt if you should pay or not when ordering something together… then pay.

The second rule of getting a girl to want you is to tease her! Teasing done right is flirting. If you’ve ever seen a cat jump viciously at a ball of string dangling from a height, then you’ll know how teasing works. It’s playful, fun, challenging and very addictive at the same time. Now some of you might not know how to tease properly, so I’d recommend you learn immediately. The best way being by reading the book Double Your Dating by David Deangelo, he describe exactly how to tease girls properly in a way that will build massive attraction.

If you want to learn how to make a girl want you, look at how women make guys want them. They dress up in attractive clothing, move in sensual ways, ignore guys, allude to your imagination and act aloof. Attraction is subtle, and girls seem to master the art. My best advice would be to befriend an attractive girl and pay attention to what attracts you to her.

If you’re here, then I’m going to assume that you’re determined to learn how to pick up women. I’ll tell you right away, the fastest way to learn is to hang out with guys that are already successful at attracting women on a consistent basis.

Assuming you don’t have any of these friends around you, let’s move on to the second fastest method to learn, practice.

There are a few concepts that you should master in order to successfully engage and “pick up” a woman. First, I don’t really like that the term pickup, because it automatically puts the guy in a situation where he’s chasing the woman. Now this might often be true, but ideally, you don’t want to come off as a guy who’s hunting for women.

The right attitude to adopt when you’re going to meet women is to think of it as a mutual selection process. You’re going to go talk to her to simply find out if you would like to know more of her. Likewise, she’s going to assess if she wants to know more of you or not. Kind of like when you go shopping for a car, you need to investigate, ask questions before committing to a certain choice.

That way, when you do make a choice (ask her number, kiss her, etc), it will seem natural and logical. The problem with most guys is that they see an attractive woman, decide RIGHT in an instant that they want to sleep with her, and then go to talk to her caring about nothing else but getting her into bed.

From the woman’s perspective… a random guy approaches you and you KNOW he’ll say anything to please you and will likely DO anything you ask him as well. Immediately, for no reason, she has complete power of a man who’s throwing himself at her.

Don’t throw yourself at her.

Instead, ask her interesting questions that she won’t hear every day, tease her whenever she answers wrong ( according to your standards ) and try to see if she fits your mold of the ideal woman. She might not even know it, but she’ll be doing the same to you!

So let’s break this down into simple steps.
1) Figure out what you want in a woman (preparation)
2)Approach a woman, say something interesting / captivating / entertaining.
3) Referring to Step 1, speak about topics that will allow you to know more about her while telling herself about you.

For example, if in Step 1, you realized that you wanted an adventurous girl in your life, then in Step 3, you could mention a story where you did something adventurous yourself… from that, see how she reacts. That’s normal conversation! When you supplement light conversation with smiles, teasing and light touching (kino), it becomes flirting.

To recap, the absolute best way to learn about how to pick up women is to hang out with guys that are good at it already. If you don’t have this luxury, then the next best thing will be to practice. The best book I can recommend on picking up women would be one written by David D. He’s one of the guru’s on the subject and his book is currently the #1 book on the seduction charts.

If you’re wondering how to make a girl like you, then you must ask yourself: How can I make myself like me ? The truth of the matter is, if you truly like yourself, then others will as well.

Are you a fun person to be around ?
Are you genuine, trustworthy, social ?
When you wake up in the morning, are you happy to be who you have become ?

If the answer to these are yes, then people will naturally be attracted to you and will like you for who you are. The problem lies with people who are unhappy with an aspect of themselves, and then try to cover it up so that people will like them.

Don’t be that guy !

The fastest way to get women to like you is to overcome the part of yourself that you don’t like.

For example, if you’re anti-social, and you just don’t like talking to people… then force yourself to get out of your shell and go socialize with others.

Practice this, live this, and work through it step by step.

One of the most attractive qualities ANYONE can have is to overcome something that was difficult for them. If you’re a shy guy, and you make an effort to go out, then that’s respectable. Same applies to women… Its very attractive to see a woman step out of her normal safe boundaries, trying things that normally would scare her.

Afterwards, once you genuinely like who you’ve become. All you need to do is show the other person who’ve you become.

Of course, you’ll want to do this in a slow, subtle way. No one wants to be around someone who brags all the time. Bragging lowers your value because it puts you in a position of trying to impress someone else.

Once you’re happy with yourself, and that you’re comfortable with where you are in life, everything else will come naturally.

One way to accelerate the process of becoming your ideal self is to hang out with guys who already posses the traits that you desire. If possible, try to find people that have qualities that you lack and hang out with them. Otherwise, if this is not possible, then the next best way is to learn directly from dating gurus like David DeAngelo. David has a great way of describing exactly how to make a girl like you.

In the end, you really can’t force anyone to like you, but you certainly can affect what kind of person you are. Are you going to be a good catch or a loser?

1. Clear, beautiful and healthy looking eyes. Eyes provide an insight on the level of health of the individual, and healthy eyes indicate a healthy mate. It was also surveyed as the most attractive feature according to various women’s magazines.
2. A confident attitude towards life. Confidence indicates that you are successful and are to be trusted. When you trust yourself, others will as well. Women will trust you with themselves
3. Physical height. Height provides a sense of security and comfort which is very attractive to women. Being taller is also a dominant trait which is attractive. Ultimately, if you are short but can provide a feeling of security and comfort, this will be equivalent to height.
   The best guide to creating attraction regardless of height is Double Your Dating.
4. Physical strength, muscles. Being muscular provides a sense of excitement and security in women. It also alludes to dominance which will seduce most women.
5. Being funny. Laughter makes people feel more comfortable and happy. Also, when people are laughing at your jokes, you immediately gain social status which is attractive. If you can make her laugh, you’re half way there. Read how to make a girl smile.
6. Being witty. This is very attractive as it alludes to being smart, and intelligence is attractive to women. If you are dating then wit will be a big part of your evening.
7. Being wealthy.Wealth indicates power, security, comfort and even excitement. This is very attractive to women whom crave all these feelings.
8. Being playful. Playfulness means that you are fun to be with, consequently triggering feelings of attraction in women.
9. Being touchy. Human touch is a powerful way to trigger feelings of attraction. Naturally touchy people have a lot more sex than people whom refrain from human contact. This is important when you flirt with a girl.
10. Bravery. Being brave, alert in emergency situations is very attractive and indicates that you will be able to protect her from danger.
11. Being excited about life. The energy that people emit when they are excited about living is contagious and very attractive.
12. Being unavailable. People want what they can’t get. Being hard ( but not impossible! ) to get is attractive.
13. A cocky smile is attractive. Cocky smiles, demonstrated in movies such as James Bond and Top Gun triggers feelings of confidence and dominance which is extremely arousing. Read up on how to pick up girls for more information.
14. Genuine smiles in general are attractive. As long as they are a reaction to something that occurred and not because you are being polite or awkward.
15. Being concentrated on a task is attractive to women. If a woman can watch you while you are completely involved in a task, then she is likely to be attracted to you. Examples of this can be her watching you paint, play an instrument, anything you do well that requires full absolute concentration on your part.
16. Playing an instrument is attractive to women. Wonder why the rock stars get the girls… there are many reasons but those whom play music are automatically ranked more attractive than those who don’t.
17. Being famous.If you’re famous, then by definition a lot of people know you. If a lot of people know you, you are therefore important. Being important is very attractive to women.
18. Not caring. A care free attitude is liberating and very attractive.
19. Being well dressed. Wearing nice clothes demonstrate social status; accentuate your physical features and shows that you take care of yourself.
20. Unique accessories that match our personality. In our society, accessories that stand out provoke curiosity, confidence and will attract women. “What’s that necklace you are wearing”, says the girl at the bar. That is one of the dating tips for how to attract women.
21. Shoes that are in style. The first thing that most girls notice in guys is what kind of shoes they are wearing. Shoes speak more about you than all clothes. You can be wearing a diaper on your head, jeans from the 80’s… but if you’re wearing brand new shoes that are in style, girls will automatically see you as attractive. If you don’t have the shoes… get them.
22. Well fitting shirts. Baggy shirts are out! Shirts should complement your body and show off your features. Now I’m not talking about spandex, but regular well fitting shirts. You know why suits look good? Because they are tailored to fit you perfectly. This is attractive to women.
23. A deep, commanding voice. Your voice says a lot about you, literally. The next time you strike up a chat with a woman, don’t sound squeaky.
24. Body posture. Within 1 second, just from how you stand, women will judge you as attractive or not. Good body posture indicates that you are a healthy mate and is very attractive to women. Lean back.
25. Human smell. Sweat, at a very basic level, is very attractive to women. It triggers feeling of arousal in women. However, don’t go too far and stink. That’s repelling.
26. Some light, musky cologne. These smells will mimic the natural smell that males produce and used lightly, will arouse some females.
27. Leadership. Being a leader is very attractive to women, it demonstrates social status and importance. Make decisions, lead the pack.
28. Being dominant. Women are naturally submissive, and men should be naturally dominant. Unfortunately with all our yoga classes and hormonal milk, this has changed in the past century.
29. Being dangerous. Danger is hot, exciting, energising and can be very addictive. Women love the bad boy.
30. Being intelligent. Intelligence, demonstrated by high grades, an impressive line of studies or career is very attractive.
31. Being good with animals. Being good with living things indicates that you will be a good mate, capable of protecting and caring for any offspring you could potentially have. This is very attractive.
32. Being good with kids. Same as above.
33. Being genuinely interested in her. People love people whom are interested in them. If you genuinely want to know what makes her tick, this will be attractive.
34. Being the best, in a group of men. If you are the best out of the competing men, then out of that group, you will be the most attractive to women.
35. Being disciplined. People want to be surrounded by competent individuals. If you are able to control yourself when she can’t, she will see you as having a lot of willpower. This demonstrates that you are in control of your life.
36. Not taking life too seriously. Having the gift to be able to laugh at life and embrace it as an enjoyable experience. You don’t have to think about marriage every time you talk to a girl.
37. Being positive. Positive people are attractive. If you can show her the sunny side of things, she will thank you for it.
38. Being a little selfish. Being slightly selfish indicates that you care a lot about yourself and your well being. This relates to confidence and importance which are attractive. Don’t be a martyr.
39. Being generous. The complete opposite of being selfish, being generous can be attractive as well because it demonstrates that you are not needy and that you are wealthy. Note! Being generous does NOT mean you should buy things for people so they like you… this is not attractive. A good example of being generous would be, if you’re with friends, you could purchase the pitcher of drinks. This subconsciously communicates that you are in charge, dominant and wealthy.
40. Spontaneity. Very attractive, alludes to excitement.
41. Good hair. Having nice, healthy and well groomed hair shows that you take care of yourself.
42. Trimmed nails. Women notice, if you take care of yourself, she’ll appreciate it.
43. A slight tan. These days, a tan indicates that you wealthy and physically healthy.
44. Relaxed attitude. Being relaxed shows a lot of confidence.
45. Being driven. If you know what you want in life, and you’re pursuing it, this is attractive.
46. Nice teeth. It is very important to have nice teeth, women think about it every time they consider kissing you.
47. Having nice possessions, such as a car, house or a boat. These indicate wealth, excitement and power, all of which are attractive.
48. A sense of adventure. If you’re curious about life, and are willing to take risks. You can lure her into your world and she’ll be happy to follow you past her limits.
49. Honesty. Being able to speak the truth is difficult and shows that you have accepted who you are as a person. It also shows that you don’t care what others think, which is very attractive.
50. Whispering in her ear. The sense of secrecy, mysteriousness and excitement that comes from a whisper is very attractive.
51. Being busy. If you are busy, then you are important, independent and have a life.
52. Being a man. Women love men who do manly things, stop doing yoga and go play a sport, hit the gym and get dirty.
53. Having a nice butt. A sexy fitness indicator, attainable through the gym.
54. Pre-selection. If other women want you, then there must be a reason. Having many people want you makes you attractive. You aren’t a guy who has time to look at personals.
55. Being genuine. Say what you mean and do what you say. This is hard, but attractive.
56. Physically picking her up. Ever heard of sweeping her off her feet? This is it.
57. Touching her hair. There is something about having your hair touched that is relaxing and arousing at the same time.
58. A nice face. Women love men with an attractive face. That’s what she’ll be kissing and you better believe it makes a difference.
59. Originality. Women crave excitement, originality provides that. Seduction is never the same and being original is an essential part of it.
60. Experience. Maturity can be very arousing; if you know what you’re doing she’ll appreciate it and you’ll get laid more often.
61. Speaking to her true self. If you can see past the walls that most people put and truly speak to the real person inside of them, you’ll be one of the few that understands them. This makes you very important.
62. Independence. People don’t like neediness, being independent shows that you are self sufficient and can take care of yourself.
63. Teasing her. Playfulness, excitement, she loves it.
64. Composure. If you can keep your cool under stressful situations, she’ll notice.
65. Being selective. If you are selective, then it implies that you aren’t needy and are valuable enough to want many people want you.
66. Being challenging. Playing hard to get is as true for women as it is for men. People want what they can’t have, and if they have to work for something, they’ll appreciate it much more.
67. Focus. If you know what you want, and are determined to get it, then that’s attractive.
68. Modesty. No one likes a show-off. Being modest is great, and attractive. There is nothing better than a girl finding out something good about you through a friend.
69. Muscular abs. An indicator of health.
70. Being natural. If you’re genuine about how you feel, without caring what others think, then that’s attractive. You want to know if people can handle the real you.
71. Charismatic. If your spoken words and gestures can warm up a room, she’ll notice and be warmed up as well. If she doesn’t, her matchmaking friend will tell her about you.
72. Sensual. Some people are frigid and cold. Some people are warm and very alert to their senses. If you are in tune with your body, you’ll likely be in tune with hers as well.
73. A man that loves to have fun. Everyone wants to be around a guy who enjoys himself, be that guy.
74. Goes against the rest of society. No one likes a follower. If you have a conviction about something, stick with it. Make up your own mind about things and people will respect you.
75. Caring. Compassion and caring show that you will be a good father and is therefore very attractive.
76. Persistent. If you go after your goals, other will notice. This is very attractive as it shows will power that not many people have.
77. Being respected. If your entourage respects you, then she will as well.
78. Loyal. People do not want to get hurt, and will avoid you if aren’t loyal. It is better to remain single than to get into a relationship you don’t plan on staying in.
79. Romance. Spicing it up in a relationship is critical and attractive. Don’t always do the same thing because it will get boring really fast.
80. Drama. Ever wonder why women love soap opera’s? It is because they crave drama, gossip, secrets. It is exciting and attractive. If you have an eventful life, people will be attracted to it.
81. The way you move. If you have calm, controlled and relaxed gestures, then you will be seen as someone that is confident.
82. A mysterious grin. There’s something about a grin that arouses curiosity and intrigue.
83. Being extravagant. Sometimes going over the top is good, if you can let yourself go from time to time, people will notice.
84. Loving yourself. If you truly love yourself for who you are, then others will as well.
85. Being a teacher. Have you ever wondered why so many girls have crushes on their teachers? It is because being a teacher is a sign of power and knowledge, be a teacher.
86. Clean, clear skin. Physically, nice skin is a health indicator and women will naturally be attracted to healthy looking skin.
87. Being energetic. Have you ever heard the expression, “he was the life of the party” This is energy, its contagious and most people don’t have enough of it. It is very attractive.
88. Being passionate. Be in the moment and enjoy life every day. It’s not about the destination, but about the journey. You’ll find your true love along the way.
89. Quick mind. If you can think on your feet, and are quick to reply to her playful teases, you’ll be seen as smart and alert. A woman would rather be with a man that stimulates her intellectually rather than someone who is brain dead. It is much better to find something original to say on the spot rather than to use pick up lines.
90. Attentive to details. It’s the little things that matter, if you notice that she’s done something different with her hair when no one else does, she will appreciate and be attracted to that.
91. Convicted and has strong beliefs. Be opinionated about things. If you ask someone a question about a topic and they have something interested to say about it, that’s attractive. Be opinionated.
92. Being in tune with her. Being in tune with someone is one of the biggest factors in relationships. Have you ever felt chemistry? Have you ever felt like you were on the same wavelength? If you and your partner are similar (and you should!) this will come naturally and will be one of the most attractive traits. The same applies for meeting women during the day or night. If you’re picking up a girl in a club, then high energy is appropriate because your energy will be matching hers. If you arrive with high energy during the day and she is reading in the library, this will clash. Read the article on how to approach girls for more information.
93. Being attentive to details in your life. Are you meticulous? Being attentive to the details in your life will mean that you will pay attention to the details in her life.
94. Being knowledgeable about various subjects. If you are versatile, then you’ll never be short of conversational topics. Being flexible and able to adapt to all kinds of situations is attractive. Go read some books.
95. Innocence. It’s no fun when you know everything, have tried everything and have been to the edge and back. A little bit of innocence is attractive because it makes you more human. There’s always something that you haven’t tried, let her know and invite you to try it with you. Asking for her advice is alright as well.
96. Challenging her. Forcing her to be on her toes, teasing her, is exciting and attractive.
97. Be a planner. If you are always organising events, you are automatically the leader that has a high social status and a lot of energy. This is very attractive; everyone wants to be invited to outings.
98. Being open. Tell her about your life, the real one. Cut the B.S. and you’ll stand out as someone who’s not trying to prove anything to anyone.
99. Being direct. Being direct is very powerful and attractive. People use indirect methods because they want to ‘feel things out’ and not get hurt. Being direct shows that you are confident, bold and not scared of rejection.
100. Be yourself, the good yourself. You shouldn’t try to pretend to be something that you aren’t. You should grow and continually improve, but remain genuine. Don’t hide your faults, everyone has them. The old saying,” be yourself” is very true and is ultimately what will attract the woman of your dreams.

Does it mean that you have to be all these things in order to attract beautiful women into your life? No way! The universe has a weird way of working and you’ll be attracted to the one you were meant to be with. She’ll love your faults, your weaknesses and your strengths. Have faith, believe in destiny and you shall meet your soul mate. You’ll know it when it happens.

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According to LiveScience.com, a new study shows that perfect dates makes lousy partners in the long run. The reason, the explain, is that people who are concerned with appearing perfect have the inability to turn off the fake and turn on the real.

“Popular people who monitor themselves carefully in social situations and thereby appear to be the most socially appropriate are often highly sought after as romantic partners, a study finds, but these people show less satisfaction and commitment in relationships than socially-awkward people.”

You can read the full article here. This is why you have to be genuine. Let people see who you really are.

If you’re one of those guys who want to know how to make a girl happy because you want her to like you, then stop right here. Making a girl happy will not make her like you, but once she likes you, making her happy is a great way to keep your relationship going strong. So this article is dedicated to those already in a relationship, not to those trying to pick up girls, that’s another read.

The first principle when making a girl happy is that YOU must be happy first. Happiness is contagious, and if you’re happy with life, your energy will affect people around you in a positive way. To understand, let’s look at the opposite. Have you ever been around someone who was really depressed? This person might have started to talk to you in a low tone, telling you about how bad their life was, and then you suddenly start to sympathize and tell them how bad your life is in return. Soon enough, you’re BOTH depressed! Well, the same applies to happiness, if you’re excited about a project you’re working on, or even about something as simple as a sunny day, it will be contagious. People LOVE being around people who are happy. Its addictive and attractive.

The second principle is that is that its all about the little things. A small surprise note, a random short email, anything unexpected and SMALL will go a long way to making a girl very happy. Its the little things that matter the most in life. Big things on the other hand rarely have the same effect. Buying someone a car will make them feel like they owe you, or like you’re trying to buy them something. On the other hand, leaving them a small note that simply says “hi I’m thinking of you” ( don’t actually write that ) will make them feel special. Again, its important to keep the first concept in mind, when you do small things, make sure it makes YOU happy as well. If you *hate* a DVD, don’t rent it because she likes it and then be miserable as you both watch it. On the other hand, if you wouldn’t mind watching it, and she really wants to, then you can surprise her with it.

To wrap it up, be happy first and others will follow. Afterwards, keep in mind its the small things in life that affect us, not the big things. One of the small things you could do today to make the girl of your dreams be happy is to read up on what really attracts women. Think about it, what women really want is to be massively attracted to the guy of their dream. Wouldn’t you be happy if you were really attracted to the woman of your dreams? I know I am. If you’re looking on how to become that person, how you can create massive attraction and truly be happy in life, then I strongly recommend you read Double Your Dating by David Deangelo. He knows exactly how to make a girl happy and can teach you much more in depth in his book than I ever could in a few paragraphs, which explains why its currently the #1 ranked Seductionbook.

Also, make sure you don’t try to make a girl happy like this!
Whatever you do, don’t do what this guy is doing!

The art of how to pick up girls is not difficult; all you need to do is get a good grip beneath their shoulders and lift. I think even if it was this easy, most guys still wouldn’t be able to do it because of all the mental blocks they have: “What if I lift her and she thinks I’m ugly? What if I lift her and then I don’t know where to take her? What if there’s another guy who just lifted her recently and he’s a better lifter?” Now when you consider that most guys are scared to death about talking to a strange woman, you have a recipe for disaster. Fear not, there is hope.

It is possible to learn how to attract and pick up women even if you have never done it before. Sometimes it requires little adjustments to your personality, sometimes big ones. Regardless, starting from any skill level, you can go from “not being able to talk to a girl” to being very successful with women in a short period of time by following some key concepts. One of the best places to start is to hang out with men who are successful with women. By observation, osmosis and asking key questions, you can improve your skill quite rapidly. If you don’t have the opportunity to hang out with successful men, then the next best thing is to read books by men who are very successful with women. They will give you the theory, the techniques and open your eyes to things that previously seemed impossible. Allow me a blatant plug, but read “Double Your Dating” by David DeAngelo and it will change your life.

Concept 1 : When picking up a girl, you must be detached from the outcome.

If you care about what the girl thinks of you, you are destined to fail. Let’s face it, there are going to be many girls that you are just not compatible with. Many of them just won’t live up to your expectations and you won’t live up to many of theirs. You must get over this and not care if you succeed or get rejected. If you care, then you will do everything you can NOT to screw up, and consequently, this makes you screw up.

Concept 2: When picking up a girl, YOU are choosing her.

When you talk to someone for the first time, you must realize that there’s a reason that you are talking to them. If you’re talking to a woman for the first time, it’s likely that she already knows you’re trying to pick her up. Many guys have tried to pick her up before and many will in the future. This does not mean that she decides if she will accept your approach or not. When you go shopping for a car, you might walk into a dealership, but does that mean that you will purchase the car? No way! The only way you’re going purchase the car is if it’s a good investment and the salesman is competent. The same applies to dating. When you go out and you meet a girl, keep in mind that YOU won’t take her home unless you like her.

Concept 3: Be happy, enjoy what you do and she will too.

Many guys approach this as a horrifying experience when in reality, it should really be a pleasurable one. If your objective is to find out what kind of person this girl is and then make her smile, then you’re likely to have many good and enjoyable interactions. If you try to “win” by picking her up, you’re doomed for failure. Most of the time, the best pick ups are when you aren’t even trying.

Concept 4: No immediate compliments!

What ever you do, do NOT compliment her on her looks. Paying attention to detail is good, but as soon as you mention her physical appearance, things start to turn ugly. If anything, you can mention her clothing, accessories or anything out of the ordinary, but do NOT mention her appearance. Even if she has the most beautiful eyes you’ve ever seen, refrain from mentioning it. You can tell her later… much later.

Concept 5: Building attraction immediately

In order to build attraction, you must be able to convey signs of a good and desirable mate. These will naturally be present in men whom workout often and are already successful with women. However, what if you don’t have time to work out often and you aren’t already successful with women ? Well these are traits that you can LEARN from other men. After a while, they will become part of you and you won’t even have to think of them. Honestly, the best way to learn them is to hang around men that are successful. Otherwise, if you don’t have that opportunity and you still want to learn how to pick up girls, I strongly recommend reading the book Double Your Dating as it will give you all the keys to creating massive attraction instantly.