So what is cocky and funny? The concept that’s been popularized by the famous dating book Double Your Dating has a lot men wondering exactly what it is and how to use it successfully to attract women.

In reality, it’s quite simple and quite self explanatory. The cocky concept is to be slightly arrogant, which sub-communicates that you have confidence.

An arrogant statement would be: “I’m the best”
A slightly arrogant statement would be: “I’m pretty good”

The problem with ONLY using cocky is that, if you ONLY use cockiness, it actually LOWERS your value. Coming off as a ’showoff’ or someone who’s “full of himself” isn’t going to help you with women any day.

This is why it is ESSENTIAL to mix cocky WITH the funny. You really can say anything, as long as it’s a joke. If it’s funny, then that cocky comment doesn’t have the same “I’m full of myself” air to it, because it’s just a joke! It does however, retain a hint confidence and is overall very attractive. Not to mention, funny is always great and creates a nice ambiance.

A cocky and funny statement would be:
“I’m pretty good… only on Friday though”

Adding mis-directional humor to the same comment removes the arrogance that would of otherwise been associated with the comment. The result ? You come off as funny AND confident, two qualities that are very attractive to have.

If done right, it’s fun as well! In fact, it’s SUPPOSED to be fun.

The concept of cocky and funny should be sprinkled throughout an interaction and works great! It’s something you can use right now to add that little extra spice to your conversations with women. Even though it’s amazing, it’s only a small part of the entire picture. In order to make cocky and funny 10x-20x more effective, you must combine it with the mind frame, body language and techniques contained in Double Your Dating, only then will it truly be magic.

If you know how to make a girl smile, then you will automatically be more successful with women in general. People like to smile, it makes you feel warm and fuzzy inside and these feelings will be associated with the person who has made you smile. Wouldn’t you like a girl to feel warm and fuzzy when she thinks about you ?

Here are the kinds of smiles you are trying to get:

• Genuine smile
• Compliment smile
• Impressed smile
• Happy smile

And here are the kind of smiles you want to avoid:

• Polite smile
• Weird / “You are insane” smile.
• I own you smile

Situational smiles
The easiest way to make a girl smile is to make use of the environment that you’re both in at the moment and to highlight something funny that is occurring. There is always something interesting, or funny happening if you pay attention to it.

For example, if you’re both waiting in line… make eye contact so that she notices you, and then immediately go into a huge fake yawn hinting that you’re bored of waiting line. This works great if there’s a huge line and no one is talking. The key is to be funny while retaining your dignity. If you make a fool of yourself, you’ll get the “you are weird” smile.

A more verbal approach in situational smiles would be to point something funny out to her. Usually talking about other people or items is an easy way to score a laugh. If you were grocery shopping and you happened to be in the cheese isle, you could say in a serious tone: “This cheese reminds me of the moon”, and then break out a small grin. Its dumb, but it works. ( Here’s a little more information on lines to make a girl smile )

Avoid pre-canned material
Of course, the WORSE way to make a girl smile is to use someone else’s joke or canned material. If it doesn’t come out as spontaneous and natural, then it will trigger the polite smile. What ever you do, do not ever tell a joke with a beginning, a middle and an end. These will NOT trigger any attraction what-so-ever. In fact, what this says is that you are trying to impress her and this will consequently lead to less attraction.

Body language smiles & smiles attract smiles
Sometimes giving a genuine smile will result in receiving one as well. “Give and you shall receive!” The best place to try this is in a setting where you are busy and CANNOT immediately talk to the woman in question. The smile says: “Hello, I’m interested and I WOULD talk to you, but unfortunately I’m busy right now and I can’t, so I might later if you return the smile”. Imagine you were hard at work, waiting tables, lifting boxes, actually doing something… and you saw an attractive woman you wished to talk to but at the moment, just couldn’t. A nice genuine smile would be infinitely appropriate and would peak her curiosity assuming she found you remotely attractive.

If you don’t end up talking to her, then she’ll leave thinking: “Oh I should go back to that place where that guy smiled at me… maybe he’ll still be there and won’t be busy this time”

Conversely, if you DO talk to her, she’s likely to be much more receptive and excited to get to know you.

The worse place to give a big smile as an opener is at a club, bar, party or any social setting. This immediately says: “Hello, I don’t have the guts to talk to you”. In those situations, talk first, THEN smile.

Comedy: Exaggeration and misleading
Assuming you’re hanging out with the girl, exaggeration and misdirection are the best ways to make someone smile. Its the essence of all comedy and it works for professional comedians as well as for you.

If you can get a girl smile, she’ll usually be more attracted to you. All those good feelings get associated to you and consequently, you end up being the guy who makes her feel good. The last and most powerful way to make a girl smile is called using the “cocky and funny” technique. Not only does this technique work every time, but it also triggers powerful feelings of attraction at the same time. The “Cocky and Funny” technique is covered in detail in Double Your Dating by David DeAngelo. Not only will you learn how to make a girl smile, but you’ll learn how to create powerful attraction as well.