As a guy, learning how to talk to girls can be one of the most challenging and rewarding skill he can acquire during his lifetime. Would you agree that being able to carry a proper conversation with a girl would solve a LOT of problems ?

I know many guys agree that this is one of the most neglected aspects when it comes to dating advice, and yet, it is so critical to succeed!

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Pick Up Lines are one of the most misunderstood, misused techniques of meeting and attracting beautiful women. All over the world, people have the misconceived idea of a magic “pickup line” that will cause a woman to throw off her clothes and jump into bed with you.

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If you’ve ever wondered how to attract a woman, then look no further. The answer is simple:

Be attractive.

So what do women find attractive?

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All of us have felt approach anxiety at one time or another. You see that girl from across the room and you think to yourself, “I want to meet her.” You get ready to approach when suddenly your chest constricts. Your palms feel sweaty and thoughts start running rapidly through your mind. What if she doesn’t like me? What if everyone sees me bomb with this one girl? Maybe I should get a drink first and wait for the opening… Congratulations. You’ve just been hit by approach anxiety.

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It’s a shame that most men don’t know how to talk to a woman. With these few basic guidelines, you’ll be chatting it up with all the most attractive women in no time. The trick with talking to girls is with the subtleties.

The first rule of talking with women is to replace the word “talk” with the word “communication”. When you adopt the idea that you want to communicate with another human being, it takes the emphasis off the words themselves, which are only a small part of communication anyways.

Real communication is actually 20% words and 80% body language & tonality.

“It’s not what you say, but how you say it”

So let’s get the words out of the way first, since it’s the easiest and it’s likely that you want to know that anyways. We’ll save the best (the other 80%) for later! Continue Reading

If everyone was picking up girls on a consistent basis, there wouldn’t be many left now would there? It’s a good thing that most men don’t know how easy it is to pick up a girl and are frightened to even attempt!

The definition of a successful pickup would be to engage in a new interaction with a woman and create enough attraction for her to want to see you again. Unfortunately, what I usually see is a far cry from that. I see men concentrating on ‘getting the number’ and they seem to completely lose sight of the actual goal.

Although it’s true that sometimes getting a number CAN be a sign of success, it is not necessarily an absolute victory. What’s the point of getting a number if she won’t go out with you afterwards? Sometimes women give their number out just to get rid of a guy…

Successfully picking up women can be easy as long as you follow a few guidelines:

1. Have a good opener

An opener is a line that breaks the ice and begins a conversation. It doesn’t matter what it is, as long as it feels natural. Don’t talk randomly start telling a girl about a wind surfing story if you’re in the grocery store… she’ll wonder why. Sometimes an opener can simply be “hi”.

2. Create some attraction

Why should this person continue talking to you? After you open the conversation, you should convey that you are an interesting person worth talking to. This can be by telling a story about what you’re doing, or simply saying something funny that will make her laugh.

3. Pull back and get to know her

Interactions should never be one sided. In a successful pick-up, you should BOTH want to talk to each other afterwards. This is one of the major pitfalls that most guys do… they get a bunch of numbers but they never call because they never got to know the girl in question.

4. Close

The whole idea behind picking up girls is to further the interaction with them, so when you’re done, make sure to create a little commitment and excitement for later. Either get a number, email (not as good) or some way of seeing each other again because it’s always more fun the second time!

Every relationship has a start, here are some first date tips that can ignite a passionate and exciting evening.

1. Place the odds in your favor by positioning yourself in a comfortable environment and activity.

If you’ve never tried roller blading before, it might not the best idea to try it on a first date. It is however, perfectly acceptable to have your date try something new for the first time. This has two effects, first it naturally demonstrates that you are a leader and subsequently, you can be more at ease which is another attractive quality.

2. Make it personalized to her. During time pre-date contact you have had with the girl, you usually can piece a little information about her. Use the little bits that you know about her and apply it to the date. If it feels generic, then it won’t be special.

3. Contrastingly, if you are single and going on frequent ‘first dates’, then it can be a good idea to establish a ‘favorite date’ routine. For example, if there’s a zoo nearby and you’ve been on 2 dates at the zoo in the past month, then you’ll pretty much know exactly what to do, what to say, where to go. Practice makes perfect, even in dates. It might be repetitive for you, but unless you tell her (and don’t!), she won’t know you’ve been on that same date ‘route’ 2-3 times before.

4. Lead the way. In nature, the male tends to be dominant and lead. You can either think of it as a burden or as a privilege, but it’s much more enjoyable to think of it as a privilege. So suggest things, lead the way towards things that you want to do. If she doesn’t want to, she’ll object and from there, you can both agree on something.

5. Be yourself… but be your best self. If you’re going to show a side of yourself on a date, then mind as well show her the good side of you! Trust me, you’ll have plenty of time to show her the lesser sides of you later on. On a date, she wants to see your dominant playful side! So if it’s hiding in there somewhere, bring it out.

With these first date tips in mind, you’ll be better prepared to have a more enjoyable date, for both you and her. As usual, if you’re looking for ways to create massive attraction during the date, I would recommend reading the book Double Your Dating by David DeAngelo. He presents ways to turn any normal date into a hot adventure you’ll never forget.

You know it’s funny that a lot of guys who aren’t even dating on a regular basis are trying to figure out how to get a girlfriend when instead they should be learning how to get a girl’s number. If you’re clever, you already spotted step 1 to getting a girlfriend: go on dates.

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It seems that the biggest problem guys encounter is how to make a girl want you. The mentality of most guys is that only men like women initially… and somehow you have to convince them to like you in return. This fallacy has propelled men into trying to ‘win over’ women, as seen in so many Hollywood movies.

Unfortunately, this isn’t the rule, but rather the exception.

The general rule is that women are attracted as much as men to new people they meet throughout their lives. Its just that most women are used to being approached, so they won’t be as pro-active about talking to a guy they like. For men, its a different story.

They are used to being ignored by women, and that further propels the myth that women aren’t attracted to men. So with that frame of mind, they approach and converse with women with the “I need to make her like me” mindset. This is awful !

There is nothing worse than a person that is “Trying to make you like him!”

The first rule to getting someone to like you is to be at LEAST their equal in terms of status. A healthy relationship has both partners doing things for each other. One partner might work while the other raises the kids, one might cook and the other might build the deck and so on.

However, this is often taken out of context. If you’re at a bar, and a girl asks you to buy her a drink. She’s testing you to see if you’ll do as she bids. Why WOULD you buy her a drink ? The only context that this might be socially acceptable would be if the guy proposed: “hey, let’s get some drinks and then he casually bought hers.” By the way, if ever in doubt if you should pay or not when ordering something together… then pay.

The second rule of getting a girl to want you is to tease her! Teasing done right is flirting. If you’ve ever seen a cat jump viciously at a ball of string dangling from a height, then you’ll know how teasing works. It’s playful, fun, challenging and very addictive at the same time. Now some of you might not know how to tease properly, so I’d recommend you learn immediately. The best way being by reading the book Double Your Dating by David Deangelo, he describe exactly how to tease girls properly in a way that will build massive attraction.

If you want to learn how to make a girl want you, look at how women make guys want them. They dress up in attractive clothing, move in sensual ways, ignore guys, allude to your imagination and act aloof. Attraction is subtle, and girls seem to master the art. My best advice would be to befriend an attractive girl and pay attention to what attracts you to her.

If you’re here, then I’m going to assume that you’re determined to learn how to pick up women. I’ll tell you right away, the fastest way to learn is to hang out with guys that are already successful at attracting women on a consistent basis.

Assuming you don’t have any of these friends around you, let’s move on to the second fastest method to learn, practice.

There are a few concepts that you should master in order to successfully engage and “pick up” a woman. First, I don’t really like that the term pickup, because it automatically puts the guy in a situation where he’s chasing the woman. Now this might often be true, but ideally, you don’t want to come off as a guy who’s hunting for women.

The right attitude to adopt when you’re going to meet women is to think of it as a mutual selection process. You’re going to go talk to her to simply find out if you would like to know more of her. Likewise, she’s going to assess if she wants to know more of you or not. Kind of like when you go shopping for a car, you need to investigate, ask questions before committing to a certain choice.

That way, when you do make a choice (ask her number, kiss her, etc), it will seem natural and logical. The problem with most guys is that they see an attractive woman, decide RIGHT in an instant that they want to sleep with her, and then go to talk to her caring about nothing else but getting her into bed.

From the woman’s perspective… a random guy approaches you and you KNOW he’ll say anything to please you and will likely DO anything you ask him as well. Immediately, for no reason, she has complete power of a man who’s throwing himself at her.

Don’t throw yourself at her.

Instead, ask her interesting questions that she won’t hear every day, tease her whenever she answers wrong ( according to your standards ) and try to see if she fits your mold of the ideal woman. She might not even know it, but she’ll be doing the same to you!

So let’s break this down into simple steps.
1) Figure out what you want in a woman (preparation)
2)Approach a woman, say something interesting / captivating / entertaining.
3) Referring to Step 1, speak about topics that will allow you to know more about her while telling herself about you.

For example, if in Step 1, you realized that you wanted an adventurous girl in your life, then in Step 3, you could mention a story where you did something adventurous yourself… from that, see how she reacts. That’s normal conversation! When you supplement light conversation with smiles, teasing and light touching (kino), it becomes flirting.

To recap, the absolute best way to learn about how to pick up women is to hang out with guys that are good at it already. If you don’t have this luxury, then the next best thing will be to practice. The best book I can recommend on picking up women would be one written by David D. He’s one of the guru’s on the subject and his book is currently the #1 book on the seduction charts.