The basic rules of how to start a conversation with a girl you’ve never met are simple: keep it simple, keep it fun. When you talk to a woman for the first time, remember that she doesn’t know you and anything too intense will push her away. Instead, use these conversation starters to get her more interested.

1. Situational Conversation Starter
Make a comment about something around both of you at the time.

If you’re at the library, mention something about the librarian at the door or even about the funny security guard at the entrance. An environmental opener can be used anywhere, but it does take a bit of quick thinking depending on where you are.

2. Direct Conversation Starter
Just say “hi”

Sometimes just saying hi is enough to get a decent conversation started. This works especially well in boring situations such as waiting in line. If there’s nothing special happening and you are both bored, then saying hi will just come off as being social.

3. Starting a conversation with an opinion
Some men feel more comfortable jumping right into a topic with an opinion on a certain situation.

The advantages of this is that it automatically leads to a full fledged dialog about whichever topic you introduced. The disadvantage however, is that if you randomly ask for someone’s opinion, they might think you’re polling a survey or something. They might be on the defensive right away since people automatically avoid salesmen on a daily basis. The one context where an opinion opener will be acceptable is in a social environment in which everyone is already talking, ie: party or a bar.

4. Beginning a chat with a comment about her
Now this is risky but can lead to a quick and successful conversation if done right.

By noticing something unique about her, she will be likely to want to engage in a conversation to talk about her favorite subject, herself. For example, if a girl is wearing a huge hat, she’s doing it for a reason: she wants to be noticed and for people to talk to her. So just pick up on these subtle (and sometimes obvious) cues.

These are the most efficient methods on how to start a conversation. Once it’s started, you will need to have something to say to continue chatting with her! One of the best resources to read so you never run out of things to say is the book Double Your Dating by David Deangelo. The words printed on the pages of his book have a way of sticking in your brain and will make you a better conversationalist than you ever thought possible.

In today’s relationships men seem to have problems with how to love a girl. I say this because most of what is said about dating revolves around playing hard to get and never revealing all your emotions. This can be really contradicting if you want to show a woman that you really love her.

A lot of men will be reluctant to demonstrate their love for a girl because they claim it shows a sign of weakness. This fear is not really about weakness, but rather the fact that they fear that they will be hurt if the girl doesn’t reciprocate the feeling.

If you’re going to love a girl, love her for who she really is, including her qualities and her faults. This usually means that you will have to get to know her before declaring your love which is a step that many guys skip. In fact, if you truly know the girl in question, you’ll already know how she feels.

Once you know, and you feel the moment is right, just tell her directly. There’s no sense in playing it safe, you’re either all in or you’re not.
Best of luck !

If everyone was picking up girls on a consistent basis, there wouldn’t be many left now would there? It’s a good thing that most men don’t know how easy it is to pick up a girl and are frightened to even attempt!

The definition of a successful pickup would be to engage in a new interaction with a woman and create enough attraction for her to want to see you again. Unfortunately, what I usually see is a far cry from that. I see men concentrating on ‘getting the number’ and they seem to completely lose sight of the actual goal.

Although it’s true that sometimes getting a number CAN be a sign of success, it is not necessarily an absolute victory. What’s the point of getting a number if she won’t go out with you afterwards? Sometimes women give their number out just to get rid of a guy…

Successfully picking up women can be easy as long as you follow a few guidelines:

1. Have a good opener

An opener is a line that breaks the ice and begins a conversation. It doesn’t matter what it is, as long as it feels natural. Don’t talk randomly start telling a girl about a wind surfing story if you’re in the grocery store… she’ll wonder why. Sometimes an opener can simply be “hi”.

2. Create some attraction

Why should this person continue talking to you? After you open the conversation, you should convey that you are an interesting person worth talking to. This can be by telling a story about what you’re doing, or simply saying something funny that will make her laugh.

3. Pull back and get to know her

Interactions should never be one sided. In a successful pick-up, you should BOTH want to talk to each other afterwards. This is one of the major pitfalls that most guys do… they get a bunch of numbers but they never call because they never got to know the girl in question.

4. Close

The whole idea behind picking up girls is to further the interaction with them, so when you’re done, make sure to create a little commitment and excitement for later. Either get a number, email (not as good) or some way of seeing each other again because it’s always more fun the second time!

Every relationship has a start, here are some first date tips that can ignite a passionate and exciting evening.

1. Place the odds in your favor by positioning yourself in a comfortable environment and activity.

If you’ve never tried roller blading before, it might not the best idea to try it on a first date. It is however, perfectly acceptable to have your date try something new for the first time. This has two effects, first it naturally demonstrates that you are a leader and subsequently, you can be more at ease which is another attractive quality.

2. Make it personalized to her. During time pre-date contact you have had with the girl, you usually can piece a little information about her. Use the little bits that you know about her and apply it to the date. If it feels generic, then it won’t be special.

3. Contrastingly, if you are single and going on frequent ‘first dates’, then it can be a good idea to establish a ‘favorite date’ routine. For example, if there’s a zoo nearby and you’ve been on 2 dates at the zoo in the past month, then you’ll pretty much know exactly what to do, what to say, where to go. Practice makes perfect, even in dates. It might be repetitive for you, but unless you tell her (and don’t!), she won’t know you’ve been on that same date ‘route’ 2-3 times before.

4. Lead the way. In nature, the male tends to be dominant and lead. You can either think of it as a burden or as a privilege, but it’s much more enjoyable to think of it as a privilege. So suggest things, lead the way towards things that you want to do. If she doesn’t want to, she’ll object and from there, you can both agree on something.

5. Be yourself… but be your best self. If you’re going to show a side of yourself on a date, then mind as well show her the good side of you! Trust me, you’ll have plenty of time to show her the lesser sides of you later on. On a date, she wants to see your dominant playful side! So if it’s hiding in there somewhere, bring it out.

With these first date tips in mind, you’ll be better prepared to have a more enjoyable date, for both you and her. As usual, if you’re looking for ways to create massive attraction during the date, I would recommend reading the book Double Your Dating by David DeAngelo. He presents ways to turn any normal date into a hot adventure you’ll never forget.

You know it’s funny that a lot of guys who aren’t even dating on a regular basis are trying to figure out how to get a girlfriend when instead they should be learning how to get a girl’s number. If you’re clever, you already spotted step 1 to getting a girlfriend: go on dates.

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It seems that the biggest problem guys encounter is how to make a girl want you. The mentality of most guys is that only men like women initially… and somehow you have to convince them to like you in return. This fallacy has propelled men into trying to ‘win over’ women, as seen in so many Hollywood movies.

Unfortunately, this isn’t the rule, but rather the exception.

The general rule is that women are attracted as much as men to new people they meet throughout their lives. Its just that most women are used to being approached, so they won’t be as pro-active about talking to a guy they like. For men, its a different story.

They are used to being ignored by women, and that further propels the myth that women aren’t attracted to men. So with that frame of mind, they approach and converse with women with the “I need to make her like me” mindset. This is awful !

There is nothing worse than a person that is “Trying to make you like him!”

The first rule to getting someone to like you is to be at LEAST their equal in terms of status. A healthy relationship has both partners doing things for each other. One partner might work while the other raises the kids, one might cook and the other might build the deck and so on.

However, this is often taken out of context. If you’re at a bar, and a girl asks you to buy her a drink. She’s testing you to see if you’ll do as she bids. Why WOULD you buy her a drink ? The only context that this might be socially acceptable would be if the guy proposed: “hey, let’s get some drinks and then he casually bought hers.” By the way, if ever in doubt if you should pay or not when ordering something together… then pay.

The second rule of getting a girl to want you is to tease her! Teasing done right is flirting. If you’ve ever seen a cat jump viciously at a ball of string dangling from a height, then you’ll know how teasing works. It’s playful, fun, challenging and very addictive at the same time. Now some of you might not know how to tease properly, so I’d recommend you learn immediately. The best way being by reading the book Double Your Dating by David Deangelo, he describe exactly how to tease girls properly in a way that will build massive attraction.

If you want to learn how to make a girl want you, look at how women make guys want them. They dress up in attractive clothing, move in sensual ways, ignore guys, allude to your imagination and act aloof. Attraction is subtle, and girls seem to master the art. My best advice would be to befriend an attractive girl and pay attention to what attracts you to her.

If you’re here, then I’m going to assume that you’re determined to learn how to pick up women. I’ll tell you right away, the fastest way to learn is to hang out with guys that are already successful at attracting women on a consistent basis.

Assuming you don’t have any of these friends around you, let’s move on to the second fastest method to learn, practice.

There are a few concepts that you should master in order to successfully engage and “pick up” a woman. First, I don’t really like that the term pickup, because it automatically puts the guy in a situation where he’s chasing the woman. Now this might often be true, but ideally, you don’t want to come off as a guy who’s hunting for women.

The right attitude to adopt when you’re going to meet women is to think of it as a mutual selection process. You’re going to go talk to her to simply find out if you would like to know more of her. Likewise, she’s going to assess if she wants to know more of you or not. Kind of like when you go shopping for a car, you need to investigate, ask questions before committing to a certain choice.

That way, when you do make a choice (ask her number, kiss her, etc), it will seem natural and logical. The problem with most guys is that they see an attractive woman, decide RIGHT in an instant that they want to sleep with her, and then go to talk to her caring about nothing else but getting her into bed.

From the woman’s perspective… a random guy approaches you and you KNOW he’ll say anything to please you and will likely DO anything you ask him as well. Immediately, for no reason, she has complete power of a man who’s throwing himself at her.

Don’t throw yourself at her.

Instead, ask her interesting questions that she won’t hear every day, tease her whenever she answers wrong ( according to your standards ) and try to see if she fits your mold of the ideal woman. She might not even know it, but she’ll be doing the same to you!

So let’s break this down into simple steps.
1) Figure out what you want in a woman (preparation)
2)Approach a woman, say something interesting / captivating / entertaining.
3) Referring to Step 1, speak about topics that will allow you to know more about her while telling herself about you.

For example, if in Step 1, you realized that you wanted an adventurous girl in your life, then in Step 3, you could mention a story where you did something adventurous yourself… from that, see how she reacts. That’s normal conversation! When you supplement light conversation with smiles, teasing and light touching (kino), it becomes flirting.

To recap, the absolute best way to learn about how to pick up women is to hang out with guys that are good at it already. If you don’t have this luxury, then the next best thing will be to practice. The best book I can recommend on picking up women would be one written by David D. He’s one of the guru’s on the subject and his book is currently the #1 book on the seduction charts.

If you’re wondering how to make a girl like you, then you must ask yourself: How can I make myself like me ? The truth of the matter is, if you truly like yourself, then others will as well.

Are you a fun person to be around ?
Are you genuine, trustworthy, social ?
When you wake up in the morning, are you happy to be who you have become ?

If the answer to these are yes, then people will naturally be attracted to you and will like you for who you are. The problem lies with people who are unhappy with an aspect of themselves, and then try to cover it up so that people will like them.

Don’t be that guy !

The fastest way to get women to like you is to overcome the part of yourself that you don’t like.

For example, if you’re anti-social, and you just don’t like talking to people… then force yourself to get out of your shell and go socialize with others.

Practice this, live this, and work through it step by step.

One of the most attractive qualities ANYONE can have is to overcome something that was difficult for them. If you’re a shy guy, and you make an effort to go out, then that’s respectable. Same applies to women… Its very attractive to see a woman step out of her normal safe boundaries, trying things that normally would scare her.

Afterwards, once you genuinely like who you’ve become. All you need to do is show the other person who’ve you become.

Of course, you’ll want to do this in a slow, subtle way. No one wants to be around someone who brags all the time. Bragging lowers your value because it puts you in a position of trying to impress someone else.

Once you’re happy with yourself, and that you’re comfortable with where you are in life, everything else will come naturally.

One way to accelerate the process of becoming your ideal self is to hang out with guys who already posses the traits that you desire. If possible, try to find people that have qualities that you lack and hang out with them. Otherwise, if this is not possible, then the next best way is to learn directly from dating gurus like David DeAngelo. David has a great way of describing exactly how to make a girl like you.

In the end, you really can’t force anyone to like you, but you certainly can affect what kind of person you are. Are you going to be a good catch or a loser?