If you’re one of those guys who want to know how to make a girl happy because you want her to like you, then stop right here. Making a girl happy will not make her like you, but once she likes you, making her happy is a great way to keep your relationship going strong. So this article is dedicated to those already in a relationship, not to those trying to pick up girls, that’s another read.

The first principle when making a girl happy is that YOU must be happy first. Happiness is contagious, and if you’re happy with life, your energy will affect people around you in a positive way. To understand, let’s look at the opposite. Have you ever been around someone who was really depressed? This person might of started to talk to you in a low tone, telling you about how bad their life was, and then you suddenly start to sympathize and tell them how bad your life is in return. Soon enough, you’re BOTH depressed! Well, the same applies to happiness, if you’re excited about a project you’re working on, or even about something as simple as a sunny day, it will be contagious. People LOVE being around people who are happy. Its addictive and attractive.

The second principle is that is that its all about the little things. A small surprise note, a random short email, anything unexpected and SMALL will go a long way to making a girl very happy. Its the little things that matter the most in life. Big things on the other hand rarely have the same effect. Buying someone a car will make them feel like they owe you, or like you’re trying to buy them something. On the other hand, leaving them a small note that simply says “hi I’m thinking of you” ( don’t actually write that ) will make them feel special. Again, its important to keep the first concept in mind, when you do small things, make sure it makes YOU happy as well. If you *hate* a DVD, don’t rent it because she likes it and then be miserable as you both watch it. On the other hand, if you wouldn’t mind watching it, and she really wants to, then you can surprise her with it.

To wrap it up, be happy first and others will follow. Afterwards, keep in mind its the small things in life that affect us, not the big things. One of the small things you could do today to make the girl of your dreams be happy is to read up on what really attracts women. Think about it, what women really want is to be massively attracted to the guy of their dream. Wouldn’t you be happy if you were really attracted to the woman of your dreams? I know I am. If you’re looking on how to become that person, how you can create massive attraction and truly be happy in life, then I strongly recommend you read Double Your Dating by David Deangelo. He knows exactly how to make a girl happy and can teach you much more in depth in his book than I ever could in a few paragraphs, which explains why its currently the #1 ranked Seductionbook.

Also, make sure you don’t try to make a girl happy like this!
Whatever you do, don’t do what this guy is doing!

The art of how to pick up girls is not difficult; all you need to do is get a good grip beneath their shoulders and lift. I think even if it was this easy, most guys still wouldn’t be able to do it because of all the mental blocks they have: “What if I lift her and she thinks I’m ugly? What if I lift her and then I don’t know where to take her? What if there’s another guy who just lifted her recently and he’s a better lifter?” Now when you consider that most guys are scared to death about talking to a strange woman, you have a recipe for disaster. Fear not, there is hope.

It is possible to learn how to attract and pick up women even if you have never done it before. Sometimes it requires little adjustments to your personality, sometimes big ones. Regardless, starting from any skill level, you can go from “not being able to talk to a girl” to being very successful with women in a short period of time by following some key concepts. One of the best places to start is to hang out with men whom are successful with women. By observation, osmosis and asking key questions, you can improve your skill quite rapidly. If you don’t have the opportunity to hang out with successful men, then the next best thing is to read books by men whom are very successful with women. They will give you the theory, the techniques and open your eyes to things that previously seemed impossible. Allow me a blatant plug, but read “Double Your Dating” by David DeAngelo and it will change your life.

Concept 1 : When picking up a girl, you must be detached from the outcome.

If you care about what the girl thinks of you, you are destined to fail. Let’s face it, there are going to be many girls that you are just not compatible with. Many of them just won’t live up to your expectations and you won’t live up to many of theirs. You must get over this and not care if you succeed or get rejected. If you care, then you will do everything you can NOT to screw up, and consequently, this makes you screw up.

Concept 2: When picking up a girl, YOU are choosing her.

When you talk to someone for the first time, you must realize that there’s a reason that you are talking to them. If you’re talking to a woman for the first time, it’s likely that she already knows you’re trying to pick her up. Many guys have tried to pick her up before and many will in the future. This does not mean that she decides if she will accept your approach or not. When you go shopping for a car, you might walk into a dealership, but does that mean that you will purchase the car? No way! The only way you’re going purchase the car is if it’s a good investment and the salesman is competent. The same applies to dating. When you go out and you meet a girl, keep in mind that YOU won’t take her home unless you like her.

Concept 3: Be happy, enjoy what you do and she will too.

Many guys approach this as a horrifying experience when in reality, it should really be a pleasurable one. If your objective is to find out what kind of person this girl is and then make her smile, then you’re likely to have many good and enjoyable interactions. If you try to “win” by picking her up, you’re doomed for failure. Most of the time, the best pick ups are when you aren’t even trying.

Concept 4: No immediate compliments!

What ever you do, do NOT compliment her on her looks. Paying attention to detail is good, but as soon as you mention her physical appearance, things start to turn ugly. If anything, you can mention her clothing, accessories or anything out of the ordinary, but do NOT mention her appearance. Even if she has the most beautiful eyes you’ve ever seen, refrain from mentioning it. You can tell her later… much later.

Concept 5: Building attraction immediately

In order to build attraction, you must be able to convey signs of a good and desirable mate. These will naturally be present in men whom workout often and are already successful with women. However, what if you don’t have time to work out often and you aren’t already successful with women ? Well these are traits that you can LEARN from other men. After a while, they will become part of you and you won’t even have to think of them. Honestly, the best way to learn them is to hang around men that are successful. Otherwise, if you don’t have that opportunity and you still want to learn how to pick up girls, I strongly recommend reading the book Double Your Dating as it will give you all the keys to creating massive attraction instantly.

Its a shame that most men don’t know how to approach girls properly because it is so easy if done in the right frame of mind. The approach should be an enjoyable experience for both you and the girl that you are going to meet. Now let’s examine the frame of mind that most men adopt when speaking to a woman for the first time.

Usually you can break down the process of the clueless man in a few simple steps.

1. Sees attractive girl
2. Thinks about how attractive she is and weighs out if its worth talking to her or not. If she’s REALLY attractive and you think you stand a chance, then it might be worth taking a shot.
3. Tries to think of something to say but draws a blank, heart rate increases.
4a. Goes up to the girl in question, asks an awkward question that conveys absolutely no attraction and produces an awkward moment.
4b. Goes up the girl, tries to impress her and is mad when she walks away.
4c. Goes up the girl, acts cocky & completely out of tune with the rest of the social environment, creates an awkward moment.
5. Man ejects from the situation

What you should do is pretty much the OPPOSITE of all the steps above.

First, before you ever start approaching women, you have to know WHAT kind of woman you want. This is CRITICAL and FUN to do. Write out (or think really profoundly) the woman of your dreams. What does she look like? How does she walk ? How does she old herself ? How does she laugh ? How does she dress ? What kind of personality does she have ? Is she sweet, sexy, edgy, kind, cocky, sassy, smart ? What does she do for a living ?

Imagine her and have no limits. Do it now… I’ll wait.

Alright , I know you’re not doing it now, but do it after you finish reading, Ok ?

A change in thinking

Once you do this, meeting girls will radically change. First, the concept of “you attract what you think of” is very true, and you’ll automatically be drawn to the woman of your dreams. Second, when you are meeting girls, your objective is now to find out if she is your ideal girl.

To paraphrase, when you talk to a woman for the first time, you will be interested in knowing what kind of person she is. If she doesn’t measure up to your ideal girl, then tease her about it. If she does have characteristics that are aligned with your ideal girl, then you’ll genuinely be able to point out how you appreciate that about her.

For example, if you were looking for an honest girl, then you could ask in your conversation,

You: “On a scale from 1 to 10, how honest are you?”
Her: “Umm, I’m an 8″
You: “Is that the 2 or the 8 talking now ??”

If you’re looking for a smart girl, then try to find out how intellectual she is ! If you want a girl that’s adventurous, then talk about adventures !
This concept of figuring out if this girl measures up to your expectations will all come naturally when you know what you really want in a girl. You see, most men don’t know what they want and therefore will just SETTLE for anything with 2 legs. Don’t be one of those people.

Women KNOW exactly what they want
Because they know what they want, they can pick and eliminate men so easily. Being picky shows that you have choice in mates, and that makes you attractive.

The problem with approaching girls is that men don’t know what to say first. Even though the words you say really don’t matter, I’ll give you a few samples.

The easiest, and best approach is:
“Hey! I’m just here doing xxxxx (whatever you are doing at the moment), I felt like talking to you.”
Then just go on and figure out who she really is and if she’s right for you.

If you want more knowledge on approaching and dating the girl of your dreams then I can recommend a read that will probably change your life. In the book Double Your Dating by David Deangelo, you can find many powerful methods for generating massive attraction immediately when you meet a girl for the first time. It is a highly recommend book that every guy SHOULD read. Seriously.

If you know how to ask questions, then you already know how to approach girls. Just go in, and find out what you like and dislike about her, then choose the one you enjoy the most!