If you know how to attract girls, then chasing women won’t be necessary as they will come to you. When a woman is chasing you instead of the other way around, it is much easier to be relaxed and have a good time instead of concentrating on what to do next.

So what attracts people, and more specifically girls ? Things that are out of the ordinary. If you blend in with the rest of the world, then no one will ever notice you walking down the street, or in any location for that matter. How do most people blend ? By following what everyone else does and this leads to catastrophic results when trying to attract women.

Being a follower is boring and speaks a lot about your personality. It shows that you are insecure to try new things and that you don’t want attention. Now the trick to being noticed is not to dress up in bright yellow colors, but to add one interesting item to your physical appearance. There are a few guidelines to selecting the proper attire that will attract women without making you look like a fool.

First steps to being more attractive.
First, take into consideration what kind of social setting you will be in. If you’re going to a club, then you can go all out with outlandish clothing and accessories. However, if you’re going to the library, it would be more effective to carefully choose one single attention drawing accessory.

For clubs, keep in mind that you want to look different than everyone else. If everyone else is dressed up with expensive clothing, then wearing something cheap will work better. You’ll automatically be classified as the ‘guy who doesn’t care’, which can be very attractive.

If you’re at a place where people are dressed like bums, then feel free to dress up a little more and you’ll automatically be seen as ‘the only classy guy’ in the place.

Sometimes clothing itself can make a large enough difference, however accessories can further improve your magnetism throughout the day. Something unique that represents you is the ideal thing. Let’s say you enjoy biking, then you could have a necklace with a bicycle on it for instance. Then, in a social situation, people will notice and comment on your accessories.

The more out-of-the-ordinary your accessories are, the more you will get noticed. However, you must be able to continue the conversation and match the boldness of your accessory with your personality. Once you learned how to attract girls, you’ll need to learn how to keep them.

The attitude that you have is more important than all the clothes, money and looks in the world. Its cliche, but personality is more important to women than looks. In fact, there are a few secret techniques that will make you irresistible to women regardless of appearance. One of the most effective techniques is called “Cocky / Funny” in the the Double Your Dating book by David Deangelo. It teaches all the fundamental and advanced ways on how to ATTRACT girls and keep them attracted to you permanently.

When men think try to list what attracts women, they usually mention looks, money and power. Those things help, but as we will see, there exists many more powerful traits that will attract women. The same thing applies to men, who in general will be attracted to a seductive smile, good body language (posture) and signs of healthy genes.

In general, women are much more perceptive and search out for personality more than just good looks. This is fortunate for most men because, let’s face it, we’re kind of rough looking. However, rough is good, it alludes to strength and reliability… it shows that you care more important things than looks. So if you look rough, that’s fine. Just don’t look like a pansy.

Attractive Body Language According to studies, upwards of 90% of communication is non-verbal and is done through body language. This is why you must have good body language if you are to attract women. So how do you get good body language? Well, you could fake it for a little while… sit up straight. No… not THAT straight, you don’t want to look like a stick. Shoulders back as if a 90km/h wind was pushing you. Head up! Make sure your head is UP ! If you’re doing all this right now, chances are you are as tense as a pole. The key to attractive body language is to be relaxed all while having good posture.

Stop faking attractive traits!
Now does this seem difficult ? Well it is… and its really not supposed to be. The reason its difficult for many people is because you are faking it! So the solution? Don’t fake it ! Our bodies are naturally prone to take this position when are muscles are exercised properly. Go bench press weights for an hour, workout your shoulders by doing rows and do 20 minutes of abs. Your body will naturally take a very attractive posture and you won’t have to think about it. Humans were never intended to think about body language and I strongly recommend you don’t. Work out once a day and that will solve itself.

Now the second thing that attracts women is the social status of the man. How valuable is he to society, to his friends, to his family, to the human population in general? Its no surprise that someone who is valuable will be attractive to others. That’s almost the definition of the word! But how do we define value ? That depends on the individual. For some women, a powerful man who overlooks others is attractive. Others prefer a man that is loved by all his friends. Some women, actually… a LOT of women are attracted to rock stars because they are seen as valuable by tons of other competing women.

The concept of value is all relative as well, an nomad tribe will have an individual seen as more valuable than others, and he will be more desirable. In our modern culture, the boss, or CEO of a company is seen as valuable. Presidents are also seen as valuable, as Clinton clearly illustrated. The big problem that guys run into is that they try to fake value. They try to impress women by TELLING them they have value, “Look at my car”, “I do this and this”, “I’m important because”, etc. This is counter-productive. Trying to prove that you have value just makes you less valuable.

In order to gain value and ultimately attract women, you must do so naturally. Accomplish something! Be occupied with your life. Set goals and achieve them. When you look back on your life, think: “Would I want to date myself?”. If you’re proud of yourself, then you are valuable. People who are valuable don’t need to tell others that they are, it shows. Being valuable can go from getting the highest grade in the class (yes, women like smart men) to taking pride in having the nicest garden. I’m taking a really wild example here… but if you are really passionate about gardens and you spend all day perfecting your garden, then at the end of the day you will glow of pride and confidence. This makes you valuable, to yourself.
Feeling valuable leads to others finding you valuable and consequently attractive as well.

Lastly, women respond to energy, laughter and honesty. Energy is contagious, and it sparks (literally) interest. If you are genuinely happy with life, and are excited to live it with her, then that in itself will be attractive. People want to be where the action is, they want to live their life to the fullest. This might be spontaneity one night, and a passionate night the next. If you’re where the party is at, then people will want to join you.

If you are a funny man, then you are definitely one step closer to being successful at attracting all kinds of women. Who doesn’t to laugh ? Hell, there are some guys I would want to date just because they are fun to be around, just as long as I get to be the big spoon. Laughter comes from not taking things too seriously, from teasing, from saying inappropriate things or exaggerating scenarios and stories. A funny man is considered to be ‘quick’, and strangely enough, cardiovascular activity increases the ‘sharpness’ of the mind. So does reading novels. So pick up a book, go for a jog, watch some funny videos and you’ll be set.

The last, and most difficult thing to find in a human being is honesty. Women are extremely attracted to genuine men. If you don’t fake your life, and tell it how it is, then this is the most attractive asset you can have. The reason is that people who are genuine are comfortable to be around with. Being genuine shows that you have fully accepted yourself and that you are proud to be who you are. If you dislike something, then say it! Chances are the other person is feeling the same thing as well. One of the most attractive things is seeing someone genuinely excited about something, its contagious and people will want to be with you to share your level of enthusiasm. Be genuinely excited about your life, its the only one you have.

These categories are only SOME the answers to what attracts women. For the complete list of the most powerful triggers to attract women, you MUST read David DeAngelo’s Double Your Dating. It will change your life, seriously.

If you remember the saying, you get what you shall receive, then it is no wonder that many guys search for how to make a girl feel good. The logical idea is that if a guy makes a girl feel good, then she will stay with him forever because she will feel happy around him. Is this is absolute truth ? Not quite… If I look at all my relationships, including girlfriend, friends and family, I tend to hang out with those that make me feel good more often.

Most people seek to avoid pain and gain pleasure, and feeling good is the definition of pleasurable. There are some pitfalls however, if you make someone feel good by degrading yourself socially, then that person will not respect you. The idea is that you cannot make someone feel good if, in terms of status, you are not worth anything. Let me elaborate.

If you are a clingy guy who always tells a girl that she is beautiful, she might enjoy it the first time, but she’ll soon come to realize that you are putting her up on a pedestal. Since everything is relative, telling her that she looks great consequently means that you do not look as good as her. When your social value drops, your ability to make her feel happy drops substantially. For example, imagine a famous actor of your choice walking down the red carpet. Now a crazed fan runs up to him and tells your favorite actor that he is amazing. “Big deal” he thinks, another fan. In this situation, the fan might have a masters in Cinematography, it wouldn’t matter, the approach taken by the fan reduced his value to less than zero and therefore his compliment had absolutely no effect. However, if another person, say… a respected peer of the actor, maybe a co-star, came up to him and told him he really played a specific part in the movie well, then this statement would be valued much more.

The golden rule on how to make a girl like you.
So how does this relate to making a girl feel good ? Remember the golden rule that people will feel comfortable around you IF you feel comfortable yourself. Same applies to feeling good, if you feel good, then she shall feel good as well. Enjoy life, be happy and it shall be contagious. In order to make her feel good, she must be happy to be around you.

If you must compliment her, make sure that she deserves it. Tell her something specific, accurate and include yourself in the goodness as well. There is a huge difference in saying: “We’re the best looking couple at this Halloween party” and “You look the best at this Halloween party”. But enough about looks, people don’t care as much about looks as society leads us to think. Here are some quick situational examples:

• Get her to cook for you, and then tell her the food was amazing
• Go out and do a team activity, and then ‘talk her up’
• If she’s putting herself down… talk her up
• If she’s talking herself up… tease her!

If you’re still wondering how to make a girl feel good, then I’ll leave you with this piece of information: Make sure to read the book Double Your Dating by David DeAngelo, it shows you how to make a girl feel so good she’ll be addicted to you for life.

If you have seen VH1 recently, you might have seen Mystery, pickup artist extraordinary teaching the art of seduction to many completely clueless pupils. Erik Von Markovich, commonly known as Mystery, is showing them a method he developed himself to successfully attract women. At first the students are hesitant and aren’t quite sure of what is capable in field, until of course, they see Mystery and his wings, Matador and J-Dog.

In the course of 8 weeks, this Mystery pickup artist teacher claims he can convert one previously clueless guy into a master pickup artist. If you can get past the cheesiness of the show, there is actually a lot of great content hidden inside every episode. Its not on the same level of Keys to the VIP in terms of seeing live technique, but there is a lot more structure and the students actually rely on everything else BUT their looks. In fact, one of the better looking guys is struggling to keep up with an overweight contestant in the pool, of all places!

There are a lot of great things about the show, but with all shows about pickup artist, at first glance it is hard to tell if their intentions are mislead. Are they just trying to pick-up women and get laid ? Are they just using women ? In short, the answer is no. Most of the men who participate in study the art of seduction, or ‘pick-up’, are looking to improve their overall social skills with women. They are usually terrified of approaching people, are socially awkward and very lonely. These aspects of their life reflect in every area, from business, hanging out with friends and of course, picking up women.

So as Mystery takes them through, teaching them the knowledge of the Mystery Method, they grow into new people. Everything that Mystery teaches them is carefully broken down in his book, which has been carefully revised over the years. The latest revision, called Magic Bullet is the Mystery Method handbook fully explained in a lot more detail than the original publication. My only complaint is that during every episode of the Mystery Pickup Artist on VH1, he only shows a few minutes of actual theory. From these few minutes, it is really hard to learn anything valuable from the show. If they actually spent more time explaining the theory which is found in the book, then the viewers would have a much better idea of what is happening and how to improve.

The Pickup Artist show is all about character development and change. Its becoming more of a drama series rather than an educational or demonstration of what true pickup artists can do. In fact, you only see Mystery, Matador and J-Dog in field once! Overall, its good exposure but if you want to actually learn anything, you’re going to have to pick up a book and start reading through it for yourself.